Kobonaire234:


Then one should not get married, if one is not effing ready to be tolerant.


It obviously did not mean anything to the man in this story. Two kids even, and he goes and plays away game because 'tolerance'.



Yes, she should stay, till the man informs her of his tenth child from the fourth, or is it seventh woman.



Well there are men who get married, and grow up. I intend to be one of them. No away games for me. Not at the expense of familial peace.



Yes he is remorseful...but the consequences of his sin lives on after him. (And if you think that his children or wife are going to tolerate another woman's child...or that he would be as forgiving if OP went and got pregnant outside their marriage...better think again).



He should have done like one former fiance of a woman my mum knew...and told his wife when they were still doing boyfriend girlfriend. The woman..my mama's pal, said that she did not want to live in a polygamous home, so they broke up...today they both have what they wanted and are happy.(And the guy was 'perfect' so to speak).

If he wanted to be polygamous...he should have said so from the word go...maybe the woman would have not married him self. And maybe we won't be reading this story.

07kjb:


Don't kick him out because u are seeing small change

A Single mother training two girls is just breeding them for oloshonism

U better make peace with your husband

KanuSE:


Ment!

PlayMaker14:
Lol, see the f0olish hypocrite saying someone is trolling.... What are you actually doing now? Is this not trolling in a hypocritical way?

Let me ask you, what have you build so far apart from being a bloody hypocrite in the forum.... My mates have built apps, what have you done with your life?

Bloody hypocrite looking for LIKES.

DadaHammed:


I have a PhD, I am health professional and also an online instructor for a university in the USA, getting paid in dollars while I sit here in Nigeria. That's what I am doing with my life. Can you beat that?

Weirdcamila:
The truth is unless you decide to stay single , the men out there are worse. I didn’t see where he beats you or maltreat your besides body shaming which he does to cage you.
Your husband is a nice man, he seems lost .
Find a way to help him before kicking him out .
I am not supporting your husband but think deeply and you will understand what I mean.
You are doing well and it will be difficult to find a man that loves you , they will be there to comfort you and milk you then still cheat on you.
Open your eyes

PlayMaker14:
Online PhD....


Bloody hypocrite.

Ashley86400:


If him leaving will bring peace to the home, it’s better that way.

If the genders were revolved y’all would support the woman leaving.

nkwuocha:

Omo even the ladies srlf are dumped for cheating.The madness is everywhere.


She get money.
She no really need the husband if she wise.
Omo, preek no scarce

DadaHammed:


Call it what you what, if you click on my Linkedin profile, you go call me 'Sir'...20 times in 5 minutes if you chat me up from there. Troll...

Alaefulu:
nawa, God I pray today and just as I have been praying and struggling everyday, make me to be sufficient financially before marriage, and even if I get to marry a woman who is more stable financially than me, I pray she should be the understanding type not the one that will remind me if things she does for me

PlayMaker14:
F0ol at 40 trolling with someone he called a kid... Online instructor indeed.


Bloody hypocrite.

nkwuocha:

Omo even the ladies srlf are dumped for cheating.The madness is everywhere.


She get money.
She no really need the husband if she wise.
Omo, preek no scarce

Life2020:
Hi, first I want to thank you all for your advise the last time i was here.

The last time I brought up my problems here, I vented out about how my husband is being a total pain in the ass.

The problem is one, he's cheating on me with several girls and still want to have sex with me but i refused stating that until he does a full STD test we are not having sex, simply put i need to Know that he is STD free before we have sex again.

Two, he's never at home, sometimes for two weeks he stays in hostels with girls, partying and spending his money, at first i tried to understand him because we did marry young, i felt that maybe he misses having his Independence, so at first i said nothing until it got worse. I now feel like a single mom, i do everything, the children don't even know anything about their dad, they see him as a stranger now, he's always cool towards them and i don't like it, have told him several times that i want the children to bound with him, i need them to have a good relationship with their father and have even advised him to take them out, maybe to a theme park or anything really but he has refused stating that he's busy.

Thirdly he body shames me, telling me that i look like a clown, I'm fit, it's not like I'm dirty or anything i take care of myself, i know he's lying because i have admirers, like a lot of them, ever since i started making money and could afford to employ workers, i have done everything to make myself look good, i go to the gym, do facials and i make sure I look beautiful, honestly I don't know what's wrong with him.

I have come to the conclusion that he is only saying it to be mean to me, maybe as a means of control, honestly i think he thinks if he makes me feel less than i am, to make me think i have no where else to go.

Thirdly when we first got married, we both agreed that he will go to the university first then later, i will also attend, after finishing his university education he couldn't find a job so i gave him two of my lands to start a business, he because successful in the business and his now lavishing the money. I have a farming business, it's very successful, with it i have many lands and i built the home me and my husband live in, ever since he started making money i advised him to build his own house but he has refused, instead he bought a fancy car, i want to build an estate so that i can have another source for revenue but for one reason or other, my husband is advising me against it.

Now back to me wanting to attend the university, i want to study accounting so that i can take my business to a new level but my husband has refused saying that he wants more babies, we already have twins (two lovely girls). i told him later, after I finish my university degree and our girls are a little bit older, we will have more kids

Now back to the present day, have decided I'm kicking my husband out. Recently, I noticed he was always at home, I was happy but surprised, I thought he had changed. I decided we need to spend time together as a family, I was even planning on us going on a vacation, give my children a life I wasn't opportune to live, I talked to him about it, we made plans, he agreed to go for a full STD test. I was happy
little did I know that my so called husband has fathered another child outside our marriage, he told me this himself, saying all sorts of nonsense on how I should advise the girl to abort it so that we can be one big happy family, I just looked at him, I haven't said anything to him in days. But I have decided that I'm kicking him out. I want to do this in a way that it doesn't affect my children, I really want them to build a relationship with their dad but as for me I clocked out of this marriage a long time ago.

I was advised by my a friend to make a video while I kick him out but I'm not going to do, he's till the father of my child, and I don't want my children to grow up and find those videos
honestly I just need emotional support while I go through this divorce.

KanuSE:


Not everyone is about prick or pvssy but genuine companionship, true affection, respect & faithfulness.

DadaHammed:


Well-done troll, check your life in the next 5 years, and see whether wetin I tell you no happen. You go still dey NL with another moniker dey waste..

PlayMaker14:
If I get you correctly, you said you need emotional support as you chase the father of your beautiful kids out of the house....

Alright, we will give you all the emotional support you need dear.

nwajesus12:
since is far away from you, Ewu

harwokunle1236:
If u are Muslim n ur husband have a child outside apart from u,It is allowed in Islam,but in Christianity it is not allowed now If u are a xtain and ur husband Ave go against ur marriage vow ,u are free to divorce him n enjoy life don't Ave hypertension because of ur unfaithful husband.
There are two clear biblical reasons where
divorce is allowed. The first one being adultery/
sexual immorality,so u are free to divorce him.
but u must remain unmarried.

CSTRR:

Wetin she wan use the man do sef? He serves no purpose to her.
she can't even fucckk him because he will want skin to skin and he is a high risk for diseases.
He also does not provide anything financially.

If there is ever a good case for a woman to divorce her husband, this is it.
If she wan fucckkk, boys full outside and they would be cheaper too, and she can force them to wear condom.

And She will have freedom to pursue her goals without that load of a husband.

Life2020:
Hi, first I want to thank you all for your advise the last time i was here.

The last time I brought up my problems here, I vented out about how my husband is being a total pain in the ass.

The problem is one, he's cheating on me with several girls and still want to have sex with me but i refused stating that until he does a full STD test we are not having sex, simply put i need to Know that he is STD free before we have sex again.

Two, he's never at home, sometimes for two weeks he stays in hostels with girls, partying and spending his money, at first i tried to understand him because we did marry young, i felt that maybe he misses having his Independence, so at first i said nothing until it got worse. I now feel like a single mom, i do everything, the children don't even know anything about their dad, they see him as a stranger now, he's always cool towards them and i don't like it, have told him several times that i want the children to bound with him, i need them to have a good relationship with their father and have even advised him to take them out, maybe to a theme park or anything really but he has refused stating that he's busy.

Thirdly he body shames me, telling me that i look like a clown, I'm fit, it's not like I'm dirty or anything i take care of myself, i know he's lying because i have admirers, like a lot of them, ever since i started making money and could afford to employ workers, i have done everything to make myself look good, i go to the gym, do facials and i make sure I look beautiful, honestly I don't know what's wrong with him.

I have come to the conclusion that he is only saying it to be mean to me, maybe as a means of control, honestly i think he thinks if he makes me feel less than i am, to make me think i have no where else to go.

Thirdly when we first got married, we both agreed that he will go to the university first then later, i will also attend, after finishing his university education he couldn't find a job so i gave him two of my lands to start a business, he because successful in the business and his now lavishing the money. I have a farming business, it's very successful, with it i have many lands and i built the home me and my husband live in, ever since he started making money i advised him to build his own house but he has refused, instead he bought a fancy car, i want to build an estate so that i can have another source for revenue but for one reason or other, my husband is advising me against it.

Now back to me wanting to attend the university, i want to study accounting so that i can take my business to a new level but my husband has refused saying that he wants more babies, we already have twins (two lovely girls). i told him later, after I finish my university degree and our girls are a little bit older, we will have more kids

Now back to the present day, have decided I'm kicking my husband out. Recently, I noticed he was always at home, I was happy but surprised, I thought he had changed. I decided we need to spend time together as a family, I was even planning on us going on a vacation, give my children a life I wasn't opportune to live, I talked to him about it, we made plans, he agreed to go for a full STD test. I was happy
little did I know that my so called husband has fathered another child outside our marriage, he told me this himself, saying all sorts of nonsense on how I should advise the girl to abort it so that we can be one big happy family, I just looked at him, I haven't said anything to him in days. But I have decided that I'm kicking him out. I want to do this in a way that it doesn't affect my children, I really want them to build a relationship with their dad but as for me I clocked out of this marriage a long time ago.

I was advised by my a friend to make a video while I kick him out but I'm not going to do, he's till the father of my child, and I don't want my children to grow up and find those videos
honestly I just need emotional support while I go through this divorce.

MadarasBlade:
Kick him out. A man who wold throw away his honor by living in his wife's house isn't worth being called a MAN.

somegirl1:
Too many idiots on here.
Don't allow yourself be pressured into staying in a relationship where you're treated as shabbily as you've described.
It might be difficult to envision now but you'll be better off without this man. Cut him loose so you can attain your full potential; he'll constantly be an impediment to your progress. When the time is right you'll meet someone better.
In the end, we regret inactions more than we do actions.

I don't know who you are but apart from your opening remarks which is not necessary, You won my highest vote based on your comment