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Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Oyerinde16(m): 9:21pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
He lost his job, he wakes up eat and goes back to sleep... He gambles, he is lazy, he said he has a plan but you know he doesn't... You want to divorce him... But tomorrow if he hit it big and start balling, you will want to come back... You are only happy when he his balling, as soon as he hit ground zero, I want to leave... 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Elidrisy20: 9:21pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Is his gbola functioning or not? |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by stevups(m): 9:22pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
all4zionlover: You are deceiving yourself. Your husband will bounce back...and you will regret your action...I lost my job for almost 2years. I'm back on my feet.. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by weslay: 9:22pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
all4zionlover: The bolded cracked me up. Your husband has been providing without complaining. Now that he has a little setback, you are already talking of divorce. Embrace Equality my foot. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Kmoney4money: 9:22pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Dis is exactly my story, though I was caring to my wife and child till wen I lost my job to gambling...I will always respect and my wife till death,I have never seen a woman as strong as her, she stood by me ND cater for the home for good four years,before I got anoda job.ahe never complained,but pray,advice and believe I can rise again. U can do dsame...ur husband is not been lazy,but frustrated and depressed. 4 Likes |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by GboyegaD(m): 9:23pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
all4zionlover: He has no good record yet you chose to have two kids with him. Do not throw out the baby with the bath water. My advice is you listen to what he has in mind. You don't nag him on what he plans to do as that wouldn't make him open up. Been supportive when a spouse is down requires understanding that shows that one is willing to hold hands with the down partner and walk the journey. He's lost all to gambling, you don't need to rub that in. Suggest mental rehabilitation as a means for recovery and you could go to his sessions with him. You could also ask him in a polite way to join you in the business as a means to keep him occupied. However, seems your mind is made up from your responses thus, you could do that which pleases you. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Romanoff(f): 9:23pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
It's not a ground for divorce. Separation, maybe, if the man has refused to do anything after the wife has tried everything she can. But a man like that is probably frustrated and not comfortable about his current state. He needs therapy and counseling to get through whatever is eating him up. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by ahnie: 9:23pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
shineeye1:Zero strength for uncalled banters this night. Cheers bye! |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Kobojunkie: 9:24pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
jaxxy:Marriage is an agreement between a man and a woman. Sensibly, husband and wife are meant to share responsibilities but in hypogamy, the man typically trades that benefit off in order to sit as a god in the relationship. When he fails in his part of the agreement, the agreement itself is violated. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Luckysbab: 9:25pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: That can't be judged from the account put out of him lying under the AC. Or have we drawn this inference from that "accusation"? ![]() |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Luckysbab: 9:25pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Mindlog: If you say so, I guess she's of no relevance to him again then. So she can move on. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by obinna58(m): 9:26pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
all4zionlover:Very selfish gender, you think you’re hurting more than he is You think he doesn’t realize he has kids to cater for What have you done to help his situation? Have you asked him what his plans are? Have helped search a job for him? but oh no you want to put him in a more depressed state than he is already, a misery Very very selfish gender I can’t believe I use to like this gender |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by jaxxy(m): 9:26pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: and which church married them according to hypogamy? or which hypogamy documents did he sign and assume god role in the family? |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Nobody: 9:29pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
creatorsverse:He still gambles. I don't need to go all that far to know. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by bigiyaro(m): 9:29pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Gloriagee:was he a loving and caring father and husband before the incident? When he comes out of the woods, maybe another woman will be there to enjoy him. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by APCNig: 9:29pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
all4zionlover: YES it is enough reason to tie him to the electric pole and shoot him dead. When a man carries the family responsibilities for 100 years, nobody will hear. But, when a woman carries the responsibilities for one week, CNN, BBC, Aljazeera will all hear. We the serial fornicators and unrepentant adulterers are waiting for you outside. We will give you good dicck and lots of sexually transmitted disease. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Gboom: 9:30pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
@ OP. I perceive, you have already made up your mind to leave your husband you are just here to validate your thought. Let me tell you this, the advises you are getting here are majorly from singles, anti-marriage people or evening newspapers who has never been in your shoes to know where it pinches. Presently, it is very possible that your husband is in a depress state due to excessive loss and your constant nagging. The only way for him to survive is you for now. You need to show him love to turn things around in his life. Let share an experience of one Igbo woman with you. The woman sells food and husband does nothing than to play baba ijebu after his bus got damaged and he lost the proceed of the bus to gambling. Mind you they have 6 grown up children to cater for, the man added to the woman's liability, but she endured. She was able to set up another business for the husband and he is doing well, and he is playing role little by little for now |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Fuckyoumod: 9:30pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
all4zionlover:I'm so ashamed of you right now. You come out here mocking your husband and humiliating your husband,the father of your kids, threatening to abandon him and your marriage simply because he lost his job and can't afford to take care of his family currently. Madam, I dare you to abandon your marriage and live to regret it, for the rest of your life. That man will rise again! Mark it somewhere. But your actions now will determine your marriage afterwards. I still believe that man you are humiliating will rise again. I have more faith in him than you Madam. The choice is yours! A word is enough for the wise. It's better to be a wife that stepped in and stood for her husband in his trying times, than a wife that abandoned him. This is my humble advice. Be wise! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by ridwintin89(m): 9:31pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Mindlog:I know people that stopped gambling after swearing with Bible or Quran.The fear of curse putting on themselves with the holy book scare them from doing it again. When I was in school, four of my friends had to swear and they stopped. I refused to swear but telling you have lost over 5m to gambling. I work without having anything to show for it.Gambling kills. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Isabi4lov: 9:32pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Zihno:Shebi same Bible said that we should flee from pre marital sex , I guess fleeing from it will make more ladies to be a virgin till marriage , hope your gender will let ladies be . If a woman should provide for the family, whilst the man sit at home , then such man should be ready to be a full time house boy ![]() If he lost his job on a neutral ground, that's a different case but gambling, na mumu dey worry am . He should not stand up and go and look for factory job to do before he will see a white collar job. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Kobojunkie: 9:32pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
jaxxy:Which kain yeye questions you dey ask so? Wetin concern church with this topic? Na documents you dey use choose wife? ![]() |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by DevilSignature: 9:33pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
all4zionlover:not enough reason to divorce him Wake him up at night Give him enough sex and then have a heart 2 heart conversation with him 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by APCNig: 9:33pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Fuckyoumod: WHy are you spoiling our show nah. We the unrepentant fornicators and adulterers are waiting for her outside to give her good diccks and plenty STDs |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Nobody: 9:33pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
all4zionlover: You married an irresponsible man. A man-woman. Carry your cross cos there's nothing you can do to change him, just manage the situation and be thankful to God that he helps with house chores. No responsible man gambles. Let alone one with family responsibility. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by imagrg(m): 9:33pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Does he still have a strong enough erection to fvck you? If he still does, then ask him to go get a job and stop giving him food and kpekus. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by xavuv: 9:33pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
gaby: OP, pls take note of this good advice. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Kobojunkie: 9:33pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Luckysbab:I don't follow! ![]() |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by shineeye1: 9:34pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Elidrisy20: Exactly a point! The IDIOOOOTT did not even complain about the gbola. Apparently, the dude has deliberately kept a calm mind in this trying time, all in order to keep gbola fit for purpose for the bitch, yet the fatal ingrate will not be appeased. Divorce nah. EWOBI!!! 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by mozona(m): 9:34pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Is a tricky situation though, he might be making plans to get new job and he can do that through calls not necessary he goes out. But it depends how long he has been at home and you must remember work is not easy to come by. You can ask him what is his next step since he lost his job but with a nice tone. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by caandi: 9:34pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
all4zionlover:my dear don’t mind people advising you on rubbish to change him or orientate him or Waheva They don’t know nada I have known Someone who was like a father figure and ended his life gambling He made bastard money, he will then gamble it away and end up selling all the properties he used the money to purchase till the extent he will almost sell the tiles used in their home He gambled even the properties he had in Nigeria and outside His son who happens to be a good friend of mine always curses the man even as the man is in the grave It was that bad…. Is this the life you want for your children?? God forbid Funny enough people like this have tendency of going into big illegal stuff like robbery, drugs etc to get quick money cos they don’t have patience to start life afresh and hustle like a real man ! It’s well with your soul! It’s possible you give him sometime to change with prayers and intervention of close family if need be… If you wait and don’t see anything positive Pls carry your kaya wiv your kids and leave, you’re better off a single parent than with a liability!! 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by frozen70(f): 9:35pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
emiika: If that is the case She is not divorcing to marry another man Its not a rocket science Probably she wants to breath fresh air as she dey choke for the marriage |
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