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At 36, I Still Stay With My Parents And I Feel Not bad about it. / Is My Decision Right Or Wrong / Will I Regret My Decision Later On In Life? (2) (3) (4)
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Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Ten06(m): 6:10pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
You were a little bit too harsh with your decisions. Firstly, that young girl getting pregnant at that age was partly your fault, if not that you are a single parent, if you could have had time to nurture her she would not have gotten pregnant. At that age she was still too young to be wise enough to control herself. Secondly, it was not good for you to disown her, that young girl or the child may bring sucure to you in future. No one knows tomorrow. Finally, I want to advise you to take her and the child back. Separating that child from the mother will affect both of them greatly, and may result in very bad consequences. You have been trying, try ones more to accommodate both of them and let the mother take care of the child in your house, and with your support everything will be alright within a few years. I know it is not easy to be a single parent, but God will support you That child will bring good luck to you and you will become very successful in life. Thank you |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by victorazy(m): 6:10pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020: Na your grandchild o Fate has joined you guys together One day, your bones and body will be weak he (your grandchild) will be the one there for you. "Yesterday is a History, Tomorrow is a Mystery BUT today is a Gift" and thats why is call Present. children are gifts... Think before you act sir ..... Tomorrow na mystery. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by frozen70(f): 6:11pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Mindlog: I also agree with you bht leaving that child behind was my concern |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by int0x80(m): 6:12pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Op, you are a heartless and useless human being. You don't deserve to be called a father let alone of being her father. Leave that poor girl alone to figure out her life instead of causing more pains to her than you already did. How do you process it in that your stupid brain to ask her to come back without her infant child? Useless idiot #longhiss 1 Like |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Mbakara1: 6:15pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
That child is also ur blood My concern is my daughter who is my blood the baby has a father who should be concern about her not me. My daughter health is more important than the baby because if anything happens to her i will never forgive myself [/quote] |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by budaatum: 6:16pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020: I think you know your decision is very bad. That is why you are here hoping though you obviously know it isn't. I'm therefore asking everyone to please have compassion for you. But you must have compassion for others too or you would not deserve ours. You, Sir, will survive.
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Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by highoctane: 6:16pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
You ought to feel, you re the only one that this has happened to. It has happened to many families,both kings, pastors and the poor. Your aggression shouldn't be passed over to the child, who is no partner to the premarital sex that lead to his delivery. But your initial action was appropriate and firm. Take her back, if she is willing,though been an added burden. Let her care for the baby. Honestly this similar issue nearly broke my uncle,( though wealthy) considering the riff raff that got her daughter pregnant. I could discern you're a single mother., daughters are very expensive to raise up and cared for. No father or mother will roll out drums and dance in the market that their girl child got pregnant or their son got another person daughter pregnant. 1 Like |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by jumper524(m): 6:23pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020:some decisions might seem harsh but sometimes necessary. Sir, I'm certain your a yoruba man so your actions might not just be personal but socieral and heriditary. But at this modern time, you had better forgive her and bring both the grad child back to your house. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by jaxxy(m): 6:24pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020: u make hasty emotional decisions. U don't calm down to think b4 u act on certain major matters. Disowning ur daughter because she got pregnant is a terrible thing to do. she was helpless yes by her own mistake bt still is ur daughter. who is above mistakes? u better take care of that girl and her baby b4 u regret it later in life. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by YankeeJJC(m): 6:24pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020:when it's time to take responsibility of a granddaddy or you are long-Drinking for a grand kid, you will blame yourself for not being there for who's already your grandchild. Your future grandchild will definitely come from same daughter, It only came early. Be elderly with the situation and welcome them both. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by WhiteWolfe: 6:24pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020: Age of consent in Nigeria is 18. Send that boy to prison so that you can have your family back |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by wolebest: 6:25pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020: Please don't make the mistake of rejecting your own blood ....... 16 years down the lane, you will look back and praise Almighty God. I know it's not funny now but Almighty God has deemed it so. In my little lifetime I have seen a boy that was rejected by all as an outcast who grew up in our midst only for him to relocate to the USA just like that....... Please take care of your grand child and your daughter. 1 Like |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Mindlog: 6:25pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
frozen70: In my earlier post, I made mention that the baby must not be separated from the mother. That baby is too tender to be cut off from the mother, now that the baby is forming secure attachment with the mother and any disruption would affect the baby's development. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by MrFly(m): 6:26pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
men like u are hard to find. The baby is 2 young and innocent to suffer |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by SanctifiedSista(f): 6:27pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020: Daddy, pls forgive her And take her to the hospital. For the baby, leave the child with your in-laws since no woman is at home to take care of the child Once your daughter is well, u can bring the child to your home if the family of the boy has come to pay dowry .leave sentiments and make sure the boy takes responsibility, u shld even locked him up wen he got her pregnant |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by omohan4: 6:28pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Forgiveness is the key and You should know the baby in question is the your grandchild. So pray and ask God for more blessings |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by tctrills: 6:31pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
2elliot:You disowned your blood so I am not surprised you are insulting me. Evil man. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Mercisharelove(f): 6:33pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
How many times have you sinned against God and he forgave you, please remember stuff happens and be wise to save your daughter and your granddaughter |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by gulfer: 6:34pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020:You should look for a relative that can take your daughter and the kid in the interim. You cannot do so much as a man btw what about your wife |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by traeces(m): 6:37pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020: If she had tried to abort and died in the process, you would long have forgiven her corpse and wished for an opportunity to bring her back to life under any circumstances. She made a mistake like we all do. Forgive her, love her and accept your grandchild. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Sweetvie: 6:37pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
I know how you feel op I know that kind of disappointment and moment of anger but two wrong doesn't make a right ok Don't let people here make you seem like a wicked person coz you ain't, you just allow ur anger to get the best of you and you ain't a bad parent either you just fail in some aspect. It not a new thing to say female child is the hardest to raise especially as a single father and a guy... Female child need a lot of attention especially from the mother and need a strict father. I do say Nigeria parents need to start teaching their kids abt sex education... it helps a lot but they won't. Imagine 17year old girl getting pregnant, no one won't be disappointed but disowning her is not the right thing but actually I must say she need to learn she make a mistake if you accepted her back with open hand and she has learned her lesson and m sure she won't be deceived by guy sugar coated mouth again. Two wrong doesn't make a right okay. I know it hard to take care of the baby but I beg you to accept the two of them back. If you only accept your daughter that means you have not forgiven her... Av you seen the baby yet? M sure you won't wanna abandon the little cute creature. Please forgive her and accept her and the baby even if you have to hire a nanny ok you will never lack ijn 1 Like |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by edosignature(m): 6:37pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Take care of your Daughter with all you have & show her fatherly love (though not easy at this time) with all your might. The said baby is so innocent & you'll be glad in the near future you accept them both. Not all are fortunate to see their grandchildren. God help you. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Rainer8(m): 6:38pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Tina001: you see this humble comment bros just follow am u no go get better advice pass this one 1 Like |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Malawian(m): 6:41pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020:First of all, what do you mean by "Brought shame to me"? Secondly, whether of not you have "forgiven" her, have you asked if she will ever forgive you? When your daughter needed her father the most, you ditched her? Just maintain your maintain. No wonder yoour wife leave you. Meanwhile drop her number, there might be good samaritans who wants to render unselfish help to her. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by jubrilELsudan: 6:41pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
YOU ARE VERY STUPID FOR DISOWNING YOUR DAUGHTER
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Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Londonderry: 6:43pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Foodqueen:You spoke correctly. The guy has every right to be angry except he is a pervert. The girl deserved what she got. Any child who won't listen to the her parents but follow irresponsible touts should be allowed to suffer a bit before being readmitted back. Let him receive her back with the innocent baby. She will do her own baby sitting while he goes to work and provide for them. These girls are a bunch of empty skulls who for a piece of meat pie and bottle of yoghurt will open their legs for any vagabond. Some body was saying where was the father when she was fornicating? That is a naive question. A devilish girl can even use her school hours for prostitution. 1 Like |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by cmikel: 6:44pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020: Are you shocked to be a granny at your age? U beta take ur children and take care of them Else u may regret it for the rest of ur life. Do u think that baby will remain a baby for ever? . |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Ivimmanuel: 6:45pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
No one is seen the pain of the father despite he has forgiven her daughter. I hate reading issues like this 1 Like |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Nobody: 6:47pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020: If you are going to take care of the baby. Get a lawyer and let the guy family be present to completely leave the baby for you. No future claimant. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Johel(m): 6:52pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
mastermaestro: Oga, read very well...this ain't a wish, it's me saying what I will do in all honesty...if any of my female child is promiscuous, I will disown her without thinking twice, my child can't bring shame to me, NEVER!!,If my son do anyhow too,he will see anyhow...but I will bring up my children in the way of the Lord, and if they decide to do evil, I will disown them, SIMPLE!. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by kelvinklein219(m): 6:53pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
Survivor2020:That child belongs to your lineage. If you like reject a take your daughter and the child, treat her and live like a big family, highest before next year you will even get to love her child.. Bro just accept them whole heartedly |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by NigerianAngelo(m): 6:55pm On Sep 22, 2022 |
You disowning her is a mortal sin. You can go to hell if you die in that state. Christ's new child cannot be a shame. Prepare what the child will need. Also find out if the infant's father can marry the girl. Else prepare her life well and commit all to God. She is 40x over and above those who killed the children. God bless you and her. God should her in perpetuity. 10 Hail Marys for the baby and in honour of its Guardian Angel. |
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