Stats: 3,191,970 members, 7,946,204 topics. Date: Wednesday, 11 September 2024 at 02:21 PM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Romance / Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... (8172 Views)
Lady Who Used To Be The Ugliest Girl In School Shares Her Transformation Journey / Couple Who Met In Primary School Got Married & Have A Kid Who Now Attends Same / This Lady's Hips Enlargement From 150 To 170 Has Got People Talking (Photos) (2) (3) (4)
(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (Reply) (Go Down)
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by Belafonte(m): 11:54am On May 25, 2022 |
1 Like |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by Belafonte(m): 11:57am On May 25, 2022 |
InfinityFabric: You're blessed bro 1 Like |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by Madmazel99(m): 12:26pm On May 25, 2022 |
Maverick777:my problem with this is, why will you want to marry someone that cut off her baby daddy completely for some excuses? The man wants to be in the little girl's life but your exam doesn't want it. That's a serious red flag for me. |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by Maverick777: 12:33pm On May 25, 2022 |
Madmazel99:someone lied to a lady about his marital status and got her pregnant! for me, that's evil enough.. No sane young lady would want to be a 2nd wife.. |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by samafooo: 12:54pm On May 25, 2022 |
The truth is you are not the girl father, no matter what you do. Just marry the mother and treat her daughter well. |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by realestate99: 1:24pm On May 25, 2022 |
Maverick777:.....And a sane man here is ready to be a second husband!!!! What an irony. The danger of a one sided story is enormous, have you confirmed from the other side? Don't dilute your peace of mind with unwarranted baggages, till you die, you can not break the bond between that lady and her baby daddy likewise the kid. Why would you subject yourself to a lifetime of emotional torture? Are single ladies extinct? Try and reconsider your stance on this issue. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by Maverick777: 1:45pm On May 25, 2022 |
realestate99:read to understand and not with bias to castigate. a kid is not my idea of an 'unwanted baggage' I never said she was at any point married or even engaged.. she is very much single sir! just a victim of circumstance.. as for confirming from the other side, that's where you got it 100% correct! thanks for your input. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by meobizy(f): 2:58pm On May 25, 2022 |
If you’re thinking twice then you’re on the right track. No one needs to advice you. |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by Emmanuel909090: 3:53pm On May 25, 2022 |
Hooked, love is all that matters |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by lawrenzooo: 5:46pm On May 25, 2022 |
Its heart warming to see a young man in love with a single mother. Some of this ladies are just victims of circumstance and shouldnt be treated as a pariah for making mistakes. We all make mistakes after all. Having said that, truth is women are emotional and have the tendency to be bais when telling a story. I doubt if you can legally adopt the child without the fathers consent. You love the lady marry her if you want to, leave the girl to continue with her current name. Being a father is not just about the name am sure if she gets fatherly love from you she would accord you the respect of a father even in the years after. Wish you luck. |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by drnoel: 10:12pm On May 25, 2022 |
Maverick777: You won't be marrying the mother but the girl. The person you have horses to burn is with her,..the girl. She is the one you talk to. If you say you have done all the suggested then you are good to go. Means you should be able to tell when she is being honest with you or not. Give it time, nothing is hidden under the sun. The story always come out at the end. Cheers! |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by drnoel: 10:14pm On May 25, 2022 |
lawrenzooo:It makes sense for him to adopt the child. Life is to short so why wait. |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by lawrenzooo: 10:27pm On May 25, 2022 |
drnoel:Believe me no Judge would issue you an adoption order without the consent of the father knowing fully well that the father of the child is alive. 1 Like |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by drnoel: 5:16am On May 26, 2022 |
lawrenzooo:I don't know adoption proceedings but I know people that adopted children and the child's father is still alive. I believe you just have to prove that the father has been away since birth and wants no contact with the child |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by Maverick777: 8:54am On May 26, 2022 |
lawrenzooo:May wisdom never depart you.. |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by lawrenzooo: 9:24am On May 26, 2022 |
Maverick777:Amen! Thank you. |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by MJBOLT: 9:43am On May 26, 2022 |
Dem dey tell the op,he dey do like say him head hot ![]() Go ahead,na only you go face the wahala. 1 Like |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by ZirdoRoray(m): 10:07am On May 26, 2022 |
My question is why do you think you don't deserve better? Is she the best woman around? Do you think, she is telling you the whole truth? You have struggled to get to where you are today but instead of getting the standard thing done, you want a woman who has a kid from another man because of love. What is wrong in having a woman that has higher value? Do you think she is humble because she naturally is or because of the condition she finds herself in? Do you know her body counts and her past? What if the real truth later comes out tomorrow, can you bear it? What if for certain reasons she doesn't conceive again, can you accept that kid as your own and not look for and another woman? My brother Love is not bigger than reality. Love is sweet and good but it is subject to reality. Love cannot exist without logic. Let both your heart and brain take the decision. You have not wronged her for wanting something different, if your sons and daughters all brought home single mothers and fathers later in life for marriage, can you bear it? Mr. Man, why can't you go for something else. Women have a knack for judgement of character. The fact that she is poor judgement of character of who impregnated her, says alot . She is not emotionally intelligent. Do you want a woman with poor intuition to be the mother of your kids? A man value judged by his ability to provide, a woman's value is judged by her level of chatisity. It may not be her fault but that doesn't men she has the same value has a woman who has no kid. Would she be with you if you if you had nothing? She is better of with someone else who has a kid. Your blood is not flowing through that child, but you will spend on the child as much as yours even when the father is alive. Should every irresponsible man out there be impregnating women and abandoning them for 'simps' like you to come and recuse them? Look at how dysfunctional African-Americans societies are today because people who bring kids to this world are not held accountable for their actions. She that woman is not doing you a favour by bringing such into your house. Wifing her means you're ready for what ever gabbage comes later. 3 Likes |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by Fathersdesire(f): 1:14pm On May 26, 2022 |
Maverick777: That was me trying to be a savage nairalander ![]() You're welcome ![]() |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by drnoel: 2:05pm On May 26, 2022 |
Favfables1: He doesn't need the father's consent. Some Nigerian men are just plainly irresponsible |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by skj1377(m): 3:14pm On May 26, 2022 |
Did you not see single ladies. Why date lady with child while you Dont have such issues. You have low self-worth. Enjoy your avoidable issues. Some issues are avoidable. |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by Maverick777: 10:19am On May 30, 2022 |
ZirdoRoray:you were actually making a lot of sense till your penultimate paragraph. I've said time and time again, the word SIMP is thoroughly abused here on nairaland, look up your lexicon and carefully diffuse the actual meaning. for what its worth, I appreciate your input sir! |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by Cokahot: 10:30am On May 30, 2022 |
Single parent are bitter,toxic and always claim to be right always. Better run,stupid man. So no single girls in warri.na the one wey don born. U like left overs .idio t 1 Like |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by Maverick777: 10:30am On May 30, 2022 |
skj1377:first of all, your level of English comprehension is extremely low. So, to you, having a child automatic alters a lady's marital status yeah? oga, she's very much single! secondly, every one has a past and has made mistakes, your so called 'single lady' is most likely to have had tons of abortions and might not even have a womb. so why judge someone who was honest enough to avoid murder? as for having a low self worth, when you grow up you'd understand there's much more to choosing a wife than the outward appearance(which would eventually wear out sooner rather than later). peace of mind is key! know this, know peace... as you were... 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by Maverick777: 10:34am On May 30, 2022 |
Cokahot:your post simply reveals you're very much a juvenile. |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by mapist(m): 11:04am On May 30, 2022 |
Creamypie: Simple as ABC! You are an 8.5/10 guy and you want to settle for a baby mama. It obviously shows you aint up to 7/10 up there, maybe 8.5/10 in terms of possessions. 2 Likes |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by frozen70(f): 11:19am On May 30, 2022 |
Maverick777: Let this child issues not be an obstacle on this relationship Love the girl as you have said and don't adopt that child to bear your name If it comes to the worst let the child bear her own maiden name Yes that's very important so that when her father comes both of them will argue that Adopt her in your heart to be a father to the child Take care of her and she will rather see you as the dad while she grows Whatever happens between she and her ex is not something to worry about so far her family will prove that he was never married to her no pay bride price was paid on her by the man |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by skj1377(m): 2:49pm On May 30, 2022 |
Am married with 2 kids. A single lady with a child is an " avoidable problem",world over!. When I was single I detested such ladies. firstly, the child baggage secondly she has done 9 months inclusive of several abortions prior before the so called unfortunate incident. Thirdly, your first child with her will not be her first and that brings me to the fourth reason. If you eventually become rich and have properties and unfortunately you pass on unexpectedly there is a high tendency that her first child; who will be far older than yours, will con them off their wealth just like the child's father did to the mother before you foolishly came along. Your not far sighted you Dont think strategically . stop parading love as the reason to settle for rubbish arrangement relationship. Besides, there is condom and also emergency contraceptives how did she foolishly get pregnant without proper contract with documentation. She probably did it for blackberry, iPhone or money now she ended up with a child and you want to help clean her mess. That issue has no excuse. Maverick777: 1 Like |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by Maverick777: 3:54pm On May 30, 2022 |
[ |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by Maverick777: 3:56pm On May 30, 2022 |
skj1377:thor=skj.[/quote] why can't you people here, drive home your points without using foul language? would you be able to dare that on ground? I sincerely doubt the fact you're married, talk more of having 2 issues... you speak with extreme naivety, one would think you're merely a toddler. if fatherhood couldn't bring you wisdom, then bro, you're in serious trouble.. there's much more to life than property acquisition and what not, besides, I wouldn't raise kids who would even depend on any thing from my estate.. life is already complex enough, why complicate it further with afterlife thoughts?? P.s- I'm wealthy and that's me putting it mildly. (Modify) (Quote) (Report) (Share) |
Re: Do I Go For This Lady Who Already Has A Kid? Your Thoughts... by skj1377(m): 8:03pm On May 30, 2022 |
Settle for what you deserve Or what you fall in love with. Then aftwards continue with your expected marital challenges. Some people learn the hard way . Maverick777: 1 Like |
(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (Reply)
Your First Time Experience At Toasting (wooing) Or Being Toasted? / How Do You Deal With A Freaking-Out Spouse/Partner? / You See This Beautiful Lady & Lots Of Cash Lying On The Floor What Will You Do
Viewing this topic: 1 guest(s)
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 90 |