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Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by BigDawsNet: 3:44pm On Dec 16, 2021
You can only say NO to people and stand on it if you don't depend on Dem to feed ..

When you are fit financially
You have your say and people will respect all your decisions.... Tho they can only advice

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Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by symbuul: 3:44pm On Dec 16, 2021
Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by Bmaster(m): 3:45pm On Dec 16, 2021
IgiveLadiesBj:
Hello people of Nairaland, I am at the point of my life where I want to stop pleasing people regardless.

I find it difficult to say no especially to family[/b]and close friends and this has affected me badly in all ramifications especially in financial terms.
Please how do I say No and stand my ground without feeling bad or even care how they feel after I say no
[b]I don't think you are supposed to say direct no to family.
As for friends,Just say no,and then put up a fake call and walk out of the scene immediately

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Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by onatisi(m): 3:45pm On Dec 16, 2021
what you are experiencing is what many are going through but too timid to accept . the only rule to overcoming this problem is just to stop caring or worrying about what people feel or think about you .
in this our society , we worry too much about what ppl feel and think about us and we want to be accepted so we tend to always do things that will make people like us . the day you decide to follow ur own path and live ur life the way you want, is the day you break free from this shackles
IgiveLadiesBj:
Hello people of Nairaland, I am at the point of my life where I want to stop pleasing people regardless.

I find it difficult to say no especially to family and close friends and this has affected me badly in all ramifications especially in financial terms.
Please how do I say No and stand my ground without feeling bad or even care how they feel after I say no

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Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by DropsMic(m): 3:45pm On Dec 16, 2021
I just do

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Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by Newyorkitis(m): 3:46pm On Dec 16, 2021
[quote author=IgiveLadiesBj post=108532332]Hello people of Nairaland, I am at the point of my life where I want to stop pleasing people regardless.

I find it difficult to say no especially to family and close friends and this has affected me badly in all ramifications especially in financial terms.
Please how do I say No and stand my ground without feeling bad or even care how they feel after I say no[/quote
]


Learn how to say no without explaining.
Plus, let the person know that you are into 'contribution' and it's not your turn to collect. (lying is bad sha)

But do you know, it is packed with divine blessing to be a blessing to others?
I also suggest you give out to those with genuine needs and let it be the money that you can forget or dash out without it hurting your plans.

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Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by aimmoney9: 3:47pm On Dec 16, 2021
By zipping up..... grin
Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by jericco1(m): 3:47pm On Dec 16, 2021
It is consistency, you have to do with without minding whose ox is being gored.
Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by purefacti(m): 3:47pm On Dec 16, 2021
MufasaLion:


I don't make myself easily accessible to people unless I wish to.

exactly bro be scarce as possible
if u are visiting me with out my intentions i won't let you in even my babe is aware that I hate surprises
Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by Johel(m): 3:47pm On Dec 16, 2021
IgiveLadiesBj:
Hello people of Nairaland, I am at the point of my life where I want to stop pleasing people regardless.

I find it difficult to say no especially to family and close friends and this has affected me badly in all ramifications especially in financial terms.
Please how do I say No and stand my ground without feeling bad or even care how they feel after I say no


I say NO to anyone and anything that doesn't bring me peace or cash...
Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by aimmoney9: 3:49pm On Dec 16, 2021
debbydams:
FCT ABUJa


Op..stop telling people what u want to do..stand on your ground. As a lady nobody can pin anything on me o
Except pregnancy and engagement ring..... grin
Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by MufasaLion: 3:49pm On Dec 16, 2021
purefacti:


exactly bro be scarce as possible
if u are visiting me with out my intentions i won't let you in even my babe is aware that I hate surprises

That's it.
Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by Dazall: 3:49pm On Dec 16, 2021
The answer you seek lies in the answer to the question below

Would these people be there for you when you go broke and need their help?

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Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by Bastard1stborn: 3:50pm On Dec 16, 2021
IgiveLadiesBj:
Hello people of Nairaland, I am at the point of my life where I want to stop pleasing people regardless.

I find it difficult to say no especially to family and close friends and this has affected me badly in all ramifications especially in financial terms.
Please how do I say No and stand my ground without feeling bad or even care how they feel after I say no

Try to give them more bj. According to your moniker.

The harder you gives them, the more you become unquestionable on any decision you make.

Werey, you don't know licking puna makes a man weak especially in this era of kanyamata


May the Lord guide you

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Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by ubest1(m): 3:51pm On Dec 16, 2021
My dear is inbuilt things, as long God created you a soft minded/passionate person you will always be so kind to people no matter how determine one want to stop it, same happening to me I don't know how to say no & sustain it.

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Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by ismodiwa(m): 3:52pm On Dec 16, 2021
If you say no without having any reasons, facts or figures, make you look stupid
Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by A305: 3:52pm On Dec 16, 2021
IgiveLadiesBj:
Hello people of Nairaland, I am at the point of my life where I want to stop pleasing people regardless.

I find it difficult to say no especially to family and close friends and this has affected me badly in all ramifications especially in financial terms.
Please how do I say No and stand my ground without feeling bad or even care how they feel after I say no
Avoidance.

You say "NO" with no explanation and walk away.

Do not second guess.
Don't pick their calls.

Be slow to react or respond and if you not sure of what to say. Keep quiet.

Limit your interaction with perceived predators (family and friends inclusive).

Be elusive.

Question everyone motive. A simple "what's your motive?" is enough to see through people intention.

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Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by Bastard1stborn: 3:52pm On Dec 16, 2021
MufasaLion:


I don't make myself easily accessible to people unless I wish to.

You lies a lot on this forum.

Especially about your personality, but dont worry. Those lies are your sherpered

Time will tell
Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by Truvelisback(m): 3:53pm On Dec 16, 2021
IgiveLadiesBj:
Hello people of Nairaland, I am at the point of my life where I want to stop pleasing people regardless.

I find it difficult to say no especially to family and close friends and this has affected me badly in all ramifications especially in financial terms.
Please how do I say No and stand my ground without feeling bad or even care how they feel after I say no
The choice is urs. U are not a baby.
Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by InvertedHammer: 3:54pm On Dec 16, 2021
IgiveLadiesBj:
Hello people of Nairaland, I am at the point of my life where I want to stop pleasing people regardless.

I find it difficult to say no especially to family and close friends and this has affected me badly in all ramifications especially in financial terms.
Please how do I say No and stand my ground without feeling bad or even care how they feel after I say no
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It is not easy to say NO. It will take a serious life crisis to reformat your brain. After friends, families and acquaintances abandon you during trying times, you will be forced to reevaluate your life. Thereafter, saying NO will come very easy. Until then, keep trying.

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Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by kunkelhanspeter(m): 3:55pm On Dec 16, 2021
IgiveLadiesBj:
Hello people of Nairaland, I am at the point of my life where I want to stop pleasing people regardless.

I find it difficult to say no especially to family and close friends and this has affected me badly in all ramifications especially in financial terms.
Please how do I say No and stand my ground without feeling bad or even care how they feel after I say no
Start being familiar with this words “ Wetin come out”
Been using it and it helping
Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by MufasaLion: 3:55pm On Dec 16, 2021
Bastard1stborn:


You lies a lot on this forum.

Especially about your personality, but dont worry. Those lies are your sherpered

Time will tell

No, I don't lie. You don't know me, and I am so sure I give no hoot about your goddamn miserable life!

Go get a life and stop letting your inferiority complex take the best of your thinking capabilities.

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Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by BuddhaPalm(m): 3:57pm On Dec 16, 2021
Read...

1. When I Say No, I feel Guilty (by Manuel J. Smith)
2. No More Mr. Nice Guy (by Robert Glover)

You can download both from libgen.is

Get the ePub version and download an ePub reader from the Play Store like Lithium, if you use Android. If you use iOS, then read the ePub with your iBooks.

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Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by Raychee(f): 3:57pm On Dec 16, 2021
Used to be like you. Learned the hard way.
Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by sampsonub100: 3:58pm On Dec 16, 2021
IgiveLadiesBj:
Hello people of Nairaland, I am at the point of my life where I want to stop pleasing people regardless.

I find it difficult to say no especially to family and close friends and this has affected me badly in all ramifications especially in financial terms.
Please how do I say No and stand my ground without feeling bad or even care how they feel after I say no
Just say NO and stick to your guns. Forget about feelings except your are doing something wrong, otherwise people will exploit it to their advantage and to your own detriment.

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Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by PeaceOfMind2: 3:58pm On Dec 16, 2021
Simply stand on the ground and shout NOOOOOOOOO!
Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by Rree: 3:59pm On Dec 16, 2021
Say it
Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by Bastard1stborn: 4:00pm On Dec 16, 2021
MufasaLion:


No, I don't lie. You don't know me, and I am so sure I give no hoot about your goddamn miserable life!

Go get a life and stop letting your inferiority complex take the best of your thinking capabilities.

Exactly what I'm talking about. If Nairalanders knows who you are and how low your standard of living is... How poor your family background is, they may stone you to death.

Please check yourself and be honest of you are liable to tell if someone is living a miserable life.

You are always funny.

I wish you know who is here... I know you man. Don't stress it. Just ignore if you don't want to jam trailer this afternoon because I know you very well.
Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by Zeel007: 4:00pm On Dec 16, 2021
IgiveLadiesBj:
Hello people of Nairaland, I am at the point of my life where I want to stop pleasing people regardless.

I find it difficult to say no especially to family and close friends and this has affected me badly in all ramifications especially in financial terms.
Please how do I say No and stand my ground without feeling bad or even care how they feel after I say no
just say zaazu zeh
Re: How Do You Say No And Stand Your Ground? by micxwell(m): 4:02pm On Dec 16, 2021
MufasaLion:


I don't make myself easily accessible to people unless I wish to.
I'm in your WhatsApp group o wink

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