Liyastitches:
From my point of view, it is because they are gullible most of the time,they tend to trust easily and overlook the hand writing on the wall.

It's also a test from God to know if your 'good heart' can stand the test of time, because good
attitude attract both good and bad, but never give up doing good, if those you are doing good to does not deserve it.

I think the bigger issue is the confusing people who are naive with having a good heart.

People like to take advantage of people with good heart....


Humans dont like nice people...they worshi those who maltreat them...

Thats why 90 percent of women would like a guy who smokes igbo and Bleep them hard and give them dirty slap when they miisbehave to th one that will be doing chicken and chips lover boy around them.

Because they’re not good they are just weak too wreak to know when to tolerate shit and when to stop taking shit

Very easy to answer

They go into Relationship with all their Heart �. The opposite go with their eye Open and became Alpha M... To be excessively good is too dangerous for the game of heart... AnyBody can disappoint AnyBody

Becos ppl with bad heart plenty pass ppl with good heart. ( ratio is 15:85)

Agp19:
commenting on nairaland today for a very long time because of your wisdom sir. Just want to ask you a simple and straightforward question.

How old are you sir?
You might not want to answer this here ooo. But just a clue of your age bracket will be fine. Thanks

Early early 30's

Is because love relationship of nowadays is all about ...chop and go...chop and clean mouth

You want to be good in a bad world, kontinue.

I see many mushy comments, the frontpage is literally crawling with simple thoughts!

Enyia, it does the sheep no good to preach of the goodness of a diet of grass when the wolves are of a different mind.

There will always be twisted individuals and sociopaths in this world, they even appear to be on the increase now in dis country sef.

A trusting, good heart is just another way of describing a naive person. This world no kuku good before, u can’t last in it with a "good mind"!

Yeah after some horrible experiences, I have learnt not to trust anyone again.My last experience was when I tried to help a poor family I met in church.The woman was running around just to get my number, only to discover that the wife of the man was wishing that I become jobless begger like them.One may ask, how did you find out, another person revealed all she said about me to me and warned me to beware.
That encounter changed my experience forever.I don't trust my wife, not even my mother.I am still testing some of my siblings. One of them already failed the test.
Surprisingly, i still feel that urge to help others but won't go overboard for anyone again.
As for friends and colleagues, these are the worst set of people.At the moment I care very less about others.
Carry ya cross.When you have a good heart, others call u stupid.

Let me explain.......
Everyone has good side and bad side...
People with good heart always want to please others,
They feel everyone sees things the way they do..
At a point they do things like been over caring,over giving and so emmotional.
Thinkin and feelin same should be givin to them in return.
The truth is when you do things in excess the value is lost unknown to u,people tend to take advantage of it.
And Everybody can never be like you.. Somtimes scarcity brings respect,some times pretend like u dont care,somtimes dont always give....and watch how the other react...I understand that this set of people are conciously more concernd about others than theirself...

no matter the nature or how good your heart is,build fences and defences or people wit trample on it and call u Soft and weak....

You just have to work on that weakness to avoid pains till u find someone that matches you and never get tired of your good will.

Love yourself more first...

Dont be too good and dont be too bad..Learn to balance this and u wil see healthy living and finally,dont expect too much from people just because u can offer too much cos Not everyone feels the way u feel.

God bless you!

Shut up bitch come suck my diikk on a Sunday

Liyastitches:
From my point of view, it is because they are gullible most of the time,they tend to trust easily and overlook the hand writing on the wall.

It's also a test from God to know if your 'good heart' can stand the test of time, because good
attitude attract both good and bad, but never give up doing good, if those you are doing good to does not deserve it.

What's your definition of a "good hearted person"?

Every relationship must have a goal and if goals aren't clearly defined and adhered to by both parties, no amount of good heart can change that.

No amount of good heartedness can change another person, no amount of good heart can make an unwilling partner change.

Define goals, leverage principles and put God first, that's all.

Liyastitches:
From my point of view, it is because they are gullible most of the time,they tend to trust easily and overlook the hand writing on the wall.

It's also a test from God to know if your 'good heart' can stand the test of time, because good
attitude attract both good and bad, but never give up doing good, if those you are doing good to does not deserve it.

Yes. Yes. Yes.

You are right.

If everyone can be like me...fine. I am very loving and everyone I meet, I am very polite. When I see you are meek, I try to go on your level...supportive, loving, caring, and quiet. Cos I know that is you. It doesn't mean I won't groove with my other friends who jump around. But I won't jump around with those ones too. I know my stand. No one can force me to do what I don't want to. I pity men who smoke and drink cos of their friends. And I pity ladies who keep giving birth after two surgical operations cos their useless husbands want it raw. Also, some women are just unnecessarily quiet. When I meet a mad fellow, hehehhee. I knew how to treat such a person. See, that madness will catch fire. Who born am well? I will deal with the person in a very civilized manner that in his/her life, hmmm. That fellow will take off anytime he/she sees me.

pansophist:



Early early 30's

wow! Wow! This age with so much knowledge... That's Amazing. My thought was late 30's or early 40's. I envy you sir.

This life is binary

pansophist:


Yes, that's the balance. The notion that you choose to be good, because you've seem the face of evil, and that face of evil is you. Its a Jungian theory of the "integration of the shadows". Your shadow represent the side of you that is actually evil, while you are the side of the good.

Just as your shadow follows you every where you go, it must also reflect in your behaviours in how you interact with the world. So to be wholesome and complete, you must incorporate this evil part into you, to be formidable. You should not be harmless, you should infact be capable of harm, but keep it tamed. It's not tyranny, it's for defence and to live with dignity. It's what army also stands for. They are in the barracks waiting, but if any external aggressions shows up, they go out and fight.

The widelife also show this principles in full effect, that the harmless animals are the food for everyone (Impala, deer, hare etc), but no one dare mess with the dangerous one (Tiger, Lion, Croc, panther). Just the roar of a lion scare the shit out of other animals, but not the scream of prey). This is life, its not for weakness and cowardice, but only for the brave to thrive in it.

You are really knowledgeable on the subject. From my own experience, you can be good to people, but always learn to keep your safe distance, especially if you are the type that give a strong impression in the first instance. Familiarity breeds contempt. People tend to respect what they cannot comprehend. So keep that edge to yourself and never lose it. Sometimes it is advantageous to watch people's reactions before you respond to them, but you can also take the lead if you know that people are confused. Because confused people can be dangerous at times.

pansophist:


They are not unlucky, they are innocent and have not experienced the inhumanity humans are capable of. An example for you is, Put sand in a loaf of bread and give it to a group of three years old children, you will see that they will all eat it because they just trust. Then after they spit it out because it tastes horrible, give it again to the same group in a few day time and they will reject it. That experience has killed off their innocence. We are all naive by nature until negative experience changes us. Some of the hardened people are actually really soft by nature, but were abused and just lost faith in humanity.

*SOME OF THE HARDENED PEOPLE ARE ACTUALLY REALLY SOFT BY NATURE, BUT WERE ABUSED AND JUST LOST FAITH IN HUMANITY* This statement perfectly explains me

Agp19:
wow! Wow! This age with so much knowledge... That's Amazing. My thought was late 30's or early 40's. I envy you sir.

Don't envy me abeg. I broke scatter. I need help

That’s the world we meet ourselves

relationship is not only about good heart, relationship, friendship and marriage is all about emotional management




you don't just put your capital on anyhow business because you've money, you put your capital on business you have little or no idea of, you get loss in returns. So you don't expect to date bad guys or unsettle minds men and expect productivity and fruitfulness



examination and reexamination is the methods of knowing the right person before investing your emotions on him or her and that's what I called emotional management

This is a misconception. How many people truly have good hearts, very very few. You barely know them.

ShyBabe:

I Love you already
Wish I could like nd share ur comment a million times

Make I begin arrange marriage plans?

This topic shock me.

Don't expect more from People and you will never be disappointed

Lucrativress:

Laws that were made by man to suit his predicament.
When it comes to human dealings, they're more complex, it's not xyz
Those laws are less practical,even science said the humans mind can't be overly predicted, the best one can be is being as practical as possible.
Karma ko karma sutra ni,karma to me is more of time and chance, you can trigger karma to happen by working it to happen.
Let's imagine a man got drenched in mud water by his neighbour's SUV,then he sulks and wait for karma, yinmu,karma ko Calmag ni,if he doesn't work towards buying a sport's car or maybe AUDII,something bigger or faster so he can splash on his neighbour's car, he'll dream on cause probability of his Rich neighbor going poor without a car is .5

Karma doesn't necessarily mean receiving in the fashion you gave, and neither does it necessarily mean being undertaken by same person it was done to.

Yes! Karma is real. If you could dig deeper about the positive or negative state of some persons today, it will shock you to know that it was as result of what they did in time past.

Also, Karma is not necessarily negative, it could also be positive. It simply means you receive whatsoever you give, it could even be through indirect means i.e the people and things you hold dearly.

Karma is simply the law of Cause & Effect.. This is just one of the 12 laws of Karma.

midolian:
No! They are not gullible. There are just too many opportunists out there

Exactly! They are simply one of the very few good people surrounded by multitudes of evil ones.

Most of the time, people are evil and selfish; know that and be at peace.

To be safe, it's good to know the gimmicks and tricks of the street without going into the street otherwise you will fall victim really badly be you a church boy or girl.

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they prolly meeting the wrong people.

try people from ur common circle

I have had a bad experience in relationships but still, I never gave up on her.
You may call it STUPIDITY
But that's what GOD expected me to do.

They are not unlucky, they are innocent and have not experienced the inhumanity humans are capable of. An example for you is, Put sand in a loaf of bread and give it to a group of three years old children, you will see that they will all eat it because they just trust. Then after they spit it out because it tastes horrible, give it again to the same group in a few day time and they will reject it. That experience has killed off their innocence. We are all naive by nature until negative experience changes us. Some of the hardened people are actually really soft by nature, but were abused and just lost faith in humanity. [/quote]

Because being good in a relationship doesn't pay

Speaking from experience

Your partner will just think like they conquer you already


Like this like this my babe know say I dey street she mess up I done press am leave am

Liyastitches:
From my point of view, it is because they are gullible most of the time,they tend to trust easily and overlook the hand writing on the wall.

It's also a test from God to know if your 'good heart' can stand the test of time, because good
attitude attract both good and bad, but never give up doing good, if those you are doing good to does not deserve it.

That's part of nature. We trusting souls are the Sheeps of relationships and we sometimes meet the Lions of relationships who proceed to eat us up. Not our fault. We'll never give up. A bad clock is right twice in a day.