Minime10:


Marriage is no achievement and besides, it is not even any criterier for making heaven if there is a place like that.
The word marriage doesn't even make any sense to me.
So marry ya marry and stop hyping the nonsense

You mean marriage is not an achievement? In Gen.2:18 God said "it is NOT GOOD that man be alone I will make him a helper perfect for him". If the creator of all things said it's not to be alone, and He made it good by providing man a woman. Is it you a created being that will be saying that marriage is not an achievement?

Rich4god:
Marriage in Nigeria is becoming very expensive. And looking at the high unemployment rate and the rate at which available jobs pay very low, how many guys can afford the cost of marriage.

My brother is planning on marrying an imo lady, just to collect list is over 50k. The day we went for introduction, the kinsmen where saying that the drink we brought wasn't enough... Just imagine.

The items on the list cost more than 800k, yes it's true that the list is negotiable, but mere looking at it alone is scary.

I for one, even if I happen to get a queen Elizabeth and Rihanna kind of beauty merged in an imo girl, nothing is taking me close to that state for marriage... Except if I have assurance that there own side aren't too demanding.

All these are what the elders are supposed to clearly scrap.

Two facts:

1. Your brother should not marry into a family with such a mentality or a family that allows members with such a mentality to voice their opinion.

2. Your brother should not marry a girl that allows her family to practice such nonsense.

They can keep their daughter; she can keep her p*ssy (which your brother has probably used); and they can all f**k off!

PrimadonnaO:
1. They don't have money to marry.

2. Most women have raised their standards, so somw men are not finding it easy getting the kind of women they want.

3. Too many women have taken the "highway" so wife material aren't in abundance anymore.

4. Some people have become "woke" and uninterested in marriage since they can simply cohabit, or have baby mamas.

5. Finally, some men are genuinely scared. With all the bad marriage stories louder than the good ones.

What standard exactly?,a standard they are not contributing to,I understand your points though, they are validly related to the topic.

DesJioke:



There is no need staying in the same house with a person who is out for you whether you are 40 or 70. It is pointless to be in such an arrangement just cos you don't want to be alone. Alot of people are lonely in their marriages take it or leave it. One should pray to marry the right person to avoid all this fear and mutual suspicion.

I was talking to one of my friend that is married and I asked about his wife and he said " I don't know where she went to, everybody dey im lane like this". I was shocked because they stay in the same house and sleep on the same bed but don't care what becomes of the other. In fact I asked the wife the same question when I saw her and she responded likewise.
All these started happening when oga lost his job and madam became the bread winner

AfroKnight:

I know. I wrote all that because it’s good to learn the pros and cons before venturing.

Men must not be unaware of the risks.

She is just projecting her own fears.

She is frustrated and panicking at the thought of men not wanting to get married, hence she is trying to manipulate by placing her fears of being alone in her 40s as something for men to worry about!

Leo10000:

What standard exactly?,a standard they are not contributing to,I understand your points though, they are validly related to the topic.

Having vagina, Breast and yansh is now how women measure standards. Men done suffer

Most of these gals claiming standards don't even have shi shi in their accounts

Olam09:


Because they are either ugly, short, broke and they possess small gbola!

Are you okay? What are you smoking...?

IamDavid:


Women should keep raising standards o lol... But really, ladies are at the receiving end. My boss married a 28 y/o at 38. They're doing very fine now. My point is, men can always look down and marry when they're ready. Ladies, your game becomes more difficult as you age. Take this into consideration while "raising standards" too, add some realissm biko, it's for your good.

Women are at the receiving end? Stay there make trousers dey wear you. Do you see women opening threads upon and down Nl searching for love or seeking advice every now and then like men do here?

Why do you think women support baby mamaism ( if that's a word) ? You think they can't close legs and demand marriage first or even avoid pregnancy?

Why do you think women no longer find it worthy to stay in an abusive marriage or manage a marriage?

Do you think all women want to get married?

The problem with most of you men is that you think the world revolves around you, so if things aren't going the way it ought to the problem is with the other person but not you. Keep deceiving yourselves while women are silently enjoying and loving the way things are going now.

Because na the females only dey get employment.

Simple.

motymop:
It has nothing to do with marriages are over rated.

Marriage need some kind of financial responsibility to make it work.

The truth is.

Many of the single guys in Nigeria don't have money to cater for the responsibilities of marriage.

It is either, they don't have job, or they receive low pay, so they can't afford marriages at this moment of their lives.

This trend is very common in developing countries where unemployment is high.

This is the most plausible reason so far.

Nasri100:


Women emotional mind games with being alone

Why are you people so scared of being alone?

You are mostly alone in this life. You will even be buried in that coffin alone so what’s the fuss and anxiety?

Even some people I know in that s*it stake institution called Marriage are alone.

Fear of being alone (which is utter nonsense) shouldn’t even be a criteria for marriage.

If you said having children in a union then that’s a good point.

Thank you!

The only guy smart enough so far to spot her emotional manipulation via projection.

Projecting her complete fear of being alone as something men should worry about, so as to avoid having to appease men by saying "how can we do better, so that men would want to marry us and love marrying us?".

SyndyB:



You mean marriage is not an achievement? In Gen.2:18 God said "it is NOT GOOD that man be alone I will make him a helper perfect for him". If the creator of all things said it's not to be alone, and He made it good by providing man a woman. Is it you a created being that will be saying that marriage is not an achievement?

Women have evolved from what they were when God created them to Jezebels. It took them few days to cause man to disobey God.
I'm sure God regretted creating eve after he deceived adam into disobeying God. God cursed women as a result and we are seeing the effect of those curses in their lives today.
Is it not surprising that the last thing God created destabilized his whole plans for MAN? Why does God not have a wife
He clearly doesn't want any distraction

porthouse7:
am not woman, children alone can not make a home, u will realize this fact when u are in ur 40s

What are you?

Transwoman?

Gamesmart:


Stop talking nonsense!

There is no marriage that is "blissful".

At best, you get a "good" marriage. It can never be blissful!

Expressing my opinion means that I talked nonsense

You are the one talking nonsense here simple as ABC......

Yes I said that and I will always say it..... Marriage is blissful when you are with right person..... Shalom!

And next time if you want to quote a stranger on this forum...... Know how talk politely without including abusive words.

tayepop:
I have realised so many of my friends and colleagues at over 30 years are still single, this doesn't use to be the case.

I am in my mid thirties and still single..

The reason I am not keen on relationship is because I am tired of women..

Why am I tired?

The women I have been meeting aren't marriable.

Why are they not marriable?

Their first sentence rules them out. In summary, they put money first, then apartment 2nd, then car 3rd.

How the man gets it, is none of their business...

I rather remain single and enjoy my money in peace than be in a relationship and be asking myself why I gave my peace away for expenses

Palema007:
Women are at the receiving end? Stay there make trousers dey wear you. Do you see women opening threads upon and down Nl searching for love or seeking advice every now and then like men do here?

Why do you think women support baby mamaism ( if that's a word) ? You think they can't close legs and demand marriage first or even avoid pregnancy?

Why do you think women no longer find it worthy to stay in an abusive marriage or manage a marriage?

Do you think all women want to get married?

The problem with most of you men is that you think the world revolves around you, so if things aren't going the way it ought to the problem is with the other person but not you. Keep deceiving yourselves while women are silently enjoying and loving the way things are going now.

Women don't support babymamaism...
Why are you all pressuring davido to marry chioma and shaming tuface for having several baby mamas.
If women truly are supporting babymamaism then we're all in the same page now and I like that

motymop:
It has nothing to do with marriages are over rated.

Marriage need some kind of financial responsibility to make it work.

The truth is.

Many of the single guys in Nigeria don't have money to cater for the responsibilities of marriage.

It is either, they don't have job, or they receive low pay, so they can't afford marriages at this moment of their lives.

This trend is very common in developing countries where unemployment is high.

You need to change this your thought process..

Marriage wasn't made for man alone..

Marriage is a partnership not some stewpid sole proprietorship...

Men are working hard every day, having nothing but their wits to survive.

A woman works too but she has 1 or more boyfriends that funds their every wim.

So if go by your logic, where are the boyfriends getting the money, to sort women wims, getting it from?

Cutehector:
taa..scam..rubbish. na una line wey una dey use for men to make them have a rethink, it will not work..

Any lady that tells me wait until you are 40 and lonely, na to carrry bucket stone am..she dey mad

Don't mind her.

tayepop:


I'm also single, I asked because these same guys still believe in the concept of marriage but are still single. For me, I don't believe in the concept of marriage.

Please believe in concept of marriage because it is ordained by God. In Genesis 2:18 He said it's not good for man to be alone", in read up Gen 2:24. Jesus uphold marriage in Mathew 19:4,5.

In HEB 13:4, it said Marriage is honourable unto all....that God will judge those who desecrate the institution of marriage.

Worksunlimited:


I am in my mid thirties and still single..

The reason I am not keen on relationship is because I am tired of women..

Why am I tired?

The women I have been meeting aren't marriable.

Why are they not marriable?

Their first sentence rules them out. In summary, they put money first, then apartment 2nd, then car 3rd.

How the man gets it, is none of their business...

I rather remain single and enjoy my money in peace than be in a relationship and be asking myself why I gave my peace away for expenses

This is the way forward bruv
If you must marry..do it in ur 60s to a Regina Daniels w

Osilama1:
when u Marry right u ll realize it's an achievement...

Your mates are achieving things by building the world and wealth, you see achievement as marriage?

Get your brain reset in a brutish manner and find a better achievement.

Highlyrespected:

Expressing my opinion means that I talked nonsense

You are the one talking nonsense here simple as ABC......

Yes I said that and I will always say it..... Marriage is blissful when you are with right person..... Shalom!

And next time if you want to quote a stranger on this forum...... Know how talk politely without including abusive words.

Theres no such thing as the right person.
You in charge because you've got the resources to throw around. When it dries up ur mind go dey

Fiscus105:
When guys start to know that they are men, when they start to reasoning, why they called "married man responsible man". When they realize that they are respective leaders in that small units called nuclear family, not only leaders but role models.

By then, marriage will be more stable and enjoyable,...for, they will work harder to fend for their family and leave responsible life as role models and above all they will open their eyes wide when choosing life partners, they would not only take consideration of today wen choosing life partners but future as well

Stop talking nonsense!

Gamesmart:


What are you?

Transwoman?

forget that F... na prick I carry 8 inches tool

tayepop:


I'm also single, I asked because these same guys still believe in the concept of marriage but are still single. For me, I don't believe in the concept of marriage.

Please believe in concept of marriage because it is ordained by God. In Genesis 2:18 He said it's not good for man to be alone", in read up Gen 2:24. Jesus uphold marriage in Mathew 19:4,5.

In HEB 13:4, it said Marriage is honourable unto all....that God will judge those who desecrate the institution of marriage.

The problem of marriage today is that men/women are going after the wrong persons as spouse. When Adam met Eve he was satisfied with her. Please find out who fits you and enjoy marriage.

almarthins:


My brother ko si Aya lo de o

There are good ladies out there but they are few......
Majority of them are leeches parading themselves as decent ladies.

Out of 100% girls of nowadays, hardly you may 15% good girls

As a guy you just have to be cautious and use ur senses when you're dealing with them.

Wife material scarce nowadays.. na ol0shos and runs girls full everywhere.

Palema007:
Women are at the receiving end? Stay there make trousers dey wear you. Do you see women opening threads upon and down Nl searching for love or seeking advice every now and then like men do here?

Why do you think women support baby mamaism ( if that's a word) ? You think they can't close legs and demand marriage first or even avoid pregnancy?

Why do you think women no longer find it worthy to stay in an abusive marriage or manage a marriage?

Do you think all women want to get married?

The problem with most of you men is that you think the world revolves around you, so if things aren't going the way it ought to the problem is with the other person but not you. Keep deceiving yourselves while women are silently enjoying and loving the way things are going now.

These statements are very easy to type online. However, maybe it's my circle but all the old unmarried women I know are not happy about it. They're envious of people with settled families.

Babymamaism is not their first choice no dey cap for here.

I'm not even in a gender war. I love women and I always advocate for establishment of working families (I'm a product of one and I'm a believer also, I think these factors influences my view about life and I absolutely love it)

Gamesmart:


YOU are the one that needs a companion, and if you don't have one, you get miserable.

A man needs money and sex, if he can't get these, he gets miserable.

Stop projecting your own worries thinking you can use it to scare men to do what you want.

Your point is as lame as a man telling you that "If you marry, then you will not have your own money and opportunities of sex with multiple men when you are in your 40s".

Can you see and feel how lame that "threat" will be?

ur opinion bro... am a guy

Gamesmart:


Your mates are achieving things by building the world and wealth, you see achievement as marriage?

Get your brain reset in a brutish manner and find a better achievement.

Don't mind that mumu...
What does he even mean by marry right?
Mumu men don't know that the reason why they're not going through turmois in marriage is because they've been exercising their providential qualities

LesbianBoy:
It's better they should be single jare

Single guys especially the rich ones are having the time of their lives unlike married men

Married men are being denied sex by their wife

Married men spend most of the money

Married men now have wife who don't want to cook, clean, wash etc all in the name of equality

So what are men now benefiting?

Don't mind some people talking about "blissful" and "enjoying" your marriage.

Delusion grandeur!

Emychina:
African mentality

no be everything be African mentally this is reality