GodHimself:
It’s a part of life. Shit happens, even to the best of us. It’s difficult to choose and pick the challenges that will surface during any marriage. Better is the mindset that says “whatever challenges come our way, we will go through it together without complaint.”

Conscious gambling away of your salary is shit that happens?

His money before have always go into gambling.
I have tried several time to save some with me, but he didn't. By now, we would have been on the street begging and suffering if not the fact that I have been hard working on my little business. Put money in my business let it grow, he will not. Come to church and be worshipping so God can help, he will say he's not in the mood. Now, he has nothing and he's not planning on other things.

Gambling is a killer. It is killing him softly....

All you guys asking her not to divorce the guy... Hmmmmm....

Lady, no food for lazy man. If a man will not work, let him not eat.

How can a full grown ass man, wake up and go straight back to sleep. Chaiii.. wahala.. I hate that shit.... He can't even pretend to go out and hustle with friends or former colleagues.

I don't have a problem with the fact that he lost his job, but I do have a problem with that gambling (get rich quick mentality). The worst part is that he is LAZY. Sleeping all day. Haaaa, sister you dey indulge the guy oh.

How old is he and what sort of skill or education does he have? His family must hear this so they can knock some sense into him if you can't

Kobojunkie:
Conscious gambling away of your salary is shit that happens?

Abi oh... A whole months sweat/ labour?

The fact that the guy sleeps all day is what I can't understand.... He is simply LAZY... A man o...

To go hustle with builders or agberos self, won't he collect chop money. There's dignity in labour... Keke on hire purchase will see him making like 8k everyday... The wife self sha

Gloriagee:
In her laziness, she dey go work, she dey pay bills and most importantly, she no dey gamble

then why the complaint, no be her family too?.. so for her to comot money feed her children don come be stress abi?

Kobojunkie:
So her husband gambling all of his income away ,income that should have gone instead towards paying the kids school fees, paying rent and bills, including food for the house, is what you consider a rough spell, a rough spell, a challenge?

yes what the family is passing tru right now can be classified as a rough spell.. Abi in ur own way, wat do you interpret as a rough spell?

ElijahIme1992:
yes what the family is passing tru right now can be classified as a rough spell.. Abi in ur own way, wat do you interpret as a rough spell?

A rough spell would be an unfortunate incident or accident, nothing like what Op accuses her husband of.

But she's also feeding him, his children,
paying their fees and paying the AC bills too... dat one na real stress o

ElijahIme1992:
then why the complaint, no be her family too?.. so for her to comot money feed her children don come be stress abi?

Gloriagee:
But she's also feeding him, his children,
paying their fees and paying the AC bills too... dat one na real stress o

so wen the man was feeding her and the children it was not stressful for the man abi?

Kobojunkie:
A rough spell would be an unfortunate incident or accident, nothing like what Op accuses her husband of.

So losing a job is not an incident?

ElijahIme1992:
So losing a job is not an incident?

Loosing your job is an incident but gambling away your money is not, nor is Loosing your job as a result of your gambling.

Kobojunkie:
Loosing your job is an incident but gambling away your money is not, nor is Loosing your job as a result of your gambling.

Madam dis our back and forth me I don tire... No vex

ElijahIme1992:
so wen the man was feeding her and the children it was not stressful for the man abi?

Well since she's taken over his role, he must SUBMIT to her

shaybebaby:

Well since she's taken over his role, he must SUBMIT to her

loool u no see where the man dey do house chores... But u women are so fond of hanging out ur partners to dry wen tins are rough... Na im make I no fit use my mama play, because na she I take know the benefits of having a virtuous woman as a wife wen my papa fall into hard times.. that's why I as a bachelor wen I dey pray for a life partner I always use proverbs 31 vs 10 - 31, every Shiloh I attend na my most important prayer topic..

Thats the problem, she says he's never fed her and the children. The thing is the way most stable Nig homes work, husband and wife share the financial burden so hes missing in action.

To make matters worse, he lost his job due to gambling. So either he dey divert office funds to gambling or im dey use office time to gamble or im get problem with im colleague as per im collect their money no gree pay back. The options are endless and needless to say, rather gory but im sure you get my drift.....

ElijahIme1992:
so wen the man was feeding her and the children it was not stressful for the man abi?

Falling into hard times is different - losing a job, ill-health and others but being wasteful in this economy doesn't necessarily merit a VIRTUOUS wife. Virtuous husband na im deserve virtuous wife.....

Of course, there's that element of your conscience otherwise gambling hubby gets his match with an irresponsible and inconsiderate wife.....

ElijahIme1992:
loool u no see where the man dey do house chores... But u women are so fond of hanging out ur partners to dry wen tins are rough... Na im make I no fit use my mama play, because na she I take know the benefits of having a virtuous woman as a wife wen my papa fall into hard times.. that's why I as a bachelor wen I dey pray for a life partner I always use proverbs 31 vs 10 - 31, every Shiloh I attend na my most important prayer topic..

It is.

Not prime shit, but shit nonetheless

Kobojunkie:
Conscious gambling away of your salary is shit that happens?

SmartyPants:


Which next time?

I sent you mail sir

yunus22:
I sent you mail sir

Alright, will respond by end of day.

SmartyPants:


Alright, will respond by end of day.

okay sir my pleasure

Wish you a fruitful n blissful day

Luckysbab:


If the wife is asking in a critiquing manner, he might not be willing to open up, knowing she will castigate/nag anyways.

Most times when men keep issues away from women, it's cos they don't expect a meaningful way out from them.

Imagine the pettiness of pointing out how he puts on the AC bla bla. You really think she's making sincere efforts to be helpful?

At one point or the other, a man might not have things figured out. That's human. And those around can only help them figure out their way.

i get your point, the fact that hubby is not yalking about his next move also frustrate the wife, basically being let in the dark makes one question themselves because in marriage you are meant to be sharing what is bothering or plans, in this case based on what we have been old the guy is not doing the much needed communication heads up to tell the wife what he done in trying to find a job

usually men are good at such situation, leave the house go somewhere whether you are
looking for job or not but wife will think you are but out brother is waking up put AC and ho back to sleep, thats not a good sign is especially when there is lack of finance in the house

franchasofficia:
People gamble mostly where the economy is dead, so they place their hope on gambling to hit the jackpot and solve their problems once, which mostly never happens and when it happens it happens to one or two persons in a lifetime lol.



Check well, gambling thrive well in poor countries. Yes some rich people are addicted to Casino but its mostly for the fun not really to hit jackpot to solve their numerous accumulated financial problems.



A gainfully employed and well paid man will not even have time to open a betting website to talk of becoming addicted to it.


Many Nigerian men are resorting to sport betting as a result of unemployment, underemployment and financial difficulties. Give most of them good jobs and they will never remember the betting sites again

I believe that gambling pushes the poor to a step that they think will help them get rich or earn a certain amount, and then they lose and stay with nothing, at the same time for the rich is more for entertainment and recreation, but they can still lose a large sum. It's good that there are such free social casino in which you can play for free while keeping all their finances.

ZIMDRILL:
■ usually men are good at such situation, leave the house go somewhere whether you are
looking for job or not but wife will think you are but out brother is waking up put AC and ho back to sleep, thats not a good sign is especially when there is lack of finance in the house

I believe that mentally the man is not even where he should be at all.

Klass99:


I already know that gambling won't be hard to hide when;

1. Bernie Madoff could hide his scam/ponzi scheme for 15 years to a point where the FBI and NASDAQ didn't catch it on time.

2. Men can hide whole families for years, shuttling between states or two locations without the major family knowing about the subsidiary.

I don't have the time or energy to argue the point sef.

Well.... An out of control addiction impacts on your disposable income. It impacts on it greatly. It will also impact on your material possessions as you start selling them to feed your addiction. It affect your ability to meet bills as at when due.

A pyramid scheme does not match an additicion, especially for the person propagating it

As for hiding whole families all that is required is that you work in another state. I also saw it happen. Though that was in our time. It is much much harder today to hide this, if not impossible because of social media.

SmartyPants:


Alright, will respond by end of day.

wat I wrote in the mail I also mentioned you here with

SmartyPants:


Alright, will respond by end of day.

waiting...earnestly

SmartyPants:


Alright, will respond by end of day.

I just sent you a mail sir

SmartyPants:


Alright, will respond by end of day.

Oga sir

SmartyPants:


Alright, will respond by end of day.

my pleasure

yunus22:

My apologies for not replying your email. I've actually lost access to that email account.

All your messages are noted but right now is not a good time - Please do what you can for now, and I will reach out to you eventually.

SmartyPants:


My apologies for not replying your email. I've actually lost access to that email account.

All your messages are noted but right now is not a good time - Please do what you can for now, and I will reach out to you eventually.

okay sir I am very pleased hearing this from you for your kind response.


Stay blessed!

SmartyPants:


My apologies for not replying your email. I've actually lost access to that email account.

All your messages are noted but right now is not a good time - Please do what you can for now, and I will reach out to you eventually.

Good evening sir

There are some pictures I will like to share with you for my progress in the business I have started