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How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by djkirkoo2(m): 2:33pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
hmmmmm. Wonderful. Me I earn 63k as salary and my rent is 210k annually. Below is how I disburse it: Kitchen stocking - 25k. Soup for the month (we cook soup 5 times in a month) - 15k. Baby mama - 5k. Light bill - 2k. Purewater - 4k. Stew, Beans, Moi moi: 5/6k Gas - 5k. Fuel: As the Lord leads but I do put on Gen almost everyday as far as there's no light. Now if you observed you will see that I don't have any money for myself nor my baby, make sure I run other deals to meet up my rent and cater for my son. Yet my baby mama go out to tarnish my image outside saying that I am treating her as a house girl, saying that she's like a slave, that she's in an abusive relationship this and that all the young ladies around my vicinity are all keeping malice with me because of her stories, they all believed her story. Even when I try to talk people don't believe me. I got tired of the quarrels and nagging so I had to throw her things out and asked her to leave my house. Neighbors came in and intervened then asked me to consider my son that he's still a baby. I succumbed and left for work only for me to come back home that evening the 22nd of July and found out that she have left with my son that I love so much and yet all her things are still in my house. Bring my baby sef all to no avail, oya let me be seeing him at least still no way. I've talked to her mom and siblings and all of them are taking her side saying a man is not supposed to throw a woman's things outside (even my family blamed me for throwing her things outside) oya I don agree sef still dey are hiding my baby that will be a year old on the 29th of this August from me. Honestly her family wants me to settle with their daughter but to me I am no longer interested before I die of BP, so now they are using my son to blackmail me emotionally to accept their daughter back because they know that I love my son. If really I am suffering her and treating her like a slave like she always claim then I wonder why her family would want her to come back to my house to suffer. Mind you, I don't even beat o, I only have bad mouth to reply her if she pisses me off. Honestly I am confused and don't know what to do because I really miss my son. 122 Likes 18 Shares |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by Cutehector(m): 3:23pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
Why didnt you use condom sir? 638 Likes 41 Shares |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by Odunharry(m): 3:35pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
Less than 1k condom for make you avoid all the name callings.. Sorry bro. Please don't forget to take care of yourself also. 303 Likes 18 Shares |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by Mindlog: 3:37pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
Go to your state of residence's social welfare office and get them to invite the mother of your son, bringing your son along as you all have to work out how to go about co-parenting your son for his best interest. 149 Likes 12 Shares |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by Ovieemmanuel: 5:32pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
It's not about condom. He did not deny the pregnancy the issue at hand now is resolve it apologise if need be . But get her something to do even if ita POS business. 156 Likes 14 Shares |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by FantasticJ: 7:30pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
djkirkoo2: I hate emotional blackmail. This is not an advise oooo. But I will be sending 20K for my child monthly upkeep. God help you I see my boy one day, that's the last time she will see the boy. I don't have time for any manipulation. 64 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by Mindlog: 7:36pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
FantasticJ: If you love yourself, don't try that ..... Nigerian Police love such case, part of "settling" the case is you paying for their cost of logistics of tracking you down. ![]() 123 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by Musty112: 7:41pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
Baby mama? Hmm 4 Likes |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by KimFab: 7:55pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
Baby mama? 5k? For salt abi pepper? Anyway, na mumu dey do baby mama for Nigerian men. That aside, your rent is high o, for someone who earns 63k. Almost 4 out of 12 months is spent working for your landlord. 162 Likes 12 Shares |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by RepoMan007: 7:55pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
Lol. Give her suffering 2.0 assurance and she will return. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by djkirkoo2(m): 8:22pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
FantasticJ:ever since she left with my son I've not set my eyes on her neither my son else I would have negotiate how I will be fending for him but because no concrete agreement I just decided to keep calm though I am planning to visit human rights to table this matter before she will destroy me for my son then at old age I will now be struggling to make peace. I am not planning on taking the boy from her I told her that she can have him but at least let me be seeing him once in a while she and her family are hiding him. 22 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by djkirkoo2(m): 9:04pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
Cutehector:who ever thought things would be like this? She was nice and very economical when we first started. I guess she was pretending. 81 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by djkirkoo2(m): 9:08pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
KimFab:like you did not read the post properly. I provide everything in the house. The 5k is for her to hold herself and at times I do give her 10k if I know that something would enter my hands that month. I gave her 55k for business I didn't see any results yet she's saying that I treat her as a slave. 85 Likes |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by djkirkoo2(m): 9:09pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
RepoMan007:for me to do such thing I rather let her be. All I want is for me to be seeing my son when I want to but it's not happening at all. 6 Likes |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by djkirkoo2(m): 9:10pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
Odunharry:thanks, I am doing my best. |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by We4all: 9:11pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
djkirkoo2:If she was nice then, why didn’t you marry her? She is good for sex but bad to be a wife right? Do you know the frustrations that comes with being just a baby mama to an uncouth and irresponsible man? And on top of that, you are generous enough to give her 5K as monthly upkeep. I am so proud of you! 64 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by KimFab: 9:13pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
djkirkoo2: I read your post properly. And thanks for the explanation. 5k is big, but it's not big too. Does she work? How does she buy things like clothes, shoes, etc.? 55k for business? You did well. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by djkirkoo2(m): 9:14pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
Mindlog:yes, someone gave me this advise but I was told that FIDA will tell me to be feeding my child and his mom. I wonder how I will be feeding someone that is not grateful. Another person said that I should visit Human Rights. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by djkirkoo2(m): 9:21pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
Ovieemmanuel:I gave her 55k for business I didn't see result rather she's saying that my baby is distracting her. Even when she was doing the business before she gets home I cook and prepare dinner so that she would be stress free. I bathe the baby, wash his clothes, even washes her clothes atimes just to relieve her of stress yet she keeps saying that she's suffering in the relationship. Recently I called her to iron things out she gave the phone to another man and the man really insulted hell out of me. I really wish I could drop the audio here because I record any of our conversation since we separated so that she won't be twisting stories to her favor. 47 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by Ovieemmanuel: 9:25pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
djkirkoo2:who is the man. Quick answer 12 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by djkirkoo2(m): 9:26pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
We4all:maybe you should reason with your brain and not your leg. A salary of 63k should I give her all the 63k for her upkeep or you didn't see where I stated how the money is being spent monthly? All these women Sha. As if you can finish your salary at home if you are in my shoes. 121 Likes 12 Shares |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by djkirkoo2(m): 9:29pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
Ovieemmanuel:he claimed to be her boyfriend o. Honestly I couldn't sleep the night I received that insult then few days later I reported the incident to her mom then the mom claimed that the boy is her cousin. I just laughed and since that insult I didn't bother to call her again till now. It's two weeks today. 33 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by djkirkoo2(m): 9:31pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
Mindlog:hmmmmm. Na wahala o. So what would you advise? |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by Mindlog: 9:32pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
djkirkoo2: Whichever you visit, your son's mother will also be feeding from whatever you send and that is the REALITY and you can not starve your son because of his mother, who is his primary caregiver. So you both alongside your families, need to hash things out. 11 Likes |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by Ovieemmanuel: 9:32pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
You see ehen you are in serious wahala only men passing through same thing would understand. Just find peace sha. Cause even if you settle with her it would be a reoccurring problem. 32 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by djkirkoo2(m): 9:32pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
KimFab:hope you read how much is my take home salary? 12 Likes |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by djkirkoo2(m): 9:36pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
Ovieemmanuel:and that's why I don't want her back in my home because through this quarrel it simply shows that she doesn't appreciate but pretending to. So I wonder how I will be free to be doing things for her without nursing grudges. 18 Likes |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by Richy4(m): 9:36pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
I no noOo, I just dey ask.. baby mama dey leave with baby daddy for House? I been think say them dey leave separately, the man dey visit am.. when he's convenienced to do so... Anyway I no dey too understand the baby mama baby father thing.. You will make a good finance minister.. the budget was alarmingly wonderful... Especially the 5 times soup in a month ![]() If not for one thing, I would have asked you to ignore her for now... She won't find it easy looking after a baby with zero income... When the financial burden starts, she will definitely come back... Also it's not every one that will like to train someone else's child when the father is alive... They will ask her to go back except maybe she eventually finds something doing 55 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by Ovieemmanuel: 9:38pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
djkirkoo2:lol lol . It wont be easy oo. I must warn u. |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by djkirkoo2(m): 9:38pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
Mindlog:this month end I am trying to see how my family with hers would hold a meeting to iron things out then if they refused to give in to my plea then I will take the case to human rights. 4 Likes |
Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by Nobody: 9:38pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
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Re: How I Spend My 63k Monthly Salary Yet I Am Tagged A Bad Boyfriend by djkirkoo2(m): 9:41pm On Aug 24, 2022 |
Richy4:her family might support her in training the child so me I want to train my child myself and that's why I am fighting to be seeing him 12 Likes 1 Share |
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