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He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by Viruses: 2:09pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
I have a friend that didn't contribute financially to my wedding ceremony, He didn't even attend perhaps because the wedding was in another state, can't tell. I know this guy has money because he is my colleague and we are on the same pay grade Not as though I was expecting anything from anybody as I could chest all the bills, but it came to my consciousness when he sent me his wedding IV and asked for financial assistance. In my mind I was guy na happy married life you tell me, expect same. Honestly, when you see friends supporting each other in events, some could be first time while others are sort of returned favours, so if you don't do for somebody, don't even expect people to do for you. Has this happened to you before? share your experience. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by chatinent: 2:09pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
Uncle, personally, I am nice to people who are nice to me. I am not a motigbotional speaker. I serve everyone a taste of their own soup without being rude. I am not ready to be the only friend who makes things work because sometimes you have to intentionally disappoint people so they don't take your bond with them for tomfoolery. “Baba, mehn, you could have told me this early naw, I just sent some money to my sis in school and to my mom. The next salary has also been budgeted for. God will see you through, I promise.” 11 Likes 1 Share
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Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by YeyeGbami: 2:11pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
If you can afford to help, do it. Una still get many celebrations ahead. |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by Fairandlovely(f): 2:14pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
Let bygone be bygone cos no one knwz 2mao,,help him in anyway u can just 2 prove dat u're more matured than him |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by Blackbelly(m): 2:14pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
As they say, an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. Whether you choose to give or not, do so with conviction and a clear conscience. |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by Mariangeles(f): 2:20pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
Did you ask him for financial assistance during your own wedding planning and he refused to help? |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by ibechris(m): 2:21pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
Do not give him. Same happened to me. And when theirs came,I blanked them all. Nigerians like preaching forgiveness but they are the most wicked set of people in their families and offices. Good people in public. Waste not your money. 22 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by Viruses: 2:39pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
Mariangeles:I didn't ask him, same way I didn't ask those that helped. 9 Likes |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by Acidosis(m): 2:43pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
Nigerians and their fake owanbe love ![]() If they give and you don't give back, problem. If they upload your birthday photoshoot and you don't, wahala. Peace of mind is very very key in this life sha. @op, I'm yet to see where or how he asked for money. 2 Likes |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by Viruses: 2:52pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
Fairandlovely:Touching comment I must admit, but I'm not that nice. 2 Likes |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by Nobody: 2:57pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
If you have, then assist him. |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by socialmediaman: 2:59pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
OP It happens every day. Did you ask for financial contribution when you wedded and he didn't contribute? or this came up because he's asking? What you do in response is up to you. Most people will return the favor, not only because of tit for tat but because they'll feel cheated. Again, it's up to you. |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by Viruses: 3:01pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
Acidosis:He asked after sending the IV 1 Like |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by Mariangeles(f): 3:28pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
Viruses: I don’t think your friend is the one with the problem. ![]() I don’t think your friend will make it a big deal if you don’t contribute to his wedding. I don’t think the wedding will be put on hold if you don’t contribute. I think your contribution will be much appreciated. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by donbachi(m): 3:29pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
Some friends no get head.i lost my dad before a friend lost his own dad.he was in same town and never attended.but,kept malice with me for not attending that of his dad. I taught him a lesson he wont forget in a hurry. 10 Likes |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by Sterope(f): 3:38pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
Lol. Mariangeles: 1 Like |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by MufasaLion: 3:48pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
Mariangeles: You have said it all! Imagine the pettiness! Disgusting! 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by Viruses: 4:00pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
socialmediaman:I didn't ask him and I didn't take it to heart. It just occurred to me when he asked and was even asking me my travelling plans to the wedding because he is wedding in another state as well. 4 Likes |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by Viruses: 4:38pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
MufasaLion:Don't take it too personal na. |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by bigcee(m): 5:17pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
donbachi:Lol, no time oh. |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by Nobody: 5:32pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
Hard truth is, your contribution doesn't matter. Wedding will still hold. 1 Like |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by Richy4(m): 6:08pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
Wedding ceremony is not a life threatening situation... Hence, If I was to be in your situation, I will apply the common law of nature that states... "As the left hand washes the right hand, the right hand in turn washes the left hand... ' What u cultivate during planting season is what u will harvest... |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by LordIsaac(m): 6:13pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
Let no one blackmail you into helping someone who has no mind of helping others. Share the money's worth you'd have given him to the homeless on the street and God will bless you. He doesn't deserve it. Surround yourself with people who can come through for you in times of need as such times will come, and be ready to be helpful to such people too. Any other sermon beside this is mere hypocrisy. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by Viruses: 6:41pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
Richy4:Do you mean he is reaping what he sowed? |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by Richy4(m): 6:46pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
Viruses: He cultivated nothing and so he can't reap anything... ![]() |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by Viruses: 7:29pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
Richy4:Fair enough. |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by greenmonk: 7:47pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
donbachi:I had the same experience. A friend did not call or attend my mother's funeral because I didn't call him. I took no offence but when he brought up the excuse of not having heard about it I knew he was lying. I simply paid him back when he lost his father because he didn't call me. Some actions needed to be replicated to be given their true identity. 1 Like |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by Truvelisback(m): 8:05pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
Viruses:B4 u start judging him, did u ask him for assistance for ur wedding? |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by Viruses: 8:17pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
Truvelisback:Like I already mentioned, I didn't ask him, just the same way I didn't ask those that helped. But seriously if your close friend is getting married, will you not assist him financially just because he has not asked even if you have the money. Just like saying you won't contribute to buying gift item for a colleague who is getting married because he or she has not come out to say "you people should buy me gift item". If that is the case you shouldn't bother anybody with contribution since nobody bothered you. 2 Likes |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by Truvelisback(m): 8:38pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
Viruses:I would assist him if there is need for that. Note: Not everyone likes this financial support of a thing. |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by Whois(m): 8:57pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
LordIsaac: You nailed it, a friend indeed should be a friend in needs and vice versa. 1 Like |
Re: He Didn't Contribute For My Wedding But Wants My Contribution by Kingsasian(m): 9:36pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
I see no big deal in this wedding contribution of a thing. I don't know where it is written that friends must or should make contributions towards the wedding ceremony of a friend. Na you wan marry then why must you expect contribution from people aside family members? It's just like saying you want to build a house and you dey expect your friends to make contributions towards that for you. If you want to give please give if you don't want to, then there is no need to whine about it. With or without your contributions the wedding will still take place just as yours did. |
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