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Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Biglittlelois(f): 11:26am On Mar 13, 2022
Olam09:


Can't you read what the OP said?
He said the wife's kidney is compatible to the husband's own.. Please read and comprehend before quoting others opinion.


Learn to also comprehend, was it stated that the whole of the man's family has been tested and confirmed that they are not compartible? Use your head next time.


Marriage of how many months old, who knows if his family knew all along but pushed it solely on the wife.

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Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by sorepco(m): 11:26am On Mar 13, 2022
If she no want let her be. There are things you cant force someone to do....especially a delicate matter like this!
Its not about sponsoring her or not. She is not comfortable going through the process!


yomi007k:
grin

This story only further confirms that "marraige na scam".


For better for stay , for worse for go.

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Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by jaxxy(m): 11:27am On Mar 13, 2022
Hamachi:
My cousin who got married last year July is actually thinking of leaving the marriage because the husband was diagnosed of kidney failure and needs a transplant. The summary of the story is that the family of the man is expecting the newly married wife to donate one of her kidney to the man because my cousin is biological match to the husband, she and her family has said LAI LIA O, that his their child and they should find a way to go about it. After dragging this issues for some months, my cousin family are pushing her to file for a divorce

A. Would it be considered wickedness on her part considering, his not only the husband but PARTLY trained her in school too?

B. The marriage is less than a year no much money to even look for a seller, Aunty want to japa and leave the man

What do you think?


A man training u to school doesn’t mean u owe him ur kidneys now. It doesn’t make sense.

Also marrying a man doesn’t automatically mean that u do such also.

It is the value u place on ur partner and their worth to you that will determine ur selfless action and that value cannot be bought or forced.

Men should learn to marry women who value them more than the money they get from them if not this is the kind of shocking responses they will be faced with.

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Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Biglittlelois(f): 11:28am On Mar 13, 2022
advanceDNA:


Oh...so now that it’s kidney problem..his extended family should do it.... she’s not his flesh again abi??
but if it’s mad money he made now , she’s entitled to the enjoyment more than the family including the mother...

Now one part of the flesh wants to tear it and japaa becos problem has come.... diaris God oooo grin


Use your head, he has his family, they should do it, the marriage is months old, I'm pretty sure they've not had kids, Google the complications of a woman with one kidney when pregnant, she can loose her life.

You guys should really use your head most times and stop being emotional.

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Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by riverbird: 11:29am On Mar 13, 2022
I pray he gets a perfect match from his family and become well again then in a case where by she finally left the marriage and he becomes well again she will hide her face in shame.
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by jaxxy(m): 11:30am On Mar 13, 2022
yomi007k:
grin

This story only further confirms that "marraige na scam".


For better for stay , for worse for go.

Marriage is not a scam, it is the love scammers that enter into it that make it look like a scam. 80% of marriages are based on fake love if at all any love.

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Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Biglittlelois(f): 11:30am On Mar 13, 2022
Jalaw:
Is he married to his family or he is married to the girl?
Are they not one flesh and blood?


His family are not his blood? Because he is married they can't sacrifice for their brother? Why can't they do it? Why pushing it to the wife alone? A woman that hasn't given birth, having a kidney when pregnant can kill her, research and be enlightened.

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Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Ojukwu007(m): 11:31am On Mar 13, 2022
MadamVanessa:
shocked


So that vow ",for better and for worst and till death do us apart" is actually a lie. People lied in front of the priest, parents, family and friends.

If actually we hold that vow to our heart, there's no sacrifice too much for us to make for our spouses. But no, it's all lies, we say it with our lips not with our heart.

This action has clearly shown that there's nothing like love even among married people, we only deceived ourselves. The day you'll realized that your wife or husband that pretend to love you never really loved you as you think,is the day you find yourself in a greater mess.


The few ones that love genuinely and are ready to make any sacrifice even if it means for them to lay down their lives for their wife/husband are always taken for granted . They're not always appreciated by the people they sacrificed to. So sad, sad indeed.



Tuale! You said it all, great woman.
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by dominique(f): 11:33am On Mar 13, 2022
How come the wife's kidneys are a biological match but none of his family members are? Not even one? None of his family wants to sacrifice their kidneys they now wants to force the wife to do it. Would they allow their own son to surrender one of his kidneys for his wife?

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Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Biglittlelois(f): 11:34am On Mar 13, 2022
God1000:
maybe he doesn't take care of them, his wife separated him from his family


And you know the bolded how? Are you part of his family or your figment of imagination makes you type trash most times?

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Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by jossytech(m): 11:36am On Mar 13, 2022
GooodHardDick:
After enjoying the man's money, now she wants to japa? The man even trained her in school?

Nigeria girls are useless. All of them. Nigeria girls are so broke and brainless for my liking. Na why dem dey always use dem do rituals.


This hot man, damn
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by 1Sharon(f): 11:38am On Mar 13, 2022
DrFunmisticGlow:
she should not be forced to donate a kidney, nobody should. Of roles were reversed, I would type the same thing.

Was the man forced to put her through school? Was he forced to make the sacrifice?
Everyone has boundaries.

It's not easy living with one kidney. The lady will need to make changes to her lifestyle.

With the way the man's family is going about it, o have a feeling that the man and the family knew about it and probably married her to rope her in.

The family is emotionally manipulative. This is fishy. If she wants to donate her kidney, she shouldn't be forced.

Thank you. Everybody here is slamming the wife, but it's reaction of the family that are making her unwilling to donate.
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by olalol(m): 11:39am On Mar 13, 2022
Hamachi:
My cousin who got married last year July is actually thinking of leaving the marriage because the husband was diagnosed of kidney failure and needs a transplant. The summary of the story is that the family of the man is expecting the newly married wife to donate one of her kidney to the man because my cousin is biological match to the husband, she and her family has said LAI LIA O, that his their child and they should find a way to go about it. After dragging this issues for some months, my cousin family are pushing her to file for a divorce

A. Would it be considered wickedness on her part considering, his not only the husband but PARTLY trained her in school too?

B. The marriage is less than a year no much money to even look for a seller, Aunty want to japa and leave the man

What do you think?
Before marriage, it is expected for Husband and wife to go through a lot of test, in order to ascertain any forms of dangerous sickness, diseases or ailments in the body . But because Love had covered the face of both, little or no care is taken regarding such tests and medical examination. Please marriage is a life time affair but when you feel your life maybe threaten, then you may need to reconsider your Covenant. Finally, No marriage is perfect. No amount of precautions taken will guarantee absence of problems or challenges in Marriage. With Love, Prayers, Fasting, Studying the Words of God and absolute commitment, understanding and truthfulness to each other, all challenges can be completely resolve. Use Wisdom.
Thanks

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Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Bobloco: 11:40am On Mar 13, 2022
MadamVanessa:
shocked


So that vow ",for better and for worst and till death do us apart" is actually a lie. People lied in front of the priest, parents, family and friends.

If actually we hold that vow to our heart, there's no sacrifice too much for us to make for our spouses. But no, it's all lies, we say it with our lips not with our heart.

This action has clearly shown that there's nothing like love even among married people, we only deceived ourselves. The day you'll realized that your wife or husband that pretend to love you never really loved you as you think,is the day you find yourself in a greater mess.


The few ones that love genuinely and are ready to make any sacrifice even if it means for them to lay down their lives for their wife/husband are always taken for granted . They're not always appreciated by the people they sacrificed to. So sad, sad indeed.




MadamVenessa

Marriage now na "for better for best" when e don enter "worst", every body Japa o

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Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Gospel2Day: 11:41am On Mar 13, 2022
She does not have to donate her kidney.
God and her family too have stakes in her life.
Not all those who received kidney transplant in the past survived it.
A lady I know who bought kidney for her transplant did not survive it eventually as she died about three years or so later.
What they should do is to raise funds to get a donor.
But I do not really believe in such procedure.
They should turn to God in prayers and let what will be happen. Nobody lives here forever, anyway.
So, people should not demonize or crucify the lady.
The only thing she is guilty of is planning to divorce the man. She should stay put with him till the end.
How she missed that medical condition of the man before their wedding is disturbing.
But the deed is done already.
May God intervene for the kidney failure patient in Jesus Name.
Shalom.

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Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by AvalonSpace(m): 11:45am On Mar 13, 2022
GooodHardDick:
After enjoying the man's money, now she wants to japa? The man even trained her in school?

Nigeria girls are useless. All of them. Nigeria girls are so broke and brainless for my liking. Na why dem dey always use dem do rituals.

What if she gets pregnant in the future? Will it be proper for her to be in labor with one kidney?

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Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by omoadeleye(m): 11:49am On Mar 13, 2022
Hamachi:
My cousin who got married last year July is actually thinking of leaving the marriage because the husband was diagnosed of kidney failure and needs a transplant. The summary of the story is that the family of the man is expecting the newly married wife to donate one of her kidney to the man because my cousin is biological match to the husband, she and her family has said LAI LIA O, that his their child and they should find a way to go about it. After dragging this issues for some months, my cousin family are pushing her to file for a divorce

A. Would it be considered wickedness on her part considering, his not only the husband but PARTLY trained her in school too?

B. The marriage is less than a year no much money to even look for a seller, Aunty want to japa and leave the man

What do you think?



Uhm, the marriage wasn't built on love. Hence all these wahala on ground
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by miqos02(m): 11:50am On Mar 13, 2022
GooodHardDick:


Nigeria girls are useless. All of them. Nigeria girls are so broke and brainless for my liking. Na why dem dey always use dem do rituals.

this relates to your mum, sisters and all women in your family right?

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Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by frozen70(f): 11:51am On Mar 13, 2022
Hamachi:
My cousin who got married last year July is actually thinking of leaving the marriage because the husband was diagnosed of kidney failure and needs a transplant. The summary of the story is that the family of the man is expecting the newly married wife to donate one of her kidney to the man because my cousin is biological match to the husband, she and her family has said LAI LIA O, that his their child and they should find a way to go about it. After dragging this issues for some months, my cousin family are pushing her to file for a divorce

A. Would it be considered wickedness on her part considering, his not only the husband but PARTLY trained her in school too?

B. The marriage is less than a year no much money to even look for a seller, Aunty want to japa and leave the man

What do you think?

For the fact that he is her husband he partly trained her in school, let her not divorce him but stay till he gets a transplant

If she doesn't want to donate her kidney, no one should blame her

It's her life and her kidney

They should look for a donor the mistake she made was accepting to go for a kidney match test

She shouldn't have accepted

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Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Kokaine(m): 11:54am On Mar 13, 2022
ValCon888:
Nigerian girls don't marry for love. Know this and have rest of mind.

For better for worse don jam road block.
if the tables were flipped around, would the man donate his kidney? Don't rush to talk about women. Most humans are scared of death

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Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Festflor: 11:54am On Mar 13, 2022
MadamVanessa:
shocked


So that vow ",for better and for worst and till death do us apart" is actually a lie. People lied in front of the priest, parents, family and friends.

If actually we hold that vow to our heart, there's no sacrifice too much for us to make for our spouses. But no, it's all lies, we say it with our lips not with our heart.

This action has clearly shown that there's nothing like love even among married people, we only deceived ourselves. The day you'll realized that your wife or husband that pretend to love you never really loved you as you think,is the day you find yourself in a greater mess.


The few ones that love genuinely and are ready to make any sacrifice even if it means for them to lay down their lives for their wife/husband are always taken for granted . They're not always appreciated by the people they sacrificed to. So sad, sad indeed.



God bless you indeed.
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by VicM6: 11:54am On Mar 13, 2022
Hamachi:
My cousin who got married last year July is actually thinking of leaving the marriage because the husband was diagnosed of kidney failure and needs a transplant. The summary of the story is that the family of the man is expecting the newly married wife to donate one of her kidney to the man because my cousin is biological match to the husband, she and her family has said LAI LIA O, that his their child and they should find a way to go about it. After dragging this issues for some months, my cousin family are pushing her to file for a divorce

A. Would it be considered wickedness on her part considering, his not only the husband but PARTLY trained her in school too?

B. The marriage is less than a year no much money to even look for a seller, Aunty want to japa and leave the man

What do you think?
Hmmm, Na two senario dey here now...wat if she donate her kidney nd later on the husband start to misbehave nko?...him fit go marry anoda woman self after all.......Secondly, if ur cousin japa go enter anoda marriage where she go dey receive beating of her life on a daily basis nko or wetin u self think say people go talk abt her later on...wooos, na ur cousin choice to make jare but let her think abt it...Would her husband have donated a kidney for her if it was to be the reverse?. If YES, then na she knw the right choice to make nd if NO, na she still knw the right choice to make.
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by hysteriabox(m): 12:01pm On Mar 13, 2022
Hamachi:
My cousin who got married last year July is actually thinking of leaving the marriage because the husband was diagnosed of kidney failure and needs a transplant. The summary of the story is that the family of the man is expecting the newly married wife to donate one of her kidney to the man because my cousin is biological match to the husband, she and her family has said LAI LIA O, that his their child and they should find a way to go about it. After dragging this issues for some months, my cousin family are pushing her to file for a divorce

A. Would it be considered wickedness on her part considering, his not only the husband but PARTLY trained her in school too?

B. The marriage is less than a year no much money to even look for a seller, Aunty want to japa and leave the man

What do you think?
Same recycled cousin and story abi?
No truth on this site

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Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by VicM6: 12:01pm On Mar 13, 2022
MadamVanessa:
shocked


So that vow ",for better and for worst and till death do us apart" is actually a lie. People lied in front of the priest, parents, family and friends.

If actually we hold that vow to our heart, there's no sacrifice too much for us to make for our spouses. But no, it's all lies, we say it with our lips not with our heart.

This action has clearly shown that there's nothing like love even among married people, we only deceived ourselves. The day you'll realized that your wife or husband that pretend to love you never really loved you as you think,is the day you find yourself in a greater mess.


The few ones that love genuinely and are ready to make any sacrifice even if it means for them to lay down their lives for their wife/husband are always taken for granted . They're not always appreciated by the people they sacrificed to. So sad, sad indeed.



Mayb na yesterday dem born u grin All those for better for worst na scam things o, Priest nd pastor wey dey join couples self, na hire dem go hire am come. Now adays, couples dey pay pastor money make he join them togeda, pastor's dey receive salary like govt work, couple's dey scam their selves etc...Gone are the old day's.
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Ghostrye: 12:01pm On Mar 13, 2022
Hamachi:
undecided is there no match in the man's family?

Do you know during pregnancy both kidney needs to function properly?
Not really, both kidneys are not compulsory during pregnancy, the body can function just as well with one kidney
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Olam09(m): 12:01pm On Mar 13, 2022
Biglittlelois:



Learn to also comprehend, was it stated that the whole of the man's family has been tested and confirmed that they are not compartible? Use your head next time.


Marriage of how many months old, who knows if his family knew all along but pushed it solely on the wife.

Use your head to lady i pray don't marry someone like you.. i can sense that you're a scum.
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Mystery9(m): 12:02pm On Mar 13, 2022
What a wicked world. Your cousin's family is terrible.

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Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Rubyjade: 12:03pm On Mar 13, 2022
This is scary
OreoPaschal:
Well, nobody is worth dying for. 12years ago, my elder sister suffered the same faith. Her husband divorced her, and the marriage was nullified. Sadly, she died 2years after. And the husband remarried. This is someone she dated for over 7years before marrying him.
In as much as I am a lover of love and sacrifice, this is a risky venture. I would advise they seek alternative donor, and if they insist she must donate. She should divorce the husband, and move on with her life. The husband's family won't allow the son to donate if the reverse was her case.

Na Mumu, dey die because of love! grin grin grin
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Julyan(m): 12:04pm On Mar 13, 2022
The question is this: if your cousin were to be in the husband's position and your husband in the cousin's position, what would you have done?

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Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Rubyjade: 12:05pm On Mar 13, 2022
Biglittlelois:
His family are not willing to volunteer to donate a kidney why?
Good question, probably they even know he had this issues and supported him in sponsoring the lady in school
Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by VicM6: 12:06pm On Mar 13, 2022
MadamVanessa:
shocked


So that vow ",for better and for worst and till death do us apart" is actually a lie. People lied in front of the priest, parents, family and friends.

If actually we hold that vow to our heart, there's no sacrifice too much for us to make for our spouses. But no, it's all lies, we say it with our lips not with our heart.

This action has clearly shown that there's nothing like love even among married people, we only deceived ourselves. The day you'll realized that your wife or husband that pretend to love you never really loved you as you think,is the day you find yourself in a greater mess.


The few ones that love genuinely and are ready to make any sacrifice even if it means for them to lay down their lives for their wife/husband are always taken for granted . They're not always appreciated by the people they sacrificed to. So sad, sad indeed.


Mayb na yesterday dem born u grin All those for better for worst na scam things o, Priest nd pastor wey dey join couples self, na hire dem go hire them...pastor de collect salary like govt worker, etc. marriage now enh, only God fit help us all...Gone are the old day's.

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Re: My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving by Rubyjade: 12:06pm On Mar 13, 2022
shocked
guru90:
I was thinking all this leaving after marriage is just film to me....

One man I knew very well married last year .. got separated this January 2022.....

I mad oooh

I pray that I find better wife ....
Marriage scared me

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