kartelkid:
Please guys I need to understand something that really bothers me; I sometimes result to smoking to cope with, as I find it really depressing.

In my early days I used to have girlfriends, and it was quite a deal, back then in school.
As I got older I switched to being used to hookups and ashawo; and the sorts, because I realized all I wanted was sex.

Years past, I've outgrown this hookup thing, and value creating relationships with women; which obviously includes sex, but is more serious and could lead to something in future.

What worries me is that despite all my attempts online and offline to find a relationship material woman; I realized that almost all the ladies I toasted wanted nothing but hookup. The moment I appear serious; they disappear or try to play mind games.

Please guys is this a normal thing now in our country, or it's just me experiencing this. It's really sad; and hopeless, as a normal relationship will help my morale and prepare for the future.

Have you found it easy to have permanent relationships without playing the religion card?

Emaprince:
That guy does not represent every men. And to correct you..what men need are children. Not women. Thats why timaya them has baby mamas. You think they cry at night? Because women cry at night over loneliness..you think men do same?

Cry over a woman? Same women that only bring all kinds of burden and lack of peace to a man's life? Any man crying over absence of a woman in his life was single handedly raised by his mom in a home of all girls and him as the only son. Maybe thats why such man will think he should be surrounded by daughters of eve all the time.

Op is probably looking to settle down and just realised that the women of today are nothing but rotten fruits. Maybe he though he will find women that still behave like those in the time of his mom. Social media women we have today are attention who.res..and cheap sex tools. Nothing marriageable about them.

You are just all over the place, making incoherent points. Calm down next time and think through what you want to say to me before hitting the submit button.

I do not care for WHY men cry; I am only interested in knowing that THEY CRY. If you like bring ten thousand reasons to explain it, all na for your pocket.

Also, I do not care for the realities of the OP and why he wants to settle down, all I am interested in knowing is that MEN WANT TO SETTLE DOWN, and they are bemoaning the fact that they cannot find a woman...

Whatever you believe about women is your ish, it still will not stop another one of your gender from creating a thread tomorrow to look for a wife.

sniperr007:
Not that.

There are many benefits of dating an older lady.

Most younger girls don't know what they want and are still finding themselves.

begoniaa:


You are just all over the place, making incoherent points. Calm down next time and think through what you want to say to me before hitting the submit button.

I do not care for WHY men cry; I am only interested in knowing that THEY CRY. If you like bring ten thousand reasons to explain it, all na for your pocket.

Also, I do not care for the realities of the OP and why he wants to settle down, all I am interested in knowing is that MEN WANT TO SETTLE DOWN, and they are bemoaning the fact that they cannot find a woman...

Whatever you believe about women is your ish, it still will not stop another one of your gender from creating a thread tomorrow to look for a wife.

LutherSanchez:
Women never wants you to need them only to want them. The moment your want becomes need,they no longer wants you

Emaprince:
You should be more worried over the fact that a man created a thread lamenting over the lack of good woman in todays society. You are not supposed to be shinning teeth. Rather you should cover your face in shame or try to even prove to us that there is still some insignificant number of virtuous women anywhere.
That today women are sex tools is something you are cheerful of now? And tomorrow you will complain when they call you guys sex objects.

Over my dead body. Ki i se emi Bekolari Majekodunmi lo ma wa prove yin wrong. Say watin? As per who you be? I'm coming na. It's like the memo of the times hasn't gotten to your side? You think I will start scrambling, trying to convince you that there are still good women? Believe whatever the heck you want to – your fokken belief is your fokken belief and responsibility, Mister Man. So, swerve.

Yes o. See all my teeth outside. I go shine am well well. Come and sue me. I am not even satisfied with the level of bad women around ... I am still rooting for more women becoming bad and less and less marriage worthy.

We are sex objects, ehen? Is it today you have started calling women names? Go and bring an artillery of degrading labels y'all could ever think of- when you are truly tired of wailing, you will go your way.

hifocus:


The way you think you're playing these women, they're playing you too. You're just one out of many options. Think nigga. Think!

kartelkid:
With all due respect, you're absolutely correct. I guess this is why most guys fish out single mothers everywhere.
The reality is that I'm no longer getting long-term satisfaction from only having casual sex. I also need a help mate.
Thank you.

kartelkid:
Please guys I need to understand something that really bothers me; I sometimes result to smoking to cope with, as I find it really depressing.

In my early days I used to have girlfriends, and it was quite a deal, back then in school.
As I got older I switched to being used to hookups and ashawo; and the sorts, because I realized all I wanted was sex.

Years past, I've outgrown this hookup thing, and value creating relationships with women; which obviously includes sex, but is more serious and could lead to something in future.

What worries me is that despite all my attempts online and offline to find a relationship material woman; I realized that almost all the ladies I toasted wanted nothing but hookup. The moment I appear serious; they disappear or try to play mind games.

Please guys is this a normal thing now in our country, or it's just me experiencing this. It's really sad; and hopeless, as a normal relationship will help my morale and prepare for the future.

Have you found it easy to have permanent relationships without playing the religion card?

bukatyne:


Read this on Yoruba

Justnow2022:


You never can tell what the future holds. Besides, I don’t need to be as rich as Ned to marry a much younger girl.

My dad isn’t rich, but he married a very young girl, and that almost shattered my family. We had to accept it eventually.

posty56:
the sooner men realize there's hardly wife material in this era the sooner they find peace ,my guy stop stressing yourself,be like don jazzy be like timaya ,they ain't married but they're are happy ,no be must say everybody marry

LutherSanchez:
Like it or not,a man can choose to marry at any age he likes but women.......

KristaPretty:
The world is changing. Most people don't want to get married or entangled now

I suggest you join groups in the church- volunteer groups as well where you can meet more responsible people I guess

Hartman11:

More responsible or more pretenders?
My dear I advise you never to advise someone to look for a relationship in the church

Persephone1:
This is relative, I can not type what every woman as it differs but I will try as much as possible to type out what some sensible women I know look out for in a Man.

The first thing that strikes a woman in a man is his Comportment. When a woman meets you for the first time, she notices how you carry yourself. Your carriage speaks a lot about you. 1) Your maturity: how you deal with people around
2) Your confidence: How you see yourself
3) Your Aura: What you are all about.

This is why in first 5 minutes of meeting you a woman can decide if she wants a long or short term dealings with you.

As you move on with each other, she checks your level of knowledge, intelligence, assertiveness, discipline, self control, your plans, your goals, your conflict resolution ability, your rage level, time management, financial management, communication skills, leadership skills, your resilience, your vulnerability level, how you handle difficult situation, Your playfulness, Your emotional intelligence , ability to play a lover and a teacher etc. If you can beat her in all these areas, i.e be above her in these areas, believe me she will respect you and want to have you. Because not only will she want to enjoy all you have,she would want her children to enjoy these traits and have them too.

There could be more, and some of the listed may not be needed depending on what she wants. But most of those things listed are what women secretly look out for in Men.

As for what can be of value to Man, that will be on you. You only know what you hold dear and what you stand for.

You owe me ooooo

Tboymessiah:



I love your contributions, please:
Apart from money what can be a man value.

Also

What can a man posses, to make a woman looking up to him

NeckingNgulping:


I have been following your comments. All i see you do is to capitalize on the op's predicament. Listen, the op himself doesn't make up the entire male gender. And i didn't see where he said he's lonely.

It's clear that the hoes he's been following ain't just loyal. I wonder why person go dey carry woman matter for head for this kind time.

For your information, women are more desperate to get married than men as the marital clock is always ticking against the female gender.

Midas01:
Bold of you to call the women hoes when the op himself is clearly the hoe, and even stated that he only wanted sex....Lmao

This gender

You can see that there is ment seriously cooking inside their brains.

Persephone1:
This is relative, I can not type what every woman as it differs but I will try as much as possible to type out what some sensible women I know look out for in a Man.

The first thing that strikes a woman in a man is his Comportment. When a woman meets you for the first time, she notices how you carry yourself. Your carriage speaks a lot about you. 1) Your maturity: how you deal with people around
2) Your confidence: How you see yourself
3) Your Aura: What you are all about.

This is why in first 5 minutes of meeting you a woman can decide if she wants a long or short term dealings with you.

As you move on with each other, she checks your level of knowledge, intelligence, assertiveness, discipline, self control, your plans, your goals, your conflict resolution ability, your rage level, time management, financial management, communication skills, leadership skills, your resilience, your vulnerability level, how you handle difficult situation, Your playfulness, Your emotional intelligence , ability to play a lover and a teacher etc. If you can beat her in all these areas, i.e be above her in these areas, believe me she will respect you and want to have you. Because not only will she want to enjoy all you have,she would want her children to enjoy these traits and have them too.

There could be more, and some of the listed may not be needed depending on what she wants. But most of those things listed are what women secretly look out for in Men.

As for what can be of value to Man, that will be on you. You only know what you hold dear and what you stand for.

You owe me ooooo

Datboredberri:
Illiterate... Men like you friendzone themselves then wail like bush babies on redpill threads that women are bad...

kartelkid:
Please guys I need to understand something that really bothers me; I sometimes result to smoking to cope with, as I find it really depressing.

In my early days I used to have girlfriends, and it was quite a deal, back then in school.
As I got older I switched to being used to hookups and ashawo; and the sorts, because I realized all I wanted was sex.

Years past, I've outgrown this hookup thing, and value creating relationships with women; which obviously includes sex, but is more serious and could lead to something in future.

What worries me is that despite all my attempts online and offline to find a relationship material woman; I realized that almost all the ladies I toasted wanted nothing but hookup. The moment I appear serious; they disappear or try to play mind games.

Please guys is this a normal thing now in our country, or it's just me experiencing this. It's really sad; and hopeless, as a normal relationship will help my morale and prepare for the future.

Have you found it easy to have permanent relationships without playing the religion card?

Emaprince:
You should be more worried over the fact that a man created a thread lamenting over the lack of good woman in todays society. You are not supposed to be shinning teeth. Rather you should cover your face in shame or try to even prove to us that there is still some insignificant number of virtuous women anywhere.
That today women are sex tools is something you are cheerful of now? And tomorrow you will complain when they call you guys sex objects.

posty56:
the society for long has wired men to get married soon as they reach a certain age, because of that many men are wired to think that without getting married they'll die old and lonely , only for them to jump into marriage and realize it's not what it is and it mostly favours women ,I am breaking from that matrix bro ,I don't fancy marriage and no matter the emotional blackmailing I won't fall it

newbornmacho:



Hahahahahahahaha

Naija Women compose themselves and check for all this in a man....


Hahahahahahahaha

The funniest joke I've heard this year.

Abeg Tboymessiah , you're looking in the wrong place.

Men are created superior to women. What it means is that being a man , a real man will compel a woman to look up to you.

Women need help all their lives and their instinct will drive them to real, redpilled men, for salvation.

Please work on becoming more manly, and Women will not dare to lecture you like this one is doing here., rather they'll worship you

Tboymessiah:
NasoLifeBe!!!

Thanks, I no forget the code that says

Don't ask for relationship advice from woman.

I only want to hear her own contribution ni

Interesting... very very interesting. Truly, na so life be. I don know say una be one and the same too, I only obliged her as a sis and for public sake.

Keep on in the search of how to truly be a manly man; a man that will rather parrot what his mates are telling him in order to appear strong and not risk appearing as if he's actually considering what a woman is saying. It's nice to know you did not pick anything at all- anything of importance.

You had just BETTER not come and create a thread in the future on this NL wailing about your womanly woes... shey you have seen all my comments on this thread? That is exactly what I will come and do on your thread and more... I will so derail it and constitute an heck of a nuisance making fun of you. I no kuku get humanly heart before. I won't care.

Tboymessiah:


NasoLifeBe!!!

Thanks, I no forget the code that says

Don't ask for relationship advice from woman.

I only want to hear her own contribution ni

Southpole5917:


if You Maintain this Stand When You are 40+Yrs, i will Hail You!!

Datboredberri:
The second most stupid comment...

Fish out single mothers...

How does this even make any sense? You're the one who spent years fu** ing anything with a hole... If contraceptives didn't exist, you would be father Abraham... And you think you're in the position to judge?

You want a help mate... Should have thought of that before making yourself a community di**...

I fu**ing hate people like you... If you were smart, women would think you were worth sh** but they don't... Tells a lot...