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At 36, I Still Stay With My Parents And I Feel Not bad about it. / Is My Decision Right Or Wrong / Will I Regret My Decision Later On In Life? (2) (3) (4)
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Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Born2Breed(f): 5:05am On Sep 23, 2022 |
Survivor2020: Take your daughter back and leave the grandchild with the father. That's his responsibility and your daughter is your responsibility. 2 Likes |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by AFONJAPIG(m): 5:07am On Sep 23, 2022 |
If u don't want to take the baby don't bother taking the mother... simps |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Cutehector(m): 5:27am On Sep 23, 2022 |
Ulunne777:goat and yam theory! It states that goat will always chop yam irrespective of the situation it finds itself in. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Elegantus: 5:53am On Sep 23, 2022 |
Survivor2020: Sir, the truth is that you've forgiven your child but you are making your grand child pay for the sins of her dad. You see the child as their child not as your grandchild. I have seen fathers who would die for their grandkid but your type is struggling to accept his grandchild. Sir, you are heartless 1 Like |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Ndipe(m): 6:01am On Sep 23, 2022 |
Please forgive her and bring her and your grandchild back home to live with you. 1 Like |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Ikpongiton: 6:11am On Sep 23, 2022 |
Where is your wife,I mean, the mother of your children?abi , you be single father? |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Abimbola29(m): 6:56am On Sep 23, 2022 |
Survivor2020:I don't blame you Bros,if I was you that guy will be in jail,or even his parents,as for me I will just take care of only my daughter...that's all 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by ImaIma1(f): 7:06am On Sep 23, 2022 |
Survivor2020: And they are swimming in poverty that they cannot afford to give your daughter proper medical care. How will they be able to take care of the little one that needs more care and attention? If anything happens to that child, you think your daughter will forgive you? You have forgiven your daughter but you want to take your anger out on the innocent child and separate her from her mother. That is not the way to go. Babies need their mothers especially when the mother is alive. Even if you decide to support with money for the upkeep of the baby, don't you think that such a family that is lacking will divert most of the funds, and what will come to the baby will be little. If you are not going to take the baby, please don't take the mother, and watch how your daughter will become a shadow of herself when that guy is done with her. 3 Likes |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by ImaIma1(f): 7:13am On Sep 23, 2022 |
Brooke60: So much wisdom in this post. Most times, fathers tend to be head strong and unyielding when things like this happens. They have every reason not to forgive until it is too late, and they start to regret. 2 Likes |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by sharone21(f): 7:27am On Sep 23, 2022 |
There is nothing prayer cannot do....You need wisdom and a lot of patience here and presently. Pay no attention to mockers and jesters. If you need to relocate from your present environment to accommodate your daughter and grandchild psychologically, do so. Take your daughter and grandchild and after 1 year, put your child in school and grandchild with your ex( her grandmother)..... and with time, she can begin school....If the mother is nowhere to be found, a day care may be necessary so your daughter can go back to school( very important) till your grandchild needs to go to school then your daughter will be the one picking her from school. There is a popular USA Nurse who became a parent with his high school sweet heart( maybe not more than 17-18 yrs then) while he was possibly 21 yrs. Both were determined while their parents helped out, sure there will be some time of separation......Today, they are married and one if the highest paid Nurses in USA and later welcomed another baby just last year when they were in their thirties. Peace. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Survivor2020(m): 7:36am On Sep 23, 2022 |
Thanks for all the advice. My daughter is at the hospital since yesterday night the baby is with her father. Mother and daughter will be reunited as soon as the mother gets better 6 Likes |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by ImaIma1(f): 7:38am On Sep 23, 2022 |
frozen70: If she continues to stay there with the guy, there's a high chance that she will get pregnant again. That will complicate her life even more. 1 Like |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Victoria938(f): 7:41am On Sep 23, 2022 |
Survivor2020: do you think your daughter will heal with her daughter being away from her?? it will play badly on her already fragile health, the way you love your daughter is the same way she loves her child. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Ok12345(f): 7:54am On Sep 23, 2022 |
See take care of your daughter first, let her be alive,hale and healthy first,na person wey dey alive dey take care of baby. Let the father take care of the baby till she is 1 year so he can also know it is not easy, don't give him a soft landing at all.If I was the one,I would have him arrested, he started sleeping with her when she is 16yrs or younger sef...hanhan what rubbish. You no fit take care of woman and your gbola dey rise. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by ImaIma1(f): 8:00am On Sep 23, 2022 |
wealthpreach: There's always an exception because nothing is absolute. You should know that. I have cousins that are 10months apart. And I have seen others. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by ImaIma1(f): 8:03am On Sep 23, 2022 |
Mindlog: He should accept that part of it is his fault because the daughter has grown up in a dysfunctional environment with no mother present. He should be looking for a way to salvage the situation. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Ulunne777(f): 8:19am On Sep 23, 2022 |
wealthpreach: I know what you are talking about but there are exceptions.Here was one. Do you even know that some cone for 6 weeks checkup not knowing they are pregnant already. I'm a mom four times and have seen matrons raking women who did such when we went for immunisations,6 weeks check ups and Post TT injection |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Oloriebi17(m): 8:51am On Sep 23, 2022 |
Haba naw ����... That girl does not deserve what u are making her pass through. I deed she have made a mistake but u should not have retaliate in that manner . Likes of Genevieve and even waje made such mistakes but today are a key figure in the society after the support and help they got .. pls take her and her son back !!!!!!!!!! .. u don't know how far that boy will go .... |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by ImaIma1(f): 8:53am On Sep 23, 2022 |
iamme1234: After shame what next? Is it enough to leave your own child at the mercy of people that won't value her as much? She made a mistake...so should you throw the baby away with the bath water. You talk about raising a girl child being difficult. What about boys? A boy that can be a nuisance and thorn in the flesh of his parents if he chooses to go astray. I believe in being disciplined. But when the anger settles, we need to think of what is best in the situation instead of destroying the child further. 1 Like |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Chydo63(m): 9:08am On Sep 23, 2022 |
Mindlog:oohh wait, so he even had both children with different mothers and he's here acting like a saint? mtchweee my friend, dont make the same mistake my parents made with my late elder sister who's daugther we can't trace! |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Nobody: 9:10am On Sep 23, 2022 |
Rozross:U de mad mak Konji kill us abi,, ur Nyash der,, na una way de 100yrs de go com date Ewu |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Nobody: 9:16am On Sep 23, 2022 |
Survivor2020:Better accept ur daughter and her Kid If anything happens 2 dat Baby, his or her blood is in ur head,,, God will nt judge de boyfriend, na u way no fit secure ur daughter God go Judge,, Better get sense and accept both of dem b4 I com Arrest you |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Testimony1988(m): 10:10am On Sep 23, 2022 |
Not a bad idea, but you should have forgiven her since and not allowing her to stay with her boyfriend when she's not ready for marriage. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Londonderry: 10:26am On Sep 23, 2022 |
iamL:Well I didn't know he is a single dad, at least he never said so and since I should think the best of people and not the worst, I assume he must at best be a widower or at worst be a divorcée. If he is reaping the fruit of the cycle of evil he has done, he has to take it softly. He is the chief architect, the girl is only a builder. Let him repent and give the girl a chance to repent and pray hard to break that cycle of evil or evil foundation. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by wales4real(m): 10:43am On Sep 23, 2022 |
You've forgiven her and yet you don't want to take care of your own grandchild. You are a wicked soul. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by peacefulhome(f): 10:53am On Sep 23, 2022 |
Survivor2020: This is why I hardly waste time giving advice to people. You have made up your mind on exact thing to do , yet came here allowing people to waste their time . |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Zestzealotzenit(m): 11:17am On Sep 23, 2022 |
My only advice for u is that u shud help in treating n making sure she n her baby her in good health....when she fully recover from her sickness if she has learnt her mistake she will cm back home to beg u don't be fooled by bringing her back home let her come by herself like d prodigal son then u accept her if u bring her home she might not fully learnt her lesson |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Preciousgift90: 11:20am On Sep 23, 2022 |
Survivor2020: What's the essence of seeking for advice when your mind is already made up not to carry the little baby with your daughter. Just go on with your wish, but it would have been better if you take the both of them. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Gemma11: 11:28am On Sep 23, 2022 |
Survivor2020: If you know that the boyfriend doesn't have money to take care of your daughter, what makes you think he can take care of the vulnerable baby? Please I no wan hear story after say the man abandon the pickin, child neglect or worst. As grandmother you need to step in and take care of that child because it is clear the parents are incapable of doing so. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by mariahAngel(f): 11:37am On Sep 23, 2022 |
Munzy14: I werela ya personal. Ufodu umu nwoke n'emekari ka nkita ma ha hu nwata nwaanyi. No self-control. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Mindlog: 11:38am On Sep 23, 2022 |
Chydo63: I can't even imagine the pain your family is experiencing, not knowing where your niece is. |
Re: I Hope My Decision Is Not Bad? by Dbrawllm0098(f): 12:25pm On Sep 23, 2022 |
Just take both of them else the baby might die and your daughter won't forgive you for life |
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