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Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by shineeye1: 9:11pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
all4zionlover: Wicked Woman! All these many many years that you all have been eating and feeding fat on this man's hard work while keeping what you earn to yourself alone, did you come to nairaland to ask for divorce? Diabolical Deviress! Now that the hapless man is down for no fault of his and is doing all to retain his sanity and keep calm and collected for a sure next move, you want to bring the heavens down! Demon!!! How many years now have you been feeding the family alone, how many years, you devil incarnate?! I hate you with passion, just as I hate all devils 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by creatorsverse(m): 9:11pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
all4zionlover: Listen carefully my sister your husband is battling serious depression...I'm telling you this as a former gambler... There are things you need to look out for first... You have to check if he's still gambling or the gambling spirit is still in him... What you will have to do first is to trust him with a little cash of say 50-100k tell him you are giving it to him to buy new clothes and new shoes.... If he buys the new clothes and shoes, check the actually value if it's up to 80% or more of the money you gave to him, if it is then you're safe all he needs is just encouragement that it is never too late to start over again.. but if he doesn't buy the clothes and shoes you asked him to buy, then you really need to find a way to contact me I can help him pull through the gambling problem... Its never an easy task.. I know what I've lost to gambling but finally recovering all thanks to God Note: the money you will give to him mustn't be for clothes and shoes but just look for what he really needs and give him the money to get them... You have to act fast before he starts selling the property he has at home and elsewhere 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Neddstark: 9:11pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Make it a threat He will sit up 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Dancebreaker: 9:11pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Kingdollar28:all4zionlover My sister this is the truth. He is confused and depressed about the situation. He he has no energy or desire to face the world. He is yet to accept reality. Depression and addiction/problem gambling are two serious issues. He also feels emasculated not providing as he used to. He is definitely not happy about it. Keep supporting him so that he doesn't go into something he might regret just to make quick money. Also to ensure that his situation doesn't rift you guys apart. As it stands, he might need counselling. 2 Likes |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Isabi4lov: 9:11pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
victorazy:That has been the standard from time immemorial. Men should provide for their families. Even the Bible says that a man that cannot provide for his own, he's worse than an infidel. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Zihno: 9:11pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
ednut1: Why? Because he doesn’t contribute financially? Most women don’t contribute financially. There’s nothing wrong with a man not providing. OP already told us that he helps around the house. Maybe that’s his forte and what he wants to do. Some men these days want to be SAHDs. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by caandi: 9:12pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
JeffreyJunior:gambling as a leisure?? I doubt this Is gambling not illegal?? It’s even against biblical law in Christianity There’s nothing cool bout gambling Once addicted the person can gamble his soul too someday |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by timjones1(m): 9:13pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
If I may ask. Who provided all those luxuries? How much of it did you contribute? How long has be been like that or done this? Gambling is bad, but He is in a bad place, u think he is happy with you condition? He is probably depressed and trying to control what does next, he is limiting his decisions to he figure things out. Just give him time, cheer him up and try to talk to him to see if he can open up.. You've been enjoying all these while, now because of how many days you provide food you now think he's worth a divorce all4zionlover: 2 Likes |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by ridwintin89(m): 9:13pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
all4zionlover:Does he has money without giving u.A gambler can be seen working but still be always broke.Gambling kills strong men,it makes people see them as useless being. If u think u can not help him to fight his problem, please divorce him.You don't fight someone that had problems already. Addiction is not corrected with fight,but care,love and councelling. You can tell him to swear with bible that he will never gamble again,and let him see reason on how gambling has affected his life. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by kelvinovie25(m): 9:13pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Lol this looks funny but not enough reason to divorce him, it's not easy for a man that losses his job, seems you have no idea what's going on in his head, you might try to find out what he is not telling you though. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Mindlog: 9:13pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Luckysbab: It is not in her place to book him a session, he has book it himself. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Cowbell521: 9:13pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Cleanworld:Lol. She belongs to the streets. Broda Alieu money don finish. Aduke Oshodi eye don clear. Let her divorce him make the guy see road 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Zihno: 9:14pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Isabi4lov: Times have changed. Arguing with the Bible doesn’t make sense in this case. The OPs marriage wasn’t most likely based on the Bible. Even the Bible encourages men to drag non virgin women to their fathers house and stone them to death. A woman can provide while the man takes care of the home. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Tilldendoftime(m): 9:15pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
all4zionlover:It's a horrible situation ma'am but divorcing him for this isn't d beat option...though it's an option I will rather advice u speak to him midly on his next move and make him understand u are doing this for d kid's sake .as in their future. Don't deny him food or whatever u can afford ..time will tell if he will change or not which am sure he will if he's a reasonable kind with love for d family. God help u to help him ..God bless ur family |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Mindlog: 9:16pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
ridwintin89: Swear bible? ![]() ![]() ![]() You clearly have no idea what gambling addiction is! ![]() ![]() |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Zincfingers: 9:16pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Richy4:Guy no kill me nah ![]() ![]() ![]() The husband fit use the AC bet |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Oboto700(m): 9:16pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Klass99:why calling someone name.. what if he's on this forum |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Zihno: 9:17pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
ahnie: The first part made sense, the second, not so much. Why can’t he be a stay at home dad while OP becomes the provider? She’s already providing. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by emiika: 9:17pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
frozen70: many reasons if you care to know, you mean she should divorce him and marry another man that is more worse than the husband they’ve been sharing things together, yoi people don’t know anything, better make she dey manage her man than go remarry person wey go kill her, which good man dey outside now ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by TheFacelessMan: 9:17pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Just make him a House Husband. Let him do ALL duties of a housewife. And you become the breadwinner Do a gender swap. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Kobojunkie: 9:17pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
highchief1:What did the man do to her? ![]() |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by jaxxy(m): 9:18pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
all4zionlover: No it's not enough untill u know why he can't get himself together and provide for his family. U said he lost his job due to gambling? that's a very serious situation that u need to address squarely to begin moving forward. Tough times is not the time to think of divorce. it's the time to understand the situation and see how to help each other "without nagging" Nagging or complaining to a man like he doesn't know he's in the bad situation is not a solution or a helpful thing. Reminding a manif his problems or inability is not a solution or helpful behaviour. I'm sure he knows he has a problem and is looking for help or a solution not ur nagging about it. ![]() Then the only solution u can come up with is divorce? ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by ahnie: 9:18pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Zihno:My daughter's namesake. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Kobojunkie: 9:19pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Cowbell521:What truth? Nigerian men typically choose hypogamy in order that they can sit as gods over their women in marriage. Women rarely ever desire to occupy such positions in marriage. So when the man fails to provide as previously agreed upon, it makes no sense to then expect the woman to take over. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by juman(m): 9:19pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
ahnie: I have seen unserious men like that. They stayed unserious throughout. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Machinegun91(m): 9:19pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Divorce him and start hookup business so that men below his capacity will be banging with no mercy. This gender is too good in manipulating things, how did you know he lost his job because of gambling? How did you know he doesn't have a plan? Do you know how he made his money before marrying you? Get out you gold digger 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by ahnie: 9:19pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
TheFacelessMan:My point exactly. Her own even better say he dey do house chores sef. 2 Likes |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Kobojunkie: 9:20pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Cowbell521:I see you are not ready to reason properly sef! ![]() |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by shineeye1: 9:20pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
ahnie: The evil you wish another woman's son is coming to you... 2 Likes |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by MyExpression(m): 9:20pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
If a man goes to work, cater for everything, and all the woman does is to watch over the children, take care of the house chores....she's a good wife. Now the reverse is the case, and you wanna divorce him? This life sha no get equality. What a man can do in peace, a woman can not do without feeling frustrated. Man na man, woman na woman. Don't divorce him yet. Help him get opportunities. Encourage him to take up underclass jobs...help him secure loan....support him to get on his feet...he is frustrated with himself. My uncle who is a graduate lost his job with Starlinks dat year. Got so bad that he worked as a security. Now he's back on his feet...a pastor now, enjoying God's goodness and plenty offering money. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by jaxxy(m): 9:21pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: a wife is a help mate meaning she helps when help is needed. Complaining and nagging about a problem isn't help. it is stress. ![]() 1 Like |
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