OgunLaakaye:



Is it about money now, or cramps?

Cos now you shifting goal post!

So if the guy had money, she would not have cramps?

Just hit the nail on the head.

it's about LAZINESS AND ENTITLEMENT


NOBODY IN THIS WORLD OWES YOU SHIII EXCEPT GOD AND YOUR PARENTS

Money is just an illustration because it'll have been ok if he's too big to enter kitchen but he's useful by being generous.at least that way he's making contribution but this one house work he no fit do,he no get money to drop,then what is his usefulness? What's making him feel big and entitled?

Ori eyan bashe.person wey suppose tell am to wash plates and pot.if he dey form Na That empty pride he go eat as lunch

Am not his wife still yet this is no way to treat a woman whether she is your wife or not. This part just dey make me laugh e be like say you like that nigga

He need corrections

Abetterperson:


I respect your opinion. I am going to tell him to be a man and Leave our house because if a man can't provide for himself then what's his purpose

You better don't dear....

Fuckthamods:

At least oyibo dey bless us with dollars and many guys end up green card. How many Nigerian wives graciously contribute financially to the family? All they do is collect, nag, eat, shit and mess.

Why would you expect them to contribute financially when you don't do house chores or cook? This is the problem I have with most hypocritical folks these days. Y'all want to be traditional and liberal at the same time.
Just pick one part, if you're liberal then find a liberal woman and live a liberal life.

Don't say you don't want to do house chores or cook because you're a traditional person but you want your wife to assist you with bills (which is untraditional).

Fuckthamods:

At least oyibo dey bless us with dollars and many guys end up green card. How many Nigerian wives graciously contribute financially to the family? All they do is collect, nag, eat, shit and mess.

My dear, forget the narrative of our parents generation. In this present generation, most women contribute almost equally to running of the home! That is just a fact. Forget all these clout chasing of vilifying Nigerian women by you nairaland boys...Even you will admit that your mother played a major part in your upbringing financially... yes she might not have done the heavy work like paying school fees or house rent, but those small small pocket money daddy will not give you, mommy will definitely find it and give you.
And don't lie to yourself, no oyibo woman is blessing you with dollars! In the event of divorce, she will even collect the shirt off your back. I am not contesting the green card one, but the way oyibos are wired, if you don't work you can't chop! You cannot leech off the average oyibo man or woman. Abroad, their men and women contribute almost equally too, that's why they have gender equality. In Nigeria, most times the husband or the wife will carry on with the bills (even though grudgingly) in the event that one of them is not working or loses his/her job. An average oyibo man or woman will never tolerate a leech, either husband or wife. Even if you lost your job for a few months, no one is dashing you dollars unlike a Nigerian partner. This is the FACT. You can argue all you like.

He's probably a nairalander. After reading all those stuff they write in the romance section, some of them go back home to start misbehaving.

@OP, I had a lot to type, but the way you wrote, I have a strong feeling you can handle him.

Failed musician. Haha... wow!

Just say u don’t want him agsin in your mom’s house..

ziondaughter247:


See this one...These are the kind of boys that will be doing boy boy for oyibo women.. Them full America and Canada.. you see them washing plate, wife's pant, carrying baby etc, but to help their Nigerian wives grind pepper you won't see them..After every thing, the oyibo woman will still throw them out
.Foolish pride of a brokeass

are you minding him

We know their type.no be Micheal wey dey form I'm an African man dey do boy boy for angela.he dey wash plates,wash pots,go to the market,mop ground and that is on top insults o.if you see how Angela reign insults on top him if he doesn't iron her clothes,you will be wondering is it the same African man that it too chauvinistic to enter kitchen

Abetterperson:
My mom sister son decided to stay with us because of his family financial struggles. He's a bit older than me but we are of the same age group. Firstly I noticed this guy is sexist and when I say sexist I mean it. He believes a woman job is to clean the house and take of the family, a good woman in his eyes is a woman without an opinion, smile and always do what she is told.
He views me as an inferior, he tries to order me around and gets angry when I refuse. He doesn't really talk to me which honestly I think is for the best.

When he first arrive at our apartment he was shocked that he had to do any chores calling it a woman's work. He doesn't respect females infact he body shames women.

Am on my period and we are the only ones in the house because of my cramps am in pain. In the morning we ate bread with bama and tea. Just now this guy asked me what we are going to eat because he's hungry (he's doesn't like eating outside, he prefer homemade food). I told him I don't know,next thing he told me to figure it out.

Just because I Know the kind of person he is, I kept quite. He came to me again asking the same question, I told him to help me ground pepper and a bit of onion so that I will be able to prepare stew and rice, normally I would use our bender but because there is no light and am afraid to put on our gen because of my mom.

Next thing I hear is this guy just shouting like a failed musician, telling me that I don't have character and respect. I didn't answer because to me he's a madman

Am waiting for my mom to come, I Know she will take his side because she doesn't want him to feel maltreated but what is all this.

Am not his wife still yet this is no way to treat a woman whether she is your wife or not.

You did the right thing, and I salute how you comported yourself, you are a lady of wisdom, when he is hungry, he go enter kitchen, he's such a lazy and spoilt b***

What an effrontery, palapala Ilu Apala

Op be careful how u talk to him now, incase if he becomes rich like Obi Cubana tomorrow.

Knows:
Just say u don’t want him agsin in your mom’s house..

who will want a rude, arrogant and entitled man around him?

If I'm the one sef I'll do same if not worse.its just that komoju komora.if he had self respect sef he supposed to have gotten the body language and check out by himself without being told

LegitGuy22:
Op be careful how u talk to him now, incase if he becomes rich like Obi Cubana tomorrow.

lmaoo see emotional blackmail

There's nobody that can ever be rich with the spirit of pride in him

You're the stupid one here kiddo

Ammishaddai:
[s][/s] Good luck with that. But just know you're living in Nigeria , not New York where feminism and stupidity go hand in hand

Plead:

Why would you expect them to contribute financially when you don't do house chores or cook? This is the problem I have with most hypocritical folks these days. Y'all want to be traditional and liberal at the same time.
Just pick one part, if you're liberal then find a liberal woman and live a liberal life.

Don't say you don't want to do house chores or cook because you're a traditional person but you want your wife to assist you with bills (which is untraditional).

I'm not complaining about the financial aspect, I'm just saying they should respect themselves and perform their duties since most of them don't contribute financially. Also, men perform chores, but sending them to the kitchen is an abomination.

GREATESTPIANIST:
You did the right thing, and I salute how you comported yourself, you are a lady of wisdom, when he is hungry, he go enter kitchen, he's such a lazy and spoilt b***

imagine if he was a woman.now imagine the insults she will have gotten about how much of a spoilt brat or slay queen she is

My own perspective

Woman can be funny sha

I wonder what your mother would say if he was the son of your father's brother or sister

Fuckthamods:

I'm not complaining about the financial aspect, I'm just saying they should respect themselves and perform their duties since most of them don't contribute financially. Also, men perform chores, but sending them to the kitchen is an abomination.

lmaoo but to eat the food that comes out of the kitchen isn't abomination?

That's how they just waste your type for nothing by Just cooking anything for you e.g cooking food with unclean water or dirty pot

Ammishaddai:
If a woman can't cook and keep house , then what's her purpose in this life ? Mtchwww

one of the lazy dingbats spotted

Just angrily shout to his ears "this is not your father's house" you will see him Mello down

Plead:

Why would you expect them to contribute financially when you don't do house chores or cook? This is the problem I have with most hypocritical folks these days. Y'all want to be traditional and liberal at the same time.
Just pick one part, if you're liberal then find a liberal woman and live a liberal life.

Don't say you don't want to do house chores or cook because you're a traditional person but you want your wife to assist you with bills (which is untraditional).

Are you minding them? They want the best of both worlds, traditional and modern. You cannot eat your cake and have it! This is why we read reports of Nigerian/African marriages crashing abroad. You want your wife to work and split bills down to half and still serve you food like a king, wash your clothes, have sex with you and worship you... ! Lmao.. pick a struggle...I cannot be sharing bills 50:50 and you won't help with anything else (chores) because you are a 'MAN'. I am a 'Woman' too and I deserve to be taken 'kariof'. As the igbos call their wives 'oriaku'

Ardar:
Sadly he-goats like him are everywhere like the one above me now.

I just wish I was in your shoes op because na sand mixed with grass that f.ool go chop las las. For my own house you dey form boss for me kai.

it's not your house. The house belongs to another male.
The guy is a joke BTW

I bee ghost personal everywhere

I no dey contribute to discuss


But this topic dey invoke ma provoke



The best thing to do na to LOOSE CONTROL



SHEAR HOUSE WORK 50-50


IF HIM REFUSE, NO WAHALA



COOK SMALL WEY U FEET FINNISH NOW


IF HIM NO STILL BEHAVIOR , NO WAHALA

LOOK FO agbero GIRLS


TROWEY HIM BAG OUT SIDE LOKE DOOR



THE BOTTOM LINE BE SAY

HIM MAMA DON SPOIL AM AND NOW THEY DON BROKEN FINANCIAL

SO THE OVERGROWN BABY ELEPHANT DEY FIND SOME BODY TO SPOON FEED AM

NO ASK LOOKING UR MAMA FACE OR ANY BODY WHEN U WAS " SPEAKING THE LANGUAGE THE OVERGROWN BABY ELEPHANT UNDERSTAND"

NNWAN NNEM INU GO

#EBONYI#

Fuckthamods:

I'm not complaining about the financial aspect, I'm just saying they should respect themselves and perform their duties since most of them don't contribute financially. Also, men perform chores, but sending them to the kitchen is an abomination.

If women didn't exist, won't you enter kitchen?
Women weren't born with special kitchen hands.

You guys are just raining words on the niggar, girls too get Dem own for body...

pocohantas:

If he is a professional or good at it, fine. Most (Nigerian) men are VERY clumsy in the kitchen. They take ages to cut ordinary onions. Mess up the whole place and are totally clueless on how to do many things at the same time in the kitchen. The sight of this infuriates me and I would rather I don’t see such. Not forgetting that the meal would most likely be basic at best.

Sounds sexist, I know. Men feel the same way about female drivers.

I would personally not have a problem with a man not cooking. The problem would be if/when he opens his mouth to say it is below him. Just like the ediot in the OP’s house.

The reason the OP is having to deal with what she is even today is because of silly sexist ideas such as the one you are spewing here. Change your mindset if you want others to change too.

Ardar:
Sadly he-goats like him are everywhere like the one above me now.

I just wish I was in your shoes op because na sand mixed with grass that f.ool go chop las las. For my own house you dey form boss for me kai.

I agree the boy in question as well as the one above u are really stupid but, it would be more effective if you calmly explained to him why he should be responsible and know that he doesn't deserve to be worshipped just because he is a man... I'm not saying it's compulsorily oh but if successful, you would be so proud of yourself and he would always talk about you, respect and care for you.

Plead:
If women didn't exist, won't you enter kitchen?
Women weren't born with special kitchen hands.

Abi! We all have to learn these things as we grow!

ziondaughter247:
Imagine the stupid pride. He cannot hustle to fend for himself and he still get pride on top. In your own house for that matter. You people are the ones that have been indulging him all this while....STOP giving him food. What an entitled leech!

now someone is seeing the real picture for who he really is

dreamtech3636:
I bee ghost personal everywhere

I no dey contribute to discuss


But this topic dey invoke ma provoke



The best thing to do na to LOOSE CONTROL



SHEAR HOUSE WORK 50-50


IF HIM REFUSE, NO WAHALA



COOK SMALL WEY U FEET FINNISH NOW


IF HIM NO STILL BEHAVIOR , NO WAHALA

LOOK FO agbero GIRLS


TROWEY HIM BAG OUT SIDE LOKE DOOR



THE BOTTOM LINE BE SAY

HIM MAMA DON SPOIL AM AND NOW THEY DON BROKEN FINANCIAL

SO THE OVERGROWN BABY ELEPHANT DEY FIND SOME BODY TO SPOON FEED AM

NO ASK LOOKING UR MAMA FACE OR ANY BODY WHEN U WAS " SPEAKING THE LANGUAGE THE OVERGROWN BABY ELEPHANT UNDERSTAND"

NNWAN NNEM INU GO

#EBONYI#

see real man talking like a man that was properly raised

Lol, it has nothing to do with gender.
My cousin sis(younger) visited and she did no chores throughout her stay, myself, wife and younger brother did house chores while she would just sit and watch. Everyone was angry at such attitude but we kept mute and let things slide as we all know that is her own way. If my wife don't know her other sibling, she might have the impression that it's from her home, but she has lived with the other for longer periods and she knew it's her own way