Yamiriflathead:


They always guilt-trip us with old age.
Do you know why my grandfather died early? Because he was married to a witch who, rallied her children against him and tormented him till his last day on earth. They tormented him physically and spiritually.. When he died, those who were interested in seeking spiritual answers came back with news that she(my grand father's wife) signed his death in coven and rendered him useless politically because she was scared that he would wife other women if he got to abuja.
I would rather stay in old peoples home and die there than to be married to this kind of woman

professore:
Albert Camus says, I will live my life as if there is God and die to find out there is no God than to live my life as if there is no God and die to find there is God. My advice for you this morning is for you to live your life like you are sure there is heaven. Peace be unto you.

Palema007:
You better let's go and marry before you turn 60 and your potbelly begins to fall.

Palema007:
Check your record well, this time focus on the date. You obviously need to update your information archives.

AfroKnight:
For those naija men outside naija, it’s because they think too much and are afraid to love a woman who would use the system to defraud them legally.

For those in naija, it’s for a number of reasons. Naija babes are not loyal. They always lookout for themselves first. Once your usefulness in their lives end, they end the relationship/marriage. Men are trying to avoid that, so they remain single and opt for babymama arrangement if they need kids.

It may also be because the men intend to relocate abroad and they would rather not take their nemesis along. So they resign to a single life.

Thirdly, it could be that some men want to solve certain economic/financial issues before adding the responsibilities of a wife to the load they carry.

Everything here points to the prevalent fact that young Nigerian women do not carry their own weight. Once you ask them out, it’s like they open a ledger for you as a debtor. They use you for your resources then demand to be treated like an equal. Lol. Men are tired of slaving for women.

You see single and even married women online openly asking for trips, perks, gifts and money. It’s almost like every man owes them. You never know who is going to use his money to trigger your wife’s release clause. Even the faithful ones think they must be rewarded with marriage for standing by you while you were struggling. Why would any sane man want to marry such a woman who thinks she’s entitled to his possessions just because she was present while he was struggling without even contributing tangibly to his progress?

So unbalanced.

If marriage was such a sweet deal, more men would embrace it. Many of those who are married were pressured by their parents to get married or were young and blinded by initial infatuation which later faded away and revealed the true nature of their wives.

Women have turned this marriage thing into a punishment for men. It shouldn’t be so.

Men are the ones truly settling down. They settle and put up with broke, unworthy women who offer nothing but drama and the possibility of paternity fraud and strife in a family that was fine until the man brought in a wife.

Marriage should be sweet but naija women fail to realise that both partners MUST contribute to a happy marriage, not just the man.

tayepop:


I'm also single, I asked because these same guys still believe in the concept of marriage but are still single. For me, I don't believe in the concept of marriage.

porthouse7:
wait until u are 40 and lonely, u will have rethink

Gamesmart:


Yeah, also change the mindset of having savings for tough times in Nigeria because "you are not praying to lose your job".

The foolish things people say and they strongly think they are making sense.

Fatbam003:
it's not true even family still support Davido

Highlyrespected:
Marriage is blissful when you are with right person.

Marriage is fruitless when you are wrong person.

To settle down is not the issue but to find the right person is the main issue.

McLizbae:
OP, even many of the men that are married wish they didn't.

Country hard!
Buhari happened to Nigerian men!
Girls are no more loyal!
Sex is very cheap!

tayepop:
I have realised so many of my friends and colleagues at over 30 years are still single, this doesn't use to be the case.

okuta007:



This must be archived in the Nairaland Hall of Fame as a very sensible post laced with undiluted wisdom - you too much abeg!

AfroKnight:


You and your hide and seek. You don show today.

nextlevel2020:
This is an interesting discussion that catches my urge to comment on. When I was 20s, I experienced a lot of rejections and humiliations from girls as results of my poor background. The condition was so terrible to the extent that, I needed to see myself through school from primary to the higher institution. During my school days I could remember that the girls in my class then used to tell me " Is your gari enough for you alone talk less of dating a woman ". To cut the story short, all these taunts and rejections spurred me into working harder and today God has answered my prayer and give me a job in a multinational company. Now, some of the girls that turned me down before are now showing interest in me and this scares me a lot to say yes for them. In addition to that, whenever I come across any woman and the first question she asks is what do you do for living, the fear grips my heart immediately and I would begin to reflect on my past experience. So in as much as I need a woman in my life, I'm also afraid of someone who will not value my background and I don't buy the idea of divorce at all. People like me who also believe in fruitful marriage are out there as a single.

Palema007:


As you don forget me where I hide nah... Sheybi it is Magnolia that is distracting you.

AfroKnight:


Thank you for those kind words.

Barbiturate:


Na lie. I am of that age. I am not married and I'm not lonely.

motymop:
It has nothing to do with marriages are over rated.

Marriage need some kind of financial responsibility to make it work.

The truth is.

Many of the single guys in Nigeria don't have money to cater for the responsibilities of marriage.

It is either, they don't have job, or they receive low pay, so they can't afford marriages at this moment of their lives.

This trend is very common in developing countries where unemployment is high.

AfroKnight:


Sorry, I can’t see what you wrote clearly. Network is not good.

BannedUser:


Are you okay? What are you smoking...?

BigBashiru:


It has aways been like that.... ur obviously a woman. Most women deny this truth but we all know they want abuse rough guys till their late 20s....

Chiefecho:


Why do you feel such a conclusion should not be made ??

AfroKnight:


Thank you for those kind words.

Gamesmart:


Stop talking nonsense!

Benwallt:
The only gain available to a man in marriage is his offspring. The rest is trash.

Gamesmart:


What a profoundly and completely reeeetarded contribution!

Palema007:
Ahhhhhhhh Magnolia what have you done?

Gamesmart:


Don't mind that foool!

Keep asking him the question.

He likes to ask questions but never answers any. Check the history of his posts.

So just keep him at question asking. I love humiliating him.

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