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Don't Marry A Pastor. Advise For Women And Men. by Aidejay(m): 2:17pm On Jan 04, 2022
This is for all the young ladies looking for husbands. And for the men too who have sisters, nieces and friends.

Pls tell them to steer clear of jobless PASTORS aka Men Of God.

There is nothing worse than a man who claims to be called by God but doesn't have any work.

A pastor with no handwork, no skills no steady source of income. If you marry am you go suffer oooh!

At least the pastor should be under a ministry or church organization that has a great internal structure for example Living faith, Redeem, Deeper life, CAC, Baptist, ECWA, MFM, Methodist e.t.c Not all these 1 man pilot churches.

He must then possess one or two skills, so that if church income doesn't enter he can be Barbing hair or painting to offset domestic needs.

I am writing this because I have come across 3 real life situations where the pastor and his family are struggling, one was my neighbor. The children aren't going to school, if his wife wants to cook, it's with wood they gather and the man's church is inside his house, meaning he is not under any ministry.

The second scenario is happening to a close female friend, this one her husband is the pastor he is a furniture designer, the struggle is real for their family too. no steady income, children aren't in school and to make matters worse the lady lost her job.

The third is a male relative of mine who is a pastor, who was advised to join a ministry when he was younger and unmarried, he refused. Over 10 years down the line he is now struggling with his wife.

With the level of unemployment and financial illiteracy in Nigeria plus inflation and increasing cost of living my advise to any young lady is to steer clear from any so called pastor seeking your hand in marriage until he can show workings either as a pastor of an already existing well established ministry or while holding down a job and/or using a skill.

Marry with sense. Things don Change.

To pastors reading this go and learn something, acquire a job, join a ministry, build a house, buy a car, before marrying someone's daughter and bringing children into the world to collect premium Sapa.

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Re: Don't Marry A Pastor. Advise For Women And Men. by madone: 2:28pm On Jan 04, 2022
grin different strokes for different folks.
Re: Don't Marry A Pastor. Advise For Women And Men. by amnesty7: 2:36pm On Jan 04, 2022
;But it takes a genius to make a mumu of thousands of people na.

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Re: Don't Marry A Pastor. Advise For Women And Men. by after4: 2:59pm On Jan 04, 2022
so why did you put someone's picture there? you no get respect at all

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Re: Don't Marry A Pastor. Advise For Women And Men. by odinson1(m): 3:01pm On Jan 04, 2022
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Re: Don't Marry A Pastor. Advise For Women And Men. by fineboynl(m): 3:04pm On Jan 04, 2022
So no it is because of money that they should not marry a psstsr?

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Re: Don't Marry A Pastor. Advise For Women And Men. by ipobarecriminals: 3:14pm On Jan 04, 2022
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Re: Don't Marry A Pastor. Advise For Women And Men. by Nobody: 3:20pm On Jan 04, 2022
You do have a great point..but note..
Marriage is all about personal choice..you don't tell people who or not they should get married to..
Well see pastor as a job on its own..see you speaking based on whether or not pastors without Jobs are financially stable..

Most churches pay a pastor salary that is established by contract...The amount of salary varies based on the size of the church and the congregation...
Pastors also make money online through sales of books officiating ceremonies.. baptism.. giving lectures on YouTube and the rest..
You do have a great point.

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Re: Don't Marry A Pastor. Advise For Women And Men. by Chisave: 3:46pm On Jan 04, 2022
after4:
so why did you put someone's picture there? you no get respect at all

Una go just jump open mouth waaaa. Do you whether he got consent from the person. Or it is all this images on some site that you are free to upload

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Re: Don't Marry A Pastor. Advise For Women And Men. by Cholls(m): 4:18pm On Jan 04, 2022
Chisave:


Una go just jump open mouth waaaa. Do you whether he got consent from the person. Or it is all this images on some site that you are free to upload
my brother I want to open my mouth waaaaaaa! Now, show us the consent letter or a recorded permission

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Re: Don't Marry A Pastor. Advise For Women And Men. by heniford2: 6:13pm On Jan 04, 2022
The Op is really saying the truth

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Re: Don't Marry A Pastor. Advise For Women And Men. by after4: 6:16pm On Jan 04, 2022
Nah you sign the consent letter? Why hem no put your picture? The two of una never jam trouble


Chisave:


Una go just jump open mouth waaaa. Do you whether he got consent from the person. Or it is all this images on some site that you are free to upload

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Re: Don't Marry A Pastor. Advise For Women And Men. by soundOsonic: 7:47pm On Jan 04, 2022
Funny. If no one marries a pastor who will?

There was this pastor that was transferred from Rivers state to our street in Lagos. He became the new area pastor of RCCG of that parish. He had about 5 little children a wife but he had nowhere to sleep, so he took the church quarters as his place of abode, though there is a maternity clinic the church runs.

I heard he squardered the money given to him for apartment to open a small kiosk in front of the church for himself, that was his first 7 point agenda. Immediately the members of the church loose respect for him before he could even pastor the church.
It was humiliating to see pastor and his family living in the parish using the parish bathroom and toilet for personal use.
The man would hunt birds, rats and creepy things with sticks and traps like a child, just to eat without being mindful of prying eyes(the street have no bush though). And is trap became a hazard to kids around the neighborhood.
Everyone lost respect for the man, everyone talked I'll of him as his 6 kids were not going to school to top it on the kids were extremely loud and rugged which was quite unruly for a pastor.
He lived a very simple life then, as most times debt collectors (normal people he borrowed money from) would come and create a scene and it was not sad as a MOG would be disgraced like that.
I later discovered he was on salary but the way he lived was as if he was penniless.
May God help us

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Re: Don't Marry A Pastor. Advise For Women And Men. by anthonyuncle(m): 8:26pm On Jan 04, 2022
the issue here is not pastors getting married or not, the main problem is that most persons that call themselves men of God are failures and due to pride, they refuse to go learn a genuine way of earning.
it is this pride that makes them claim to be called by God and they go ahead to open mushroom churches, hoping that one day, one big man will come, they will (psychologically) prophesy, what they prophesied will come to pass, and the man will reward them with cash and gifts.
most of the so called prophesies you hear from them are mere acts of psychology.
why is it that whenever you visit any of these churches for the first time, the (so called) man of God there will claim to have a prophesy for you.

some of them even approach the ladies(they got married to) claiming that it is by divine unction that they should get married.

people should be careful.
no be everyone of them wey God call.
some dey use their hand flash God.

i no say make girls no marry pastors o, but stay away from people that are too proud to go learn/get a genuine source of income.

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