Ghanaians got it right with the idea of a forum

wpadmin4: The site is a good alternative to Nairaland

1 - because most people maltreating the good ones now have once being good and have fallen into the hands of bad people they have seriously being hurt and dey feel nobody deserves to be treated good again
2 - when you are good don't show it 100% let people see a little bit of craziness in you if not they will capitalize on your naivity and start treating you bad

That s exactly why some of us with good heart are been lied to,cheated and deceived because we don't have the heart of revenge or retailation.But I know God ll see us through and give us men that ll cherish us.

2braithe:


You call someone's husband useless just because he impregnated his own wife.Wife that the paid her bride price.

Some Nairalanders are amazing.

This is another mofo. So, because you paid a bride price for the lady you will keep impregnating her even after 2 or 3 surgical operations? Na to pour only you sabi na. You need to enter a labor room and experience the pain of a woman. Na your tool dey control you. As long as its erect...everything else...you cant think right anymore. Na to pour pour raw inside her. Na so you go dey shake vigorously. No wonder dem don kill many of you with food and sex.

From where I come from, we do not see bride price as buying the woman. Maybe in your own world. And this is common to ibos. This is one of the reasons I do not like their culture. They see women as properties they buy after paying their bride price. It is why they want to collect everything when selling the girl off. And they give the first son everything. Well done oooo. Very terrible culture. How has it helped you all? It has made you think tour wife is your property.
Mehn! What culture has turned some people to. It is a pity.

Let me inform you. Whether you paid birth price or not (cos culture has closed up your brain), very soon, we will push for 1 child policy for every decade in Nigeria. Inknow you want to be fuc.king raw. That's your problem. ..right? Very disgusting set of people.

You better keep to yourself and leave my posts alone. Raw fuc. ker....population explosive tool.. We will soon start castrating you after 1 child so we can have peace in this Nigeria..

alexmakaay:



Sis.. Law of karma is a human attempt to describe the natural principles of the universe, it is not far from from law of gravity. It is never to suit their predicament. Aside that, your submissions is simply your view or another attempt to describe the same law of karma albeit unknowingly.

Nah nah
Law of karma is just something propounded by man to make him feel better

jaxxy:



It’s not about being a bitch or having sm bitch in u that makes ur character less tasteful rather about knowing how to differentiate good from bad in relationships.

I know many gals with the little bitch in them and even worse behavior bt they still get dealt with by baddos day in and out. Their bad bitch behavior infact only drives of the good guys and leaves them with a bunch of wolves to choose from. At the end it’s still tears.

Bad bitch or not u better know how to spot the good from the bad or it’s same outcome. I’ve seen good gals get what they want also cos they knew how to identify it.

Yh I get you
What I was saying is that being a good girl has to come with strategizing at times, something's might be out of your books to do as a good girl but you have to do it if you want what you want..

NOwazobia:
Karma doesn't necessarily mean receiving in the fashion you gave, and neither does it necessarily mean being undertaken by same person it was done to.

Yes! Karma is real. If you could dig deeper about the positive or negative state of some persons today, it will shock you to know that it was as result of what they did in time past.

Also, Karma is not necessarily negative, it could also be positive. It simply means you receive whatsoever you give, it could even be through indirect means i.e the people and things you hold dearly.

Karma is simply the law of Cause & Effect.. This is just one of the 12 laws of Karma.

The issue is that karma can be hindered but our sole believe on karma happening most times is born from dissatisfaction of happenings and expecting something superficial to justify our cause and fight for us in the same measures...

ok

Bunkbars:
This is a very bad mentality.

Nah
I'm just being practical
If you wait for karma to fight your cause,it might just fight it in your next generation, I hope you get my cause..
So instead of waiting for karma,just keep living your life...

silibaba:
baseless sis

Don't worry, that's fine
But I'm talking from facts and data's which is more effective than sentiments...

Yomit71:

by cutting off the head and buying a new one right?

Lol sarcasm

Zorn:
you're not a female

Except you want to recreate me with a digk

pansophist:


Haaa, na competition? I'll give you an example how I broke reach.

If I walk by a bank jejely, the security alarm goes on. I no enter o, I just de pass. My presence de start alarm. Your situation worse reach like this ?

Do giveaway na, abeg.

if na this level you dey Your own better now. Just small alarm ?? People like us na military armour tank den dey use safeguard the bank if we dey pass near bank....

Happy Sunday and a fruitful week ahead bro.

midolian:
No! They are not gullible. There are just too many opportunists out there

Too many opportunist that will play and mess-up your heart all in the name of love. Almighty God will destroy them

Lucrativress:

Laws that were made by man to suit his predicament.
When it comes to human dealings, they're more complex, it's not xyz
Those laws are less practical,even science said the humans mind can't be overly predicted, the best one can be is being as practical as possible.
Karma ko karma sutra ni,karma to me is more of time and chance, you can trigger karma to happen by working it to happen.
Let's imagine a man got drenched in mud water by his neighbour's SUV,then he sulks and wait for karma, yinmu,karma ko Calmag ni,if he doesn't work towards buying a sport's car or maybe AUDII,something bigger or faster so he can splash on his neighbour's car, he'll dream on cause probability of his Rich neighbor going poor without a car is .5

I love this karma ko kamorudeen ni

IamGreen1:
I love this karma ko kamorudeen ni

pansophist:


Goodheart = people + goodness - inability to be bad.

In a general sense, not solely in the context of relationship. But yes when it comes to relationship, your formula works well. Now you know why I'm a wicked person

be kind and sweet but maintain your ruthlessness because that's why people like IBB is still alive and Yar'Adua is dead despite all the atrocities against nigerians

Because they have not learnt to be strong.
A good but weak heart will make anyone venerable to abuse in any relationship.

It's best to have a good heart and a strong personality. Nobody will toy with your emotion.

pansophist:


Make I begin arrange marriage plans?

Yes dear

Seniorwriter:


They are mostly unlucky because they have a very low Emotional Quotient...

@Seniorwriter

This is very correct. They can be so emotionally manipulated.

G

Good hearts alone, don't keep relationships. You need to spice things up. You can't be good and boring.
I have a good heart and I'm also very naughty. My partner is enjoying every bit of this good heart.
It swings both ways.

Liyastitches:
From my point of view, it is because they are gullible most of the time,they tend to trust easily and overlook the hand writing on the wall.

It's also a test from God to know if your 'good heart' can stand the test of time, because good
attitude attract both good and bad, but never give up doing good, if those you are doing good to does not deserve it.

Op no be for only relationship o
Good people are always unlucky in many ways
Imagine say 60% of our politicians are good heart no be this position Nigeria go dey today

Lucrativress:

Yh I get you
What I was saying is that being a good girl has to come with strategizing at times, something's might be out of your books to do as a good girl but you have to do it if you want what you want..

Ok I agree with u on that explanation.

This topic get volume. I don suffer the matter tired. Now I wan begin de ruthless but anytime I start I de get this guilt within...

pansophist:


There is no conflict between my point and your point, moreover, I agree with everything you said, which i made very clear in my first response to you. I am elaborating on how the world works, even accross species, culture, and time. The dynamics of being a good person in a context of not been used.

Your submission was in the context of romantic relationship, and I agree with what you wrote, but I'm saying something different. But you touched an angle I'm interested in. About why bad things happen to good people. I'll attempt to answer (regardless if you're asking a question).

Good or bad things happens to everyone regardless of their moral uprightness. The chicken we chew every single day did nothing wrong to us, but they die in their billions annually. Meanwhile the mosquitoes that has actually killed more people than covid gets to roam the planet freely. Good or bad (a subset of morality) is a construct of the mind, the universe doesn't care nor operate in that rhythm.

You can be the most wickedest' douchbag on the planet and good things will still happen to you (and/or bad thing of course), while a lifelong vegan than is not only harmless but good may be poor all his life, and his only son killed by a motor accident. The world doesn't care, it operate on its own rhythm. Hence every religious and philosophical books agree on one thing, and it is that life is suffering. Suffering in the context of existential suffering. You just can't run away from it.

So when bad things happen to good people, the question I'll ask them is, "why do you think being good somehow exempt you from the suffering of life"? Instead of saying "why me"? I ask, "why not you"? One does good because its the ideal method to live in the world and be at peace with your neighbours, but it is not a shield from bad things happening to them. Our individual problems are so inconsequential in the grand scheme of things, and for one to think that the universe care because his suffering has no idea how meaningless life is in the first place.

Wow are you a philosopher or psychologist?

Not only in a relationship but life in general, sometimes it makes .e wonder if the God that created us is the same one talked about in the Bible

Hassanmaye:

Wow are you a philosopher or psychologist?

I'm both, as a hobby, not like I studied it in school. You see how many guys are obsessed about football or women, for me it's an obsession of knowledge that underpins lifes and to discover truths that have been lost in the modern world. You're welcome.

Because they have not learnt to be strong.
A good but weak heart will make anyone venerable to abuse in any relationship.

It's best to have a good heart and a strong mind. Nobody will toy with your emotion.

A weak person allows emotions to cloud his logic until he is bruised severely.

I was there, I thought giving gifts will help the relationship until I realised that I had become an ATM, at that point, it was too late to correct the anomaly.
I couldn't fathom that she could be that wicked. It was a rude awakening for my soft mind. But I learned my lessons and moved on.
I am most grateful to God now that I went through that, though it was bitter than bitter leaf, the lessons learned made me a stronger person.

ffome:
Most of them are foolish trust me


There is a big difference between being good and been smart, the day they start be smart with there good heart is the day the receive the dividend of there being good. My 1cent

Wow

Ikillbrokehoes:
If you are being too good to some people they will take you for granted especially Nigerian girls, the best is to treat them aggressively.

Lol have they gave you pepper