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| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by ogastone(m): 5:15pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
The boy will impregnate your daughter again immediately this baby reach six months. Ollodo 2 Likes |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Zedoo(m): 5:15pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
ONE SIMPLE thing for solve this thing. Could have aborted it and moved on. |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by uptownemmygee(m): 5:16pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Tayorshd2: But I dey see people below my standard and age doing it and they're coping, |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Arrahman39: 5:17pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Your daughter is sick she needs who is going to take care of her too, let the mother-in-law takes care of the baby till she is fine... She is too small for marriage and her future matters to you and depends on you... Take your daughter.... |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Dminister(m): 5:17pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Before any girl opens her legs for a boy to cum in, she should thoroughly examine the boy if he has a job to cater for her and a baby just incase she gets pregnant. These girls just allow petty things they receives from boys as bribe to open their legs overshadow their sense of reasoning forgetting the awaiting reality of life. Well the deed is done already just forgive totally and take her and her baby to your house because if you go with this suggestion of taking back only your child remember you would be responsible to whatever happens to the baby. 1 Like |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by LadyExcellency: 5:18pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Did he pay the bride price? The sperm donor isn't the Father. Take your daughter and her child back. |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Survivor2020(m): 5:18pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Sheedeensen(m): 5:19pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
The best advice is found under pillow. Talking and not heeding brings the death of a child, seeing and not talking brings the of an adult. You want to forgone your daughter to your grand son/daughter without thinking about tomorrow. |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Alawode01(m): 5:19pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020: |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Olugboye226(m): 5:20pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Do everything possible to bring back your daughter and the innocent child. |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Gabkan7: 5:20pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
You wicked and heartless. Someone need to tell you this letting your innocent imperfect child go through such horrible life experence @ this tender age. You can never be her hero never ever in this her lifetime cause you've failed her when she need you the most in her pre-adulthood. if you where perfect you should have raised a perfect child, but you're not. I understand you feeling of disappointment, the shame and what people would say,they are minor compaired to if you had lost her to such horrible experience but no you let your emotions too over you for long. it a second chance for both of you to mend and cleanup you mess, distance what people will say for now and do the needful. remember if you didn't fail she wouldn't be pregnant @ first but money and your career was more important than your child. PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS TALK 2 Likes |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by legba1(m): 5:22pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Blessedmercy8: In all sincererity, did you read the post? |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by bigtt76(f): 5:23pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Sad but the absence of something led her into the current situation ...that something is home love. That also led you to disown her instead of standing by her. Same lack of love is making you give conditions to take care of your own blood ....she has only you. The guy can disappear abandoning them and it comes back to you. Show more love dear  Survivor2020: |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by linearity: 5:23pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Take both of them, the baby is the most innocent person in this whole situation, more innocent than you. More so, that baby is your very own blood and grand kid and an extension of you. Please, change your attitude towards the new born baby and accept them too. |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Thebadpolitican(m): 5:24pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020: I will take my daughter and her child back but she will leave to regret she made such mistake And for the boy that impregnated my daughter if i don't arrest the boy and his mother call me a bastard Am very strict i pray something like this should Never happen i know myself 1 Like |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Survivor2020(m): 5:24pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
hope4nigeria: My concern is my daughter who is my blood the baby has a father who should be concern about her not me. My daughter health is more important than the baby because if anything happens to her i will never forgive myself |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Pearl05(f): 5:25pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Get a nanny for her to help look after the baby while she gets better. |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by mastermaestro(m): 5:26pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Johel: Be careful what you wish for. No one comes into this world perfect. GOD'S mercies make the difference, not so much about what we have done or can do. |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Niom(m): 5:28pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
It's your grand child na... |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by MrHighSea: 5:28pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
What sort of comments am I reading? Seems peeps are OK by the girl's action. Imagine how disappointed OP might be esp if the daughter never heeded his advice. Every decision has consequences, the new parents should do what parents do. Op, you do well for finally taking mum and child back tho nlders are sounding as if it's the girl's right. Once you're up to 18, I only advice you if you ask but bear good/bad results of your action. 1 Like |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by ahnie: 5:29pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Thebadpolitican:And after getting them arrested,then whAt? |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Tzar(m): 5:30pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
There are consequences for every bad decision. Your decision not to be there to guide your teenage daughter properly has consequences. Your daughter’s stupidity has consequences. Abandoning your grand child may not be the best option, because you are punishing the innocent & allowing the guilty to run wild. In my opinion, temper justice with little mercy that will allow your daughter and her baby daddy learn a life long lesson. You have a lot of work to do because of your carelessness as a parent. 1. Focus on nurturing your grand child. The innocent child should now take your primary attn not your daughter. 2. Return your child to good health & start treating her like the grown adult she has forced herself to become. She should not get a dime from you without working for it. 3. The baby daddy needs guidance from you. Hopefully, he will make sense & money out of his life, marry your daughter, incorporate the child & make the whole situation less shameful. All this takes a lot of prayers for all four of you & hard work from all of you. ONLY THE NEW BORN IS INNOCENT AND WITHOUT BLAME OUT OF THE FOUR. Ask for help from family & friend if need be. |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Mypeople2(m): 5:31pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020:Please kindly take your daughter and your grand child from that house.I believe she has learnt her lesson. |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Gabkan7: 5:31pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Trust be told |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Survivor2020(m): 5:32pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Pearl05: I will not waste any money to get a nanny. I have other children and I cannot just focus on her. The money I will be wasting on a nanny should be spend on her siblings 1 Like |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Dchampion65: 5:33pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
She is a product of you parenting class. It is not too late for you to return to class for proper lecture and upbringing. Call of the strike and resume lectures. |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Munzy14(m): 5:34pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020:Painful...But then you must temper justice with Mercy. The girl is your child. Her baby is yours. The poor boy is yet to pay her dowry, so Legally and traditionally you own the mother and child. Some traditions find it a taboo for a girl child to have a baby in her father's house..But then, you won't harm them.. Go and retrieve your girl..But she must know she has hurt a part of you.. 1 Like |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Rhassidy360: 5:35pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Sir please for God sake take both responsibility u go smile later blv me |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by hope4nigeria(m): 5:35pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020:I love children, I don't care who donated sperm, you yourself acknowledged the guy is helpless and can't take his responsibility, but should we now say the child should go and die? That's not Fair. If God place it in your heart? Help the poor baby. You never can tell, that baby you are seen maybe the one who will take very good care of you at your old age not only monetery stuff oh. Please I'm begging you |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by BRATISLAVA: 5:36pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
wwwkaycom: What he did is okay. She needs to taste the life she wanted, lest she becomes like a user on the forum who wanted to kill her elder sister, who was footing her bills with a hooligan, because of teenage ghetto sex. If he didn't let her live with him, the person who got her pregnant would have no responsibility except to sneak into his house to have sex with his daughter and pretend to be a man ready to take care of his child. Also, his daughter would never understand the privilege of avoiding teenage pregnancy. The OP is on the right track. Life isn't all about making mistakes and getting a pat on the back. Tough love is good, too. 1 Like |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by vivavik(f): 5:36pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020: You did the wrong thing, they are both your blood and a child is always a blessing. Please take them back and take care of them, God will make a way for you. You don't want to live 10-15years later and wished you could turn back the hands of time. Ps: I understand your pain very much, the 'shame' as you so call it will turn out to be a blessing. I wished I had a child earlier. |
| Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by BRATISLAVA: 5:38pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020: You're a hard parent, but not an evil one. Take your daughter to see a doctor. And if she is in love with the baby daddy, she can enjoy living with him. |
;Dno be small even me 34 still dey think where and how to start for this buhari regimn 
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