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Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by luminouz(m): 6:11pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Shalommy: What's normal? That the dude pays his fiancée's mom bride price The mum doesn't have brothers or sons to pay her bride price? Why must any prospective son-in-law do such? For me, that's a red flag. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Teaser4(m): 6:11pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
It’s like she never ready to marry me…. Oboy her mom Dey early 30s, give me her number make I pay her bride price 1 Like
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Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by loadedvibes: 6:11pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Lol.. hahahah |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by November24(f): 6:12pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives: When u enter covenant ehn, your mind go dey |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by mmsen: 6:12pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
If they are already causing you problems at this stage in the relationship how much worse do you think it will be as the years go by? |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Omotosho1090905(m): 6:13pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
You for ask the consequences if you no carry out the tradition that way you go now which kind boat you enter |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Almaigaa: 6:14pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives: This tradition is very comon in IGBO land. They do it in Anambra, Imo, Abia and some part of Enugu. 1 Like
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Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Osibajo2023: 6:14pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives:useless family, if u pay her mother bride price, and d girl come Bleep up nko? |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by godofuck231: 6:15pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
You will become her husband , by tradition the mother of the girl will no longer have the shame of not being properly married , you will be part of them and they will regard you with respect , if you reside there you will be entitled to a chieftain title , its just a culture shock in ancient times in calabar men marry the mum and her age group and then the girls age group , it was too expensive and it was abolished 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by kemiwealth: 6:15pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Zonefree:. Don't take it personal is just a question |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by lecturer22: 6:15pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
The thing is, in Anioma tradition, a daughter cannot be married if brideprice is not properly paid on her mother. But the children are the ones expected to pay the brideprice and not the suitors. If she has brothers, she and her brothers should be the ones to pay the bride price. If she is an only child or the siblings are small and well to do, then she should pay it. I don't know about Obiaruku, but the ones I witnessed in the Ika area, the whole bride price is usually less than a hundred thousand for the money and drink including all the items. And this is for the first visit, second visit and third visit. And it's the mother's family that are making this demand, not the father's. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Ulunne777(f): 6:15pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
First heard it in Akwa Ibom state Then I asked, Is the father not ashamed to appear irresponsible or is the mother a single mother. Useless traditions! |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by luminouz(m): 6:16pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives:Lol...you are already rationalising your decision to stick with her, despite that red flag. Well, it's your life bro. But I will never do what your gf asked from you, pay her mom's bride price. You are not even yet officially part of their household, why put their stuff on you!!!! 1 Like |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by tiswell(m): 6:16pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
kelechiodo:what bride price is paid to the mother's family,where are you from? |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by supogift(m): 6:17pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
It's possible the mum's pride price has not been paid but the they should do is collect the girl own then go and settle with the mum's family |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by NigeriaB(m): 6:17pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives: She will be 22 in few days from now sef |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by linearity: 6:17pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
McEphiks: I am from Delta but not the part the OP mentioned, we also have that tradition, but the pressure will be on the mom’s husband to complete the marriage rites of his wife, it is not passed on to the incoming husband of their kids. This is actually a negative of the daughter, because no man will ask her hands in marriage until her mom bride price has been paid as a result many men will pass over them to other household. In fact in many cases, it is the mom that will go borrow money and give to the husband to do the needful so that, he does not keep holding down their daughter from getting married. It is not the obligation of the new son Inlaw and he can’t be forced into doing it, but he can contribute or bounce, by the time two or three good suitors bounce like that, their eyes go clear and they will run and go do the needful. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by ONYEKAfra(m): 6:17pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
i am from that side. It is not true. what would happen is this, The girl father family have to pay the price Else, the girl bride price would be paid to mother family that is the tradition . Ask her what is the meaning of Aje sir or Oto ofe, ime ife then you know I am from there 4 Likes |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by abiolamitodun(m): 6:18pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Am from ezionum ukwani..and ive not heard of such b4...maybe its my village that dont practice that culture |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by lomprico(m): 6:18pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
shantti:Her father is late |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Enemyofpeace: 6:18pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Lucky you! That would automatically make you a chair holder to her mother’s pussy. Chei some guys are fokn lucky |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by wallarwallar(m): 6:18pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Dis people sef na person wey u wan marry u go pay her bride price now.. O boy if u pay dis nonsense money u go turn to dere ATM and u go pay tire until u return dere daughter. Hungry Shameless family |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Neroiam(m): 6:20pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives: I'm Deltan. Na job dem wan job u so It may not be the girl's intention tho. She's probably a pawn in the game. Remember what happened to Jacob in Gen. 29. Laban had to marry the older sister,Leah first because of thier tradition and had to work extra 7years for Rachel. In my own opinion, paying her mother's bride price means you're marrying them both. The people who I think should pay the mother's pride price are the Late Husband's kinsmen. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Alexgeneration(m): 6:21pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Ulunne777:Who else if no be single mothers. If the Papa paid the bride price, wetin the young man want pay again? 1 Like |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Realists(m): 6:21pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
luminouz: Barbaric culture of barbarians. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by DryMouth: 6:22pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Datboredberry:Most traditions are carved out of greed. Especially my tribe. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by house10s: 6:22pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives: u better walk away now, never heard of such |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by lomprico(m): 6:22pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives: It's just the bride price that will be paid besides you will not be the one to pay it but I think your babe wants you to bring d cash. Any of her father's relative can do the handing over. Besides Delta bride price is not much e fit no pass or reach 10k sef. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by iTearHerToto: 6:22pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives:Her brothers are the one responsible for that. So cut the biitch off |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by 0taPiaPia(m): 6:22pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
McEphiks: It should be paid by the girls family. They should rally round and do it. Not the guys business. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by VicM6: 6:23pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Na Wetin ur power reach make u carry, no go do pass ur power o. tor |
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