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Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by JovialJune(f): 11:28am On Apr 19, 2022 |
MNDY: Do you walk away from your boss when he/she verbally abuse you or you go physical? When verbally abused by people on the streets, do you go physical or you walk away? 2 Likes |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by Giltexo: 11:28am On Apr 19, 2022 |
The point be say na verbal abuse dey come 1st..no sane man will raise hand and start beating a woman...so while verbal comes 1st as it's always "ladies first". Physical comes second to address the issue ..some men don't have time to bandy words with weaker vessel..we address it the way it should be .. 1 Like |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by Ebubu: 11:29am On Apr 19, 2022 |
JovialJune: Madam, many men tend to sleep over at offices instead of coming home to an abusive woman. Do you know the kind of trauma it creates in his mind? Some can barely sleep at night when memories of hurtful words flash through his mind at the end of the day just while he tries to close his eyes to sleep, unfailingly the sleep does not come. The ones who end up with high BP nko Denying the effects of verbal and emotional abuse from you women is why you will never stop with it. Thank God men’s eyes are gradually opening and only a matter of few months from now, divorces filed by men on account of verbal and traumatic abuses will start flooding the internet. We will live to witness it 3 Likes |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by JovialJune(f): 11:34am On Apr 19, 2022 |
Favfables1: Verbal abuse is the cause of physical abuse, good and fine, what triggers the verbal abuse? Are you saying men don't verbally abuse their wives? How do the wives react? Are you saying that, all your life, all those who verbally abused you, we're beaten by you as a reaction? If no, how did you react to their verbal abuse? 2 Likes |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by Fiscus105(m): 11:34am On Apr 19, 2022 |
Sekoni003: U never meet beast in some women. I pray you will never meet one. 2 Likes |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by JovialJune(f): 11:37am On Apr 19, 2022 |
Ebubu: Answer these questions? What triggers the verbal abuse from the women? Are you saying men don't verbally abuse their wives? If yes, how do the wives react? Is it only men that have high blood pressure or dread coming home because of what they will meet at home? Women don't face same? 2 Likes |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by Prettygirl200(f): 11:39am On Apr 19, 2022 |
MNDY:sorry!!! Am a woman not a man. |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by Toks2008(m): 11:39am On Apr 19, 2022 |
boookworm: I kuku used English to type this and not swahili. Go read again and this time around , gently |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by emmanuelbrown26: 11:40am On Apr 19, 2022 |
JONNYSPUTE:Honestly, I don't know why some men hv decided to be stupid in women affairs, imagine d nonsense op wrote that I should take away whenever one daughter of eve raises her voice at me, instead of me to take a walk, let her take a Walt to her papa house, I hate nonsense 2 Likes |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by emmanuelbrown26: 11:40am On Apr 19, 2022 |
Prettygirl200:Una go dey open mouth waaaaaa, some daughters of eve deserves beating 1 Like |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by Majesty33(m): 11:41am On Apr 19, 2022 |
It takes only a very strong man to endure verbal abuse cos the venom that pours out of that gender mouth can make a man commit suicide. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by Ebubu: 11:41am On Apr 19, 2022 |
JovialJune:Usually the verbal abuses from women are offshoots from a heated argument; which often times if they can’t win, they resort to abusing the man, blackmailing him or belittling him; causing him him a deep in his confidence and self esteem as a man. Even comparing him with his mates who are more successful than him by measure of car or property as if the woman doesn’t have her own mates who are more successful than her. A man hardly throws the first insult cos it’s hardly their forte and I mean their mouths. Women are the ones who pride themselves in being mouthful. I’ll advise women to walk away from arguments when it gets too heated or intensive and find other means to settle the issues instead of resorting to insults in the midst of an unhealthy argument. 3 Likes |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by Ebubu: 11:43am On Apr 19, 2022 |
JovialJune:stop talking about how men should react to verbal abuse by walking away, instead advise your fellow uncouth women to nip the verbal abuse in the bud and not initiate it at all and stop telling us to walk away from verbal abuse. I pity your simp of a husband 4 Likes |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by Toks2008(m): 11:43am On Apr 19, 2022 |
JovialJune: Nice question cos me i dont understand again. Does that mean that these guys castigating me will beat up a lady if provoked ? 1 Like |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by winner37(m): 11:46am On Apr 19, 2022 |
Am still single so this issue doesn't relate to me.. |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by seunayantokun(m): 11:46am On Apr 19, 2022 |
Both men and women involved in it. Please don't blame the devil. |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by Toks2008(m): 11:47am On Apr 19, 2022 |
Ebubu: You still dont get. I made it crystal clear that verbal abuse is a NO NO and the lady should rather leave the union if she cant refrain from doing so. BUT WHAT IF SHE DOES, WILL YOU BEAT HER? This is my point. Walk away or ask her to leave you the hell alone. Una dey scare me o |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by HoseaNzoge: 11:47am On Apr 19, 2022 |
Brothers and sisters from experience flee from any woman or a man that does not fear God, that is envious, aggressive and shameless. they are killers of destinies!, they are very vey difficult to manage, run for you dear life please. 1 Like |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by PericomaNwankwo: 11:51am On Apr 19, 2022 |
Let me tell you guys something about violence: the more you beat a woman, the more hold she will have over you, and hence the more she is likely to provoke you to beat her again. You become a pathetic apologizer that is always begging her for forgiveness. With each forgiveness her hold increases while your pride dwindles. You find yourself fighting for this pride by hitting her over and over. There's a strong bond in toxicity that tends to bind the two people together. It takes great mental strength to detach from it. 2 Likes |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by maestro299: 11:52am On Apr 19, 2022 |
JovialJune:Are you for real? Anyway, these were literally the first 3 results I got on Google https://www.happiness1st.com/verbal-abuse-worse-than-physical-abuse/ https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/verbalabuseinrelationships/2017/11/why-verbal-abuse-is-so-dangerou https://www.womenindistress.org/stories/verbal-and-emotional-abuse-can-hurt-just-as-much-as-physical-abuse-and-its-often-an-unrecognized-form-of-domestic-violence/ |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by princeemmma(m): 11:54am On Apr 19, 2022 |
blame violence itself........... me when i sense voilence
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Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by JovialJune(f): 12:17pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
Ebubu: I asked simple questions you're yapping spittle everywhere Do men verbally abuse people or not? Do men verbally abuse their fellow men or not? How do you react to it? By going physical or walking away? When verbally abused by your boss at work, do you physical abuse him/or walk away? What triggers the verbal abuse? Think deeply on these questions, apply logic, then answer, and stopping equating your father to all men. 2 Likes |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by MNDY(m): 12:18pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
JovialJune: Continue... What are you saying? People fight their bosses and also fight on the streets. And who told you that walking away to return will solve the problem. Walking away from the marriage (Divorce) solves the problem permanently but it's not very easy to divorce. Keep defending your gender, you hear? Let the nagging continue and don't hold meetings to iron out issues, you hear? The more your mouth run, the more beating to correct una, as divorce no easy. You want him to be walking away until he walks into the arms of another woman...right? GIVE YOUR MAN PEACE OF MIND & QUIETNESS FOR HIM TO BE ABLE TO THINK. 2 Likes |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by Ebubu: 12:20pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
JovialJune: Your body for tell you if you been face me dey wag your mouth wey dey smell like your fishy vagina |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by Ebubu: 12:22pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
MNDY: No mind am. They should keep defending their gender and their body go keep telling them 1 Like |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by JONNYSPUTE(m): 12:22pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
JovialJune:.... Madam if nothing is done about verbal abuse then physical abuse won't stop. The problem we have is that because women think and believe that verbal abuse is their way and right of expressing dissatisfaction that's why you are looking down on it. We keep saying that on no account should a man raise his hand on a woman but has never cautioned women against verbally abusing their husbands so tell me how we want domestic violence to end? Yes you are right that some men also verbally abuse their wives but should we continue laying blames instead of sincerely cautioning both genders on the dangers of both verbal and physical abuse? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by Kingcalls: 12:24pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
Prettygirl200: Verbal abuse has lead to suicides in the past and mental scars 1 Like |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by Kingcalls: 12:26pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
Prettygirl200: This is one reason men beat women like u shege... u are saying im no fit, like say if they leave both of u , u can do anything... he will just beat u like a child cos u cant defeat him |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by JovialJune(f): 12:27pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
MNDY: If men give their wives peace of mind, do you think there will be an insults or disagreement from any of them? Or you think women just wake up one day and start insulting their husband's? What triggered it? Or you think men don't verbally insult their wives too? Because you all are trying to give silly flimsy excuses for domestic violence on verbal abuse that all men and women are guilty of, so tell me, you as a man, you've never insulted a woman before? You've never trash talked your fellow men before? Here on this forum, you men say all.manner of degrading words, show intense hatred for women with your insults, how many female do you see reacting to it? Do you see any of us threatening to track you vile men here down to teach you bitter lessons you will never forget? Do you now see your flimsy excuses holds no water? You can't even answer my previous questions cos you know you will shoot yourself in the foot, you see my point? 2 Likes |
Re: Domestic Violence. Who Do We Blame? by JovialJune(f): 12:34pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
Ebubu: You see that you just verbally abused me without being provoked, you, a man, yet you accuse only women as if you men don't do it, you see my point? How vile you had to go on someone you've never met or seen before for you to degrade parts of my body, me, a woman, you see that verbal abuse is not specific to any gender right? So did I threaten to track you down to deal with you by hiring boys to beat you up? No I didn't, instead I'm pointing out your vile self who lacks proper upbringing that men verbally abuse too, and me, a woman, will walk away from your negativity, just as is expected of you men to do. 2 Likes |
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