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Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Kingdollar28(m): 8:15am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Rupertek: Exactly bro Dem think say marriage na child's play |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Kingdollar28(m): 8:18am On Mar 12, 2023 |
gaby: You're wise bro You just cleared my mind |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Banhammy717: 8:23am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Please don't divorce him, otherwise your children will grow as products of broken home. Try as much as possible to help your husband out of his present predicaments. You too should start talking to people who can get him job, not only government jobs but even private jobs also. You can force him to engage himself in quick job-search like Sales Rep. Presently NDLEA advertised some vacant positions. If he still turn deaf ears, then report him to a responsible mature elder in his family, Pls DO NOT REPORT HIM TO PASTOR OR IMAM. Lastly, you need constant prayers, stay away from alcohol and any other sin. Your husband situation is not beyond control. Don't ever think of divorce, this may just be a trial period. I pray that God will see you through. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Mindlog: 8:45am On Mar 12, 2023 |
udede: Having an addict in the home, is life-draining. I didn't vote, not based in Nigeria. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by PROPHETmichael: 8:53am On Mar 12, 2023 |
What would you advice in a situation where a husband loses his job due to gambling and decided not to make any effort in search of another job or business or any legal means of making even little money. From what you're saying, the man used to be hardworking etc until he got addicted to gambling and losses everything. Perhaps, his desire to have excess cash to take care of his family was the driving force behind it but it ended up that way. What the man need is rehabilitation not divorce and you will get your once lovely husband back.. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by ogbe88(m): 9:16am On Mar 12, 2023 |
abimcdssi:Go and look for saman for her una go just dey talk. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Paulpak34(m): 9:19am On Mar 12, 2023 |
With what you said here shows that you also contributed to his problem. Hope you're are not giving him pressure in the house, hope you're not the one that pushed him to do what he doesn't want to do. Just calm down and sit him down with respect in order to talk with him about solution but don't shout at him at all. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by smasher1(m): 9:21am On Mar 12, 2023 |
His money before have always go into gambling.Many women do same you wrote their and apart from gambling and their husbands love them that way. Don't make a rash decision. If things turn out better for your husband tomorrow, you may be happy for staying with him. Work with him to grow and not against him. In all, the decision is yours to make, but understand that being a single parent is worse than having a jobless husband. You may end up not taking care of the children you have if you leave. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by ElijahIme1992(m): 10:38am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:looool see excuse, so was she thinking dat everything will be fine and there will be no bumpy ride? She is just a lazy person stop covering for ur gender.. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Kobojunkie: 10:48am On Mar 12, 2023 |
ElijahIme1992:Define Bumpy ride! ![]() |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by ElijahIme1992(m): 10:57am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:in life people go through a tough spell, nobody goes through a smooth ride from the day he/she was born to wen dey die, there are challenges and storms people will face in life but what will make you overcome is the capacity u have built.. dat woman thinking to jump ship because of a small challenge she is facing is just a coward... The challenges we face and overcome builds our capacity and character.. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by GodHimself(m): 11:06am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Short-term thinking What would you advice in a situation where a husband loses his job due to gambling and decided not to make any effort in search of another job or business or any legal means of making even little money. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Kobojunkie: 11:06am On Mar 12, 2023 |
ElijahIme1992:So her husband gambling all of his income away ,income that should have gone instead towards paying the kids school fees, paying rent and bills, including food for the house, is what you consider a rough spell, a rough spell, a challenge? ![]() |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by GodHimself(m): 11:19am On Mar 12, 2023 |
The Bible is referring to the person who “will not” provide, not the person who “cannot” provide. ezegold4we: |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by GodHimself(m): 11:25am On Mar 12, 2023 |
It’s a part of life. Shit happens, even to the best of us. It’s difficult to choose and pick the challenges that will surface during any marriage. Better is the mindset that says “whatever challenges come our way, we will go through it together without complaint.” Kobojunkie: |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by victorazy(m): 11:33am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Isabi4lov: Your right sha. .. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Umadam: 11:47am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Where work de for this country sef ![]() Woman, you are in a situation right now, in an African setting, divorce can never be an option, even the gospel have made it clear. most especially when u have kids, except u are seeing another man! Engage his people, to help u manage this circumstances, dont keep silence, wake up! Most of these young mothers out there, any small thing, divorce. Were u not married in the way of Christian or Islam?.... divorce is one of the worst things before GOD. there are still some women, even their husband died leaving children behind, they will never marry again, just for their children..... Some women will quickly think divorce because of one small test of life and the next few months another man will still going out with them, pls even if we are not holy, let try and have fear of God.... 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by dalexy101037(m): 11:50am On Mar 12, 2023 |
I have someone close to me battling this issue ... O would have said this is the exact story, its like a replica .. Let me tell you the mind set of the husband ... Number 1) He is okay not wanting to try to feed the family.. Because as a man .. You have the responsibility to feed your family .. If things go south or u lost your job, you need to try and keep on trying to see job or bring little for the family.. If a woman see you are trying .. A sensible woman will appreciate the effort and manage it .. But when a man , grown up man wakes up in the morning and turn up the AC and sleep again .. That is very bad. The wife will get tired .. And a tired wife is not good for the family ... It brings up bad thinking 2 Likes |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Jacksparrow7(m): 11:54am On Mar 12, 2023 |
What would you advice in a situation where a husband loses his job due to gambling and decided not to make any effort in search of another job or business or any legal means of making even little money.I have never been married nor been in your situation; so I am not in a position to give you advice. But I could give counseling, if I may. If I have a partner that did not provide when he had a job; each time I tried to help him save his money he would refuse, when I was pregnant in third trimester, he wouldn't contribute... I would like to divorce him. I feel he has something on his mind. Whether it is something that will bring big cash later, i dont care. Honesty is important in a family. Who knows maybe he is not really gambling, but saving the money where you don't know, because he wants to separate or seeing another woman or he wants to leave the country without you. Honestly I don't know how someone can loss his job out of gambling. Can you please explain it to us |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Klass99(f): 12:02pm On Mar 12, 2023 |
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Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by dalexy101037(m): 12:06pm On Mar 12, 2023 |
The replica situation i said . any little change the husband has , na bet, the wife works in V.I and they stays in Sango , She will wake up as early as 4am, cook, leave for work by 5am- 5:30am and comes back around 9pm-10pm , while the husband wakes up , go to kitchen .. Dish himself , eat break fast then sleep all tru the day , she comes back again to cook dinner .. The husband might be in a viewing center watching Chelsea vs Leeds utd, come back again and eat .. While he pays no bills, drops no penny .. No attempt to look for work ... So u want to tell me the wife won't get tired ?? |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Klass99(f): 12:07pm On Mar 12, 2023 |
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Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by GloriousGbola: 12:28pm On Mar 12, 2023 |
Klass99: Have you read Angela's ashes? True story by Frank mccourt about grinding poverty he grew up in as a child. Several working class Irish men from that time had a serious drinking problem. As you collect wages on Friday you blow it all in the pub same day The only way a woman could save the wages for the family is if she could way lay the man before he got to the guiness pub on Friday. This is the same issue. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Gloriagee(f): 1:38pm On Mar 12, 2023 |
In her laziness, she dey go work, she dey pay bills and most importantly, she no dey gamble ElijahIme1992: |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by faceLAGOS: 1:42pm On Mar 12, 2023 |
No jobs in the country. The husband is depressed! |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by main24(m): 1:42pm On Mar 12, 2023 |
GloriousGbola: Gambling can be hidden while courting. I don't know about after marriage but during courtship, it can be 100% hidden. You can even control the person's finance, bet accounts' etc. If he has made up his mind to hide it from you, you won't know. You will even be financing it unknowingly. ![]() CC: Klass99 |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by GloriousGbola: 1:54pm On Mar 12, 2023 |
main24: Unless you have serious cash flow, you cannot hide money problems. Everyone will know something is up. A salaried employee within a week of receiving salary is already complaining of being broke. Every other day the guy is hitting anyone and everyone up for loan. He is getting calls and harassment from strangers. He is engaging in small fraud here and there It is now left for you to figure out what is his money hole? Drugs, alcohol, women, gambling, bling bling lifestyle? Or bad investment? |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Afolue(m): 1:58pm On Mar 12, 2023 |
Be patient with him. As long as he doesn’t fight or harass you. Any opportunity for a job always let him know and as well speak to people for them to help him with a job. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by emanobis(m): 2:03pm On Mar 12, 2023 |
Each time I talk to him about getting a job or his next plan, he always tell me. He have a plan. But I know he don't Also ask him this plan of his, when exactly is the maturation or gestation period? How long will this plan take to fruition |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by TempmailNigga: 2:21pm On Mar 12, 2023 |
LilMissFavvy: Thumps up. you don fall back on track dey wise up. naso e gats be. me self no like violence. person just gats dish am surplus when necessary. ah go dey watch you once once sha. ciao cunt 5 Likes |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Klass99(f): 2:44pm On Mar 12, 2023 |
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