Aareona:
The noises from friends and all nurtured the decision to move abroad inside of me.

See where u got it wrong up here. No personal conviction, u followed the noise of the crowd. You know how you left naija na, do you think you would be better off if u r still in naija, career wise and financially

Op let's get married.

Never a dull moment with me.

We are gonna explore the world together

gaby:
Human wants/needs are indeed insatiable.

Una go complain about Naija, complain about U.S., complain about U.K...so so complain.

Carry dem go heaven dem go still complain say the place too white or the angels clothes as dem depict am to us too bright...haba..

God, nature, and the universe abhors ingratitude and complains to no end.
Why would your savings not perpetually be hovering below the 20k mark when all you see and do is negatives?

Una no understand life and her workings.

You attract what you exhude...logic, but not a simple one to wrap an immature and inexperirnced mind around.

Whiners....

Make una get to work and mould your ideal country. We dey wait.

Integration, acclimatization, and adjustmen t are always foreign to you whiners and negativists.

Integrate with, acclimatise to and adjust to cold, loneliness, 2,3 jobs.

MufasaLion:


You work in an international organization and I'm so sure that they don't use public hospitals for the employees, or well, maybe they only use the private clinics for the high ranking employees, which you might probably be among. In fact, a company that could sponsor you outside the country for a conference definitely see and believe in your potentials and will offer you the best of packages!

Now tell me, how many Nigerians have the opportunity to work in such organization? In fact, many Professors still struggle in Nigeria! And health is not cheap in Nigeria but it's affordable, and only if you have money will you enjoy it!

Even the elites don't use Nigerian health facilities except it's unavoidable. Wether you can't wait to leave Canada or not, it's your business.

Hope you know in UK of today, if you have a headache, unless it is absolutely reported as something that is about to kill you, you won't see a doctor till January.

Aareona:
Earlier this year, I went back in time to few years back when I was doing so well in Nigeria. The noises from friends and all nurtured the decision to move abroad inside of me. I became so restless till I finally leave. The first day in Canada was the day I knew this place isn't where I can be forever. Most of us would have come back before the time we had in mind except for the fact that I don't still have enough. If I want to travel to naija for vacation now, I will need up to $4k. If I take that away from my savings, I don't know how I can recover.

No one tells about the downside of this place. I feel lonely, depressed and empty most times. Because no one to talk to, just everyone in my workplace goin about their business. If I make attempt to talk to them, they just waive it with a smile. It's been 3years here and the people I still talk to on video call are friends from Nigeria. It's been 3years and my savings is still Short of $20k despite how much my friends in Nigeria do tell me how easy it is for me to make money abroad but I never tell them my situation. I can't wait to make enough and leave Canada for good. I know a lot will come at me with the usuall "come back to Nigeria na", please this is not an attempt to denigrate your abroad heaven, just for me to rant out and be fine

If you leave Canada, where you likely be going?

ngBuild:

Maybe you skipped this part

can't wait to make enough and leave Canada for good

Why does he want to save enough? He should come back to Nigeria and see if he'd be able to save 1/8 of it in 5 years. He's benefiting from the good economy and the functional society that makes him earn the money he's worked for unlike Nigeria and yet, he's still talking trash about same society.

advanceDNA:
Let me reach there first and experience the lonliness ur are talking about...

You know that the expectation going abroad is great that when you go and see it is not that rosy, you can't project it to your people down home

Why?

Because the expectation is high and no one will ever agree that you are having it tough. So most times what you see people enjoying and all that is them trying to project something to you down home. It's very tough in western world. You have all the basics like water,light, welfare etc and you can make some money and send home

But what many can't understand is lifestyle is totally different. I can relate to him not being able to talk to anyone. They are very independent here and lack community life. That's why they don't play with mental health. The whole system fu*ks up some individual head. Also hardship is of another form that you can't relate until you see it. The normal hardship will relate to is being not able to eat well, having no basic amenities etc. But in the western world they do have it but in another form not what you can relate to

This is in no way to discourag your pursuit of the greener pastures but sometimes it is good to have a better context of all these so that you won't come and start writing epistle like the OP or me...it is a different world out here but still pursue your dreams and know that you can never replace home

Aareona:
Earlier this year, I went back in time to few years back when I was doing so well in Nigeria. The noises from friends and all nurtured the decision to move abroad inside of me. I became so restless till I finally leave. The first day in Canada was the day I knew this place isn't where I can be forever. Most of us would have come back before the time we had in mind except for the fact that I don't still have enough. If I want to travel to naija for vacation now, I will need up to $4k. If I take that away from my savings, I don't know how I can recover.

No one tells about the downside of this place. I feel lonely, depressed and empty most times. Because no one to talk to, just everyone in my workplace goin about their business. If I make attempt to talk to them, they just waive it with a smile. It's been 3years here and the people I still talk to on video call are friends from Nigeria. It's been 3years and my savings is still Short of $20k despite how much my friends in Nigeria do tell me how easy it is for me to make money abroad but I never tell them my situation. I can't wait to make enough and leave Canada for good. I know a lot will come at me with the usuall "come back to Nigeria na", please this is not an attempt to denigrate your abroad heaven, just for me to rant out and be fine

Ranting is ok. Fly down south to H-town TX. Let some of those west houston Naija boys show you around. No need to travel far.

MufasaLion:


Why does he want to save enough? He should come back to Nigeria and see if he'd be able to save 1/8 of it in 5 years. He's benefiting from the good economy and the functional society that makes him earn the money he's worked for unlike Nigeria and yet, he's still talking trash about same society.

You know that the expectation going abroad is great that when you go and see it is not that rosy, you can't project it to your people down home

Why?

Because the expectation is high and no one will ever agree that you are having it tough. So most times what you see people enjoying and all that is them trying to project something to you down home. It's very tough in western world. You have all the basics like water,light, welfare etc and you can make some money and send home

But what many can't understand is lifestyle is totally different. I can relate to him not being able to talk to anyone. They are very independent here and lack community life. That's why they don't play with mental health. The whole system fu*ks up some individual head. Also hardship is of another form that you can't relate until you see it. The normal hardship will relate to is being not able to eat well, having no basic amenities etc. But in the western world they do have it but in another form not what you can relate to

This is in no way to discourag your pursuit of the greener pastures but sometimes it is good to have a better context of all these so that you won't come and start writing epistle like the OP or me...it is a different world out here but still pursue your dreams and know that you can never replace home

He is not talking thrash about the society, he is just venting. Anyone staying or new to Europe or America can relate to him. Our societies are different so being real about this is not him taking it out on them

maasoap:


Integrate with, acclimatise to and adjust to cold, loneliness, 2,3 jobs.

Yes.
You lots still complain about the rains, sun, and lack of jobs here in Nigeria.

So, you see how nonsensical your complaints truly are.

Yes many will tell you to come back so many are desperate to travel and some did and have regretted it. Yes I have seen people who regretted travelling to Canada. Some where doing well in Nigeria and decided to travel but this particular guy when he did after some month he realized that he had made a mistake according to him, the money he had left, he decided to travel to china to buy some goods then he came back. Today he is doing great in is electronics shop. No be everybody it favours last last.

Aareona:
Earlier this year, I went back in time to few years back when I was doing so well in Nigeria. The noises from friends and all nurtured the decision to move abroad inside of me. I became so restless till I finally leave. The first day in Canada was the day I knew this place isn't where I can be forever. Most of us would have come back before the time we had in mind except for the fact that I don't still have enough. If I want to travel to naija for vacation now, I will need up to $4k. If I take that away from my savings, I don't know how I can recover.

No one tells about the downside of this place. I feel lonely, depressed and empty most times. Because no one to talk to, just everyone in my workplace goin about their business. If I make attempt to talk to them, they just waive it with a smile. It's been 3years here and the people I still talk to on video call are friends from Nigeria. It's been 3years and my savings is still Short of $20k despite how much my friends in Nigeria do tell me how easy it is for me to make money abroad but I never tell them my situation. I can't wait to make enough and leave Canada for good. I know a lot will come at me with the usuall "come back to Nigeria na", please this is not an attempt to denigrate your abroad heaven, just for me to rant out and be fine

I understand what you passing through
Be strong brother...

Agbegbaorogboye:

This one you're saying someone will die of heart attack. Do you know they carry out kidney transplant in Nigeria? Not to now talk of common cardiac arrest.
Just cause our elites have become addicted to foreign hospitals does not mean there are no good hospitals in Nigeria.
This is just like claiming pizza is better than akara
Wossai!!

Dude, don't sound smart. Go through the thread and you will find my comments. Don't jump into my mentions for my attention. Swerve!

Even the good hospitals, how many afford it? 133 millions of the citizens are living in penury!

Same thing my friend in Canada told me
He said loneliness wan kill am for there no body get time for anybody there is no social life as such.

The good thing is most people outside NIGERIA are not actually saying the truth

And the few ones who try to speak the truth get attacked by Nigerians back home

your situation is unfortunate but changeable.


1. I believe that you are not married. if you have a loving and understanding spouse and children, then you should not be lonely

2. about the your savings not up tp 20k for 3 years, You need to be listening to a radio program on AM 930 (CJCA the light) called the Ramsey show.
Dave Ramsey teaches about finances and investment and his show has been a blessing to me and my wife concerning our finances.

3. I don't know if you work in a specialized field or not But I would advise you to get licenses or what they call Tickets here. this would help you get better paying jobs .
Things like the PMP certificate ,P.Eng( Engineering license) , Vet license etc. requires you to write exams which cost a lot of money and requires a lot of sacrifices but the advantages are phenomenal. besides, getting occupied with these preparation will help you pass time and you wont have time to be feeling lonely.

4. Finally. Never joke with prayer. God is the doer of wonders and only he can make all your efforts
yield good result.



PLEASE WATCH OUT AND DONT SLIP INTO DEPRESSION. you will be fine.

Ok12345:
Op let's get married.

Never a dull moment with me.

We are gonna explore the world together

Oooshey fucking sharp shooter

Aareona:
Earlier this year, I went back in time to few years back when I was doing so well in Nigeria. The noises from friends and all nurtured the decision to move abroad inside of me. I became so restless till I finally leave. The first day in Canada was the day I knew this place isn't where I can be forever. Most of us would have come back before the time we had in mind except for the fact that I don't still have enough. If I want to travel to naija for vacation now, I will need up to $4k. If I take that away from my savings, I don't know how I can recover.

No one tells about the downside of this place. I feel lonely, depressed and empty most times. Because no one to talk to, just everyone in my workplace goin about their business. If I make attempt to talk to them, they just waive it with a smile. It's been 3years here and the people I still talk to on video call are friends from Nigeria. It's been 3years and my savings is still Short of $20k despite how much my friends in Nigeria do tell me how easy it is for me to make money abroad but I never tell them my situation. I can't wait to make enough and leave Canada for good. I know a lot will come at me with the usuall "come back to Nigeria na", please this is not an attempt to denigrate your abroad heaven, just for me to rant out and be fine

I understand how you feel.
This country is not for extrovert

I enjoy Canada because I'm an introvert,and I love cold weather. But I understand that someone quite opposite me would hate to live here. I am also able to live well here because im always working and doing one thing after another. I know for a fact if i don't,i might get bored as well.
You can make try and make Nigerian friends Make enough investment before you leave, it is well

A human is not fulfilled by money. If you tell a poor man he won’t understand, but ask a rich person and they will tell you the truth.

Quality relationships are the key and it begins with your relationship with God.

Opolopoopolonio:
@Gaby and MufasaLion

You guys are really thinking like modern day slaves.

It's not today Africans started going abroad.

The first set left hundreds of years ago and some of them returned of their own accord.

I have former colleagues abroad now and most of them are regretting leaving their jobs here for abroad.

Unfortunately, it's too late to make a reversal. A lot has been committed already.

They are regretting because they went without proper planning. And for you to have such irresponsible and useless friends says a lot about your personality also. Stop keeping useless people as friends and acquaintances and see yourself grow!

You and your colleagues are the ones with slave mentality.

Aareona:
Earlier this year, I went back in time to few years back when I was doing so well in Nigeria. The noises from friends and all nurtured the decision to move abroad inside of me. I became so restless till I finally leave. The first day in Canada was the day I knew this place isn't where I can be forever. Most of us would have come back before the time we had in mind except for the fact that I don't still have enough. If I want to travel to naija for vacation now, I will need up to $4k. If I take that away from my savings, I don't know how I can recover.

No one tells about the downside of this place. I feel lonely, depressed and empty most times. Because no one to talk to, just everyone in my workplace goin about their business. If I make attempt to talk to them, they just waive it with a smile. It's been 3years here and the people I still talk to on video call are friends from Nigeria. It's been 3years and my savings is still Short of $20k despite how much my friends in Nigeria do tell me how easy it is for me to make money abroad but I never tell them my situation. I can't wait to make enough and leave Canada for good. I know a lot will come at me with the usuall "come back to Nigeria na", please this is not an attempt to denigrate your abroad heaven, just for me to rant out and be fine

I think most Nigerians abroad are only there because Nigeria economy isn't good.

In fact, most would have come back home if the country it good.

The loneliness abroad isn't for the faint hearted. You've to be mentally strong to live in some places abroad especially where there are few numbers of blacks. In most cases, everyone minds their businesses including the blacks that one would think should be friends with you.

Leaving friends and family behind for greener pasture is not easy.

You'll be fine.

MufasaLion:


Poverty mentality. Did that money save Abba Kyari or the Ekiti Speaker that died?

Ignorant folks like you think everything can be gotten with money. Can you go to Ibadan without fear during the day, not even at night. Even if you have maximum security, you will still go to your church to do vigil because of it.

Apostle Suleiman the IndecentStar, was attacked even with the security in Edo! Think!

God, I hate people that the first words that come out of their mouth is "poverty mentality". They always see everything through poverty! Sickening!
Like people didn't die in USA, UK, Canada during covid-19 that killed Abba Kyari. Or, you were told that there are no facilities in some hospitals in Nigeria that compare to the ones in developed nations? You're ignorant.

And concerning security, people that die on daily basis through violence in USA far surpassed that of Nigeria.

MufasaLion:


Dude, don't sound smart. Go through the thread and you will find my comments. Don't jump into my mentions for my attention. Swerve!

Even the good hospitals, how many afford it? 133 millions of the citizens are living in penury!

Sorry if my point touched a sore nerve
You said Buhari will die of heart attack in Nigeria. That's what I pointed out as wrong. If you have the kind of resources of a Buhari, there's no reason you'll want to migrate to Canada or any Western nation.
That's my point. Not how many can afford good hospitals or not.

.

Aareona:
Earlier this year, I went back in time to few years back when I was doing so well in Nigeria. The noises from friends and all nurtured the decision to move abroad inside of me. I became so restless till I finally leave. The first day in Canada was the day I knew this place isn't where I can be forever. Most of us would have come back before the time we had in mind except for the fact that I don't still have enough. If I want to travel to naija for vacation now, I will need up to $4k. If I take that away from my savings, I don't know how I can recover.

No one tells about the downside of this place. I feel lonely, depressed and empty most times. Because no one to talk to, just everyone in my workplace goin about their business. If I make attempt to talk to them, they just waive it with a smile. It's been 3years here and the people I still talk to on video call are friends from Nigeria. It's been 3years and my savings is still Short of $20k despite how much my friends in Nigeria do tell me how easy it is for me to make money abroad but I never tell them my situation. I can't wait to make enough and leave Canada for good. I know a lot will come at me with the usuall "come back to Nigeria na", please this is not an attempt to denigrate your abroad heaven, just for me to rant out and be fine

I understand very well,i was in ur shoes before,i ran back to nigeria,it not easy.
I don't know if it was my village people that caused loneliness for me,because a man from my place live upstairs, i refused to visit him,until i ran back to nigeria.

wman:


This is a funny thing to write. Someone saved close to $20k and you are mocking him? Most Americans have no savings. Plus, he must have been paying black tax too and fending for his relatives in Nigeria.

I didn't mock him. I only stated fact. Also, he's not obligated to inconvenient himself all because of family.

When you step out of familiar places to go out and look for money, you are bound to feel lonely. I grew up in Lagos and Ibadan. My families have been around in those same places. Four the past four years I have had to relocate and work in Asaba and I must confess it has not been easy living far from home. So it's natural and op should just understand that the experience is part of responsibilities that come with adulthood.

MufasaLion:


You work in an international organization and I'm so sure that they don't use public hospitals for the employees, or well, maybe they only use the private clinics for the high ranking employees, which you might probably be among. In fact, a company that could sponsor you outside the country for a conference definitely see and believe in your potentials and will offer you the best of packages!

Now tell me, how many Nigerians have the opportunity to work in such organization? In fact, many Professors still struggle in Nigeria! And health is not cheap in Nigeria but it's affordable, and only if you have money will you enjoy it!

Even the elites don't use Nigerian health facilities except it's unavoidable. Wether you can't wait to leave Canada or not, it's your business.

no mind am,u come to naija and use 5star private hospital on ur company expense u that's how everybody enjoy it

gaby:


You are a kid...

Go play on the sand with your mates...

Na me and your papa suppose dey discuss life issues.

Idiot.

Nice jab!... Lol

Only few can relate what this man is expressing. Experience they said is the best teacher. It's not always greener at the other side. Some people has never experience what it means to be lonely, depressed and unhappy with life even if you are surrounded with the so called amenities that we crave for.If you have lived abroad before, you will understand what the op is saying. I believe most people have heard about Billionaires committing suicide, has it ever occurred to you why som1 with everything that you dream of decides to take he's life. In life, you will get to a point where all that matters is your Peace of mind. Every country has its own peculiar challanges.

gaby:


Yes.
You lots still complain about the rains, sun, and lack of jobs here in Nigeria.

Some sacrifices are not worth it, try to understand that.

She's you see how nonsensical your complaints truly are.

BTW: stop making Fallacy: error of generalisation