My mom sister son decided to stay with us because of his family financial struggles. He's a bit older than me but we are of the same age group. Firstly I noticed this guy is sexist and when I say sexist I mean it. He believes a woman job is to clean the house and take of the family, a good woman in his eyes is a woman without an opinion, smile and always do what she is told.
He views me as an inferior, he tries to order me around and gets angry when I refuse. He doesn't really talk to me which honestly I think is for the best.

When he first arrive at our apartment he was shocked that he had to do any chores calling it a woman's work. He doesn't respect females infact he body shames women.

Am on my period and we are the only ones in the house because of my cramps am in pain. In the morning we ate bread with bama and tea. Just now this guy asked me what we are going to eat because he's hungry (he's doesn't like eating outside, he prefer homemade food). I told him I don't know,next thing he told me to figure it out.

Just because I Know the kind of person he is, I kept quite. He came to me again asking the same question, I told him to help me ground pepper and a bit of onion so that I will be able to prepare stew and rice, normally I would use our bender but because there is no light and am afraid to put on our gen because of my mom.

Next thing I hear is this guy just shouting like a failed musician, telling me that I don't have character and respect. I didn't answer because to me he's a madman

Am waiting for my mom to come, I Know she will take his side because she doesn't want him to feel maltreated but what is all this.

Am not his wife still yet this is no way to treat a woman whether she is your wife or not.

In your own house ? Biko I hate maltreatment but I can’t advise you to be rude to him as well.

What I’d do ?

I’d just fold myself in one corner holding my belly, crying...no one will tell him what next he is to do about his hungry stomach.

Cramps can be extremely frustrating, like you won’t even be able to do absolutely anything and with this kind of pressure, oh I can’t even imagine!!!

fuvk that Shirt mehnnnnn

Mennnnnnnn, characters dey this life oh

Well, personally,I don't joke with my stomach via hunger.....And that lukewarm attitude that your cousin has is something that's very bad..So if banny no cook,only the guyman no go fit cook food wey him go eat enter him Belle? . Banny or no banny,once I notice I'm hungry, only me dey enter kitchen to cook wetin i go eat....I no dey wait for anybody to cook for me first..

Well,na una family issue cha.....Make I no talk pass like this....

That part "shouting like a failed musician" gat me laughing out loud.



Well... Remind him that the place is not his house.
He'll be back to his sences

If a woman can't cook and keep house , then what's her purpose in this life ? Mtchwww

Ammishaddai:
If a woman can't cook and keep house , then what's her purpose in this life ? Mtchwww

I respect your opinion. I am going to tell him to be a man and Leave our house because if a man can't provide for himself then what's his purpose

Abetterperson:
Am waiting for my mom to come, I Know she will take his side because she doesn't want him to feel maltreated but what is all this. Am not his wife still yet this is no way to treat a woman whether she is your wife or not.

According to you, your cousin sees you as shet and so also does your mum and since she enables his behavior. Nothing wrong with throwing the trash back where he came from so they can deal instead with the trash they created.

Imagine if your cousin had been a female cousin, would your mum had accepted the same treatment from her? Women are partly to blame for morons like that walking around.

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Abetterperson:


I respect your opinion. I am going to tell him to be a man and Leave our house because if a man can't provide for himself then what's his purpose

[/s] Good luck with that. But just know you're living in Nigeria , not New York where feminism and stupidity go hand in hand

Sadly he-goats like him are everywhere like the one above me now.

I just wish I was in your shoes op because na sand mixed with grass that f.ool go chop las las. For my own house you dey form boss for me kai.

Please send him to my house,he needs proper upbringing. But honestly I don't like seeing men do chores especially kitchen chores.I use to pursue my brothers to live the kitchen arena as I find it disgusting seeing men in the kitchen.Try your best to endure him as he won't live with you forever, its just for some times, please be patient with him till he leaves.

Do you have a male figure at home for him to learn from? Like your dad or brothers. These are people that will change his myopic mindset. Try sitting your mum down and explain everything you have observed in him and what he does. Your mum might be carried away by emotions of him not being with his parents blablabla. So, calmly explain to your mum the situation on ground. If there's no change..."omo gboju" carry your face completely from his side. If he likes he should starve, he won't die, na persin dey fast 40days and 40 nights. But never insult him about his predicament.

How old is he?

Living with relatives and still feeling entitled. He should be man enough to provide for himself and assist his birth family who are financially struggling.

His parents spoilt him.

Bluette:
Do you have a male figure at home for him to learn from? Like your dad or brothers. These are people that will change his myopic mindset. Try sitting your mum down and explain everything you have observed in him and what he does. Your mum might be carried away by emotions of him not being with his parents blablabla. So, calmly explain to your mum the situation on ground. If there's no change..."omo gboju" carry your face completely from his side. If he likes he should starve, he won't die, na persin dey fast 40days and 40 nights. But never insult him about his predicament.

Why do you believe males can only learn from males? That very myopic thinking is part reason why the monkey probably ended up an eejit to begin with.

Iyaebe:
Please send him to my house,he needs proper upbringing. But honestly I don't like seeing men do chores especially kitchen chores. I use to pursue my brothers to live the kitchen arena as I find it disgusting seeing men in the kitchen.Try your best to endure him as he won't live with you forever, its just for some times, please be patient with him till he leaves.

So people like Gordon Ramsay and other Kitchen geniuses who also happen to male disgust you?

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Abetterperson:


I respect your opinion. I am going to tell him to be a man and Leave our house because if a man can't provide for himself then what's his purpose

Chineke!!!!

Kobojunkie:
So people like Gordon Ramsay and other Kitchen geniuses who also happen to male disgust you?

If he is a professional or good at it, fine. Most (Nigerian) men are VERY clumsy in the kitchen. They take ages to cut ordinary onions. Mess up the whole place and are totally clueless on how to do many things at the same time in the kitchen. The sight of this infuriates me and I would rather I don’t see such. Not forgetting that the meal would most likely be basic at best.

Sounds sexist, I know. Men feel the same way about female drivers.

I would personally not have a problem with a man not cooking. The problem would be if/when he opens his mouth to say it is below him. Just like the ediot in the OP’s house.

1. Where are your parents? They should give all the children chores.

2. Stand up for yourself, not physically.

3. Emm, be careful. How long have you known him? Are you people like brother and sister because some end time cousins (of both genders) exist. Lock your door.

Abetterperson:
My mom sister son decided to stay with us because of his family financial struggles. He's a bit older than me but we are of the same age group. Firstly I noticed this guy is sexist and when I say sexist I mean it. He believes a woman job is to clean the house and take of the family, a good woman in his eyes is a woman without an opinion, smile and always do what she is told.
He views me as an inferior, he tries to order me around and gets angry when I refuse. He doesn't really talk to me which honestly I think is for the best.
When he first arrive at our apartment he was shocked that he had to do any chores calling it a woman's work. He doesn't respect females infact he body shames women.
Am on my period and we are the only ones in the house because of my cramps am in pain. In the morning we ate bread with bama and tea. Just now this guy asked me what we are going to eat because he's hungry (he's doesn't like eating outside, he prefer homemade food). I told him I don't know,next thing he told me to figure it out. Just because I Know the kind of person he is, I kept quite. He came to me again asking the same question, I told him to help me ground pepper and a bit of onion so that I will be able to prepare stew and rice, normally I would use our bender but because there is no light and am afraid to put on our gen because of my mom. Next thing I hear is this guy just shouting like a failed musician, telling me that I don't have character and respect. I didn't answer because to me he's a madman
Am waiting for my mom to come, I Know she will take his side because she doesn't want him to feel maltreated but what is all this. Am not his wife still yet this is no way to treat a woman whether she is your wife or not.

B

Cool .

Sheybi na our culture appropriate tasks to children in conformity to their respective genders.

In as much as he washes car and do laborious task , there's nothing to complain about there.

This part tho

"Next thing I hear is this guy just shouting like a failed musician, telling me that I don't have character and respect. I didn't answer because to me he's a madman "



Meanwhile...


Read my signature below

- which men you dey meet? Haba. All the men posting on the food picture thread nko?

- as for female drivers. It depends. Those of us with moms who drive, and sisters who drive, no get that kind sexism.

pocohantas:


If he is a professional or good at it, fine. Most (Nigerian) men are VERY clumsy in the kitchen. They take ages to cut ordinary onions. Mess up the whole place and are totally clueless on how to do many things at the same time in the kitchen. The sight of this infuriates me and I would rather I don’t see such. Not forgetting that the meal would most likely be basic at best.

Sounds sexist, I know. Men feel the same way about female drivers.

I would personally not have a problem with a man not cooking. The problem would be if/when he opens his mouth to say it is below him. Just like the ediot in the OP’s house.

Abo ri ẹ buru ni?

B

Knack am something

Don't let anybody discomfort you in your own father's house


That's all I wanna add

He needs a slap that will perform factory reset on his brain.

Lol.youre the cause.when you already know he's a sexist and he came to you demanding food,you should have treated him like a radio making noise that doesn't deserve a response
Or

I want to eat

You: please blend the pepper,if you can't blend it,go to mama put outside.if your mom supports him, make your point respectfully yet firmly without allowing anyone disrespect you

Ammishaddai:
If a woman can't cook and keep house , then what's her purpose in this life ? Mtchwww

SHUT UP!!!