MrBrownJay1:


unlike you guys, i dont have to marry a woman to be with her. we can be together for a few years, and then part ways and i go for another woman and she goes for another man. this has nothing to do with a singlemotherhood but all to do with my own desire in life. as i have always said on NL, i dont believe in marriage, and dont believe that you need to marry someone in order to be with them....the last single mother i was with, we lived together for almost 2 yrs.



virginity is just that....a toto that has been penetrated yet. now let us all remember that the value of women is not based on virginity... yes it ADDS to her value, but the value of a good woman certainly isnt founded on her virginity. a disrespectful/evil woman attached to an untouched coochie is worthless, same with a babe who had sex with dogs and ate shiit but is a virgin.... so as much as many men put value on virginity (to each their own), never forget that a woman's CHARACTER will have more weight than her untouched coochie!

Thanks for the exposition, I almost thought you had a leg to stand on. You seem like the product of failed parenting. Better for you to stay out of marriage as it seems you have no set of values by which you live by.

It's not a surprise that your solace is with women less sought after and possibly with diminished sexual market value. Your role is akin to that of a vulture in the human ecosystem, recycling and eating dead matters. Enjoy it!

What if the child has become of age , like 15yrs n the father has taken him or her,d mother will nolonger have distraction any more with regards the fear of continuous lambering

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I am a widow and a single mother of two girls, this question had been giving me concern for the past three years, men don't like to marry single mothers rather than to sleep with them

Puskas:
Any attempt from you to discipline the child will not always go down well with her. She will be seeing it as a hatred for the child because the child is not yours

Lies from the pit of hell...don't say what you don't know

MrBrownJay1:


you have to understand that many men have misplaced egos thus they will always look down on a single mother because they will always believe that they are competing for her love with that child, not understanding that its two different things. some would even tell you that this woman will always love and/or go back to baby daddy bla bla bla (how insecure is that?)... also, i wont even talk on theo ones whose ego is so bruised, they only see her child as a confirmation that she had a life before she met them.

when will you ever talk like someone with half brain? You're either looking for attention or speaking from the abundance of stupidity.

Losers like you are often a shame to society and waste of male head count.

And that's another man's child.

Puskas:
She will end up loving and caring for her child more than you

MrBrownJay1:


i understand what you mean and your "preferences, but just because YOUR EGO IS MISPLACED, doesnt mean they are different. the sole reason that you look down on one and not the other, is because another man is still alive aka in the picture. why should that be a problem to you? its not like you are gonna adopt the child and make it your own. you are dating THE MOTHER and this child already has a father and doesnt need a new one. just focus on your woman etc and basta. yes, you may spend a little money on the child, big deal, so what?! its a small price to pay for having a happy family.

You're full of crap.
No single decision will impact your life more than the one you choose to be the mother of your children.
Nothing like ego being bruised or crap. It's vitally important to vet who becomes the mother of your children.

MrBrownJay1:


the issue of single mothers is very simple... if you have no problem with it, then meet them and enjoy your life with her....and if you have a problem with it, then dont date/marry single mothers, et voila!

a woman with a child shouldnt be an issue, unless that woman is a bad person....sadly, many people will automatically view a single mother as a bad person, while many others wont/dont, and will instead judge that woman on the go or her character. some single mothers are fantastic women who became single mothers because of a bad union, a death and/or an accident. you cant possibly judge a woman negatively on the sole act of having a child unmarried (unless of course, you are one of them religious holier than thou hypocrites who forgot that even JESUS mother was a single mother, lol!)

shut up!

.1 all the single mothers I know have serious personal issues

2. A single mother is an overused, broken, damaged commodity.

3. She made a bad decision and is incapable of sound judgement

4. Why the heck did a man abandon her and the baby?

5. Yes she won't stop fucckking the baby daddy

6. The baby daddy will always have unfettered access to her.

7 her innocence and illusions that make life sweet is lost to another man.

8 She will prioritize that child over any other she will have with you.

9. Her first priority is of the bastard child

10 her marrying you is primarily looking for a daddy figure and security for that child.


I don't know how old you are but you're easily one of the must stupid persons I have met off and on line

Puskas:
Run for your life

wickedness

Puskas:
She will end up loving and caring for her child more than you

God ll judge you

MistarT:
Hmm deep i am learning something, thank you.

Don't mind the wicked man. Your wife that you married as tear rubber can do the same thing.
If you love the woman, marry her. Her child is your child so you v no problem.

You expressed who exactly you are.

Toktee:
Just Bleep her and run.... anything she tell you as a reason for her been single is lies.





They are sadist.


They are really bittered.


They are manner less


They are wayward.


Most of them just take a break from active prostitution.

Puskas:
Any attempt from you to discipline the child will not always go down well with her. She will be seeing it as a hatred for the child because the child is not yours

Stereotypical person. How many babymamas v you married?
Where did you get your experience?
Movies? People you know?

MistarT:
Please candid opinions will be appreciated. Thanks.

Itwill do humanity great good, if we hear from marriage counsellors with wide range of experiences, thanks.

Most of them are always very arrogant, disrespectfuI, wayward, and ungrateful.
I dated one recently. She boldly told me to my face that she doesn't need love, she only needs a man who would take care of her and her child. And that she has no man in her life except her son despite we were dating at that time.
I often buy things for her boy. But could you imagine that one day I bought apples (4 pcs for 1k) and gave the boy, just for me to turn around and he was already using the apples to play football. When I tried to correct him, the mother got angry and confronted me that is it because of an ordinary apple that's why I am talking to her son. Omo, I was shocked. After that incident, I started withdrawing myself and finally left her.

Toktee:
Just Bleep her and run.... anything she tell you as a reason for her been single is lies.





They are sadist.


They are really bittered.


They are manner less


They are wayward.


Most of them just take a break from active prostitution.

A very irresponsible post. God ll judge you.

Kriss216:

Even a girl you married as a virgin will care for her child more than the husband.

The only problem with single mother;
The father of her child has 98.783% access to her kpekus.

That's for irresponsible single mothers.

satandeterrible:

Okay. Captain save-a-hoe.
White Knight in shining armour. Carry on.

Bros. If you v married before and your wife divorced you or you just v a baby mama.
Can a single lady marry you?
Knowing that you baby mama or ex wife may come back to you.
How ll you deal with such stigma from women?

Sweetplum:

Don't mind the wicked man. Your wife that you married as tear rubber can do the same thing.
If you love the woman, marry her. Her child is your child so you v no problem.

Big cap! Can you approve the same for your son or brothers? Please stop with the manipulation already, in general, single moms are a big NO for marriage.

A lady with a child is better than olosho with uncountable abortions. Love the lady and her child if you really want her. Most marriages have been hacked by pretences and selfishness. Marriage can never guarantee you happiness unless you bring happiness into it.

Most men that claim singlehood have so many unknown children born out of unprotected sex. Men are not holy. The devil you know is better than the pretender you don't know.

Love yourself and discover others.

Sweetplum:

Bros. If you v married before and your wife divorced you or you just v a baby mama.
Can a single lady marry you?
Knowing that you baby mama or ex wife may come back to you.
How ll you deal with such stigma from women?

I don't see the stigma at all. If a man is ready and has the resources, he is at complete liberty to approach any woman for marriage.

MrBrownJay1:


you made plenty of sense and then you wrote the above... are you saying that a woman who had a child for some dude and then they parted ways, will always let that man mount her?! do you see how insecure it is of you to claim the above?! even you yourself, some babe got pregnant for you and you didnt want the child, would you even want to have sex with her again?!?!? come on bro!

the above you wrote says a lot about the weak insecure mindset of some men...so because she had sex with someone before, you are so insecure that you believe that she can never love you and be faithful to you ever. that she will always be drawn to the bastard who may have abandoned/dropped her etc.... thats deep! no wonder men are running away from these single mothers!

you really don't know sh!t about single mothers.
Sit down and learn from the experienced elders

denobaba:
I don't see the stigma at all. If a man is ready and has the resources, he is at complete liberty to approach any woman for marriage.

The same should be applicable to a woman.
What do you mean by if he has the resources?
We v self made women too so no be only men dey add to marriage

denobaba:
Big cap! Can you approve the same for your son or brothers? Please stop with the manipulation already, in general, single moms are a big NO for marriage.

Yes I can approve it. I won't want my son to lose a good woman cos she's after 1.
I used the slang cos that's what they call babymamas.

Sweetplum:

Don't mind the wicked man. Your wife that you married as tear rubber can do the same thing.
If you love the woman, marry her. Her child is your child so you v no problem.

Are you a single mom? If you are, please do yourself a favour by being as realistic as possible. Add value to yourself and make sure that true companionship is the only element for which you may need a man for and rightly so.

I believe you are aware your market value is significantly low and the odds for marriage is definitely not in your favour.

Marrying a single mother is not the problem but having a heart to heart discussion and agreement on how it happened and what's her way forward.
I don't generalized we have some fantastic single mother who are far better than some glorified olosho calls single ladies.
It's a matter of understanding, humility and time to time discussion.

It all about choice(s)..


Some are gud while some are bad

But if u marry her.
Then u marry d child too.

cenaman:
The mumu is for what?

you have been widely advised!
stay away from whatever that has be clouded your reasoning.




It will definitely end in premium tears!

Basiljoe:

You're full of crap.
No single decision will impact your life more than the one you choose to be the mother of your children.
Nothing like ego being bruised or crap. It's vitally important to vet who becomes the mother of your children.

are you saying that a woman who has a child will automatically get a red card while one that hasnt (but could be fukcing dogs and eating shiiit will get a green card)?! what criteria would you use to automatically void a single mother?! is it because she had a life before she met you?!?!?
none of you are bringing anything VALID to this discussion as why a single mother is a bad person...

denobaba:
Thanks for the exposition, I almost thought you had a leg to stand on. You seem like the product of failed parenting. Better for you to stay out of marriage as it seems you have no set of values by which you live by.

It's not a surprise that your solace is with women less sought after and possibly with diminished sexual market value. Your role is akin to that of a vulture in the human ecosystem, recycling and eating dead matters. Enjoy it!

again, the above you wrote is EXACTLY what people write when they have nothing intelligent to bring to a discussion...unfortunately this is NL, none of you are bring ing a valid point to this discussion but BS misplaced ego and arrant nonsense about baby daddy this and your women possibly cheating on you in the future with him bla bla bla,,,you are all a bunch of crybabies with misplaced egos!

Fearlez:
shut up!
1 all the single mothers I know have serious personal issues... great for you, and every single mother i know dont
2. A single mother is an overused, broken, damaged commodity. you are entitled to your own opinion on single mothers...but its obvious you cant have unbiased opinion on this issue when believing the above
3. She made a bad decision and is incapable of sound judgement everybody has made a bad decision in their lives, stop pretending to play holier thn thou
4. Why the heck did a man abandon her and the baby? have you ever thought that maybe SHE abandoned the man for abusing her and/or their kid etc?!
5. Yes she won't stop fucckking the baby daddy what else do you see in your crystal ball??!?
6. The baby daddy will always have unfettered access to her. and how is that so bad again....?
7 her innocence and illusions that make life sweet is lost to another man. bwaaaaaah you are a comedian....she may not be a virgin but that doesnt mean that she is automatically spoiled goods!
8 She will prioritize that child over any other she will have with you. arrant insecure nonsense you must have seen again in your crystal ball
9. Her first priority is of the bastard child says who?! her priority is towards her family which YOU and that child would be part of.....stop showing your low self esteem insecurities
10 her marrying you is primarily looking for a daddy figure and security for that child.but the child ALREADY has a daddy and doesnt need you... but then again, its nice to have someone to share life with...everybody needs love
I don't know how old you are but you're easily one of the must stupid persons I have met off and on line dont insult me, you will NEVER meet me offline, we come from two different worlds

MrBrownJay1:


i understand what you mean and your "preferences, but just because YOUR EGO IS MISPLACED, doesnt mean they are different. the sole reason that you look down on one and not the other, is because another man is still alive aka in the picture. why should that be a problem to you? its not like you are gonna adopt the child and make it your own. you are dating THE MOTHER and this child already has a father and doesnt need a new one. just focus on your woman etc and basta. yes, you may spend a little money on the child, big deal, so what?! its a small price to pay for having a happy family.

Guy you must be a hopeless simp.

denobaba:
Are you a single mom? If you are, please do yourself a favour by being as realistic as possible. Add value to yourself and make sure that true companionship is the only element for which you may need a man for and rightly so.

I believe you are aware your market value is significantly low and the odds for marriage is definitely not in your favour.

I m not a single mom. I v values allover & I m still adding to myself

MrBrownJay1:


the issue of single mothers is very simple... if you have no problem with it, then meet them and enjoy your life with her....and if you have a problem with it, then dont date/marry single mothers, et voila!

a woman with a child shouldnt be an issue, unless that woman is a bad person....sadly, many people will automatically view a single mother as a bad person, while many others wont/dont, and will instead judge that woman on the go or her character. some single mothers are fantastic women who became single mothers because of a bad union, a death and/or an accident. you cant possibly judge a woman negatively on the sole act of having a child unmarried (unless of course, you are one of them religious holier than thou hypocrites who forgot that even JESUS mother was a single mother, lol!)

You're either a bitter single mother hiding under a male moniker or you currently have sister(s) that are bitter single mother (s)

Belafonte:
Marrying a single mother is like arriving at a party after everyone has left and cleaning up the mess they left behind

Bro you are a true son of your father.