Oyiboman69:
I surpose you meant to say girlfriends....

No

Truvelisback:
U are asking me what i can offer in my marriage? Lol. Any woman who lives with me wouldn't want to leave. Do u know why? I'm fun to be with, yes. I'm So, romantic and cool to be with. I'm comedian too both online. I know how to put smiles on people's face no matter how moody they may look.

How about money? I'm talking about marriage...

See how funny you are! You want an African woman who's submissive but you don't want to be a proper African husband...

jornwhite:



like live in mushin, chill in surulere,shop @ yaba, work @ oshodi garage and famz gurls in sango tedo shey you dey whine me nii

lets just call it a rubber insult, carries no lethal effect, there are times my babe will say brother femi e gbe enu soun, i just smile cos i understand the context

I get u. However, when i mean respect, i do not mean worship as Datboredberry may assume.

Funds90:
@Datboredberry

You wey no get sense...

Just try get sense you hear �

Well I don’t have time to start exchanging words with you

what the hell do you want with me?

Don't quote me...

Datboredberry:
This is the only account I had....

We both know that’s a big fat lie…….I miss you tho

Datboredberry:
How about money? I'm talking about marriage...

See how funny you are! You want an African woman who's submissive but you don't want to be a proper African husband...

U and ur love for money. Maybe, that's why u have Bfs.

Truvelisback:
I get u. However, when i mean respect, i do not mean worship as Datboredberry may assume.

Your example of respect was a girl kneeling down... How did I assume wrongly?

If you mean being polite, sure... We should be...

But it's almost as of you want women to go about kneeling down to strangers who are men simply for the sake of their gender...

I'm sorry... No one gives me anything for being a woman... Don't expect too much for being a man...

You're equal to any woman out there...

With most Nigerian men being being yahoo boys and kidnappers, which of them deserves respect?

Truvelisback:
U and ur love for money. Maybe, that's why u have Bfs.

You're so annoying!

Our culture, dictates that men most provide...

Personally, I would never take money from a man... Yes, I'm a hot-headed, independent feminist...

But if you want a woman who by African standards is good...(submissive)...then by the same standards, you most be a provider...

Don't blame me...blame the culture...

DarkCaesar:
We both know that’s a big fat lie…….I miss you tho

First letter of my previous moniker?

You've mistaken me for someone else...

Datboredberry:
You're so annoying!

Our culture, dictates that men most provide...

Personally, I would never take money from a man... Yes, I'm a hot-headed, independent feminist...

But if you want a woman who by African standards is good...(submissive)...then by the same standards, you most be a provider...

Don't blame me...blame the culture...

Lol. In a senerio whereby the wife is richer or earns higher than the man, should that be a good reason for she not to respect her husband? It's because u have been hammering on the man must be the provider.

Datboredberry:
Your example of respect was a girl kneeling down... How did I assume wrongly?

If you mean being polite, sure... We should be...

But it's almost as of you want women to go about kneeling down to strangers who are men simply for the sake of their gender...

I'm sorry... No one gives me anything for being a woman... Don't expect too much for being a man...

You're equal to any woman out there...

With most Nigerian men being being yahoo boys and kidnappers, which of them deserves respect?

Don't gerrit twisted. I do not mean that women should go abt kneeling down to every stranger who are men. I only used that girl as an illustration how ladies should relate to their spouse or husband.

Datboredberry:
First letter of my previous moniker?

You've mistaken me for someone else...

i’d like to think same myself but the truth is we both know each other and I miss you

ImaIma1:


Nah I'm too unassuming for one small child to try that with me. Besides, I throw their "aunty" back to them and I stay in my lane. But I have seen it happen a lot, and the rudeness is always legendary

That news, ladies don't joke with the title "aunty" esp. around lil gurls, if she is older you must add AUNTY o ! naa men life simple pass we don't just care.
the expression that follows is what i find amusing, legendary it is

Truvelisback:
Lol. In a senerio whereby the wife is richer or earns higher than the man, should that be a good reason for she not to respect her husband? It's because u have been hammering on the man must be the provider.

You're going about in a circle...

This thread of yours has nothing to go with marriage... But you're using the girl who knelt down for you as a role model for women to imitate...

Your point is that she's respectful...

I replied asking why...

And your answers have been that men deserve respect for being men...

I refuse to accept that... I believe we each deserve respect for our actions not for our gender...

Now:

You say in a marriage, the woman should respect the man and he would love her in return...

My opinion, respect is earned... If a man proves to be deserving of his wife's respect, he would definitely get it... And he must respect her in return...

You say that women should be respectful...for example, they should kneel while serving their husbands...

I'm asking, why should they?

You say it's in your culture for a woman to do so...

I say in your culture too, a man MUST provide for his wife and not the other way round...

Now, your say if a woman earns more than her husband, is that a reason for her not to respect him?

The answer is YES! According to your culture, a man who earns less than his wife isn't deserving of respect...

This isn't my personal opinion...

But the only thing a man can provide it money... That's what makes him a man by African standards...

The thing as woman can provide is children, and she's also meant to build the home...

If a man can't perform his only duty, of what use is he?

Remember, African standards... The same one you judge Nigerian women with... Yet you can't follow it.

The reason men are dominant in their marriages... It's because they are the providers... If a woman takes this role, she becomes the dominant figure in the marriage... So the man is obligated by YOUR CULTURE to kneel down to her... Get it?

You can't select the Western values that suits you only...

If you want a 50/50 relationship, then don't expect a subservient wife... In the West, women have so much authority...

But if you want women who would kneel while serving you, then you most be the sole provider...


Again, not my personal opinion...

This argument... Gender expectations...

DarkCaesar:
i’d like to think same myself but the truth is we both know each other and I miss you

You'll be disappointed...

I'm not who you think... Honestly... But I'll take this 'I miss you' meant for someone else!

Truvelisback:
Don't gerrit twisted. I do not mean that mean that women should go abt kneeling down to every stranger who are men. I only used that girl as an illustration how ladies should relate to their spouse or husband.

Why should they relate with their husbands this way?

Any solid reason?

jornwhite:




That news, ladies don't joke with the title "aunty" esp. around lil gurls, if she is older you must add AUNTY o ! naa men life simple pass we don't just care.
the expression that follows is what i find amusing, legendary it is

I never liked the aunty thing. In my family we call each other by name. Even my sis that's about 8yrs older than me, na by name.

So to me, it doesn't mean respect. But as you get older, it's inevitable that people will call you aunty.

Datboredberry:

You're going about in a circle...

This thread of yours has nothing to go with marriage... But you're using the girl who knelt down for you as a role model for women to imitate...

Your point is that she's respectful...

I replied asking why...

And your answers have been that men deserve respect for being men...

I refuse to accept that... I believe we each deserve respect for our actions not for our gender...

Now:

You say in a marriage, the woman should respect the man and he would love her in return...

My opinion, respect is earned... If a man proves to be deserving of his wife's respect, he would definitely get it... And he must respect her in return...

You say that women should be respectful...for example, they should kneel while serving their husbands...

I'm asking, why should they?

You say it's in your culture for a woman to do so...

I say in your culture too, a man MUST provide for his wife and not the other way round...

Now, your say if a woman earns more than her husband, is that a reason for her not to respect him?

The answer is YES! According to your culture, a man who earns less than his wife isn't deserving of respect...

This isn't my personal opinion...

But the only thing a man can provide it money... That's what makes him a man by African standards...

The thing as woman can provide is children, and she's also meant to build the home...

If a man can't perform his only duty, of what use is he?

Remember, African standards... The same one you judge Nigerian women with... Yet you can't follow it.

The reason men are dominant in their marriages... It's because they are the providers... If a woman takes this role, she becomes the dominant figure in the marriage... So the man is obligated by YOUR CULTURE to kneel down to her... Get it?

You can't select the Western values that suits you only...

If you want a 50/50 relationship, then don't expect a subservient wife... In the West, women have so much authority...

But if you want women who would kneel while serving you, then you most be the sole provider...


Again, not my personal opinion...

This argument... Gender expectations...

U don't know our culture. I have heard ur point, for a wife to respect her husband, he must be the sole provider before she must respect him as her husband and head.

Truvelisback:
U don't know our culture. I have heard ur point, for a wife to respect her husband, he must be the sole provider before she must respect him as her husband and head.

By AFRICAN standards...yes...

Personally, I would share every responsibility 50/50...

But I'm not serving a man for his gender... I respect him for being a good decent man...

Datboredberry:
Why should they relate with their husbands this way?

Any solid reason?

1. He is her husband. 2. He is her head.

Truvelisback:
1. He is her husband. 2. He is her head.

Oh.. you mean.. he deserves respect for being a man? For having a penis? Damn..

He's her husband? Sure... She's his wife!

How is he her head if she earns more?

Then she's the leader...

So bring up solid points...

Read the useless arguement above me at ur own peril


Smh

Datboredberry:
You'll be disappointed...

I'm not who you think... Honestly... But I'll take this 'I miss you' meant for someone else!

lol it’s meant for you…..this is a faceless forum, only you and I know each other and if you want to feign ignorance, its cool

DarkCaesar:
lol it’s meant for you…..this is a faceless forum, only you and I know each other and if you want to feign ignorance, its cool

I'm not trying to... Just there are a lot of women who deactivate their accounts only to come back later... I haven't been on Nairaland for a very very long time...

And everyone I knew here, they've all forgotten me... So I doubt if I'm the one...

But, time will tell...

ImaIma1:


I never liked the aunty thing. In my family we call each other by name. Even my sis that's about 8yrs older than me, na by name.

So to me, it doesn't mean respect. But as you get older, it's inevitable that people will call you aunty.

i think you are not the girl girlie type ... how do i know we've being conversing for more than 5min

Go and marry the girl so that she can continue to be kneeling down, prostrating or rolling on the floor when serving you, End of Discussion.

Datboredberry:
I'm not trying to... Just there are a lot of women who deactivate their accounts only to come back later... I haven't been on Nairaland for a very very long time...

And everyone I knew here, they've all forgotten me... So I doubt if I'm the one...

But, time will tell...

If you think I’m buying this then you talking to the wrong person……..how’s mom and your brother?

Datboredberry:
Oh.. you mean.. he deserves respect for being a man? For having a penis? Damn..

He's her husband? Sure... She's his wife!

How is he her head if she earns more?

Then she's the leader...

So bring up solid points...

She isn't the head. The man remains the head and she must be submissive to him.

DarkCaesar:
If you think I’m buying this then you talking to the wrong person……..how’s mom and your brother?

Done! This argument's ended...

No brother!

But I hope you find her...

Truvelisback:
She isn't the head. The man remains the head and she must be submissive to him.

For what? To be the head... He must be a leader... To be a leader, he must provide... If he can't, then he's not...

But you can keep dreaming...

jornwhite:



i think you are not the girl girlie type ... how do i know we've being conversing for more than 5min

Very funny @ conversing for over 5mins.