Why you? Why Me? Why not Buhari? Why not Oshiomole? Why not kwame?

jendoslim:


Are you being serious about this ?

Prat tell, which stage will a man get to that he will be desirous of a single mother to marry??

Don't pray to get to that stage

MrBrownJay1:


the issue of single mothers is very simple... if you have no problem with it, then meet them and enjoy your life with her....and if you have a problem with it, then dont date/marry single mothers, et voila!

a woman with a child shouldnt be an issue, unless that woman is a bad person....sadly, many people will automatically view a single mother as a bad person, while many others wont/dont, and will instead judge that woman on the go or her character. some single mothers are fantastic women who became single mothers because of a bad union, a death and/or an accident. you cant possibly judge a woman negatively on the sole act of having a child unmarried (unless of course, you are one of them religious holier than thou hypocrites who forgot that even JESUS mother was a single mother, lol!)

I thought you were making sense

Mary mother of Jesus was legally married to Joseph and no history has it that they were separated

Chaii after reading the comments I have decided to breakup with my girlfriend

frozen70:


A mother is the real politician of every family

She knows what's good for the family

That is not true and you offer yourself cheaply as the greatest disclaimer to that position. Women pander to emotions, therefore are not equipped to lead. Any home without a father is mostly a reckless one. I'll forever put my faith in men to continue to lead civilization.

frozen70:


Don't pray to get to that stage

Why would I get that stage....

Stress nauseate me

MrBrownJay1:


you made plenty of sense and then you wrote the above... are you saying that a woman who had a child for some dude and then they parted ways, will always let that man mount her?! do you see how insecure it is of you to claim the above?! even you yourself, some babe got pregnant for you and you didnt want the child, would you even want to have sex with her again?!?!? come on bro!

the above you wrote says a lot about the weak insecure mindset of some men...so because she had sex with someone before, you are so insecure that you believe that she can never love you and be faithful to you ever. thats he will always be drawn to the bastard who may have abandonned/dropped her etc.... thats deep! no wonder men are running away from these single mothers!

This word "insecure" is what ladies have used to manipulate some weak men.

When someone is sounding reasonable and probably talking from experience you said he is insecure.

Women are generally ungrateful creatures even to God. #Eat forbidden fruits - it's a proverb "she commited adultery" despite all the warnings and brought shame and reproach to humanity.

Doesn't matter how nice and great she's now, like all others single-mother or not, you will have reality check with her in the course of marriage and you may not be strong to hold-on unlike if she wasn't a single mother.

So get ready and process your future and old age with her, your children and her child or children. It's more like having two (2) wives with children. #Rough road ahead

ugodson:


Bro the Most important question u will need to ask and do ur own findings is WETIN HAPPEN BTW D FATHER OF D CHILD AND HER? AND IS D FATHER'S OR X HAND TOTALLY OUT OF D PICTURE? am actually dating a single mother we have been friends from little we even had our first kiss together (wen we never know anything) her x husband used to maltreat her and sadly he doesn't taken his hands off d child,so We are good to go. All single mothers aren't bad but if u get to meet my ex hmmm u are on ur own

My dear this lady will tell u negative thing about her ex or d father of d child.....but at ur back she will b riding his dick.fear women.

MistarT:
Please candid opinions will be appreciated. Thanks.

Itwill do humanity great good, if we hear from marriage counsellors with wide range of experiences, thanks.

I can’t marry a woman that is not a virgin let alone

The quality of the woman you settle down with show's how much you love yourself.

Why would a single guy marry a single mother?

Low self esteem issue's?

Scarcity mentality?

The world is your oyster pick the best of every fruit and never settle for less.

Besides , single mother's are statistically bad news.. won't say more.

Forget the nuanced rationalisations from the woke simps and quasi hoes.

mcdokwe:


I wonder

Really, one wonders.

Most of the relationship problems we see are simply immature, selfish and unreasonable people doing their thing and crying victim afterwards.

MistarT:
Please candid opinions will be appreciated. Thanks.

Itwill do humanity great good, if we hear from marriage counsellors with wide range of experiences, thanks.

If you need to ask others how they feel about it then it means it isn't for you , so simply move on without shitting on it for others.

denobaba:
That is not true and you offer yourself cheaply as the greatest disclaimer to that position. Women pander to emotions, therefore are not equipped to lead. Any home without a father is mostly a reckless one. I'll forever put my faith in men to continue to lead civilization.

I never mentioned the neglect of father's at home neither do I compare the roles of both parents

Since you are finding it difficult to understand simple details

Am done with your arguments

MrBrownJay1:


what qualities a single woman has that is "exclusive" to them (aka that a single mother cannot possess) apart from virginity but that aint a quality....??!?



as much as your English is great, you are saying nothing valid to this issue. you are now placing your misplaced ego in the way of your common sense. as much as a baby daddy can certainly have contact with his child/baby momma, that person has NO VALID leverage upon the r/ship you have with babymomma. so i dont know what circumstances you are talking about, but its evident that you are talking from an insecure man point of view....therefore you are looking down on a woman because of the possible unforessen circumstances that may or not ever happen. that would be as foolish as me saying that i wont drive a car because many have died in car accidents. highly stupid wouldnt you say?!



kai, come on bro....the above is far fetched. been with countless of single mothers, and can only say great things about them. just like there are great single women out there, there are bad single women out there, and same goes for single mothers.

You claim that you have been with single women and they are great for you, so why haven't you married one yet. It's very naive for you to say virginity is not a quality for a woman. On the contrary, it adds very much to a woman's sexual market value. It may be well be the case that you enjoy slack vagina, but you must accept that such a taste makes for an oddity in the general population of men. Make it make sense.

frozen70:


I never mentioned the neglect of father's at home neither do I compare the roles of both parents

Since you are finding it difficult to understand simple details

Am done with your arguments

Yawns!!!

Put yourself in the single mom's shoes.

Imagine, in secondary school, you were caught having s*x and were expelled. You had to drop out of school in JS3, and now years after, you're poor, living homeless on the street or under the bridge.

Would this lady, if she were single and childless right now, marry you and save you from the consequence of your previous poor decision.?

Let the answer guide you

bonnyhope:
This word "insecure" is what ladies have used to manipulate some weak men.
When someone is sounding reasonable and probably talking from experience you said he is insecure.

are you saying that HIS experience is automatcally better than mine?! are you saying that a man who is obviously judging a woman because he is afraid of a babydaddy that may or not come back to the picture, is not insecure?! then what do you call it then?! everything you guys talk about is the OTHER MAN...why is it so?!?!?!

let us be honest here and stop running around the issue like 5yr old kids....what is it that makes you guys so afraid of single mothers....why is nobody answering that simple question?!?!?! all i hear is baby daddy this and baby daddy that, as if because a man has a baby by a woman, he will control her destiny for the rest of her life....come on! it is OBVIOUS that your "ego" is the problem here, and you cant take it that this woman had a life before she met you, resulting in that child being born!

Accept her child as you would accept yours. Guide and love the child as you would do to your child. Understand and accept the fact that she's a mother and a wife. Make her your best friend, and build a new home. You will have no issues so long as she's rational and sensible.

MrBrownJay1:


are you saying that HIS experience is automatcally better than mine?! are you saying that a man who is obviously judging a woman because he is afraid of a babydaddy that may or not come back to the picture, is not insecure?! then what do you call it then?! everything you guys talk about is the OTHER MAN...why is it so?!?!?!

let us be honest here and stop running around the issue like 5yr old kids....what is it that makes you guys so afraid of single mothers....why is nobody answering that simple question?!?!?! all i hear is baby daddy this and baby daddy that, as if because a man has a baby by a woman, he will control her destiny for the rest of her life....come on! it is OBVIOUS that your "ego" is the problem here, and you cant take it that this woman had a life before she met you, resulting in that child being born!

MrBrownJay1:


are you saying that HIS experience is automatcally better than mine?! are you saying that a man who is obviously judging a woman because he is afraid of a babydaddy that may or not come back to the picture, is not insecure?! then what do you call it then?! everything you guys talk about is the OTHER MAN...why is it so?!?!?!

let us be honest here and stop running around the issue like 5yr old kids....what is it that makes you guys so afraid of single mothers....why is nobody answering that simple question?!?!?! all i hear is baby daddy this and baby daddy that, as if because a man has a baby by a woman, he will control her destiny for the rest of her life....come on! it is OBVIOUS that your "ego" is the problem here, and you cant take it that this woman had a life before she met you, resulting in that child being born!

Let me repeat it again. Other men's experiences serve to teach us:

I personally know 8 men who married single mothers.

6 of them are divorced/separated because the wife's baby daddy was still giving her the d*ck. It was ugly.

One of them was accused by his 13yr old stepdaughter of inappropriate se*ual advances. He swears his innocence, but his wife left him. She didn't even have kids for him. After 11 years! No one in the church they attended believed him. 11 years of marriage just wasted.

The only man I know still married is a pastor. His wife is Tu Face idibia's baby mama.

If you can skillfully navigate the above risks, then go ahead. But realize this: marrying a single mom in Nigeria is a thankless job. All 7 of the above men swore never to 'rescue' a single mom. These were their words:

' She will NEVER love you. You will only be a wallet. And if the baby daddy attempts to have s*x with her or return, she won't hesitate to jump into his arms. She will always be his booty call.'

Dear friend, the man who fathered a child with her didn't rape her. He chose not to marry her. That child will cost you money. Why should you be the one to save her?

denobaba:
You claim that you have been with single women and they are great for you, so why haven't you married one yet.

unlike you guys, i dont have to marry a woman to be with her. we can be together for a few years, and then part ways and i go for another woman and she goes for another man. this has nothing to do with a singlemotherhood but all to do with my own desire in life. as i have always said on NL, i dont believe in marriage, and dont believe that you need to marry someone in order to be with them....the last single mother i was with, we lived together for almost 2 yrs.

It's very naive for you to say virginity is not a quality for a woman. On the contrary, it adds very much to a woman's sexual market value. It may be well be the case that you enjoy slack vagina, but you must accept that such a taste makes for an oddity in the general population of men. Make it make sense.

virginity is just that....a toto that hasnt been penetrated yet. now let us all remember that the value of women is not based on virginity... yes it ADDS to her value, but the value of a good woman certainly isnt founded on her virginity. a disrespectful/evil woman attached to an untouched coochie is worthless, same with a babe who had sex with dogs and ate shiit but is a virgin.... so as much as many men put value on virginity (to each their own), never forget that a woman's CHARACTER will have more weight than her untouched coochie!

MistarT:
Please candid opinions will be appreciated. Thanks.

Itwill do humanity great good, if we hear from marriage counsellors with wide range of experiences, thanks.

Don't do it!!! unless you've got a confirmation from God yourself directing you on such path.

MistarT:
Please candid opinions will be appreciated. Thanks.

Itwill do humanity great good, if we hear from marriage counsellors with wide range of experiences, thanks.

Brother mi, There are lot of cons o.
Okafor's law tins on point

Never marry a woman with kid..you go sooooo regret am ,if not now ,later.. ladies who can't stay with the father of their kids are very dangerous.. though not in all cases,but stay clear.they are mostly looking for who to transfer the bottled up anger of their former or ex failed relationship to..be careful o..I don jam one like that ,I dodged am sharp Sharp.dem many for my area..hmmm

Dimaya:
Let me repeat it again. Other men's experiences serve to teach us:
I personally know 8 men who married single mothers.
6 of them are divorced/separated because the wife's baby daddy was still giving her the d*ck. It was ugly.

the above has nothing to do with single mothers and all to do with your friends getting married to wh0res... and we all know there are many of these women out there....but hey, why dont you also tell us how many of your friends (who married single women) how it worked out for them, while you are at it?!?!?

One of them was accused by his 13yr old stepdaughter of inappropriate se*ual advances. He swears his innocence, but his wife left him. She didn't even have kids for him. After 11 years! No one in the church they attended believed him. 11 years of marriage just wasted.

here read this following thread about a great single supposedly virgin that just got married.... https://www.nairaland.com/7121886/man-sends-new-wife-back

The only man I know still married is a pastor. His wife is Tu Face idibia's baby mama.

oh, so some single mothers are actually good women, is it?!?!?!?

If you can skillfully navigate the above risks, then go ahead. But realize this: marrying a single mom in Nigeria is a thankless job. All 7 of the above men swore never to 'rescue' a single mom. These were their words:

"rescue"?!?!? so all of these men believed they were rescueing these single mothers, as if they were lost of something?!?! bwaaaaaaaaah!

' She will NEVER love you. You will only be a wallet. And if the baby daddy attempts to have s*x with her or return, she won't hesitate to jump into his arms. She will always be his booty call.'

insecure nonsense....

Dear friend, the man who fathered a child with her didn't rape her. He chose not to marry her. That child will cost you money. Why should you be the one to save her?

the above says a lot about your mindset on this issue...YOU actually believe that being with a single mother is like saving them in some way, as if they need you and/or your saving. you see, how you are quick to mention that she willingly had sex with someone else, as if that should be any of your concern....it shouldnt!!!!! but you are so focussed on what she did before she met you, that you cant even let go of that small issue. yes that woman had a life before she met you, MOST WOMEN HAVE (even single ones with no kids), and so what?! so what that a child will cost you money?! you knew that from the get go, so you can either accept her fully or walk away....nobody is forcing anybody to be with a single mother, is it?!? i dont get it. you are not saying anything VALID to this discussion...

Sometimes a single mother is the good girl that;

1. ...refuses to have an abortion
2.....will be grateful to you for taking away her shame
3.....already knows how to take care of children
4....is independent because she had to grow up fast
5.....will reward you by helping you build a solid future


Sometimes....

McDuncan:

[b][/b] But don't mistake me for a good Christian, I'm not. I have so many weaknesses, chief among them is 'an eye for an eye.'

Now this is probably the most beautifully constructed line I have read on Nairaland. It would win a Grammy if it were Liam Neeson acting it out. Such a poetic threat.

It’s okay for a single guy to marry a baby mama but it’s a crime to for a broke olosho to marry or date a broke or average guy.

For me I am looking for virgin come to think of baby mama .
Can’t continue left over

Pros
She is confirmed to be fatal, that is, she can burn children for you

She has the experience of murderhood, that is she can take good care of children

She is murderly mature in time of experience


Cons

She is not a Virginia

She is careless when it comes to sex

She cannot be trusted

She can still be seeing her baby papa

Her pussy might no longer hold your prick because of the burning of the baby

She is coming to your house with an extra baggage

marvy69:
Pls what about woman with two kids,can someone marry her if she is serious

O boy, no try am o. Ah, ah, which levels nah, women don scarce like that? Have some respect for yourself and your family.

MistarT:
Please candid opinions will be appreciated. Thanks.

Itwill do humanity great good, if we hear from marriage counsellors with wide range of experiences, thanks.

there is no pro but cons

Why would a sane man marry a single mother, and a black single mother for that matter

McDuncan:


Well, I'll have you know that she was betrothed and in the Jewish tradition being betrothed is considered married.

If you want biblical proof, I'll supply you. But don't mistake me for a good Christian, I'm not. I have so many weaknesses, chief among them is 'an eye for an eye.'

My brother marriage and betrothed are not the same even in the Jewish tradition. Betrothed is not married anywhere. Did being betrothed give Joseph the right to have sexual relations with her? She was unmarried as at her conception.That is a fact. I don't care about the implications of his statement or your reservations. Just stating facts