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Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Acehart: 6:44pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Ask about the burial rites that will be followed if her mum dies. If you know this, you can carry on with the marriage. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by emmy512(m): 6:46pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
My parents always remind me to stay away from akwa ibom girls. This is one of the reason. If shes an AKS girl and you realy want her just do it. If no funds try to come to an understanding with them |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by jjmk(m): 6:47pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
End that journey now before u even start it. What kind of rubbish tradition is that? Those people are selfish, evil and wicked. There are other women out there. U have been warned. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by expert555: 6:47pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
McEphiks: I will be short on this if you really loves her enough go ahead and pay it won't take anything away from you rather it will give you more upper hand in the relationship. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Olam09(m): 6:47pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives: Shey you wan marry them both ni? |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Nobody: 6:48pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Our mumu no too much like this soooooooo. I was laughing till it dawned on me that it's an African Thing. We all have that one stupid traditional rite/ custom in our different towns and villages that absolutely makes no sense. Laugh at the OP for all I care. If them check your village own everywhere go burst... OP pay the thing if you love the girl. Get a good deal sha. Make them sha subsidize am for you. Both mother and daughter must be discounted by at least 40%. Na marry you wan marry nor be person you kill. quoteee author=Datboredberry post=110821102]Lol... Many things we do in Africa don't make sense... You're not getting married to her mother, why should you pay the woman's bride price? A way for the family to cashout? [/quote] 1 Like |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by alizma: 6:48pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
luminouz:Bros, the husband to be didn't tell us how financially boyant his prospective in-laws are and from experience, this kind of game play out where the guy is seen as the Messiah the will eventually wipe away the shame. So I thought beyond the surface while drawing my conclusion. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by LesbianBoy(m): 6:52pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
I want to believe some of the stories are cooked because what the fvck |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by kaymart: 6:52pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives:From this particular response of its....Ur story seems more like just tales of mere fabrications... 1 Like |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by sylve11: 6:53pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by blesdman(m): 6:58pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Datboredberry:Every thing about African traditions na for cashing out. Know this and know peace. Money is the name of the game. If u can negotiate in the market, negotiate a way out. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by pashiano: 7:00pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives: I don't think she is talking about bride price In particular cos it's not costly, some people take as low as 1500 naira. I think the one she is talking about is (Igbu Ewu ogodo). it is done for the kinsmen and born daughters of the community. it involves the goat ,drinks and small requirements that re due to the kinsmen. if a woman did not do the ceremony before her son or daughters marriage, she is expected to do it before the son's or daughters marriage can go ahead. it is not ur responsibility but you can help, just to expedite the whole process since the dad is late. this is how it is fine in Igbo land, don't know where your wife hails from. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by kunkelhanspeter(m): 7:00pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Datboredberry:Where you from Make we know bcoz they don’t practice such anymore. I know the widow do shave her hair but not to sleep on the grave side for a week my mom did not do that non my uncle wife. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by pek(m): 7:01pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
The bride price is to be paid by any one from the late husband's family. I wonder why they waited this long. The way it is now,the children of the late man belongs to the maternal grandfather. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by phemmyfour: 7:01pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives:Which kain mumu tradition be that |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by luminouz(m): 7:01pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
alizma:I get you but I wouldn't still advise the guy to do it. It's always a prelude to severe manipulation. Why can't the mom find the money herself and give it to her relations through proxies in her late husband's family? |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Udoboss(m): 7:01pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives: Yes ...it happens in Delta |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Mummyfour(f): 7:02pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Candidlady:I wanted to ask the same question o! I come in peace biko |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by luminouz(m): 7:03pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
pashiano:Didn't you read the last paragraph of what you quoted |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by phemmyfour: 7:03pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Datboredberry:Even culture is dynamic. Some old time traditions will have to give way |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by luminouz(m): 7:04pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
expert555:You are an expert on something else maybe ...but not on this. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Newboss(m): 7:04pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Her mum late 30s? Na secondary school girl you dey date? |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Albert0011(m): 7:05pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives:Bros am from the same local government with ur girl..but i have never heard of that kind of tradition in ukwuani land. I think i will call my mum or grand ma on ur behalf so that i will ask them. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by luminouz(m): 7:09pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
JUSTDREY:Ok...so I guess your lady friend has her mom as a first wife to her husband shey? Because whoever bride price I pay becomes my wife. So if I'm paying her mom's bride price, it means her mom is also my wife! Which is an abomination 1 Like |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by emonis88: 7:10pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Well if u really want to make her ur wife, go to her place in the village n demand to see her father. Na the man go put u through. N if what she said is true, I il advice u to just walk away. When she don tire to stay her Papa house, them go find way go settle the bride price of her mum, so she can marry. Useless people looking for who to obtain. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by joyandfaith: 7:12pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives: If you go ahead,you would regret it. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Iamolukorede(m): 7:13pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
strange but true, I dunno much about the rights of the said local gov your baby is from but the thing is this, if you really love the said girl. Why don't you encourage her to finish are education and start something or learn a skill because the burden will be on you mostly all the the time. However, will you begin to bed the said mother too?, If you have the cash jus pay Thier bride price at once and carry on and that if you love the said banny. If you don't don't waste ha time and yours jus move on there are pretty good girls every where. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by dododawa1: 7:17pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Oga, PAY IT. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Keniwit(m): 7:17pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Op trust me , if you try to pay the bride price for her mum...And you finally marry the gal...Her parent(her dad and mum) financial burden will be on You......Take it or leave it |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Acidosis(m): 7:18pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Bride price is symbolic. Paying the bride price of her mother is as good as marrying both mother and daughter. Do not start what you cannot finish. You won't like the implications. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by nurudeen181(m): 7:19pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Zonefree:ha., that age question is very importanter.. with your own analysis, if the girl is 20 and her mum was 18 when she gave birth to her, this may mean she was begotten out of wedlock.. the father maybe dead but thats also not something i believe.. they are just trying to cash out from you ni ogbeni.. ma da awon alatenuje buruku loun.. talk to them..what am even saying.. for you to be asking such question on nairaland, you be those kind men be that.. smips abi what do they call it.. i dont have advice for you.. do what pleases your soul..olorun a wa pelu e |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by wolebest: 7:19pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Look for better family go marry!!! Don't even try paying the bride price of her mother. Avoid spiritual bondage and problems in the future. |
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