Arkhanmu:
I married my wife in Kaduna two years ago. During those period we were dating, we were very much apart due to distance. She stayed in Kaduna while I worked in Lagos.

During few times of my personal meeting before our wedding, I noticed huge communication between her and this man. I called her attention to it but she just waived it aside saying they are just friends as Ex (stuff). She joined me up in Lagos after the marriage but the communication between them still continued.

This is a woman I have sacrificed so much for in my life by providing her basics need with the children even though not huge like that. She told me the Ex is a Doctor and they have nice experience together while dating back then. I have adviced even begged her to stop this communication as it it very hurtful and insulting to my personality but she won't stop. Instead she secretly calls and requests money from this guy in almost different occasions.


she is still sharing her soul and body with the two of you. Walk away from her(pain) and get your life back on course. You can still make it.

At a point in time in the past when she went to Kaduna to get her transfer from work place to Lagos, she still visit the guy even as she is heavily pregnant that time. I was able to get the idea through her bank account statement when the same guy send her money for what business I don't understand. It is almost 2 years of our marriage now, I am starting to regret why I marry her initially even as I noticed much difference between us; she is from Southern Kaduna while am from Ibadan.

I wish I have married my tribe whom I can easily understand. Just yesterday night I see another 4k alert from the same guy to my wife. I am really pained though I have not confront her. See guys, I have 2 boys, twin, I take care of them, buy food and all.

Though my work is not going fine but I try my best to make her happy but it seems she is not built for me. I don't really know what is going on again in my life as I am heartbroken.

Maybe the man is even in Lagos most times self. Many things are just running through my mind.

Theo51:
My ex that is married with 3kids does ask me for money too. Honestly, If I say I'm comfortable with such an act from her then I lieee.
However, I have managed to draw a line in that my communication with her no dey pass "How are you & family"? " How is Life"? Shelinah. And I'm also happy she doesn't stress the conversation whenever she called.

Yankee101:


I have the means to cater for my household

zomby:


U didn’t answer the question.

There are a few dudes out there that will break down your “means” into dime and nickel…and then make your wife sing sweet melody in the middle of the night.
Be careful bro!

burritto:
That woman will frustrate the sh!t outta you.

I don’t understand how you still went ahead to marry a woman like that even though you saw all the signs.

Anyways you were manipulated and you’ll spend the rest of your life regretting. Your cup of tea anyways.

Hopefully in the next ten years, you’ll become a philosopher, replying questions with philosophical answers.

You might even start speaking in parables soon (If u go to sleep with an itching anus, u are sure to wake up with smelly fingers)

Next time get sense, that’s if there’ll be any next time.

zomby:


U didn’t answer the question.

There are a few dudes out there that will break down your “means” into dime and nickel…and then make your wife sing sweet melody in the middle of the night.
Be careful bro!

Arkhanmu:
I married my wife in Kaduna two years ago. During those period we were dating, we were very much apart due to distance. She stayed in Kaduna while I worked in Lagos.

During few times of my personal meeting before our wedding, I noticed huge communication between her and this man. I called her attention to it but she just waived it aside saying they are just friends as Ex (stuff). She joined me up in Lagos after the marriage but the communication between them still continued.

This is a woman I have sacrificed so much for in my life by providing her basics need with the children even though not huge like that. She told me the Ex is a Doctor and they have nice experience together while dating back then. I have adviced even begged her to stop this communication as it it very hurtful and insulting to my personality but she won't stop. Instead she secretly calls and requests money from this guy in almost different occasions.

At a point in time in the past when she went to Kaduna to get her transfer from work place to Lagos, she still visit the guy even as she is heavily pregnant that time. I was able to get the idea through her bank account statement when the same guy send her money for what business I don't understand. It is almost 2 years of our marriage now, I am starting to regret why I marry her initially even as I noticed much difference between us; she is from Southern Kaduna while am from Ibadan.

I wish I have married my tribe whom I can easily understand. Just yesterday night I see another 4k alert from the same guy to my wife. I am really pained though I have not confront her. See guys, I have 2 boys, twin, I take care of them, buy food and all.

Though my work is not going fine but I try my best to make her happy but it seems she is not built for me. I don't really know what is going on again in my life as I am heartbroken.

Maybe the man is even in Lagos most times self. Many things are just running through my mind.

Arkhanmu:
Our relationship is long distance one.We rarely see most times.Maybe 4 times in a year,but when we do see,I check all these messages and signs and she promise to stop.But I wish I can turn back the hand of time.Well we do communicate everyday when we are dating back then.

Kobojunkie:
Then why did they bother moving out of their parents homes when they got married. Since family ought to be involved, they should have simply lived in the same house with family so their moms and dads can continue monitoring their lives that way too.

ufotunang:
Why did the doctor marry her if they are in love with each other...than causing problem in another person marriage

olamoses75:
The pregnancy belongs to the other guy the money you saw in her account from the guy is for ante natal and all......u fit vex if you no like wetin I yarn.

kapelvej:
the money is for ante natal ?. Guy looks like one woman do do you strong thing

endy69:
Why did they have to involve their families in the marriage ritual? They should had done it themselves. African culture recognizes the role families play in marriage, bible does same and I can’t speak for Quran because I don’t ready Quran. After marriage, you can’t just keep living on your own because you are married. There would be situations that may overwhelm you and you will either need your wife’s family or yours

zahrach:
This shit happened to me bro
I dated a lady we agreed to marry due then I was finercially down I still dey broke then
Suddenly this lady accepted a marriage proposal to another man and. Was acting funny to tell me
she has even fixed the marriage date and everything
She later sumon courage to tell me
She said that she is sorry
That someone in there church propose to her blalabla
I said ok since it's the man u want ur free to go
Due I fine out that she doesn't actually love the man fully
Becouse upon all the proposal she still come to my house for sex and all that
So I started withdrawing my self from her
She noticed she started crying that I wan to leave her
She beg me not to leave her even if she marry the man
I said ok I will think about
Relocated from my area to another place without telling her
I blocked her phone and the rest baba
This girl use another phone to call me
Till date nothing changed

Women are moved by the achievement of a man
And good sex too
Not just money aspect becouse the husband is reacher than me which am sure
So I fine out that wat is bringing her close to me is sex not just money

So oga u need to do something oo
Becouse I get bet u that man still the sleep with ur wife
She can't deny it

UjuJoan2:

<sub>Well, just because you do that doesn’t make it right. Can you honestly say that your husband is � comfortable with your association with your ex? And his wife is completely okay with your relationship with her husband?

While I will not entirely rule out the possibility that ex’s can actually stay friends with no hidden agenda, I definitely believe it’s a thin line between friendship and inappropriate associations.

You cannot just erase history. Once there was love between you guys and that love can almost totally be rekindled. It’s like playing with fire. What happens when your husband upsets you and his wife upsets him and you both need a shoulder to cry on ���

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not enemies with my ex, but I won’t exactly call us “friends”. One time I had a child and he requested for my account details to send something for the baby but I turned him down. I just felt if anyone should be buying my baby gifts it should be the father, not the man I used to sleep with. And yes, I know it sounds silly but I like drawing clear lines when it comes to relationships. If I’m taking money from you, then trust me, I’m not seeing you as just a friend.

Now back to the original post. In your case your borrow and pay back, but here the ex sends her money constantly. Clearly they both completely different things. A man doesn’t just send a woman money constantly out of the goodness of this heart. Maybe she cried to him claiming to be in desperate need, which in itself is a betrayal to her husband.

This is why I always say marry a rich man. If you are a man, don’t marry broke. To avoid your wife disgracing your and herself!</sub>

Elporo:


@chinny024

Yankee101:


This isn’t necessarily true
I live in a different country and can still assist an ex I’ve not seen for several years after marriage. Except you you guys think it’s right to sleep with everyone you assist, which is not
Are you guys not aware that it’s important to retain a network of trusted people in your live withou sex being involved?

GreatChizzy:


Will you condole your wife keeping all her exes as a network of trusted people?

kenzysmith:
haba guy u wicked o

Yankee101:


You can only reduce it. But you can’t prevent it.

GreatChizzy:


See how you quickly contradicted your initial statement, the moment I brought the scneraio home. It always hits different when it is about us condoling what we often asks others to do on social media.

You didn't read the part where the OP said; she visited the ex despite being heavily pregnant without his consent. Now when a woman visits another man (more so someone she has had sexual relations with in the past) with a conscious effort not to let her husband know about, you telling me se.x would not occur? Tell that to some 5years old bro!!!

The truth hurts.

Yankee101:


That’s where you’re mistaken. I’ve met women who will not sleep with you for a billion dollars

GreatChizzy:


See how you quickly contradicted your initial statement, the moment I brought the scneraio home. It always hits different when it is about us condoling what we often asks others to do on social media.

You didn't read the part where the OP said; she visited the ex despite being heavily pregnant without his consent. Now when a woman visits another man (more so someone she has had sexual relations with in the past) with a conscious effort not to let her husband know about, you telling me se.x would not occur? Tell that to some 5years old bro!!!

The truth hurts.

GreatChizzy:


Will you condole your wife keeping all her exes as a network of trusted people?

zomby:
…..I guess it is true that we embrace what we see, may be I’m not exposed enough.

Yankee101:


Maybe

Arkhanmu:
I married my wife in Kaduna two years ago. During those period we were dating, we were very much apart due to distance. She stayed in Kaduna while I worked in Lagos.

During few times of my personal meeting before our wedding, I noticed huge communication between her and this man. I called her attention to it but she just waived it aside saying they are just friends as Ex (stuff). She joined me up in Lagos after the marriage but the communication between them still continued.

This is a woman I have sacrificed so much for in my life by providing her basics need with the children even though not huge like that. She told me the Ex is a Doctor and they have nice experience together while dating back then. I have adviced even begged her to stop this communication as it it very hurtful and insulting to my personality but she won't stop. Instead she secretly calls and requests money from this guy in almost different occasions.

At a point in time in the past when she went to Kaduna to get her transfer from work place to Lagos, she still visit the guy even as she is heavily pregnant that time. I was able to get the idea through her bank account statement when the same guy send her money for what business I don't understand. It is almost 2 years of our marriage now, I am starting to regret why I marry her initially even as I noticed much difference between us; she is from Southern Kaduna while am from Ibadan.

I wish I have married my tribe whom I can easily understand. Just yesterday night I see another 4k alert from the same guy to my wife. I am really pained though I have not confront her. See guys, I have 2 boys, twin, I take care of them, buy food and all.

Though my work is not going fine but I try my best to make her happy but it seems she is not built for me. I don't really know what is going on again in my life as I am heartbroken.

Maybe the man is even in Lagos most times self. Many things are just running through my mind.