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At 36, I Still Stay With My Parents And I Feel Not bad about it. / Is My Decision Right Or Wrong / Will I Regret My Decision Later On In Life? (2) (3) (4)
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Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by worldclass68(m): 4:43pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
She's your granddaughter |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by MadamOk(f): 4:43pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Please sir I don't know the annoyance you have with the boy and his family, but wetin don happen don happen,you can correct it since you said you have forgiven your daughter, find time to take her to the hospital for check up and if it required bed resting and you can't be there for her, the boy and his family can do that. Make sure you pay the hospital bill and give her some money for food. Because taking her home wey you nor get the time to take care of her no go too make sense. 3 Likes |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Flier: 4:43pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Rozross:Only a sick father would send his daughter out simply because she got pregnant,I had a friend who got pregnant while in secondary school,her father embraced her even though her mother disagree,they took care of the baby and sent the girl back to school This lady is earning 13,000 Swiss franc per month as a medical doctor per month in Switzerland at the moment Even those all kids are doing fine,she’s still the bread winner 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by jeromestarks: 4:43pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:It doesn't matter. What matter is that the girl is behaving like the Op. The child the girl gave birth to will also behave like the 17 yr old mother. Their family is messed up. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Belbad(m): 4:44pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Your daughter has realised her errors,you bashing her about is so pathetic. Please take her back before things gets destroyed beyond salvagable measure...My 1 naira. 1 Like |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by otokx(m): 4:44pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Where is the mother in all of this? 1 Like |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Truvelisback(m): 4:44pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020:Accept her back and take care of the child too. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Damzy101(m): 4:45pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
She fu*ked up and that's it. She's realized her mistake. But I feel you overreacted. So, if she's not sick, you wouldn't reach out to her ? That's far fetched. Please, take them in. It's not ideal to leave the baby behind. She's learnt her lessons. There's always more to parenting. 3 Likes |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by oluseyiforjesus(m): 4:45pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
If dat child become a wife of governor tmrw hope u will also reject her 4 Likes |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by socialmediaman: 4:45pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
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Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by ekevwe(m): 4:45pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020:I will not say you are wicked but you were very ignorant of your actions. It's no longer shameful to parents if there daughter get pregnant but in your case, I could tag if poor parenting not prior to her getting pregnant, but after she got pregnant. Make peace with her and take full responsibilities of her. Forget about her boyfriend. It's never too late bro 4 Likes |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Boyooosa(m): 4:45pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
wwwkaycom: The only addon is, that wicked woman should quickly hearken to this � accurate advice and follow to the letter. Wicked Single Parent! Why are you not with your husband sef, in the first place? Ok, I later learnt u r a man... Still doesn't make any difference, go and get ur daughter out of that slum plus her kid, to then she takes care of her daughter on her owñ if you don't have the time |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by zedegit: 4:45pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020: Never separate a mother from the baby. What of the girl's mother? Your forgiveness is shallow otherwise you will accept the baby. Even if the boy were to take the baby, it's not now or how do you expect him to breastfeed the baby? 2 Likes |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by gadgethead: 4:46pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
If your daughter is not employed, she can take care of her baby, while you are at work. So your comment about no one to take care of the baby is not exactly right. Take in your daughter and the baby and as soon as the baby is of age, your daughter can look for work to fend for herself. The worst case scenario is if you abandon her and she gets pregnant again. Then the situation may be more difficult to handle |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Mrsoft3(m): 4:46pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020: Please sir don't separate the child and the mum, allow the child to experience good care. You are really a great dad. Honestly it is not easy but sir please take care of your grand child,the child is as important as your daughter. Sometimes we find ourselves in difficult situation and you don't even know what you did to deserve such kind of predicament,but I pray the Lord ease our pain and grant us healing 1 Like |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by msakhere(f): 4:47pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Bring your daughter and grand daughter back to your house, let her take care of the baby in your house, since hardship is telling on your daughter in the boyfriend's house. Please, dont mete out your punishment on the innocent child by abandoning her there, she doesn't deserve it. 2 Likes |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by happney65: 4:47pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
You are a very callous father. Agreed the girl made a mistake by getting pregnant as a teen. Abandoning her in the hands of that guy is not cool who might even be a teen himself. I think you have the resources to take care of her. Take care of her then. she is still your daughter or isn't she? Take care of her and your grandchild and fix her life back. Peridot |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by gassbee: 4:47pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
wait o, u mean someone is refusing to accept and take care of his grandchild 3 Likes |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by deflover(m): 4:48pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
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Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by holluwizzy: 4:49pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Can you imagine... Wouldn't blame the dad much for taking such decision.. U expected more and working hard to make sure u child becomes someone responsible in the future and not a liability. Instead of sending her out. I would take care of her but the father would not see both the child and my daughter again. NoToPile: |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Nobody: 4:49pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
It's hard to blame you for anything since I understand you were and are still overrun with emotions. But there're certain events you can't do anything about and this is one of it. You can't dislike a kid because she got pregnant and a kid's kid because his/her mum got pregnant. At this point, you'd need to bend your rules by taking your daughter and also, your grandchild back. 2 Likes |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by anonymuz(m): 4:49pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Mindlog:well said. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Seankhalifa: 4:49pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Forgive her and take the child with her... i am begging... cos if her boyfriend family chase her away... she might go Into prostitution... cos dat d fastest way for her to survive... plus the trade is very dangerous... u might loss ur daughter... may God forgive us all.. amen |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Kajaard: 4:50pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020: I want the father to take care of the baby while I take care of mine - how does that sound to you? You forget that baby is your grand daughter ( your own blood as well). You want to leave the baby with the irresponsible boy that can barely take care of himself? You want to separate a baby from the mother? Knowing fully well only the mother can truly care and protect her baby? Listen to yourself. Pathetic. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Hamzashaf99(f): 4:50pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020: It painful, but please take her back with the child. She may not want to part with the child and even if she does, what will the both of you tell that child in the future? Are you sure those people will take care of her like her mum will? Even if the have the financial capacity and time, I personally know that even close relatives don't like taking care of other people's children. The oy person who may do that wholeheartedly is your daughters mum or her sister. Do reconsider, for the sake of the innocent child who had no choice in choosing how she was born |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Ruthymoon(f): 4:50pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
It seems you never have time for your children thats why she went outside for to have a boyfriend, and now you drove her out with pregnancy, thats not fair , that your daughter is going through pain, and from you her parent, that will never forget the pain 3 Likes |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by drlateef: 4:51pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020: No matter how you see it, that newborn is your blood. Your daughter would rather die than to part with the child in most cases. So, you need to bring mother and child to your home. You have also learnt your lesson too. What mistakes did you make to get into this mess? Definitely, you have allowed your girl to go out of your radar due to work. You should reflect on what you could do differently to prevent this happening in future. You need to swallow the butter pill and take her with the baby. She will get well quickly and can take care of her child by herself. You don’t need to do the babysitting. And you must probably relocate your daughter to a place out of reach for this good-for-nothing boy. Otherwise he will sneak in when you are away to come and impregnate her again. 1 Like |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Solababa91(m): 4:51pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
In all of these, you didn't tell us the role your daughter's Mother played. Did your ex wife also condemn her daughter out of her sight? If you can't babysit your grand child, can't your wife do (Ex as the case may be)? 1 Like |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Judolisco(m): 4:51pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Where d mama of ur 17 yrs old girl? Get ur child and ur grandchild back and take care of them... Wetin Don happen Don happen... Ur daughter Don see wetin she dey find now arbi? Na drop for cultural values dey cause all dis things... 1 Like |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Mindlog: 4:51pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Boyooosa: OP is a single father! |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by akpunda86: 4:51pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020: Ur are stupid we all make mistakes can even be you. I hate seeing MOFOS.if she took in you never did your Job well |
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