I have realised so many of my friends and colleagues at over 30 years are still single, this doesn't use to be the case.

...because marriage is overrated and many dont need/want to get married until much later.

also, we have the sad deluded ones that are waiting to hit it big before getting married, not knowing they probably will never "hit it big"

and finally we have men who dont believe in marriage and therefore will just chop and clean mouth until they get to 80yrs old, then find one Regina something to marry, just to flaunt it in the face of all the young boys in town, lol.

Because men have realised that;
1. They have alot of time from 20 to 50 years they can still marry
2. Marriage is a waste of time money and effort
3. Getting married early is a waste of your youthful age
4. The man is Mostly on the giving end in Marriage
5. Marriage favours women more than it favours men
6. They want to break the loop

tayepop:
I have realised so many of my friends and colleagues at over 30 years are still single, this doesn't use to be the case.

This is actually non political, I'm sorry it falls under politics.

Marriage is no achievement and besides, it is not even any criterier for making heaven if there is a place like that.
The word marriage doesn't even make any sense to me.
So marry ya marry and stop hyping the nonsense

MrBrownJay1:
...because marriage is overrated and many dont need/want to get married until much later.

also, we have the sad deluded ones that are waiting to hit it big before getting married, not knowing they probably will never "hit it big"

and finally we have men who dont believe in marriage and therefore will just chop and clean mouth until they get to 80yrs old, then find one Regina something to marry, just to flaunt it in the face of all the young boys in town, lol.

Regina something? Lol!

Minime10:


Marriage is no achievement and besides, it is not even any criterier for making heaven if there is a place like that.
The word marriage doesn't even make any sense to me.
So marry ya marry and stop hyping the nonsense

I'm also single, I asked because these same guys still believe in the concept of marriage but are still single. For me, I don't believe in the concept of marriage.

tayepop:
I'm also single, I asked because these same guys still believe in the concept of marriage but are still single. For me, I don't believe in the concept of marriage.

the above guys you mentionned are the one below in bold i talked about:

MrBrownJay1:
...because marriage is overrated and many dont need/want to get married until much later.
also, we have the sad deluded ones that are waiting to hit it big before getting married, not knowing they probably will never "hit it big"

and finally we have men who dont believe in marriage and therefore will just chop and clean mouth until they get to 80yrs old, then find one Regina something to marry, just to flaunt it in the face of all the young boys in town, lol.

tayepop:
I have realised so many of my friends and colleagues at over 30 years are still single, this doesn't use to be the case.

Because they are eating their cake and having it. Desperate girls are busy doing wife duties for a boyfriend. Lack of finance is another reason.

Olosho don plenty pass b4....

"Ashewo dey everywhere
Even gay dey fear
Say Ashewo go collect all the boys for this year"

- Dagrin (If I die)

OP, many among the men that are married even wish they didn't.

Country hard!
Buhari devastatingly happened to Nigerian men!
Girls are no more loyal!
Sex is very cheap!

Marriage is blissful when you are with right person.

Marriage is fruitless when you are wrong person.

To settle down is not the issue but to find the right person is the main issue.

McLizbae:
OP, even many of the men that are married wish they didn't.
Country hard!
Buhari happened to Nigerian men!
Girls are no more loyal!
Sex is very cheap!

the above in bold is suppose to be free...

For those naija men outside naija, it’s because they think too much and are afraid to love a woman who would use the system to defraud them legally.

For those in naija, it’s for a number of reasons. Naija babes are not loyal. They always lookout for themselves first. Once your usefulness in their lives end, they end the relationship/marriage. Men are trying to avoid that, so they remain single and opt for babymama arrangement if they need kids.

It may also be because the men intend to relocate abroad and they would rather not take their nemesis along. So they resign to a single life.

Thirdly, it could be that some men want to solve certain economic/financial issues before adding the responsibilities of a wife to the load they carry.

Everything here points to the prevalent fact that young Nigerian women do not carry their own weight. Once you ask them out, it’s like they open a ledger for you as a debtor. They use you for your resources then demand to be treated like an equal. Lol. Men are tired of slaving for women.

You see single and even married women online openly asking for trips, perks, gifts and money. It’s almost like every man owes them. You never know who is going to use his money to trigger your wife’s release clause. Even the faithful ones think they must be rewarded with marriage for standing by you while you were struggling. Why would any sane man want to marry such a woman who thinks she’s entitled to his possessions just because she was present while he was struggling without even contributing tangibly to his progress?

So unbalanced.

If marriage was such a sweet deal, more men would embrace it. Many of those who are married were pressured by their parents to get married or were young and blinded by initial infatuation which later faded away and revealed the true nature of their wives.

Women have turned this marriage thing into a punishment for men. It shouldn’t be so.

Men are the ones truly settling down. They settle and put up with broke, unworthy women who offer nothing but drama and the possibility of paternity fraud and strife in a family that was fine until the man brought in a wife.

Marriage should be sweet but naija women fail to realise that both partners MUST contribute to a happy marriage, not just the man.

tayepop:
I have realised so many of my friends and colleagues at over 30 years are still single, this doesn't use to be the case.

Wetin they push men to marry in those day na a woman virginity. Take that away and guys wont be too interested. Most of those guys go rush marry if them see a V, dem go disV. Its the dark side of the sex game bf marriage, it has its own negative effect. No body is talking about it, but na true.

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Marriage is no achievement and besides, it is not even any criterier for making heaven if there is a place like that.
The word marriage doesn't even make any sense to me.
So marry ya marry and stop hyping the nonsense
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Increase the volume, comrade!... Infact ehn, see me this evening for a plate of "point and kill" sir.

tayepop:


I'm also single, I asked because these same guys still believe in the concept of marriage but are still single. For me, I don't believe in the concept of marriage.

Ezaily bros .. what those married assholes get, local man can also get being single... ov 1.5.

tayepop:
I have realised so many of my friends and colleagues at over 30 years are still single, this doesn't use to be the case.

Same thing I have observed too.

Nigerian men are waking up. We would rather live single than to partner with a human leech (a modern day Nigerian woman)

Plus sex (the only thing that gender can offer) is practical free. Just tell her the lies she's willing to hear, and collect your share.

Overall, marriage is a scam.

Marriage should be a thing of choice. Although, the economic reality is affecting, and most importantly, the scary stories of paternity fraud, infidelity and domestic violence is discouraging guys.

I told my mom that marriage is not my priority, I just want to live my life. If it happens fine, but if it doesn't, I am still great. Peace of mind is my priority.

Cos we're broke. At least some of us.

Minime10:


Marriage is no achievement and besides, it is not even any criterier for making heaven if there is a place like that.
The word marriage doesn't even make any sense to me.
So marry ya marry and stop hyping the nonsense

Achievements are subjective. How you view an achievement is different from the next person and that should be regarded and respected.

9ja girls are out to add more burden to your life instead of softening it.

They are nothing but useless. All of them..

It is very unsavoury

The day I realized that women who were practically nobodies could become billionaires on account of just divorce alone, was when it really sank in that this marriage thing doesn't favour men one bit...

A woman doesn't have to work at all, just marry a rich guy, give birth to a couple of kids for him, divorce him and Bam! Half of everything he worked for his entire life time belongs to you ....

It's little wonder why over 80% of divorce are intiated by women ...

Yes! One may argue that, that doesn't happen in Nigeria, I agree...

However...
Why should I be responsible for ALL the expenses of an adult who practically have slept with other men, acts like a child, throw tantrums, nags at every slightest opportunity and yet still wants to be treated with "love"?

And besides...
Everything an average wife has to offer can be replaced with money, so why not focus on making money, get those things and be free from the trouble that comes with marriage ...

Favfables1:
The day I realized that women who were practically nobodies could become billionaires on account of just divorce alone, was when it really sank in that this marriage thing doesn't favour men one bit...

A woman doesn't have to work at all, just marry a rich guy, give birth to a couple of kids for him, divorce him and Bam! Half of everything he worked for his entire life time belongs to you ....

It's little wonder why over 80% of divorce are intiated by women ...

Yes! One may argue that, that doesn't happen in Nigeria, I agree...

However...
Why should I be responsible for ALL the expenses of an adult who practically have slept with other men, acts like a child, throw tantrums, nags at every slightest opportunity and yet still wants to be treated with "love"?

And besides...
Everything an average wife has to offer can be replaced with money, so why not focus on making money, get those things and be free from the trouble that comes with marriage ...

I think the American don't want marriage to work that's why they introduced laws that is biased and one-sided.

wait until u are 40 and lonely, u will have rethink

MrBrownJay1:
...because marriage is overrated and many dont need/want to get married until much later.

also, we have the sad deluded ones that are waiting to hit it big before getting married, not knowing they probably will never "hit it big"

and finally we have men who dont believe in marriage and therefore will just chop and clean mouth until they get to 80yrs old, then find one Regina something to marry, just to flaunt it in the face of all the young boys in town, lol.

It has nothing to do with marriages are over rated.

Marriage need some kind of financial responsibility to make it work.

The truth is.

Many of the single guys in Nigeria don't have money to cater for the responsibilities of marriage.

It is either, they don't have job, or they receive low pay, so they can't afford marriages at this moment of their lives.

This trend is very common in developing countries where unemployment is high.

AfroKnight:
For those naija men outside naija, it’s because they think too much and are afraid to love a woman who would use the system to defraud them legally.

For those in naija, it’s for a number of reasons. Naija babes are not loyal. They always lookout for themselves first. Once your usefulness in their lives end, they end the relationship/marriage. Men are trying to avoid that, so they remain single and opt for babymama arrangement if they need kids.

It may also be because the men intend to relocate abroad and they would rather not take their nemesis along. So they resign to a single life.

Thirdly, it could be that some men want to solve certain economic/financial issues before adding the responsibilities of a wife to the load they carry.

Everything here points to the prevalent fact that young Nigerian women do not carry their own weight. Once you ask them out, it’s like they open a ledger for you as a debtor. They use you for your resources then demand to be treated like an equal. Lol. Men are tired of slaving for women.

You see single and even married women online openly asking for trips, perks, gifts and money. It’s almost like every man owes them. You never know who is going to use his money to trigger your wife’s release clause. Even the faithful ones think they must be rewarded with marriage for standing by you while you were struggling. Why would any sane man want to marry such a woman who thinks she’s entitled to his possessions just because she was present while he was struggling without even contributing tangibly to his progress?

So unbalanced.

If marriage was such a sweet deal, more men would embrace it. Many of those who are married were pressured by their parents to get married or were young and blinded by initial infatuation which later faded away and revealed the true nature of their wives.

Women have turned this marriage thing into a punishment for men. It shouldn’t be so.

Men are the ones truly settling down. They settle and put up with broke, unworthy women who offer nothing but drama and the possibility of paternity fraud and strife in a family that was fine until the man brought in a wife.

Marriage should be sweet but naija women fail to realise that both partners MUST contribute to a happy marriage, not just the man.

well said. but all ur points are youthful points, wait till u are in ur 40s u will need a companion regardless of ur obvious facts

Marriage in Nigeria is becoming very expensive. And looking at the high unemployment rate and the rate at which available jobs pay very low, how many guys can afford the cost of marriage.

My brother is planning on marrying an imo lady, just to collect list is over 50k. The day we went for introduction, the kinsmen where saying that the drink we brought wasn't enough... Just imagine.

The items on the list cost more than 800k, yes it's true that the list is negotiable, but mere looking at it alone is scary.

I for one, even if I happen to get a queen Elizabeth and Rihanna kind of beauty merged in an imo girl, nothing is taking me close to that state for marriage... Except if I have assurance that there own side aren't too demanding.

All these are what the elders are supposed to clearly scrap.

porthouse7:
well said. but all ur points are youthful points, wait till u are in ur 40s u will need a companion regardless of ur obvious facts

I know. I wrote all that because it’s good to learn the pros and cons before venturing.

Men must not be unaware of the risks.

Omoh I'm not yet 30 but I can see myself in that shoes Man

I'm so scared of commitment, the fear scares me