EstatePropertyP:
My children just started this new school. The oldest pupil in their class is the biggest and a bully. Several times they came back home without their pencils or erasers. One day my wife asked why their stuffs were always missing, like every couple of days, that was when we knew they were being bullied.

Immediately, we asked them to report to their class teacher the next time they're being bullied. They still came home with the same report. My wife went to the school to complain to the teacher and the usual, "we'll do something about it" came up but nothing changed.

I wasn't happy the next time my children complained about this same bully. I had to tell them to tell the bully that the next time she bullies them I'll personally go there and beat her myself. They told her and the bullying stopped.

I forgot about this issue until today. When I asked them what transpired they said she said she would not play with them again, and she stopped playing with them. I think I prefer it this way.

Next term I'm changing their school!

what if same scenario plays out when you change their school?

EstatePropertyP:
My children just started this new school. The oldest pupil in their class is the biggest and a bully. Several times they came back home without their pencils or erasers. One day my wife asked why their stuffs were always missing, like every couple of days, that was when we knew they were being bullied.

Immediately, we asked them to report to their class teacher the next time they're being bullied. They still came home with the same report. My wife went to the school to complain to the teacher and the usual, "we'll do something about it" came up but nothing changed.

I wasn't happy the next time my children complained about this same bully. I had to tell them to tell the bully that the next time she bullies them I'll personally go there and beat her myself. They told her and the bullying stopped.

I forgot about this issue until today. When I asked them what transpired they said she said she would not play with them again, and she stopped playing with them. I think I prefer it this way.

Next term I'm changing their school!

there's bully everywhere, no place is better, since the child already stopped bullying your kids, i will advice you allow them continue.

in some schools the bully will be too much to the point that they can't tell their parents because of threat.

This happened to me in my sec school js 2 first term involving my teacher. Back then my maths teacher uses a small plank as substitute for cain.One day i arrived school late including other student as our vice Principal was about leaving for his office he asked my maths teacher to flog us.As soon as our VP left,man brought out his usual and flogged us. In less than 10 mins my dad arrived my school to give me money for lunch,he saw me crying and asked what was wrong.I explained everything to him he went straight to teacher and jokingly asked him,with the plank in his hands he confirmed it,my dad took the plank from him and started hitting my teacher with it.omo school scatter!!!!! Throughout jss 2 no flogging oo

Thinktwicemybro:
I didn't need my parents to take care of my bully back then. He arouse the beast in me one day and I fought him and almost paralyzed his hands. Not even my principal could remove my grip from him, he was later admitted in the hospital and left the school the next term. I would train my child to beat his bully.

I agree with you. This is the best thing to do. Let your kids know that they need to find their battles. Parents won't be there to bail them out forever.

kk

I have an experience.

I was in SS1 then, SS3 student beats me with an iron hanger. I had a deep cut on my lap. I was frustrated and helpless.
The following weekend, my foster parent came visiting. I acted not excited to see them. After so much persuasion. I expressed my pains and what i have been going through. He was mad when he heard my a seniors has been terrorizing me, He requested the see the Hostel master and the owner of the hostel, with so much rage and displeasure. He vowed to do everything in his capacity to shut down the hostel.
He called the senior to requested his side of the story. i was humiliated for a silly reason. He bounced on the senior, beat him to stupor, I could remmebr after so much whipping, my terrorist senior hid under the hostel master bed walling like a baby.
Its a beautiful thing to see your enemy terrorized.
Since that day, I became untouchable.
They called me omo baba eleshe. (The son of a boxer parent)

KillIgbohoN0W:
My father tried but when he walked into the male hostel, liver fail am. The smell of weed and hardened criminal looks on the faces he saw make am change him mind sharp sharp

Naa, he could still have dealt with them. Weed and those nonsense are a front! He should have let them know he was coming from where they were going.

NobleRace:


The guy did the right thing. If the teacher can't act professionally in front of his students, he should be disgraced in front of them. This is a teacher that would be immediately sacked if her action gets to the ears of business minded school owners.

Killing a child's self esteem is a sure way of setting him up for failure in life.

"Killing a child's self esteem..?" By just calling him a big head?

Omoh...I wonder the kind of generation we will be building in the next 15-20 years from now. So...teasing a child with big head is now a way of killing the self esteem to the extent it will make them a failure in life. Menh...

So those of us that our parents even bribed the teacher to flog us extra cain if we misbehave, we are all dead abi? Or we are all now psychopaths with delusional mind set?

Na over sabi go kee us for this country. This is how we breed weak men without even knowing it.

enonche85:


How can you free yourself from bullies without using violence?, beg the bully to stop?.

Omoh I will teach my child real VAWULENCE!!! (self defence techniques).

You would just end up facing criminal charges if you or your child does, which you wouldn't want. There are now anti-bullying laws everywhere and some forms of cyberbullying and in-class bullying are considered criminal acts, so the best thing to do is to report the perpetrators, as they could be prosecuted. Bullying is now being taken seriously by schools and police departments in the country. I'm not talking about Nigeria, though, but I hope Nigeria gets to that stage.

observanc1:
Let us not mistake bully for discipline. It's students that often bully their felliw students. Most times, teachers discipline erring students.
I remember one time my cousin got 0/10 in a test and was canned for the failure. The boy ran home and told his mum and the woman went and waylaid the teacher when he was going home and rained insults on him. That boy, now a man is my village, very useless and constituting nuisance, his mum is there too helpless.
I was disciplined so many times while in school, from pri to sec, but cant remember a single incident of bully. I was fighting like a tiger, nobody fought me twice, because body go tell u. Dont care your strenght or built, i would inflict on you a very permanent injury.

His son got 0/10 in a test, what the hell was the mum expecting, praise?

Spolit kids and parents everywhere

Maybe if she cared about her son's academics, he won't be getting zero in a test!

Nonsense!

My dad will always be my Hero!
During Madam koi koi era , I was in primary 2 then , one morning my teacher went out and ask me to look after her bag, it happens that madam koi koi struck again and everyone was running home, commotion everywhere, I manage and cover my teachers bag with her table, rush to my younger sisters class and ran home with her. The next morning, the woman accused me of stealing her money and gave me the beating of my life, she scatter my body with Cain as I fair reach the mark was so obvious and I cry my eyes out that day, my dad couldn’t sleep that night as the man was busy waiting for dawn. Next morning he bought six Cain, took me along with him to the school and finish the my teacher that day. My dad is tall and huge, he gave it to the woman that day, school scatter, student were running up and down screaming and laughing at the woman. Omo me and my sister no near that school again o.

Another one was my block rosary brother as we use to call them, the guy finish my elder sister with Cain because she came late the day she was suppose to lead prayer. My dad as usual bought his Cain for him, waited for them to pass as he usually accompany children to morning mass, as they are passing, he jumped out from where he hide behind our compound gate and ask my sister which one of them, the guy wan run my dad pursued him and caught his shirt, gave my sister Cain and with his own, they finish the brother with Cain that early morning. The news broke out like wild fire, we stopped attending block rosary because of that and later change to another one near our street. Dem no dey use strength punish kids again as anyone you wan touch will boldly tell you his or her father will visit you with Cain. Omo dem no born monkey well to bully my child, I will initiate my dads way and give it to anyone that tries that rubbish on my kids.

starbuck:
My daughter is 12 and in Jss2... Something of such happened in their class but the case was that of student who was to repeat because he failed.. The boy in question refused to repeat the Jss2 that he was asked to and he went ahead to even sort the school principal with 5k but his friends advised him against that because they know the woman in question doesn't entertain rubbish...

His next line of action was to go buy 5k plus padlock to lock the school gate from outside twice or thrice a week without the security guard knowing who does that.. Mind you, the school has boarding facilities with students and teachers and the owner living there.. When the locking of the school became rampant, the security man devised a mean and caught him in the middle of the night when he came to lock the school from outside...

Stories now emerge that he wanted to burn the school too and he had also come to school with a gun( this is where my daughter's case in).. She was the person who saw something like a gun in his bag one of the days he came to school and she brought it up when they were called to testify about the boy and his evil deeds...

When the boy's mother was summoned and she was told if she was aware that his son usually leave at night and come to the school to lock the gate, she said that they live in a big house and she usually not aware when someone goes in or out of the house but she had a slight knowledge about the day her son was caught because he didn't come back on time from the errand she sent him... They told her about the gun, she said that her son has so many toys with guns included, so maybe it was one of the the toy guns that his mates saw and thought it was a real gun..

After the bla bla, they asked her to take her son home till further notice... When my daughter came back and told me about it and the threat the boy made to her and one other of their classmates that he will deal with them... I was like, these people don't know me ooo, told my husband about it and told him that i would be going right to the student house to confront him and the mother, he was like 'I shouldn't try it because it would look like i am invading in their privacy because kids can say anything and don't mean it' '

Husbandman didn't know me well enough... I located the woman's house in the absence of my kids and husband and dropped a piece of mind with her and her son ( I activated my stuttering voice too so they will know i can devour anyone once it comes to my flesh)

God bless you ma

Playthepianos:
Yeah, it happenedbto me precisely thirteen years ago when I was in secondary school. That time , bullying in all government school in Lagos was at its lpeak.

I was in JSS2 when one tall fat senior enjoyed bullying me and my two friends, becayse we were small.

When it was too much, I reported to my parents. The next day, I was shocked to find my father in school before assembly.

When the teachers agreed to show him the senior bullying his son, I beat the hell out of the bastard, slapped his head and teeth and warned him never to bully me again. Yes, it was me that did all that to the bully because I was my dad and mum.

I deserve some accolades.

When I got to SS3, I decided to bully my juniors because I was bullied when I was a junior. Guess what - I bullied them. I bullied one fine newcomer girl to be my girlfriend but she didn't flinch. Unfortunately, her father was a policeman so he came two days later for me before assembly again. When I was told some policemen were in school for me (I was a prefect but I was going to school late..e no concern me), I ran away.

Me wey be odogwu those days.

Today, Ladies and gentlemen I am very tall and no one can bully me.

I rise. Court!

I will break your teeth strust me.
Tallness has nothing to do with black belt

tuzle:
I am not trying to support the teacher but I don't really see big head as an insult. People have different tolerance level, so teacher should also watch what they call students. Sometimes they may just be playing with the student. For example I call my sister olodo, but that it is not like I truely mean it

Why should a teacher call students names?

How unprofessional !

Funny enough if they caught students doing that to each other, they say something.

So why should a teacher do that to a student ?

od501:



"Killing a child's self esteem..?" By just calling him a big head?

Omoh...I wonder the kind of generation we will be building in the next 15-20 years from now. So...teasing a child with big head is now a way of killing the self esteem to the extent it will make them a failure in life. Menh...

So those of us that our parents even bribed the teacher to flog us extra cain if we misbehave, we are all dead abi? Or we are all now psychopaths with delusional mind set?

Na over sabi go kee us for this country. This is how we breed weak men without even knowing it.

I think it depends on how you were brought up. Yes, the child was hurt, that's why he reported to her father. The teacher knew what she was doing, that's why she denied; telling the father she says so to all her students.

There are parents who reprimand their kids with words such as "are you crazy?", "You're mad", "Why are you so dumb?", etc. To such kids, a word such as big head wouldn't matter. You can't say that to my children, they'll take offence immediately because we never use vulgar languages in reprimanding them.

The best way to reprimand a child is to spank him when he needs to be spanked. Advice him when he needs to be advised. Threaten him when he needs to be threatened. And raise a Stern voice against him when his offences call for it. Calling a child names is a very unhealthy practice for bringing up wholesome kids.

And if you would tease a child, do so in a friendly atmosphere with generally acceptable words.

Thinktwicemybro:
I didn't need my parents to take care of my bully back then. He arouse the beast in me one day and I fought him and almost paralyzed his hands. Not even my principal could remove my grip from him, he was later admitted in the hospital and left the school the next term. I would train my child to beat his bully.

Facts.The best solution is to teach your children to fight back. I tell my son if anyone bullies you, punch him in the face.

od501:


Let me get it straight, soo... cos your child was called a big head by the teacher "his elder", you went ahead to embarrass the teacher in front of the child. You did all these just to massage the boy's ego and prove to him you are a caring parents, to the detriment of the teacher’s integrity.

And to worsen the situation, you are even proud of your action. You think it is easy? Why did you bring him to the school? You should have home-schooled him yourself, at least no nobody will get the chance to call him big head.

Oga...u no try oo..
This is how we end up raising scallywags, turn around and claim they are just being bold. All this out over sabi is not helping oo...that's why we see different shii happening in our society today. things that normally won't date happen 20 years back. You no try sir. You no try at all..

Why is a teacher calling a student big head?

Is that professional?

If a teacher caught a student calling each other names will they tolerate it ?!

okpmoses:
This happened to me in my sec school js 2 first term involving my teacher. Back then my maths teacher uses a small plank as substitute for cain.One day i arrived school late including other student as our vice Principal was about leaving for his office he asked my maths teacher to flog us.As soon as our VP left,man brought out his usual and flogged us. In less than 10 mins my dad arrived my school to give me money for lunch,he saw me crying and asked what was wrong.I explained everything to him he went straight to teacher and jokingly asked him,with the plank in his hands he confirmed it,my dad took the plank from him and started hitting my teacher with it.omo school scatter!!!!! Throughout jss 2 no flogging oo

You came late and were disciplined and you expected to be given a pat on the back?

Who do you think you are?

starbuck:
My daughter is 12 and in Jss2... Something of such happened in their class but the case was that of student who was to repeat because he failed.. The boy in question refused to repeat the Jss2 that he was asked to and he went ahead to even sort the school principal with 5k but his friends advised him against that because they know the woman in question doesn't entertain rubbish...

His next line of action was to go buy 5k plus padlock to lock the school gate from outside twice or thrice a week without the security guard knowing who does that.. Mind you, the school has boarding facilities with students and teachers and the owner living there.. When the locking of the school became rampant, the security man devised a mean and caught him in the middle of the night when he came to lock the school from outside...

Stories now emerge that he wanted to burn the school too and he had also come to school with a gun( this is where my daughter's case in).. She was the person who saw something like a gun in his bag one of the days he came to school and she brought it up when they were called to testify about the boy and his evil deeds...

When the boy's mother was summoned and she was told if she was aware that his son usually leave at night and come to the school to lock the gate, she said that they live in a big house and she usually not aware when someone goes in or out of the house but she had a slight knowledge about the day her son was caught because he didn't come back on time from the errand she sent him... They told her about the gun, she said that her son has so many toys with guns included, so maybe it was one of the the toy guns that his mates saw and thought it was a real gun..

After the bla bla, they asked her to take her son home till further notice... When my daughter came back and told me about it and the threat the boy made to her and one other of their classmates that he will deal with them... I was like, these people don't know me ooo, told my husband about it and told him that i would be going right to the student house to confront him and the mother, he was like 'I shouldn't try it because it would look like i am invading in their privacy because kids can say anything and don't mean it' '

Husbandman didn't know me well enough... I located the woman's house in the absence of my kids and husband and dropped a piece of mind with her and her son ( I activated my stuttering voice too so they will know i can devour anyone once it comes to my flesh)

You for call your army friend and terrorise the living day lights out of the stupid boy

lalasticlala:
In secondary schools, some students report their bullies - fellow students or even teachers to their parents, elder siblings or guardians.

Sometimes, the parents would storm the school to confront and fight the bullies.

Who experienced this in school? Share your experiences.

Mr Kolapo comes to mind , his punishment for primary 3 pupils was to arrange 'us' (pupils) in a straight file , we queue to be 'head butted' by this 'mad cow ' for 'making noise' in the class . This went on for many weeks before I summoned courage to report him to my mum.
My mum went crazy & was the 1st get to the school premise the following day with the intention of ... but unfortunately , she knew him & his(Kolapo's) parents. She gave him a Stern warning & it (head butting) never repeat itself, that was how I saved my class mates & myself from this frustrated human being.
I still see him till date ...

tuzle:
I have a friend that I call big head sometimes, so will u call that bullying? What I am trying to say is that calling big head isn't an insult, it could even be a joke, although the child may take it as an insult. I was tall from my youth days and I have been called names like iroko, longitude and so on, will I count that as bullying? So refer to someone as big head isn't bullying to me.

I really can't believe you're actually comparing yourself and your friends with a kid with a budding sense of self. Constantly calling the kid "big head" before other kids could destroy his self esteem for life especially if that boy actually has a big head. Trust other kids to gladly adopt the appellation too.

You shouldn't lay emphasis on the words "big head", you should rather pay attention to the impact on the recipient, the context/surrounding circumstances, etc. You can't tell me there's nothing wrong with calling someone "olodo" simply because we sometimes call our friends "olodo"; that would be illogical. Kids like and need to be loved by their teachers, if that name isn't making him feel loved, just stop it. If he's not looking forward to being in school cause his teacher makes him feel like a misfit, address it. Don't joke with kids' self esteem.

Even as adults, it's extremely important to consider how our "jokes" are received before deciding whether to continue with them or not. It's not about what is bullying to you; it's definitely not about you. It's primarily about the recipients and thier vulnerabilities. Calling someone big head, skinny leg, etc. could be bullying cause most times, the only difference between jokes and insults is how they're received.

That said, I believe the guy could have just called the teacher aside to tell him or her how the child felt about it. The teacher would have probably understood and stopped calling him that without being humiliated.

tuzle:
I have a friend that I call big head sometimes, so will u call that bullying? What I am trying to say is that calling big head isn't an insult, it could even be a joke, although the child may take it as an insult. I was tall from my youth days and I have been called names like iroko, longitude and so on, will I count that as bullying? So refer to someone as big head isn't bullying to me.

False equivalence.

Yout teacher is not your friend. So fraternising and calling your students names as if they are buddies is inappropriate.

If the teacher saw other students calling each other names, will they tolerate it?

Abeg! Highly inappropriate.

The day my Popsy follow me go school go burst our school prefects.... I was in SS1. Chai I no go forget. Those guys literally turned me to a punching bag the day before, just because my class had a debate with them and we thrashed them (I was the representative for my class). When I got home, my parents asked what was wrong and I explained. Next day, my dad said "let's go to your school". He waited till around 9 when everyone will be in school... I know say e don set. On getting to the school premises, he just told me to show him any of the guys that beat me, I pointed the head boy and the labour prefect. Baba take on them.... 2 seconds, everywhere burst. I just dey there dey happy. It took the intervention of the principal and hefty teachers to stop him ...

It's good to plan ahead of this things, because they are the ills that will always be in a social enclave.
The moment my boy turned 6 I enrolled him for martial arts and boxing training.
Plus I have already inputed the ideology that loosing the fight is not the big loss,but rather not fighting at all.

This is what we find ourselves in as parents so let's make sure they are mentally and physically equipped to at least survive in the cruel world we brought them into.

I would spank my son if he comes home to tell me someone is bullying him,with a 5years martial arts and boxing experience,
I know how much I dey pay for him boxing classes alone,where I come from we don't waste money, so if He doesn't fights off his bully and send a good don't try this with me signal he has wasted my money ☹️

Back in the days during primary and secondary days... I experienced been bullied by one alahji son,and that was my first day in that school. I reported him to my mum on getting back home,she gave me a deafening slap,immediately I knew what to do.

On resuming school that morning,I return that slap on the face of that guy(seyi) he did not even provoke the fight,I beat him so they,he was beckoning to students and teachers to come and rescuing him from his assailant (me) with swelling face that I have panel beated with my fist.

Since that day all of them gave me my respect,because the news spread throughout the nook and crany of the school.. Even seniors don't dare do nonsense with the new kid(me) anytime I step into their class corridors..

I was nicknamed (Jide warrior) back in the days.. I wrestled many unrepentant bullies to submission during my secondary days,I hate bullies,I just can't stand it. It made me sick.

there was this boy that used to beat me up when I was in primary school. I dare not pass the front of his house even after school. I have 3 sisters then. Every time I got home I reported the boy to my parent and my elder sisters. It got to a time i have to tell them am not going to school again. So one day all my sisters said the nonsense must stop.
On one faithful evening, 2 of my sisters followed me to their house, he tot it was biz as usual not knowing my sisters are hiding somewhere around the corner.
He followed me as usual and my sisters gave him the beating of his life.

I was relieved and dat was the end of his bullied.

Meanwhile, my own almost 5 year old son will come back from school to complain how one wisdom use to beat him in his class.
I went to the school to make enquiry just to discover it is my son that used to beat the boy. I just have to warned him seriously not to do dat again

Kobicove:
If Sylvester Oromoni's parents had gone to his school to manhandle his bullies he may still be alive today

Very dumb post

Kobicove:
If Sylvester Oromoni's parents had gone to his school to manhandle his bullies he may still be alive today

Yes.
He would still be alive.

When I was in primary 5 or so, a boy in my class told me that he's older than me and that I should call him Broda Akin, I refused and he threatened to beat me up anytime he sees me, I thought he wouldn't dare initially, until one day that my mommy sent me and he started following me, I was to pass through a lonely bush path so I stayed in one shop until I saw an elderly woman passing and I followed her, immediately I got home, I told my mom and she went to his house and warned his mother that if he ever laid hands on me, she will skin him alive. Dude is married and very calm now.