As a lady, I have read countless stories here on nairaland of how men used and dumped girls not because they are not pretty, but because of some traits these ladies exhibited which turned you men off. So I have been wondering, what do you men really want? For a long lasting relationship, even a successful marriage,what can a woman do to win or capture your heart as a man? What advice will you give the female gender on relationship matters? Ur opinions will be highly appreciated. Let's learn from you!

Good character...less nagging.

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She should behave like a wife and a side chick also..

... peace of mind!

to women , i will simply say: "BE YOURSELF, dont try to pretend to be who you are not , just in desperation for dating/marriage".

HopeVictor:
Have should behave like a wife and a side chick also..

aka be decent on the outsdide but a down and dirty shameless p0rnstar under the sheets!

For me, a lady must be truthful; be neat; and be a good manager of things.

The simple and honest truth before you go on dating a guy ask some three point very vital questions.
Don't let love carry you away.
Every guy desires a good relationship, some want it short some others long.
Ask your prospective boyfriend what are his idea or opinion about relationship?
Ask him where he is coming from and possibly where he is going to in life?
Ask him to tell you frankly who is his ideal woman, he should give you an imaginary picture of her?
Ask him what he thinks about WOMAN, of course what he also think about his mother.
Ask him his sexual fantasies and let him give you some of his secret escapades.
Check if your man is from a broken home?
What are their most important values.
This should take you maybe weeks or days depend on your speed.
Connect the dots and see if you fit in.
I insisted I must marry my woman among other values mainly because she is from a home that hold marriage to a high esteem.
The parents are married for over forty years.
Just pick the little sense and leave the rest for me.

tayo60:
As a lady, I have read countless stories here on nairaland of how men used and dumped girls not because they are not pretty, but because of some traits these ladies exhibited which turned you men off. So I have been wondering, what do you men really want? For a long lasting relationship, even a successful marriage,what can a woman do to win or capture your heart as a man? What advice will you give the female gender on relationship matters? Ur opinions will be highly appreciated. Let's learn from you!

All that is required is that a lady must apply sense in all situations.

Felimax:
The simple and honest truth before you go on dating a guy ask some three point very vital questions.
Don't let love carry you away.
Every guy desires a good relationship, some want it short some others long.
Ask your prospective boyfriend what are his idea or opinion about relationship?
Ask him where he is coming from and possibly where he is going to in life?
Ask him to tell you frankly who is his ideal woman, he should give you an imaginary picture of her?
Ask him what he thinks about WOMAN, of course what he also think about his mother.
Ask him his sexual fantasies and let him give you some of his secret escapades.
Check if your man is from a broken home?
What are their most important values.
This should take you maybe weeks or days depend on your speed.
Connect the dots and see if you fit in.
I insisted I must marry my woman among other values mainly because she is from a home that hold marriage to a high esteem.
The parents are married for over forty years.
Just pick the little sense and leave the rest for me.

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Please get the hell out here! Don't derail my thread

Just have sense and have yansh.
Unfortunately, those two don’t go hand in hand

Don't have entitlement mentality.
Be supportive to ur man.
Above all, be Financially independent. Love Chapter 2:5 says: For she who is financially independent, has fulfil the Law. Vs 7 says: For financial indenpendency Shall cover multitude of SIMPS.

tayo60:
Thanks for this

Welcome

@op , let start something new.

Jus three things and you must be in consistency with it ..

1. Men value respect

2. Loyalty

3. Values

This are the most prominent forces in relationships others are jus bonus.

tayo60:
As a lady, I have read countless stories here on nairaland of how men used and dumped girls not because they are not pretty, but because of some traits these ladies exhibited which turned you men off. So I have been wondering, what do you men really want? For a long lasting relationship, even a successful marriage,what can a woman do to win or capture your heart as a man? What advice will you give the female gender on relationship matters? Ur opinions will be highly appreciated. Let's learn from you!

It's simple. Just be hardworking and be financially independent. Be an asset, not a liability. I forgot to add: Respect him too, even if u are earn better he do. Very, very important. Don't joke with these 2 things if u want to remain invaluable to any man; be hardworking and be financially independent.

tayo60:
As a lady, I have read countless stories here on nairaland of how men used and dumped girls not because they are not pretty, but because of some traits these ladies exhibited which turned you men off. So I have been wondering, what do you men really want? For a long lasting relationship, even a successful marriage,what can a woman do to win or capture your heart as a man? What advice will you give the female gender on relationship matters? Ur opinions will be highly appreciated. Let's learn from you!

One. Start with yourself. If you don't know your shoe size before heading to the shoe shop you will likely get a very beautiful shoe that does not fit you. You need to know your purpose, your ambitions, your ideologies, your values, your boundaries and every other relevant aspect of yourself. So sisters know yourself first. If you are purposeless you will marry an aimless man easily.

Two. Understand that the best man for you is not the richest man, the strongest man, the most religious man, the most God fearing man, the smartest man or the 'dopest' man. The best man for you is the best fit for you. He will fit you psychologically, economically, socially, mentally, religiously, spiritually and futuristically.

Three. The best fit for you will reveal his relevance to you in three areas: your future, your present welfare and the legacy you live behind. Any man that shows little or no interest in these areas is most likely not your husband.

Four. Even if you are married to an angel, the marriage will never work if you want to bitch about, live carelessly without regard to the consequences and bask in utter stupidity. You must be ready to submit totally. You must obey him, adhere to his leadership and support him when he needs it.

Give us peace and even when we misbehave, call us to order without making us feel like fools.

We behave like kids and just like kids, most of us are flexible so discuss our foolishness with us and tell us the changes you need in our attitudes.

Be our number one fans and show us you believe in us even when everyone gives up hope.

You see your bodies, respect them because they are our pride. The moment we have doubts about what you do with them, we die on the inside and the outcome will be change in our attitudes towards you.

Lastly, please be very patient with us. Even our mothers and sisters are going through the same issues you through with us.

Men like me love women who are natural.

No expensive make up.

Rubbing creams just to look fair. I hate this.

Piecing of two ears...I can't even date such a woman.

Jobless women...not doing anything just depending on a man for money...I hate this class of women with passion.

And finally,a lady with tattoos...e don finish be that.

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Isn’t that how you see a side chick, just asking sha

MrBrownJay1:


aka be decent on the outsdide but a down and dirty shameless p0rnstar under the sheets!

Is that how you see a side chick, just asking sha

MrBrownJay1:


aka be decent on the outsdide but a down and dirty shameless p0rnstar under the sheets!

tamcamp253:
Is that how you see a side chick, just asking sha

thats how i see any/every woman that wanna please their men (even my mother). mutual satisfaction is the key here.

Comrade respect to you

MrBrownJay1:


thats how i see any/every woman that wanna please their men (even my mother). mutual satisfaction is the key here.

Nigerian men don't want to be held accountable by any woman. They want a ‘peaceful’ woman, that is a woman who wouldn't question them when they make a bad decision.

So here's how to make your relationship work with Nigerian men
1. You must be ready to be a maid (work tirelessly without any assistance from them)
2. You must not complain when they cheat
3. You must not question their decisions
4. You must not have your own money (ah do you want to challenge Odogwu?)
5. You must never say NO to tatata

Did I miss anything?

But una guys una no see say na bad plan be dis? Una no dey learn say woman no dey ever get good plan for una? Una come dey open mouth anyhow!

Men are confused creatures and will require a lot of self help to focus on what they want.

They are coming for me tho.
But read my signature peeps.

Go f*ck yourselves.

I have learnt a lot from d comments, thanks guys