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Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by God1000(m): 10:55am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Biglittlelois:maybe he doesn't take care of them |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by MrHyde: 10:56am On Mar 13, 2022 |
We overate the expectations of marriage, you cannot force your partner to donate or give to you that which they do not want to give for reasons best know to them. She didn't force her husband to partly train her in school. People need to understand that giving without expectation is bliss. The family of the man should try to get him a donor and treat his disease, if he decides to continue with the marriage afterwards, that's fine otherwise he moves on. There is no guarantee that he wouldn't cheat on her or even divorce her in the future if she donates her kidney to him. Reduce your expectations from your partner and build yourself, that's marriage. 12 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Great0ne1: 10:56am On Mar 13, 2022 |
futurism:This is true for most women. But do you think most men will be ready to give up one of there kidneys, to there wife ? 3 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Jalaw: 10:56am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Is he married to his family or he is married to the girl? Are they not one flesh and blood? Biglittlelois: 3 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by aikyg(m): 10:57am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Your cousin should leave the marriage immediately. The fact that the husband's family is forcing her to donate her kidney to the husband is very worrisome. Your cousin has not done anything wrong by refusing to donate her kidney to the husband. If she is to donate her kidney, then it must be from her heart, not by force. 8 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by God1000(m): 10:57am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Acidbath:it depends on his his relationship with his family after marriage |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Enemyofpeace: 10:57am On Mar 13, 2022 |
OreoPaschal:no need of wasting another person’s kidney jo, anyone that does a kidney transplant will eventually die after few years, so why not just move on when the death comes instead of wasting another person’s kidney. I’m in support of the wife not giving him her kidney 5 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by jamalchance(m): 10:58am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Till death do us part no dey last again |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Enemyofpeace: 10:59am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Jalaw:what flesh and blood? You dey talk as if you fit donate your own to your spouse 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by bigiyaro(m): 11:00am On Mar 13, 2022 |
The man should have know that in a family, it's only the wife that is not the husband's relation, with this knowledge, he would have empowered himself long ago. |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by jclassiq(m): 11:00am On Mar 13, 2022 |
You folks recycle stories now? Tufia 3 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by advanceDNA: 11:00am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Biglittlelois: Oh...so now that it’s kidney problem..his extended family should do it.... she’s not his flesh again abi?? but if it’s mad money he made now , she’s entitled to the enjoyment more than the family including the mother... Now one part of the flesh wants to tear it and japaa becos problem has come.... diaris God oooo ![]() |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by bobbybrown007: 11:01am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Here is my whatsapp number, 07019581801, I don't smoke, I drink one in a blue moon. Let's talk. 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by OscarJaden(m): 11:04am On Mar 13, 2022 |
bobbybrown007:big boss....oil dey ur head The rest are just barking since this is what I have been waiting to read since lol |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Raspberri: 11:04am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Well I don’t blame her for not wanting to part with her kidney... y’all ain’t in d marriage with her, neither were y’all in the relationship before it led to marriage.. do you know if her husband was a serial cheat or she passed through domestic violence?.. she must have a bonafide reason for not wanting to part with one of her kidney. Probably she’s even scared and might be thinking she might die during the operation. 5 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Ytea(f): 11:06am On Mar 13, 2022 |
I would give my husband a kidney sha. That's the man I married, he'll be worth it. 2 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Error401: 11:06am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Iyaebe:who does that in 2022 |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Nobody: 11:09am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Humans are quite cold ,wow, this is the worst thing I've read this year |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by imagrg(m): 11:09am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Why must she donate one of her kidneys? She has a right to both. 3 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Nobody: 11:11am On Mar 13, 2022 |
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Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Nobody: 11:12am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Danyyyyyyyyyyy:I'm glad I made the decision not to marry , all you wrote here just convinced me that I made the right decision. What's the essence of the for better for worse ? Are you guys really serious ? 2 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Ladycewhy(f): 11:12am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Beebah2000:self preservation is a human default trait. Many people talking being in that position will not. It's a fact especially for Nigerians . From what I have seen ,I will not allow any woman I know try that especially not with a Nigerian man in Nigeria where there are no laws protecting the interest of women in marriages. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by eyinjuege: 11:13am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Recycled fake story. Anyway, she doesn't have to give him her kidney if she isn't comfortable to do so. Nobody should ever be shamed for not agreeing to be an organ donor. She doesn't have to divorce him because of that though. She can however support him. She and his family can help source for more funds to pay someone willing to donate, especially if non of his family members are ready to be tested to see if they're a match. Those services are available afterall. I'm sure his parents, siblings would be willing to sell their house and properties to help raise funds. She too can go around her own relatives to help raise some funds to help her husband. 3 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by phemmyfour: 11:14am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Hamachi:No, quit He wasn't sincere about the state of his health 3 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by bobbybrown007: 11:15am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Rubyjade:I don't no how DM on Nairaland works? If you can relate to me via whatsapp, have dropped my number. 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by EndRape2(f): 11:18am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Lie lie story , when she knows she will not give him, why did she allow them test her, to confirm her kidney is same with his? Any way my advice is very simple , if the operatoon is taking place in Usa ,abroad, let her give the success rate might be high,but if the operation is taking place here , uhmm it is risky oooo, so they will not lose two children, who will now take care of the kids? If two of them risk their lives . quote author=Hamachi post=110989641]My cousin who got married last year July is actually thinking of leaving the marriage because the husband was diagnosed of kidney failure and needs a transplant. The summary of the story is that the family of the man is expecting the newly married wife to donate one of her kidney to the man because my cousin is biological match to the husband, she and her family has said LAI LIA O, that his their child and they should find a way to go about it. After dragging this issues for some months, my cousin family are pushing her to file for a divorce A. Would it be considered wickedness on her part considering, his not only the husband but PARTLY trained her in school too? B. The marriage is less than a year no much money to even look for a seller, Aunty want to japa and leave the man What do you think?[/quote] |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by donmarshia(m): 11:18am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Danyyyyyyyyyyy: She has an obligation to help as the wife. That's why it is a marriage. It is her duty just as it would have been the husband's duty if the tables had turned. That is exactly why before going into marriage both parties should understand what marriage means. People should stop rushing into marriage and saying vows they do not understand. Then when the chips are down, they start giving flimsy excuses. Staying single is not a crime, but please do not redefine marriage. Marriage means that both parties leave their parents and come to together as one. Giving instances of selfish acts by men and women in marriage still buttresses the same point that people should stay single. In marriage you don't sacrifice because it is comfortable. You sacrifice and discomfort yourself because it is what you swore to do. The man must bend backwards to provide no matter how difficult. The woman despite not being in the mood smiles and allows sex. Despite being tired prepares food for the children. The man uses his last card to pay school fees. I expect the wife to give up her Kidney to save the husband's life or find a solution together with him. Running is not the solution. She is his wife and they are one! 3 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Olam09(m): 11:20am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Biglittlelois: Can't you read what the OP said? He said the wife's kidney is compatible to the husband's own.. Please read and comprehend before quoting others opinion. 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by ginggerxy: 11:23am On Mar 13, 2022 |
Iyaebe:don't give yourself BP on-top fake story. 2 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Ugaboy: 11:23am On Mar 13, 2022 |
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Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by eyinjuege: 11:25am On Mar 13, 2022 |
maak400: Nobody will drag the man. It seems it's men that expect and demand so much from their partners, even their lives if possible. Sponsoring someone through school doesn't mean they owe you a kidney. For better for worse doesn’t mean they should donate a kidney to you. Organ donation/blood donation are honorable deeds, but nobody should ever be coerced into doing that. All I see about the original post is coersion. Meanwhile, research out there shows wives are 5x more likely to donate a kidney to their spouse than their husbands are. And most living donors are women, while most recipients are males 8 Likes 1 Share |
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