I'm approaching 40 and my goal is to be married by third quarter of 2022.

I have a big problem tho. I expect too much from the women I meet (or have met)I'm obsessed with learning and getting better generally. When I'm on my phone, I'm learning. I like getting most things right. I don't leave things to chance or to God as most people do. If I see a problem I go into fixing mode immediately. This is now affecting my quest for an ideal woman. I get asked every day why I'm not married. I ask myself same question too. I'm not pressured but I really do want to be married and have kids.
Let me say this. I don't nag or complain too much. I just notice faults easily and when I do I point them out as politely as possible. And I expect a fix! If I don't see any attempt, I get tired. I'm turned off by too many things. I'm turned off by uncleanliness, laziness, tribal bigotry, unambitious...just too many things. I'm not perfect but for some reasons it seems I'm looking for a perfect person.

I'm currently In a relationship and this morning I told myself I won't be in this relationship by 2022. Her crime? She has bad breath and I have mentioned it to her over and over again. I got her some recommended medications and gave her tips that I researched myself. The last time I was at her place, I noticed she wasn't using the medications, neither was she taking the issue as a serious issue. She is a nice girl and doesn't bother me. I have tried to ignore the issue but it's still one of those things I can't stand. I can't stop wondering how a person with bad breath can be lazy with finding a solution. I told a friend and he told me I must learn to overlook. How can I overlook this? The previous relationship was a girl whose only ambition was marriage. I sponsored her training on skill acquisition and started a business for her twice. She mismanaged the whole. When it's time to talk about the progress of the business, she would bring up marriage. She had zero accountability and a huge entitlement mentality. She had to go.

This girl is right for me. She hustles. She is homely, respectful and tolerant. I would say she is the best yet (no comparison tho). I don't know what to do concerning the breath issue. I have never had to complain so much about any thing but because I don't want to just throw what we have away, I have had to have many conversations on the matter with her and she won't take even the easiest steps like brushing before bed seriously. This is crazy. What did you have to put with in your partner? Can you put up with bad breath? I need answers pls.

@40, it's wrong to put all your eggs in one basket..

No human no matter how pretty or handsome they appear to look is physically perfect not to talk of other aspects....

Old age also will surely knock at the door then those attributes will fade away!!!!!

Make up your mind bro, just get the right and important attributes (character, honesty, loyalty, hardworking, enterprising, no-nagging e.t.c) right then jump in.

when ya ready for marrige you'll learn to overlook....besides bad breath is a huge turn off for some people

Sosotired:
I'm approaching 40 and my goal is to be married by third quarter of 2022.

I have a big problem tho. I expect too much from the women I meet (or have met)I'm obsessed with learning and getting better generally. When I'm on my phone, I'm learning. I like getting most things right. I don't leave things to chance or to God as most people do. If I see a problem I go into fixing mode immediately. This is now affecting my quest for an ideal woman. I get asked every day why I'm not married. I ask myself same question too. I'm not pressured but I really do want to be married and have kids.
Let me say this. I don't nag or complain too much. I just notice faults easily and when I do I point them out as politely as possible. And I expect a fix! If I don't see any attempt, I get tired. I'm turned off by too many things. I'm turned off by uncleanliness, laziness, tribal bigotry, unambitious...just too many things. I'm not perfect but for some reasons it seems I'm looking for a perfect person.

I'm currently In a relationship and this morning I told myself I won't be in this relationship by 2022. Her crime? She has bad breath and I have mentioned it to her over and over again. I got her some recommended medications and gave her tips that I researched myself. The last time I was at her place, I noticed she wasn't using the medications, neither was she taking the issue as a serious issue. She is a nice girl and doesn't bother me. I have tried to ignore the issue but it's still one of those things I can't stand. I can't stop wondering how a person with bad breath can be lazy with finding a solution. I told a friend and he told me I must learn to overlook. How can I overlook this? The previous relationship was a girl whose only ambition was marriage. I sponsored her training on skill acquisition and started a business for her twice. She mismanaged the whole. When it's time to talk about the progress of the business, she would bring up marriage. She had zero accountability and a huge entitlement mentality. She had to go.

This girl is right for me. She hustles. She is homely, respectful and tolerant. I would say she is the best yet (no comparison tho). I don't know what to do concerning the breath issue. I have never had to complain so much about any thing but because I don't want to just throw what we have away, I have had to have many conversations on the matter with her and she won't take even the easiest steps like brushing before bed seriously. This is crazy. What did you have to put with in your partner? Can you put up with bad breath? I need answers pls.

get this mouthwash for her.

Sosotired:
I'm approaching 40 and my goal is to be married by third quarter of 2022.

I have a big problem tho. I expect too much from the women I meet (or have met)I'm obsessed with learning and getting better generally. When I'm on my phone, I'm learning. I like getting most things right. I don't leave things to chance or to God as most people do. If I see a problem I go into fixing mode immediately. This is now affecting my quest for an ideal woman. I get asked every day why I'm not married. I ask myself same question too. I'm not pressured but I really do want to be married and have kids.
Let me say this. I don't nag or complain too much. I just notice faults easily and when I do I point them out as politely as possible. And I expect a fix! If I don't see any attempt, I get tired. I'm turned off by too many things. I'm turned off by uncleanliness, laziness, tribal bigotry, unambitious...just too many things. I'm not perfect but for some reasons it seems I'm looking for a perfect person.

I'm currently In a relationship and this morning I told myself I won't be in this relationship by 2022. Her crime? She has bad breath and I have mentioned it to her over and over again. I got her some recommended medications and gave her tips that I researched myself. The last time I was at her place, I noticed she wasn't using the medications, neither was she taking the issue as a serious issue. She is a nice girl and doesn't bother me. I have tried to ignore the issue but it's still one of those things I can't stand. I can't stop wondering how a person with bad breath can be lazy with finding a solution. I told a friend and he told me I must learn to overlook. How can I overlook this? The previous relationship was a girl whose only ambition was marriage. I sponsored her training on skill acquisition and started a business for her twice. She mismanaged the whole. When it's time to talk about the progress of the business, she would bring up marriage. She had zero accountability and a huge entitlement mentality. She had to go.

This girl is right for me. She hustles. She is homely, respectful and tolerant. I would say she is the best yet (no comparison tho). I don't know what to do concerning the breath issue. I have never had to complain so much about any thing but because I don't want to just throw what we have away, I have haquoted to have many conversations on the matter with her and she won't take even the easiest steps like brushing before bed seriously. This is crazy. What did you have to put with in your partner? Can you put up with bad breath? I need answers pls.

WHY DO YOU WANT TO MARRY?
NLANDERS SAID MARRIAGE ARE MEANT FOR THE WEAK.


just swallow the pill, you will be alright

Ehhh na wa ooo
Imagine. E seems like say she no dey perceive am.

VeeVeeMyLuv:
No human no matter how pretty or handsome they appear to look is physically perfect not to talk of other aspects....

Old age also will surely knock at the door then those attributes will fade away!!!!!

Make up your mind bro, just get the right and important attributes (character, honesty, loyalty, hardworking, enterprising, no-nagging e.t.c) right then jump in.

So he should go ahead and marry her with the bad breath Just coz old age is knocking?

Most girls are lazy to bath at least twice a day talk more of brushing before bedtime.

You ask them to go take a shower, they'll bark back saying"do i stink"

Marriage is not for everyone.
If bad breath that is relatively easily fixable is your only concern with your girl you better marry before 2022 sef.
You don't want to end up having to marry the wrong type of woman out of desperation. I suffered bad breath and I can tell you, your is not aware of it and cannot perceive the smell even if she tried and she is not aware of the severity. My wife was the one alerting me. Most medications and mouthwashes are unhealthy long term.
What worked for me was Oil Pulling. Swirl teaspoon of coconut or any good quality cooking oil around in your mouth for about ten minutes before spitting out , then rinse mouth for a minute with weak salt solution and say good bye to bad breath. But she needs to make it a routine.

Sosotired:
I'm approaching 40 and my goal is to be married by third quarter of 2022.

I have a big problem tho. I expect too much from the women I meet (or have met)I'm obsessed with learning and getting better generally. When I'm on my phone, I'm learning. I like getting most things right. I don't leave things to chance or to God as most people do. If I see a problem I go into fixing mode immediately. This is now affecting my quest for an ideal woman. I get asked every day why I'm not married. I ask myself same question too. I'm not pressured but I really do want to be married and have kids.
Let me say this. I don't nag or complain too much. I just notice faults easily and when I do I point them out as politely as possible. And I expect a fix! If I don't see any attempt, I get tired. I'm turned off by too many things. I'm turned off by uncleanliness, laziness, tribal bigotry, unambitious...just too many things. I'm not perfect but for some reasons it seems I'm looking for a perfect person.

I'm currently In a relationship and this morning I told myself I won't be in this relationship by 2022. Her crime? She has bad breath and I have mentioned it to her over and over again. I got her some recommended medications and gave her tips that I researched myself. The last time I was at her place, I noticed she wasn't using the medications, neither was she taking the issue as a serious issue. She is a nice girl and doesn't bother me. I have tried to ignore the issue but it's still one of those things I can't stand. I can't stop wondering how a person with bad breath can be lazy with finding a solution. I told a friend and he told me I must learn to overlook. How can I overlook this? The previous relationship was a girl whose only ambition was marriage. I sponsored her training on skill acquisition and started a business for her twice. She mismanaged the whole. When it's time to talk about the progress of the business, she would bring up marriage. She had zero accountability and a huge entitlement mentality. She had to go.

This girl is right for me. She hustles. She is homely, respectful and tolerant. I would say she is the best yet (no comparison tho). I don't know what to do concerning the breath issue. I have never had to complain so much about any thing but because I don't want to just throw what we have away, I have had to have many conversations on the matter with her and she won't take even the easiest steps like brushing before bed seriously. This is crazy. What did you have to put with in your partner? Can you put up with bad breath? I need answers pls.

SmellySperm:

So he should go ahead and marry her with the bad breath Just coz old age is knocking?

if it is a minor blemish that could be corrected why not?

VeeVeeMyLuv:
if it is a minor blemish that could be corrected why not?

But she isn't even perturbed about it...

Sosotired:
I'm approaching 40 and my goal is to be married by third quarter of 2022.

I have a big problem tho. I expect too much from the women I meet (or have met)I'm obsessed with learning and getting better generally. When I'm on my phone, I'm learning. I like getting most things right. I don't leave things to chance or to God as most people do. If I see a problem I go into fixing mode immediately. This is now affecting my quest for an ideal woman. I get asked every day why I'm not married. I ask myself same question too. I'm not pressured but I really do want to be married and have kids.
Let me say this. I don't nag or complain too much. I just notice faults easily and when I do I point them out as politely as possible. And I expect a fix! If I don't see any attempt, I get tired. I'm turned off by too many things. I'm turned off by uncleanliness, laziness, tribal bigotry, unambitious...just too many things. I'm not perfect but for some reasons it seems I'm looking for a perfect person.

I'm currently In a relationship and this morning I told myself I won't be in this relationship by 2022. Her crime? She has bad breath and I have mentioned it to her over and over again. I got her some recommended medications and gave her tips that I researched myself. The last time I was at her place, I noticed she wasn't using the medications, neither was she taking the issue as a serious issue. She is a nice girl and doesn't bother me. I have tried to ignore the issue but it's still one of those things I can't stand. I can't stop wondering how a person with bad breath can be lazy with finding a solution. I told a friend and he told me I must learn to overlook. How can I overlook this? The previous relationship was a girl whose only ambition was marriage. I sponsored her training on skill acquisition and started a business for her twice. She mismanaged the whole. When it's time to talk about the progress of the business, she would bring up marriage. She had zero accountability and a huge entitlement mentality. She had to go.

This girl is right for me. She hustles. She is homely, respectful and tolerant. I would say she is the best yet (no comparison tho). I don't know what to do concerning the breath issue. I have never had to complain so much about any thing but because I don't want to just throw what we have away, I have had to have many conversations on the matter with her and she won't take even the easiest steps like brushing before bed seriously. This is crazy. What did you have to put with in your partner? Can you put up with bad breath? I need answers pls.

I understand how u feel. However, i think if u really love her, u should take her to a dentist or u give her the medication urself. That's just her weakness. U shouldn't because of bad breath leave her.

So nairaland men are still getting married?

@Hintona Nairaland men would wait for you. They won't marry

Oga na so e be me,

I have high standard and I'm approaching 60 and still single and searching for my standard.

No worry e go better before we go reach 80 I assure u sir .


40+20=60, u better born pikin now or never.

.

Sosotired:

This girl is right for me. She hustles. She is homely, respectful and tolerant. I would say she is the best yet (no comparison tho). I don't know what to do concerning the breath issue. I have never had to complain so much about any thing but because I don't want to just throw what we have away, I have had to have many conversations on the matter with her and she won't take even the easiest steps like brushing before bed seriously. This is crazy. What did you have to put with in your partner? Can you put up with bad breath? I need answers pls.

Bros, there's no perfect man/woman. Everyone has their own flaws, even if you marry the perfect woman, what If the so called "perfect woman" develops an illness after marriage that makes her imperfect. Will you divorce her because of that?
One thing I think you need is tolerance and forbearing. Ability to accommodate people's flaws for long while helping them get solution.
I believe your girlfriend bad breath issue is solvable though it might not be instant. Some bad breath might be an indicaton for an underlying health conditions. Taking her to a good doctor/dentist and she maintaining good oral hygiene can solve it.
If you leave her because of this, the next girl will definitely come with her own set of problems which can be worse.

Sosotired:
I'm approaching 40 and my goal is to be married by third quarter of 2022.

I have a big problem tho. I expect too much from the women I meet (or have met)I'm obsessed with learning and getting better generally. When I'm on my phone, I'm learning. I like getting most things right. I don't leave things to chance or to God as most people do. If I see a problem I go into fixing mode immediately. This is now affecting my quest for an ideal woman. I get asked every day why I'm not married. I ask myself same question too. I'm not pressured but I really do want to be married and have kids.
Let me say this. I don't nag or complain too much. I just notice faults easily and when I do I point them out as politely as possible. And I expect a fix! If I don't see any attempt, I get tired. I'm turned off by too many things. I'm turned off by uncleanliness, laziness, tribal bigotry, unambitious...just too many things. I'm not perfect but for some reasons it seems I'm looking for a perfect person.

I'm currently In a relationship and this morning I told myself I won't be in this relationship by 2022. Her crime? She has bad breath and I have mentioned it to her over and over again. I got her some recommended medications and gave her tips that I researched myself. The last time I was at her place, I noticed she wasn't using the medications, neither was she taking the issue as a serious issue. She is a nice girl and doesn't bother me. I have tried to ignore the issue but it's still one of those things I can't stand. I can't stop wondering how a person with bad breath can be lazy with finding a solution. I told a friend and he told me I must learn to overlook. How can I overlook this? The previous relationship was a girl whose only ambition was marriage. I sponsored her training on skill acquisition and started a business for her twice. She mismanaged the whole. When it's time to talk about the progress of the business, she would bring up marriage. She had zero accountability and a huge entitlement mentality. She had to go.

This girl is right for me. She hustles. She is homely, respectful and tolerant. I would say she is the best yet (no comparison tho). I don't know what to do concerning the breath issue. I have never had to complain so much about any thing but because I don't want to just throw what we have away, I have had to have many conversations on the matter with her and she won't take even the easiest steps like brushing before bed seriously. This is crazy. What did you have to put with in your partner? Can you put up with bad breath? I need answers pls.

People with bad breath have to brush their tooth more often. I’d say at least thrice a day. The night own is most important. Let her get listerine mouth wash and use it as many times daily. Also, let her go do scaling and polishing of her tooth at dental clinic. Decayed tooth dirts can also be part of the reason.

I understand how you feel. I suggest you both make dental appointments, you can get mouthwash and dental floss for her..because it’s gonna affect your intimacy

Where do you people always crawl out from.??

Let her give you BJ and swallow the cum
That will make her breath to be good breath

On a serious note she should brush her tongue very well. Use good brush also she should stop using close up and the rest
Instead she should use sensodyne
Also she should brush anytime she eat Suya, drink carbonated drinks , vegetables because all this lower mouth PH.

Thank me later

This one is not ready to marry. Check back in another 20 years. maybe, just maybe you will be ready.

Firstly, understand that , as a man - even when you're 50 - you can still marry your dream woman. So, you shouldn't be in a hurry.

I'm seeing this from the submissive angle:

If she's unwilling to do as little as take care of her own dental health even with the provisions you generously provided to that effect, I'd opine you don't marry her.
Her stubbornness would give you bigger problems on the long run.

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Look around more.
Marriage is no relationship.
You don't enter one with hope to spend a lifetime mending holes and fixing what basic courtesy requires spouses do for themselves .

There are sparkling younglings out there looking for a pair.

You're a price .

Damn.. Nasty.. Bad breath ?
WTF? My niqqa run for ya life. .

akinade28:

Bros, there's no perfect man/woman. Everyone has their own flaws, even if you marry the perfect woman, what If the so called "perfect woman" develops an illness after marriage that makes her imperfect. Will you divorce her because of that?
One thing I think you need is tolerance and forbearing. Ability to accommodate people's flaws for long while helping them get solution.
I believe your girlfriend bad breath issue is solvable though it might not be instant. Some bad breath might be an indicaton for an underlying health conditions. Taking her to a good doctor/dentist and she maintaining good oral hygiene can solve it.
If you leave her because of this, the next girl will definitely come with her own set of problems which can be worse.

I can't just love your post less, you are so matured wise and consistent in your way of reasoning that i have no doubt that you are well brought up. I have never regretted following you on nairaland and i honestly wish to see you in person someday no matter the cost. Akinade28 i am based in Abuja though from Imo and i am bold to tell you this day that you have a sound spirit, we may not be sound in spirit (though we pray for Grace) but when we see one, we identify and spot it and if this is who you truly are in person, I bless the day you are born and your husband must be lucky to have you, i pray the holy spirit directs you. Akinade28 you have a big fan or should i say a secret admirer in me��. Is well dear.