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Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by ChukwukaEze: 6:13pm On Dec 21, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:You know what, everything is not about logic, but everything is about choice. If he (and ofcourse you), find no logical premise to help a man, then fine. But know you are also making your own bed, hmmm? 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by Kobojunkie: 6:18pm On Dec 21, 2022 |
ChukwukaEze:1. But Wisdom is of logic, and we are best served when we apply wisdom as far as our choices in life. So, are you suggesting we abandon wisdom in our dealings even where family relations are concerned? ![]() 2. Oh, I intentionally refuse to repeat any of the mistakes of those who came before me for sure. That is how I lay my bed ![]() 12 Likes |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by ChukwukaEze: 6:24pm On Dec 21, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:Rather associate logic with choice than with wisdom. 2. And you are wise when you let your family member die? 'cause he didn't take care of you? 2 Likes |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by Neverlookback: 7:38pm On Dec 21, 2022 |
Men and women are different, and each provide different kind of influence on the kids. Nigerian men are typically not emotional, just like Nigerian women are typically not romantic. Women should desist from trying to turn men into effeminate beings, as seen in the west. It's already creating leadership vacuum in families, which in turn affect the children. Bottom line is that a man should not have to depend on his children for his retirement. While training your children, put a little on the side, because these children will have their own family to take care of in the future. 10 Likes |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by eben97: 8:02pm On Dec 21, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:BEEN his fan since early 90s.a fine boy gone wrongvia wrong parental upbringing.the grandma tried a bit,buthis mom& dad were trouble..drugs and streets!i expect less from nick o,the averageblackafrican things!GOD [img] Kobojunkie:BEEN his fan since early 90s.a fine boy gone wrongvia wrong parental upbringing.the grandma tried a bit,buthis mom& dad were trouble..drugs and streets!i expect less from nick o,the average black african things!GOD GO HELP US PARENTS O! its truely not easy.shout out to all God fearing dads out there |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by Kobojunkiee: 8:53pm On Dec 21, 2022 |
ChukwukaEze:1. Note that all logic is not wisdom, so also your logical choices. But logical choices made with wisdom are. ![]() 2. We are, all as a race, related by blood-- either to Adam or another first --- so why elevate your family members, even a father who chose to invest his time and care on those outside of family, above others? I honestly never really understood the logic of that as it all seems self serving to me. Yet when people do it, they pat themselves on the back believing they have accomplished the most unselfish of feats. ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by Kobojunkiee: 8:58pm On Dec 21, 2022 |
Neverlookback:1. Yet all Nigerian men who endevour to live true to their emotional side you lot are quick to call names and demonize because they are different from you?, ![]() 2. How can a woman be to blame for the character of a man she never raised and probably had little time to nature assuming she even birthed him? ![]() 3. Yet the vast majority of your Nigerian men depend entirely on their same children for exactly that. You sure say you dey connected as far as reality at all? ![]() 9 Likes |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by GloriousGbola: 9:23pm On Dec 21, 2022 |
Chee59: The real irony is that the ediat is using a picture of MLK as his dp. 1 Like |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by Chee59(f): 10:38pm On Dec 21, 2022 |
Neverlookback:If it is effeminate to care for your kids, stay childless. 11 Likes |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by Chee59(f): 10:39pm On Dec 21, 2022 |
Kobojunkiee:You have time to explain. Toxic masculinity will finish him if he doesn't amend his mindset. 3 Likes |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by MufasaLion: 10:56pm On Dec 21, 2022 |
Bethanybethel: Very nice! He should reap what he sowed. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by Neverlookback: 3:09am On Dec 22, 2022 |
Please define "care" in this context. Chee59: 2 Likes |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by toluxe0075: 12:13pm On Dec 22, 2022 |
Takes like what is in the picture the op posted is one of the major reasons many dads are lonely at old age. Most dads spend most of their life making their children fear them than love them. They don’t create any beautiful memories with their children. They don’t initiative conversations that can help build bond with their children. And when they do, they get angry and shout down their children for coming up with opposing ideas about a subject. The children cannot be themselves around them. To some dads, commanding the children and forcing them to obey is the major reason they give birth in the first place. When the children grow up, they have nothing to discuss with their dads. No intimate bond that can trigger cordial emotions or conversation. That is why many older children and their dads might be in the sitting room for hours without uttering any word to each other. Many dads try to make up later when they realized their mistakes, but it’s always too late. This reminded me of a story a friend told me that whenever himself and his siblings are gathered in a room having fun or conversation and their dad tries to join them, they all leave the room one after the other or have lesser conversation. Why? Their dad was fond of sending them to their rooms at every given opportunity when the family gathers, especially when they give dissenting opinions or when their dad wants to force his way to watch a movie of his interest. They also find it difficult to be themselves around him because they don’t know what might get him angry. It’s better you build a good relationship with your children than any other thing. Your children will become your friend when you do so. This would make them to be free to share their problems, happiness, and sorrow with you. Many guys will not understand this. But I hope they learn quickly before it’s too late. Don’t allow random internet post make you make mistakes you will regret forever. 28 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by ChukwukaEze: 4:10pm On Dec 22, 2022 |
Kobojunkiee:An issue that made you change your signature must be a serious one, a reminder even. 2 Likes |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by Kobojunkie: 4:12pm On Dec 22, 2022 |
ChukwukaEze:I didn't change my signature. Instead, one account got banned so I switched over temporarily to using the other until this main one was released. ![]() |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by Chee59(f): 10:45am On Dec 23, 2022 |
toluxe0075:If only I can write as well as you do. But everything you wrote is 100% correct. 1 Like |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by dalass(f): 3:49pm On Dec 30, 2022 |
Bethanybethel: I don't know you or your dad. He abandoned you, yes, but your kids are also watching what you are doing to your dad. So you don't harvest same from your kids please do whatever you can for him. Karma has judged him and he can never get great things from you. Your mom deserves that. But we sometimes do good things for strangers. For your own sake and children, do forgive him in the spirit of this season of God's unconditional love. Bless up bro ![]() ![]() P.S if I tell you my own story, you'll see that I understand where the shoe pinches 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by Boyuche: 11:56am On Dec 31, 2022 |
Exactly! Na my mind u speak like dis Jennyclay: 1 Like |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by IamtheTruth1(m): 11:57am On Dec 31, 2022 |
Bethanybethel: To what end ? |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by SPAMBOX7: 11:58am On Dec 31, 2022 |
I am his supporter but this one wey he cap na comfam trash. Besides why he sounding like he's scared of female manipulations. Something wey men don dey detect from miles away. Na when you detect am and you no come counter that's when you fail. I hope all is well with this Eric atm tho 2 Likes |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by Father4all: 12:00pm On Dec 31, 2022 |
So a man without millions in his Akant can't f*ck and have children again? Sometimes, you can't believe everything that comes from internet. Some people were neglected but they later turn successfully well in life. Life no balance |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by Sepviour(m): 12:00pm On Dec 31, 2022 |
I can say I am a victim of such My parents raised me well, but there was nothing like emotional enlightenment or support. So when I left the house it affects me, till tomorrow I still suffer from it ![]() ![]() |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by adedayoa2(f): 12:01pm On Dec 31, 2022 |
Bethanybethel:no, don't do that. If you continue like that, it only shows you have learnt from the best. Before you ask "are you in my shoes"? Yes, and my mum never allowed us neglect him now that he is old. |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by Bonapart(m): 12:01pm On Dec 31, 2022 |
Bethanybethel:that's wickedness. Anyone who liked your post is either a witch or a wizard. Repent and go help that poor old man or what will befall you will be worst |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by ghiloman28(m): 12:02pm On Dec 31, 2022 |
If you capable on helping him I think you should do. Everything we become today is by the grace of God. I pray he find helper Bethanybethel: 3 Likes |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by harjay1986: 12:02pm On Dec 31, 2022 |
Davidave: Bros we are in the same league, please if you have it in your capacity to assist him do it ... it has a reason .... just over look his past attitude . Only if your not yet steady I will say u should stay on your own ... |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by kansoboy: 12:03pm On Dec 31, 2022 |
Bethanybethel: Oga go Nd help Ur father if u can afford it... One day, if u are a man, u may understand y he left u and Ur mother....but don't make mistake of letting him die when u can safe his life. If u are a girl, u wil never under his reason. But u will get in love one day and u will begin to wonder y is life like this. 1 Like |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by mansoor093(m): 12:03pm On Dec 31, 2022 |
Bethanybethel: You don't really need that, try as much to help your father, no matter what the past is. Do Good to your parents, so God can be Merciful to you. |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by putmanj146: 12:04pm On Dec 31, 2022 |
ibkayee:You are right on this babe 2 Likes |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by chatinent: 12:05pm On Dec 31, 2022 |
Goat and rat will be doing sth wrong and still be bold to post it and call it motivation. "Don't do this, don't do this"...ewu, what works for you may not work for others! Thank you doctor for calling him out. |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by kk2027: 12:05pm On Dec 31, 2022 |
Bethanybethel: Gone are the days men think they can do anyhow and later the kids will help them The world is changing fast and the joke is on fathers to pick up their responsibilities or reap what they sowed 1 Like |
Re: This Is What Happens When You Neglect Your Children by imagrg(m): 12:06pm On Dec 31, 2022 |
Ladies on this forum are so short sighted to the extent that they fail to realise that it takes a man and a woman to father children. The responsibility of child's care is on both parents. 2 Likes |
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