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Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by Fuckthamods: 5:21pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
greenie77:It's the female's duty! That's how my sisters behave at home, always forming victim when they are suppose to do their work. I'm sure if he's to wash their car the girl won't help out. The op has issues 7 Likes |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by Amalekki: 5:21pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Not managing situations like this with sense and love is the reason why we hear stories of some rich guys blanking out cousins/family members. You never know what happened in the past when they were still in their formative years and forced to rely on family members. I just hope the OP is not capitalising on her cousin's situation to 'cut him down to size' just for her own satisfaction since his own immediate family are currently struggling. I say this because I have seen this play out in the past within my extended family. 12 Likes |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by valentineuwakwe(m): 5:22pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Just ignore him, hungry will reset his brain! 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by SeriouslySense(m): 5:22pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
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Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by UndauntedYOCA(f): 5:22pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Will any of these Nairaland 'women are this, women are that' marry this guy if na woman him be? This guy's mentality is so whack and I pity the woman he'll end up with. Odiegwu o. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by SeriouslySense(m): 5:23pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
A little more understanding from both sides is all that is needed. ![]() ![]() ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by SeriouslySense(m): 5:23pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
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Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by valentineuwakwe(m): 5:23pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Ignore him |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by Udodiri01: 5:23pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
His age and ur age will help us analyze this |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by Nobody: 5:24pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Women are the gatekeepers of patriarchy. If you check well, his parents allowed this fvckery in their home. They didn't teach him how to cook and make him to see it as a necessity,they probably allowed only his sisters to do the cooking and house clean up. Deny it all you want, but the truth is kids pick up things they see their parents doing. If he always see only his mom and sisters cooking, he'll assume it's meant for women alone especially as the father doesn't do it. 12 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by Lightway: 5:24pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Abetterperson: How old are you It seems you're very young 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by greenie77: 5:24pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Fuckthamods: Which female duty? That same guy if married to a Caucasian will gladly be in charge of the kitchen! We know dem! 10 Likes |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by SeriouslySense(m): 5:25pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
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Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by Nobody: 5:25pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Abetterperson:If you are from other tribes in Nigeria, stay put with your decision. He is not your master, and your parents should do better. But if you are ibo, I dont know what to advise you cos male children are gods in their culture. I can only sympathize with you. 3 Likes |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by omoadeleye(m): 5:25pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Abetterperson: Know your place shawty... He is a king and treat him like one. 2 Likes |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by Fuckthamods: 5:26pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
greenie77:Nah.. He won't.. Guys like that will rather eat take outs or the oyibo must learn how to cook except he lacks self esteem 2 Likes |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by faithfull18(f): 5:26pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Abetterperson:Lol, apt. @OP, he isn't hungry, when he is, he will find his way to the kitchen. 2 Likes |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by rushlife: 5:27pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Abetterperson: If you were my woman, I swear I would have beaten the hell out of that guy ! You were having menstrual cramp and he was not even considerate. WTF! He needs better beating, I wish I was close to give him that! 3 Likes |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by elonmuskbaby: 5:28pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Spaggmann:real nigga with a woman that cannot set boundaries.na why he dey entitled.assuming he get woman wey get caustic mouth like me,fear go even dey catch am to ask for food because he will not want to feel disrespected.he go just respect himself, by himself go eatery and I will ensure he only eats on the day he contributes on doing something in the house, the day he doesn't h can shout from morning to night, nobody will pay him attention 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by wunmi590(m): 5:28pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Iyaebe: There's nothing bad for men to be in the kitchen... I don't know how to cook, but believe me house chores, mostly kitchen, I make sure that everything is clean... One of the things my wife enjoyed about me is, I don't joke with neatness, once she's done in the kitchen, I go inside and learn everywhere up if am around.... Abeg stop chasing your brothers away from the kitchen, even if they don't know how to cook, they should learn how to keep kitchen neat and clean... 2 Likes |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by Juanmike(m): 5:28pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
The shouting like a failed musician got me, do you mean like KC? |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by Nobody: 5:29pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Fuckthamods: Exactly! If a lady cannot cook and manage the house, then of what use is she? Does it mean her husband won’t eat whenever she is on her period This western civilization has really caused havoc To just cook food come become oppression. Make God just protect person from this kind lady, Cos you will have to fast when she is on her period. And when she gets pregnant, just go back to your parents house cos Na hunger go kill you. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by Danjikanbauchi: 5:29pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Family matter my hand no deh. But let hear from the guy first. Op the guy is your senior and I believe you talked to him rudely because you feels his family don't have and he came to stay in your house so he most act like a house boy to you. You and everyone supporting you here are stupid, just imagine the crap you say about him. Of a truth you are an entitle bitch. Abetterperson. 5 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by pocohantas(f): 5:29pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
cooooooks: The way to my heart is not cooking. Only 0.014% of Nigerian men can cook what I will eat and my man doesn’t even fall into that percentage - fortunately. Yes it is important to know how to cook something you can at least eat. Just don’t expect me to eat it with you. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by Reptyle(m): 5:29pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Abetterperson: The guy unfortunately picked up this poor mindset from his upbringing. There are a lot of homes where parents actively make their male kids feel superior to their female kids by not allowing them to do any house chores. Secondly, you can have a situation where the boy watched his father treat his own mother like a house maid in the name of "culture and tradition" and felt that is the way life is wired. I think your mum and dad can lovingly but firmly help him correct this warped mindset now that he lives with your family. On your own part, you need to be a bit more understanding of the fact that he just comes from a different upbringing from yours. Rather than tow this part of hostile aggression, I suggest you adopt a more friendly approach so your position on the matter can be well received. 4 Likes |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by Nobody: 5:30pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
wunmi590:lol,OK I hear |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by Lugianostar(m): 5:31pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Why on earth will your mum take sides with him? They are no chores meant for women as they is no such terminology while growing up in my house. The guys cook and do other chores as well reading and studying on daily basis. Division of labour is a strategy you were introducing as i see nothing wrong with that. Please i need to clear this guy doubt by recommending him to live with my grand parents and stand to have his head shave to skin cut with total humility and obedience. Maybe he has started keeping one babe that is why he is fuming like a hype Egyptian mummy ![]() 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by wunmi590(m): 5:31pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
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Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by Fuckthamods: 5:32pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Plead:That's how most homes are... Why will the father hustle then come back home to cook? The males have their responsibilities, in my home we clean the house too, service the generator, wash the cars, fetch water, carry hefty things, run errands.. Etc. Why should we still enter the kitchen to cook!? I'm sure the op cousin does chores assigned to him, op just want to control the boy cause of his current situation! 7 Likes |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by Justbehave(m): 5:33pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Trojan8:Sissy's like you won't understand 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin refuses to do any house chores because he's a guy by Amalekki: 5:33pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
SeriouslySense:Gerrout ![]() ![]() Na true talk now. All I see is absence of love. I have friends who will tell you that they don't joke with this certain female cousin who took care of them back in the hood without complaining. As some mentioned, all that the guy probably saw was his Dad never entering the kitchen. This is nothing strange where we come from. The OP and her cousin need to get over their pettiness and be a family. Debate with him and let him understand why it is to his advantage if he learns how to fend for himself even in the kitchen but don't necessarily force him. His own time will come to take care of you or your children, even if it's only occasional vacation abi no be so we dey roll? Cherish your family o! 2 Likes |
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