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Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by JaneYave(f): 8:14pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
kelechiodo:Gbam. You Sabi am! 1 Like |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by emaopel: 8:15pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives:... It everywhere but not taboo because alot of tribes are doing there own under grace. The money is refundable if the mother get married as double bride price can't be collected by the family. Just ask the total cost and see if it affordable for you to do. It usually abomination for the woman to enjoy anything from you as inlaw when her own bride was not paid... but other tribes do take it as nothing or grace cover it but it has repercussion later... It is well my man |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by pashiano: 8:22pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
luminouz:it was modified sir, wasn't there ab nitio. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by prophetfire: 8:27pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives:. You never enter, billing reloaded don start. Man knack puna finish die go join his ancestors and they are telling you to pay for puna wey another man knack. Egungun, na express you dey enter so. If you love yourself, leave such disjointed family and pick race if you want to have rest in life. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Verysmart101: 8:36pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
shantti: Didn't u read that her father is late? |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Ashirioluwa: 8:36pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Pay and marry both of them |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by seyz91(m): 8:37pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Verysmart101: 8:39pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
McEphiks: It is a serious matter.You fail to realise that the same tradition would hunt him if he wanna do trad.The mother's trad must be done before her daughter's.U didnt remember that abiiii? He should look before u leap |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Verysmart101: 8:42pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
My man lemme advice you.Check very well before you enter one chance.Also remember that u will still do trad ceremony for her mum before u do for ur fiance cos her mum comes first.I believe d same applies to wedding (white but money will settle it).Ask questions very well about other aspects before you leap. I rest my case |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by deavicky(m): 8:42pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives:I guess she is from the south south. It is not totally out of place. Try pay the money, it won't be much because they are aware u are not her husband. But if wish u can marry her without the consent of her parents. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Dumeiby(f): 8:43pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Candidlady:God bless your sense |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Formation10: 8:44pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
There is nothing like DAT in obiaruku she is just cooking it up my younger sister was born and brought up dere i can confirm from her |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by deavicky(m): 8:44pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Verysmart101:there will be no party it would just be the family people I bet u it won't cost up to 150k. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by greggng: 8:45pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives: Is not everything we bring to the public. Somethings are better left within the family .if I were you , I will gladly do what she said if I discovered is truth and in line with the culture and tradition of their place . If you truly love her then that is a small sacrifice to make towards removing the Shame brought upon that family due to inability of her father to pay her mom's bride price. You must marry her properly if you truly love her . Dont listen to some naive and childish people here cos some of them are lahos brought up still in their parents house without knowledge of culture and tradition |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by babadee1(m): 8:48pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives: OP if you have the money pls pay it. If you don't have tell the family so. What they're basically asking you to do is to make a honest woman of the girl's mother and help cover her shame. It's a strange tradition but na so e dey be some times. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by blackboy2star(m): 8:56pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
I see this as evil huh... Oga, you Dan see red flag now run run run Drsnives: |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by delpee(f): 9:00pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Shalommy: I don't see why her father's responsibility should be transferred to her husband for whatever reason. Someone from her father's family should pay. Anyway, cultures differ. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by VenumX: 9:06pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Obiaruku keh? |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Obyino: 9:06pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Op the mama still de young ooo you sure say no be mother and daughter wey you wan go mary so..... |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by saintneo(m): 9:08pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives: Chief do not carry a load that's not yours. Paying her mother's bride price has it's own implications, not just financially but traditionally and spiritually. Inform your family (Dad) and trustworthy elder (if Dad is late) about the situation. If it implies that her maternal family will be the ones to collect her bride price, let be so. A word is enough for the wise. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by wirinet(m): 9:10pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives: Gbam. If you are to pay bride , then you as groom must do what bride and groom do. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Bloggz74(m): 9:11pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Yes the bride price has to be paid before that of her daughter commences. That's the tradition. However it's not you that has that responsibility but your father inlaw except you want to help out. Zonefree: |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by wirinet(m): 9:15pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
delpee:Some cultures see anyone that want to marry their daughter as a host the whole family will parasite on. Thats the most stupid thing I ever heard. A daughter's fiancee must carry out the responsibility of another irresponsible man who just hit and run. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by wirinet(m): 9:18pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Bloggz74: Watin consign the guy with the bride price of his father in law, except he wants to help shine her congo also? Very stupid tradition. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by collinometricx: 9:21pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Have witnessed this many times |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by izubext007: 9:21pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
If u go dey knack her , go ahead since she still young.....late thirties dey knack Wella. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by meneski(m): 9:24pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Guy man ask your self this question. Daughter wan first mama marry. Is that good oboy? Besides the bride price no go reach as e supposed be |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by wirinet(m): 9:24pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
deavicky:It's not about the money but the principle. Paying even N1 is morally wrong. So what happens if the mother wants to marry another man? They will have to return my bride price? We must learn to start taking responsibility for our own decisions and actions. It's not the guy that asked the mother to have a child for a dead beat. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by omoadeleye(m): 9:26pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Zonefree: It means you can be knacking both the mama and daughter, since you will be the one to pay their bride price. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by CaptainFM1: 9:38pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives: There nothing ridiculous when it comes to tradition that's clearly laid out for you before you put your head into it. Always have it in mind that you are not marrying the lady alone, but her entire family, culture, traditional, rites, beliefs et al. Just get your headache and start taking the proper paracetamol. |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by chickenfoot: 9:42pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Lol, shey the father got away scot free? You too suppose marry make your inlaw come clear your wife and her mama own na |
Re: Am I Not Making A Mistake? by Coolgent(m): 9:46pm On Mar 07, 2022 |
Drsnives: What's the total cost of the bride price? Judging by the fact that she is Mama. Oga pay it shinenan! Abi mak i pay it |
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