porthouse7:
ur opinion bro... am a guy

AfroKnight:
For those naija men outside naija, it’s because they think too much and are afraid to love a woman who would use the system to defraud them legally.

For those in naija, it’s for a number of reasons. Naija babes are not loyal. They always lookout for themselves first. Once your usefulness in their lives end, they end the relationship/marriage. Men are trying to avoid that, so they remain single and opt for babymama arrangement if they need kids.

It may also be because the men intend to relocate abroad and they would rather not take their nemesis along. So they resign to a single life.

Thirdly, it could be that some men want to solve certain economic/financial issues before adding the responsibilities of a wife to the load they carry.

Everything here points to the prevalent fact that young Nigerian women do not carry their own weight. Once you ask them out, it’s like they open a ledger for you as a debtor. They use you for your resources then demand to be treated like an equal. Lol. Men are tired of slaving for women.

You see single and even married women online openly asking for trips, perks, gifts and money. It’s almost like every man owes them. You never know who is going to use his money to trigger your wife’s release clause. Even the faithful ones think they must be rewarded with marriage for standing by you while you were struggling. Why would any sane man want to marry such a woman who thinks she’s entitled to his possessions just because she was present while he was struggling without even contributing tangibly to his progress?

So unbalanced.

If marriage was such a sweet deal, more men would embrace it. Many of those who are married were pressured by their parents to get married or were young and blinded by initial infatuation which later faded away and revealed the true nature of their wives.

Women have turned this marriage thing into a punishment for men. It shouldn’t be so.

Men are the ones truly settling down. They settle and put up with broke, unworthy women who offer nothing but drama and the possibility of paternity fraud and strife in a family that was fine until the man brought in a wife.

Marriage should be sweet but naija women fail to realise that both partners MUST contribute to a happy marriage, not just the man.

MrBrownJay1:
...because marriage is overrated and many dont need/want to get married until much later.

also, we have the sad deluded ones that are waiting to hit it big before getting married, not knowing they probably will never "hit it big"

and finally we have men who dont believe in marriage and therefore will just chop and clean mouth until they get to 80yrs old , then find one Regina something to marry, just to flaunt it in the face of all the young boys in town, lol.

Favfables1:
The day I realized that women who were practically nobodies could become billionaires on account of just divorce alone, was when it really sank in that this marriage thing doesn't favour men one bit...

A woman doesn't have to work at all, just marry a rich guy, give birth to a couple of kids for him, divorce him and Bam! Half of everything he worked for his entire life time belongs to you ....

It's little wonder why over 80% of divorce are intiated by women ...

Yes! One may argue that, that doesn't happen in Nigeria, I agree...

However...
Why should I be responsible for ALL the expenses of an adult who practically have slept with other men, acts like a child, throw tantrums, nags at every slightest opportunity and yet still wants to be treated with "love"?

And besides...
Everything an average wife has to offer can be replaced with money, so why not focus on making money, get those things and be free from the trouble that comes with marriage ...

Highlyrespected:

Those are the signs every couple must possess for lasting marriage
Patience
Tolerance
Support
Prayer
Respect
Understand etc......
Marriage this days if you are not abide by part what I listed above....... For that marriage to survive is in the hands of God.

porthouse7:
what remain of a guy of 40+ still fuckin around and not having a family, at 40 u have seen it all

Gallistotle1:
Niggurs,build ursef 1st,set up a standard business to support ur job,get peace of mind,more money,flex up,freshen up as well and also stay out of trouble and lets see if u wouldnt find happiness.

falcon01:
Because men have realised that;
1. They have alot of time from 20 to 50 years they can still marry
2. Marriage is a waste of time money and effort
3. Getting married early is a waste of your youthful age
4. The man is Mostly on the giving end in Marriage
5. Marriage favours women more than it favours men
6. They want to break the loop

falcon01:
Because men have realised that;
1. They have alot of time from 20 to 50 years they can still marry
2. Marriage is a waste of time money and effort
3. Getting married early is a waste of your youthful age
4. The man is Mostly on the giving end in Marriage
5. Marriage favours women more than it favours men
6. They want to break the loop

MansoryMX:



Marriage isn’t overrated. The problem is people! People are losing their senses, their morale, desires for pleasures and thirst from multiple partners, ways of lifestyle from peers around them. I got married at 27, my wife 22. Today we have two kids. 6 and 2 years old. Do the maths. People no longer understand the importance of self discipline and preservation.

porthouse7:
wait until u are 40 and lonely, u will have rethink

jojo1415:
....My brother na olosho dey wake me up with her call by 5am telling me that she is coming to my place...what then is the need of marriage

lexy2014:


How did u arrive at your conclusions?

Minime10:


Marriage is no achievement and besides, it is not even any criterier for making heaven if there is a place like that.
The word marriage doesn't even make any sense to me.
So marry ya marry and stop hyping the nonsense

Highlyrespected:

But how can you conclude that I'd used resources to attract girls.....
I am introvert guy and I hardly engage convo with anyone especially girls.

And change this ur mindset that "when it dries up"..... Are you praying for it to dries up even assuming we are talking about reality here.

Use your sense and spend wisely when you're dealing with ladies of 21st century.

Chiefecho:


Why do you feel such a conclusion should not be made ??

Gamesmart:


And you have never shagged another woman since you married her?

lexy2014:


How did u arrive at your conclusion that such conclusion should not be made?

Miarose:
This is interesting. As the business woman that I am, I forsee a rise in old people's homes to cater for surge of old men without families to care for them.
Unfortunately, this won't come cheap.

Food vendors will also have, low salt, oil less menu for the older bachelor population.

Geriatric nursing and home care will boom.

I must cash out from this trend!!!

Chiefecho:

You have not answered my question

Czario:
I pray for all married men out there....
They were shouting go and settle down ...sette down
I didn't know I was already settled as a bachelor...

Single guys take note.

Rich4god:
Marriage in Nigeria is becoming very expensive. And looking at the high unemployment rate and the rate at which available jobs pay very low, how many guys can afford the cost of marriage.

My brother is planning on marrying an imo lady, just to collect list is over 50k. The day we went for introduction, the kinsmen where saying that the drink we brought wasn't enough... Just imagine.

The items on the list cost more than 800k, yes it's true that the list is negotiable, but mere looking at it alone is scary.

I for one, even if I happen to get a queen Elizabeth and Rihanna kind of beauty merged in an imo girl, nothing is taking me close to that state for marriage... Except if I have assurance that there own side aren't too demanding.

All these are what the elders are supposed to clearly scrap.

Yamiriflathead:


Lmfa.. He won't tell us he is suffering in his marriage because he is being a MAN in public eyes and wants us to experience the "sweetness" of marriage ourselves

AfroKnight:

I know. I wrote all that because it’s good to learn the pros and cons before venturing.

Men must not be unaware of the risks.

AfroKnight:
For those naija men outside naija, it’s because they think too much and are afraid to love a woman who would use the system to defraud them legally.

For those in naija, it’s for a number of reasons. Naija babes are not loyal. They always lookout for themselves first. Once your usefulness in their lives end, they end the relationship/marriage. Men are trying to avoid that, so they remain single and opt for babymama arrangement if they need kids.

It may also be because the men intend to relocate abroad and they would rather not take their nemesis along. So they resign to a single life.

Thirdly, it could be that some men want to solve certain economic/financial issues before adding the responsibilities of a wife to the load they carry.

Everything here points to the prevalent fact that young Nigerian women do not carry their own weight. Once you ask them out, it’s like they open a ledger for you as a debtor. They use you for your resources then demand to be treated like an equal. Lol. Men are tired of slaving for women.

You see single and even married women online openly asking for trips, perks, gifts and money. It’s almost like every man owes them. You never know who is going to use his money to trigger your wife’s release clause. Even the faithful ones think they must be rewarded with marriage for standing by you while you were struggling. Why would any sane man want to marry such a woman who thinks she’s entitled to his possessions just because she was present while he was struggling without even contributing tangibly to his progress?

So unbalanced.

If marriage was such a sweet deal, more men would embrace it. Many of those who are married were pressured by their parents to get married or were young and blinded by initial infatuation which later faded away and revealed the true nature of their wives.

Women have turned this marriage thing into a punishment for men. It shouldn’t be so.

Men are the ones truly settling down. They settle and put up with broke, unworthy women who offer nothing but drama and the possibility of paternity fraud and strife in a family that was fine until the man brought in a wife.

Marriage should be sweet but naija women fail to realise that both partners MUST contribute to a happy marriage, not just the man.

Yamiriflathead:


I love this.. Especially the surrogacy part
I think its much more better

ArewaTech1:
Lots of great comments... Majority of which makes sense...

But being from a conservative family in the North, I can't relate to none of that.

I'm 24, just bagged my BSc last year. and they already arranged me with this girl. lol & smh

but d girl fine die.

will be getting married sometime in '24

Gamesmart:


Who said it was not your opinion?

What point are you trying to make? Did I dispute that it was your opinion? Or did I claim it was mine?

My point is that: Your opinion is nonsense!

Nonsense na nonsense!


Saying "It is my opinion" does not stop it from being nonsense.