Kobojunkie:
Actually she did. Most of you don't want to know it is why you missed it.

Comparing Fraud and cheating
Any gender can cheat but the issue is the FRAUD

skj1377:
What's is your point exactly

The point is hold the man whom the woman had the affair with is should be held equally responsible for the paternity fraud crime.

If society would accord equal blame on the woman and the man, likely a married man, whose child the victim is made responsible, you will begin to see less of these crimes happening.

JESHAL:
Comparing Fraud and cheating
Any gender can cheat but the issue is the FRAUD

The Op did not compare fraud and cheating. She simply pointed out that the fraud results from cheating which society seems to encourage that is when men engage in it.

The man on the other side of the fraud ought to carry equal blame for for paternity fraud.

AmazonTopaz:
I come online and 23 mentions


Why are you men still outraged lol,no time to respond to rubbish.

I stand by what I said if you want paternity fraud to end control your third legs and call your men to order

Madam shut up abeg, you have fish brain. All you type is trash, go to sleep cos you are a big mumu.

AmazonTopaz:


Go back to the beginning read slowly and try to comprehend my point if you can't walk away.

Nobody will read your trash cos the headline alone is pure shiit, I hope you are married and carry another person child give your husband. I just pray that man you think is gentle will become a beast instantly and won't be able to take it probably drops you on the spot then you know this shiit right there you are justifying is pure bullcrap. Fish brain girl.

OKOATA:
Nobody will read your trash cos the headline alone is pure shiit, I hope you are married and carry another person child give your husband. I just pray that man you think is gentle will become a beast instantly and won't be able to take it probably drops you on the spot then you know this shiit right there you are justifying is pure bullcrap. Fish brain girl.

Go back and read abeg!

Kobojunkie:
The Op did not compare fraud and cheating. She simply pointed out that the fraud results from cheating which society seems to encourage that is when men engage in it.

The man on the other side of the fraud ought to carry equal blame for for paternity fraud.

Society blames men too, see BBN Nigerians voted Boma for cheating with tega, but the issue is that she thinks a man having child out of wedlock is the same as a cuckolded man, her further comments clarified her points

Kobojunkie:
Go back and read abeg!

I can't read shiit with that headline, I'm not dumb cos I already know what it entails so move.

OKOATA:
I can't read shiit with that headline, i am not so dumb cos I already know what it entails so move.

Obviously you don't

Kobojunkie:
Obviously you don't

I have already read people's comment so no need reading trash and comparing paternity fraud with men's cheating. I won't read that trash coming from a feminist for that matter. Get off l.

JESHAL:

Society blames men too, see BBN Nigerians voted Boma for cheating with tega, but the issue is that she thinks a man having child out of wedlock is the same as a cuckolded man, her further comments clarified her points

That child that the man, A, has outside of wedlock is likely being imposed on the man married to the woman the man, A, had the affair with. And so OP is trying to get you to see that the married man, A, who had the child out of wedlock should also be held responsible in the case of paternity fraud.

I don't know of the BBN case, but I hope that the Tega was equally blamed for violating another man’s wife.

OKOATA:
I have already read people's comment so no need reading trash and comparing paternity fraud with men's cheating. I won't read that trash coming from a feminist for that matter. Get off l.

Most of those who commented also go it wrong. In fact, you could conclude from this that the vast majority of those who commented did exactly what you did. They saw the title and concluded from there.

OKOATA:
Nobody will read your trash cos the headline alone is pure shiit, I hope you are married and carry another person child give your husband. I just pray that man you think is gentle will become a beast instantly and won't be able to take it probably drops you on the spot then you know this shiit right there you are justifying is pure bullcrap. Fish brain girl.

She is not married. She is a FEMINIST trash. They are a bunch of very bitter females, a greater majority of them are ugly and obese.

Kobojunkie:
Most of those who commented also go it wrong. In fact, you could conclude from this that the vast majority of those who commented did exactly what you did. They saw the title and concluded from there.

I guess you are a female and I won't waste my time with you.

Kobojunkie:
That child that the man, A, has outside of wedlock is likely being imposed on the man married to the woman the man, A, had the affair with. And so OP is trying to get you to see that the married man, A, who had the child out of wedlock should also be held responsible in the case of paternity fraud.

I don't know of the BBN case, but I hope that the Tega was equally blamed for violating another man’s wife.

Are you now saying we do not have men with babies outside their marriage With random unmarried women, women control access to sex, men control access to relationships, no matter how a man wants sex, it's the woman ultimate decision, remember her body her choice, the only exception is rape, men and women can't be held to the same moral standard on these issue, women can get pregnant from cheating, hence the reproductive risk is on them, solution stronger shaming mechanisms to prevent women from cheating and rejecting men that want to cheat, worse he will want to rape and society has strong incentive against rape

JESHAL:

Are you now saying we do not have men with babies outside their marriage With random unmarried women, women control access to sex, men control access to relationships, no matter how a man wants sex, it's the woman ultimate decision, remember her body her choice, the only exception is rape, men and women can't be held to the same moral standard on these issue, women can get pregnant from cheating, hence the reproductive risk is on them, solution stronger shaming mechanisms to prevent women from cheating and rejecting men that want to cheat

OP is simply trying to get people to accord equal blame to both the man and the woman whose child it is.

Paternity fraud happens when a man and woman engage in affairs and some of these affairs involve men who are themselves married. Until society openly condemns both men and women who commit these crimes, these problems are likely here to stay.

Dear comrade, there's no justification whatsoever in evil - what is good is good and should be encouraged and what is bad should be called out, no matter whose ox is gored or how "normal" it may have seemed to become.

Whem a married man decides to taste the honeypot of that none-other-than his wife albiet without contrapceptives, he should be prepared to shoulder whatever results that away match produces and vice versa.

Your OP suggests "since it's nothing new, husbands are free to go on a boinking spree and then bring home the result and foist it on their wives as her child".

I would love to see such happen though...

Kobojunkie:
Actually she did. Most of you don't want to know it is why you missed it.

Please explain what she means by her statement of men should not complain about paternity fraud until they correct other men from cheating

abbey621:


[s]This is what happens when you type sh*t without context, do you even know the meaning of "most" ? I did not say all, I said most which means statistically there are more male breadwinners than females, worldwide or Nigeria. I do not need to start stating statistics this is common knowledge and a waste of time trying to argue differently. The rest of the nonsense you typed makes sense only to you because this was never about arguing which is worse, this was about the reason men react badly to paternity fraud....You can either accept the answer or continue arguing with your phone....PEACE[/s]!

Bring your stats before you use the word 'most' any way bye

Lashist:

Please explain what she means by her statement of men should not complain about paternity fraud until they correct other men from cheating

What part of the Op do you refer to?

AmazonTopaz:
First and foremost I don't support cheating and deception I can never support deception or paternity fraud but I wonder why some men are outraged over paternity fraud.

We live in a society or some of us grew up in a society that gave excuse or justified infidelity amongst men under the guise of "men are polygamous in nature"they forget that men can be used to refer to women too and that polygamous is a gender neutral word for men it is polygyny for women it is polyandry.

When you justify infidelity or adultery you reap paternity fraud because these married men sleep with married women who are wives of other men who are at the receiving end when it comes to paternity fraud.

You men cannot always eat your cake and have it you feel bad when cheated on and call women who commit adultery all sorts of names but hail men when they cheat on women what happened to what is good for the goose is good for the gander.Some people seem to forget that the cheating men don't sleep with themselves they sleep with people's wives and girlfriends too so maybe that shows that women are polygamous in nature and two can play a game.

You cannot be preaching morality and chastity on women while failing to hold yourselves to account as well it doesn't work that way because it is a small world afterall if boys are not taught morality, decency and chastity we will continue to hear tales of paternity fraud and infidelity.

As we try to shame and tell young girls not to follow married men let's not forget to tell young boys and married men to leave married women alone it is the same polygamous men that are sleeping with these women and another man is at the receiving end of this disaster men don't sleep with themselves they sleep with women

As for the married men and women depending on your vows if you promised to be faithful try to be faithful and stop cheating beautiful women and handsome men will never finish in this word try to stick to one be contented,committed and try to learn discipline.

I think we should ask men why they are outraged

i926:

The internet made many people to be more stupid, especially here on NL and some to be more intelligent.

It’s obvious you’re the leader of that idiotic clan you just described.

BRATISLAVA:


Men dodging responsibility isn't uncommon.

Same men that have children outside, calling them their flesh and blood, and their wives are forced to accept them otherwise he kicks her out. They will tell such a woman that if she values hey marriage blah, blah.

Yet a woman brings her own flesh and blood and they are upset about it.

@Abbey621.

Paswill:
It's terribly heartbreaking to see an enlightened person:

¤Come up with a theory that suggests that married women only cheat with married men, thereby justifying the high rate of paternity fraud cases in (these parts).

¤Claim that "married men have been cheating and it's only reasonable that their spouses tow the same path.

Dear comrade, there's no justification whatsoever in evil - what is good is good and should be encouraged and what is bad should be called out, no matter whose ox is gored or how "normal" it may have seemed to become.

Whem a married man decides to taste the honeypot of that none-other-than his wife albiet without contrapceptives, he should be prepared to shoulder whatever results that away match produces and vice versa.

Your OP suggests "since it's nothing new, husbands are free to go on a boinking spree and then bring home the result and foist it on their wives as her child".

I would love to see such happen though...

Learn to read and comprehend abeg!

Kobojunkie:
Obviously you don't

What is your problem?

Why are you pressuring him to read a senseless and demonic post?

Is it right for a Cow to kill a human being because human beings have been killing cows for long?


If I know you personally, by now you would be in the hospital receiving treatment for the damage I would have done to you.


Useless cursed maggot

BRATISLAVA:


What does bride price have to do with anything? The money is not up to the labors the woman will do for the man, and the benefits he will gain.

He will be getting services he ordinarily would pay heavily for, free, and the bride price is way too little for that.

It should be scrapped, but old men who want to benefit from female children will never agree to it. They need to drink and eat nuts.

Wic service would he be paying for ordinarily ,if he hasn't been married her. Do you know that as soon as a marrors, his wahala n responsibility doubles.

Kobojunkie:
What part of the Op do you refer to?

They clearly understood my post,they all did they are only feigning ignorance and outraged at the obvious truth.

Thank you for having time to answer them because me I nor get time,they will continue to experience paternity fraud until they decide to call a spade or spade

Kobojunkie:
OP is simply trying to get people to accord equal blame to both the man and the woman whose child it is.

Paternity fraud happens when a man and woman engage in affairs and some of these affairs involve men who are themselves married. Until society openly condemns both men and women who commit these crimes, these problems are likely here to stay

The point I made but they are trying to be dull.

Kobojunkie:
Learn to read and comprehend abeg!

Thanks KJ, it's a work in progress.

AmazonTopaz:


Bring your stats before you use the word 'most' any way bye

Shameless prostitute,

I am sure that an evil spirit is communicating through you.

Kobojunkie:
What part of the Op do you refer to?

What does this mean??
What does she mean by why are men that take care of other men's kids through lies outraged??

WhiteIverson:
Paternity fraud started when Joseph fathered the son Mary gave birth to, who we all know as Jesus the Christ. And Joseph decided to play along.

In summary, the Bible is to blame for all this.

Using the case of Mary and Joseph and Jesus Christ doesn't fit in. Mary was aware her pregnancy came through the power of the Most High told by an angel. Joseph was also made to know that his wife is with a child from the Most High and shouldn't terminate his relationship with chaste Mary. Both Mary and Joseph didn't cheat. And both were fully aware of what happened and accepted it.

Therefore, the Bible shouldn't be blame. The Scriptures only record what happened in history between this lovely chaste couple.

Go ask your father or brother if they would be happy if their wives give them kids that are not theirs. You should be able to get clear answers from there!