Sweetplum:

The same should be applicable to a woman.
What do you mean by if he has the resources?
We v self made women too so no be only men dey add to marriage

Since when did women start approaching men for marriage? Do you now pay groom price? The same can never apply for men and women whether you choose to agree or not.

MrBrownJay1:


are you saying that a woman who has a child will automatically get a red card while one that hasnt (but could be fukcing dogs and eating shiiit will get a green card)?! what criteria would you use to automatically void a single mother?! is it because she had a life before she met you?!?!?
none of you are bringing anything VALID to this discussion as why a single mother is a bad person...




again, the above you wrote is EXACTLY what people write when they have nothing intelligent to bring to a discussion...unfortunately this is NL, none of you are bring ing a valid point to this discussion but BS misplaced ego and arrant nonsense about baby daddy this and your women possibly cheating on you in the future with him bla bla bla,,,you are all a bunch of crybabies with misplaced egos!

what a waste of vagina fluid.

You're organically, irrevocably damaged.

Saddest part is that women will eventually spit on you.

What a dullard.

Your mother raised you so singularly and so well

MrBrownJay1:


i understand what you mean and your "preferences, but just because YOUR EGO IS MISPLACED, doesnt mean they are different. the sole reason that you look down on one and not the other, is because another man is still alive aka in the picture. why should that be a problem to you? its not like you are gonna adopt the child and make it your own. you are dating THE MOTHER and this child already has a father and doesnt need a new one. just focus on your woman etc and basta. yes, you may spend a little money on the child, big deal, so what?! its a small price to pay for having a happy family.

I have been vindicated
Mrs-MrBrownjay

Sweetplum:

Yes I can approve it. I won't want my son to lose a good woman cos she's after 1.
I used the slang cos that's what they call babymamas.

Ok, go ahead then and recommend them to your kinsmen. Good luck with that. Lols!

cenaman:
because they are single mothers, they should remain single forever isn't it?

Yes! Unless if their first husband is dead or a mad man.

denobaba:
Since when did women start approaching men for marriage? Do you now pay groom price? The same can never apply for men and women whether you choose to agree or not.

Women don't approach men. But if you are a man with child before coming to marry a single lady. I v the right to reject you if I reason like puskas, satandererrible, Toktee and other carnal boys on this thread.
Whatever a man can do, a woman ll do better.
We are not liabilities.

UncleKoboko:
You're either a bitter single mother hiding under a male moniker or you currently have sister(s) that are bitter single mother (s)

you see....NONE of you are bringing anything valid to this discussion, and instead are just focussing on rubbish about me because a man (with no sistas) brought a valid point to this discussion...now put your misplaced ego aside and answer the damn question:
APART FROM THE YEYE INSECURE BS THAT MOST OF YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT, WHAT IS SO WRONG ABOUT A SINGLE MOTHER?!

now focus on that instead of quoting me about nonsense!

denobaba:
Ok, go ahead then and recommend them to your kinsmen. Good luck with that. Lols!

Thanks. You too recommend to your kinsmen that they should stop discriminating against single babymamas.
Life happens to all of us.

Sweetplum:

I m not a single mom. I v values allover & I m still adding to myself

You sound like one. Maybe the topic is close to home for you in some way, but you need to stop lying and manipulating gullible people.

Marriage to single moms should be a big NO in a very general sense.

Sweetplum:

Thanks. You too recommend to your kinsmen that they should stop discriminating against single babymamas.
Life happens to all of us.

We don't discriminate here, but I'll take that, thanks.

Puskas:
She will end up loving and caring for her child more than you

I don't completely agree with you

Pharaohny:





Naaa only get sense abeg
Others just decided to give baseless and Childish opinions base on their egomaniac brainwashed capacity
You'll live long

You and the guy you quoted, una two, be mumu

MistarT:
Hmmm, this one is strong bro.

Nah no think am... Just love d child as much as u love d mom...

However what's d status of d baby's dad?

Fearlez:
what a waste of vagina fluid.
You're organically, irrevocably damaged.
Saddest part is that women will eventually spit on you.
What a dullard.
Your mother raised you so singularly and so well

i really do feel sorry for some NLers and/or Nigeria when a man has an opinion, and the above is the 1st thing that someone think of posting. so in a way, you expect me to be like you, you expect me to think like you, and if you are miserable in your life, then i should be too, abi?!

we are having a discussion here, we are maturely debatting about a subject....and if the above is the best you can bring to that mature discussion , then no wonder Nigeria as a country is doomed!

Never ever!

I repeat, NEVER EVER TRY IT, especially if their first husband is still alive.


You can just manage a widower if you're deeply in love, she is deeply in love, she has a job, she has good personality and she can also still give you your own children.

MrBrownJay1:


are you saying that a woman who has a child will automatically get a red card while one that hasnt (but could be fukcing dogs and eating shiiit will get a green card)?! what criteria would you use to automatically void a single mother?! is it because she had a life before she met you?!?!?
none of you are bringing anything VALID to this discussion as why a single mother is a bad person...




again, the above you wrote is EXACTLY what people write when they have nothing intelligent to bring to a discussion...unfortunately this is NL, none of you are bring ing a valid point to this discussion but BS misplaced ego and arrant nonsense about baby daddy this and your women possibly cheating on you in the future with him bla bla bla,,,you are all a bunch of crybabies with misplaced egos!

You are a Blue-pilled beta male who doesn't know jackshit or understands a woman’s dualistic mating strategy (if you did you wouldn't be saying this crap).

A potential father needs to understand the circumstance in which women’s never ending quest to satisfy their Hypergamous doubt places them in at various phases of their maturity. For Red Pill men, a lot gets made of ‘vetting’ women for personal attributes and character to make them contenders for being the mother of their children. While this is important, I can’t stress enough how important it is to account for the Hypergamous choices women make prior to his consideration – as well as the consequences she should be held accountable for, yet attempts to avoid by his obligated graces.
If knowing is half the battle, taking action is the other half. — Rational Male.

Vetting a woman’s sexual past is not just your prerogative, but an absolute imperative to the health of any future relationship you hope to have with her. When you consider the significant risks you are essentially setting yourself up for, risks no woman can ever acknowledge, empathize with or appreciate, the single most important thing you can do is vet her according to that woman’s sexual past. – Rational Male.

Sex is the glue that holds relationships together. It’s the height of irony that a woman would place so high a priority on her own sexual experiences while in her sexual market value’s peak yet completely disqualify that importance when she gets to the phase where it becomes a liability to her. As a man it is vitally important for you to know whether you’ll be her apex Alpha lover, somone in between, or if your burden of performance will be measured against the ghosts of Alpha men from her sexual past – and all while you endure the stresses and joys of raising children with her.

Alpha Widows

As an aside here, I should add that I’m completely aware of the studies indicating a woman’s capacity to bond monogamously is inversely proportionate to the number of sexual partners she’s experienced prior to monogamy. I wont argue the merit of that concept, but I also don’t think this fully encompasses the dynamic. I say this because even one prior lover (or even unrequited obsession of hers) can be Alpha enough to upset that bonded monogamous balance.
These then are the Alpha Widows – women so significantly impacted by a former Alpha (or perceptually so) lover that she’s left with an emotional imprint that even the most dutiful, loving Beta-provider can never compete with. A woman doesn’t have to have been an archetypal ‘slut’ in order to have difficulty in pair bonded monogamy. — Rational Male.

Sweetplum:

Women don't approach men. But if you are a man with child before coming to marry a single lady. I v the right to reject you if I reason like puskas, satandererrible, Toktee and other carnal boys on this thread.
Whatever a man can do, a woman ll do better.
We are not liabilities.

Of course, women are well within their rights to accept or decline a man's proposal. Men have been dealing with female rejection from the beginning of time, it's infact women who can't stand rejection.

The fact remains that men are judged by their ability to provide before anything else. As long as a man is financially capable, with or without kids, women will not mind marriage with him. From Solomon in the days of old to the Alafin of Oyo in modern times, we have seen too many of these examples.

MrBrownJay1:


you see....NONE of you are bringing anything valid to this discussion, and instead are just focussing on rubbish about me because a man (with no sistas) brought a valid point to this discussion...now put your misplaced ego aside and answer the damn question:
APART FROM THE YEYE INSECURE BS THAT MOST OF YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT, WHAT IS SO WRONG ABOUT A SINGLE MOTHER?!

now focus on that instead of quoting me about nonsense!

I won't waste my time educating a stubborn hypocrite and impostor.

Fearlez:
shut up!

.1 all the single mothers I know have serious personal issues

2. A single mother is an overused, broken, damaged commodity.

3. She made a bad decision and is incapable of sound judgement

4. Why the heck did a man abandon her and the baby?

5. Yes she won't stop fucckking the baby daddy

6. The baby daddy will always have unfettered access to her.

7 her innocence and illusions that make life sweet is lost to another man.

8 She will prioritize that child over any other she will have with you.

9. Her first priority is of the bastard child

10 her marrying you is primarily looking for a daddy figure and security for that child.


I don't know how old you are but you're easily one of the must stupid persons I have met off and on line

That guy is very foolish. Don't waste your precious time talking to him.

BRATISLAVA:
Just marry her and stop asking around.

Small men here will tell you they are high value men who will only have a virgin, or this and that type of woman, yet the women around them are all single mothers so they will certainly end up with them. You don't have the clay to make any woman, so marry the one you see before you, and stop your choosiness. Otherwise you will end up an old bachelor at Shiloh while others men who aren't aschoosy would've had their families settled down.

Marry her and quit the opinion seeking.

Lol
Or deh
No one will love you again...
No sane one will marry you again...

Gift those "sweet" advice to your brothers and males in your family, THEY NEED IT MORE

MrBrownJay1:


i really do feel sorry for some NLers when, a man has an opinion, and the above is the 1st thing that someone think of posting. so in a way, you expect me to be like you, you expect me to think like you, and if you are miserable in your life, then i should be too, abi?!

we are having a discussion here, we are maturely debatting about a subject....and if the above is the best you can bring to that mature discussion , then no wonder Nigeria as a country is doomed!

let me slay the dragon of stupidity in your tiny brain; there's no discussion here! we're not having a debate here. This isn't banter.

You're manifesting your mental frailty and psychological porosity and your people-pleasing life that has no form of standards or rules.

The worst thing about it all is that you actually believe you're making sense.

There's a reason fathers and mothers hold their daughters firmly to not get pregnant outside wedlock.

But a brain damaged loafer like you thlnks he has something to say. Confused, godless oaf!

Even most girls here recognise you for who you are; a baseless, standard-less, inferior male completely lacking in self-esteem and self-value.

Human vulture!

Basiljoe:

You are a Blue-pilled beta male who doesn't know jackshit or understands a woman’s dualistic mating strategy (if you did you wouldn't be saying this crap).

A potential father needs to understand the circumstance in which women’s never ending quest to satisfy their Hypergamous doubt places them in at various phases of their maturity. For Red Pill men, a lot gets made of ‘vetting’ women for personal attributes and character to make them contenders for being the mother of their children. While this is important, I can’t stress enough how important it is to account for the Hypergamous choices women make prior to his consideration – as well as the consequences she should be held accountable for, yet attempts to avoid by his obligated graces.
If knowing is half the battle, taking action is the other half. — Rational Male.

Vetting a woman’s sexual past is not just your prerogative, but an absolute imperative to the health of any future relationship you hope to have with her. When you consider the significant risks you are essentially setting yourself up for, risks no woman can ever acknowledge, empathize with or appreciate, the single most important thing you can do is vet her according to that woman’s sexual past. – Rational Male.

Sex is the glue that holds relationships together. It’s the height of irony that a woman would place so high a priority on her own sexual experiences while in her sexual market value’s peak yet completely disqualify that importance when she gets to the phase where it becomes a liability to her. As a man it is vitally important for you to know whether you’ll be her apex Alpha lover, somone in between, or if your burden of performance will be measured against the ghosts of Alpha men from her sexual past – and all while you endure the stresses and joys of raising children with her.

Alpha Widows

As an aside here, I should add that I’m completely aware of the studies indicating a woman’s capacity to bond monogamously is inversely proportionate to the number of sexual partners she’s experienced prior to monogamy. I wont argue the merit of that concept, but I also don’t think this fully encompasses the dynamic. I say this because even one prior lover (or even unrequited obsession of hers) can be Alpha enough to upset that bonded monogamous balance.
These then are the Alpha Widows – women so significantly impacted by a former Alpha (or perceptually so) lover that she’s left with an emotional imprint that even the most dutiful, loving Beta-provider can never compete with. A woman doesn’t have to have been an archetypal ‘slut’ in order to have difficulty in pair bonded monogamy. — Rational Male.

with all due respect, the above is not only a pile of arrant gibberish nonsense....but it further makes me believe that you are all a bunch of low self esteem insecure men who jump on the IFs and MAYBEs that could happen with a single mother (which also could happen with other women) but will use her sexual past as a guilty stamp, as if single women have automatically a better sexual past (when we know that abortion is rampant in 9ja as well as dog fukcing and shiiit eating)

MrBrownJay1:


i really do feel sorry for some NLers and/or Nigeria when a man has an opinion, and the above is the 1st thing that someone think of posting. so in a way, you expect me to be like you, you expect me to think like you, and if you are miserable in your life, then i should be too, abi?!

we are having a discussion here, we are maturely debatting about a subject....and if the above is the best you can bring to that mature discussion , then no wonder Nigeria as a country is doomed!

You are the one who sound miserable. If I see you for real life eh, na bottle wey I go use open your head. Very useless idiot.

denobaba:
You sound like one. Maybe the topic is close to home for you in some way, but you need to stop lying and manipulating gullible people.

Marriage to single moms should be a big NO in a very general sense.

Marriage to single dad is dangerous according to your school of thought.
I m not married neither do I v a child yet. I dislike this gender macho towards men. Men are supposed to be our protector but they are the ones discriminating

justscorchone:
I'm afraid to admit it but this post just shows how many juvenile men are in this forum.

Lol
Or deh
Brother Mrs ancient of the days

MrBrownJay1:


with all due respect, the above is not only a pile of arrant gibberish nonsense....but it further makes me believe that you are all a bunch of low self esteem insecure men who jump on the IFs and MAYBEs that could happen with a single mother (which also could happen with other women) but will use her sexual past as a guilty stamp, as if single women have automatically a better sexual past (when we know that abortion is rampant in 9ja as well as dog fukcing and shiiit eating)

Lmao. You're a High self esteemed beta male.

denobaba:
We don't discriminate here, but I'll take that, thanks.

Your response is complete discrimination

Everything depends on the lady. Depending on her character, it could be a curse OR it could be a huge blessing in disguise. In all honesty, you fare a better chance of success if the father is nowhere in the picture.
With your help, you don’t know who that child will grow up to be.
Take this for example:
A single man with no kids married Shaquille O’Neal’s mum when he was a small child. Today, Shaq is worth $400 million and has never given his biological father a penny but his step-dad is living a millionaire’s life.

denobaba:
Of course, women are well within their rights to accept or decline a man's proposal. Men have been dealing with female rejection from the beginning of time, it's infact women who can't stand rejection.

The fact remains that men are judged by their ability to provide before anything else. As long as a man is financially capable, with or without kids, women will not mind marriage with him. From Solomon in the days of old to the Alafin of Oyo in modern times, we have seen too many of these examples.

Not all women ll do that.

UncleKoboko:

Lol
Or deh
No one will love you again...
No sane one will marry you again...

Gift those "sweet" advice to your brothers and males in your family, THEY NEED IT MORE

Do you think I have any or care about such things?

Or deh
No one will love you again...
No sane one will marry you again...

Enjoy your advice for you, your sisters and females in your family. THEY NEED IT MORE!

Fearlez:
let me slay the dragon of stupidity in your tiny brain; there's no discussion here! we're not having a debate here. This isn't banter.
You're manifesting your mental frailty and psychological porosity and you're people l-pleasing life that has no form of standards or rules.
The worst thing about it all is that you actually believe you're making sense.
There's a reason fathers and mothers hold their daughters firmly to not get pregnant outside wedlock.
But a brain damaged, loafer like you thlnks he has something to say. Confused, godless oaf!
Even most girls here recognise you for who you are; a baseless, standard-less, inferior male completely lacking in self-esteem and self-value.
Human vulture!

as i have said countless of times, when people have nothing intelligent to say, they start the petty irrelevant useless insults... as if anyone on NL gives a fukc what other NLers think of them as a person. i guess you must be here for popularity contest, i aint!

frozen70:


What goes around comes around
If you are a single father, are you forbidden to get a woman

there is really no thing like a single father


children bear their fathers' name and not their mothers'