This is a true life story and it's really a long epistle, so take your time to read it. Insults and advice are welcomed as well.

There is this girl we're dating in Nigeria, which I intend to Marry though eventually. It started that I got my student visa in Nov 2021, so instead of me coming alone and leaving her alone back home, I decided to get Married to her same Nov 2021 and same year I did my house warming, that was in December. So she moved in to my house and I traveled for my Masters in January 2022.

So I came in alone to put everything in place, renting apartment and starting my studies. It was really an heculeous task, my eyes see shege as I was unable to pass through verification / affordability check, so I had to offer 6 month upfront before I was later considered. By end of January, she started with she is feeling lonely and can't stay alone in the house, so I started processing her visa February and I went back to Nigeria during Easter to bring her myself, just to avoid unnecessary wàhálà at the POE.

Insultme:
When she arrived, did all necessary things, bank account, NI, contract sim, DBS, and some trainings like Mandatorys, Moving and handling so that she can be prepared for the care worker role and we started applying for a Healthcare assistant role. She also started working with some agencies so that she won't be idle at home.

Eventually, she got a job as HCA and she started making money and I told her this. Although, you're supposed to assist me in paying my tuition fees since you're the dependant and you're allowed to work unlimited. BUT, I have paid all my tuition fees (£13,500) upfront before stepping into UK at all. So all I requested from her is to save all her money so that by the end of year, she would have gathered something for herself. She said okay. And after first month, she started ordering Wigs, Human hair, Clothes and bags. I complained how can you be spending money like this that you just entered the country? Just because you saw me buying a single winter jacket for £200 doesn't mean you have to emulate me na. She refused and said, how can I ask her to buy clothe at PRIMARK when am ordering mine from HOODRICH. 😂😁😁😄. So I kept quiet and was looking, after all shebi na she get the money and ná her sweat, let me allow her to please herself.

Insultme:
Let me fast forward the gist before it gets bored. That was how she Sha did throughout 2022, by middle of every month, salary Don finish and she would borrow money from me again to pay Klarma and do house groceries. Now this year, she said she wanted to go clubbing with her colleagues at work and I said no problem. They started calling each others to know which club or where to meet. Eventually when it was around 10pm. Someone called her and told her that the venue was under renovation so she couldn't attend the party.

In February this year, we're at home together that day and She told me she wanted to stroll out. I said no wàhálà and she left, then she called me like after an hour that I did not even look for her, I said why should I, you have your bus pass, your phone is charged and you know how to use the map, so you can't get lost. And we joked about it, and she said she is even at Salford Shopping centre now ( Not the real location). I said OK. Then after like 2 hours she got home and came home with 3 female bags.

Insultme:
She said when she left home, she entered one bus and that one was taking her about and she found herself at Salford Shopping Center ( Not the real location) that her friends at work even came there to meet her and they bought her the bags. I checked the time and it was like 8:06pm. I was like, shey your friends are not at work ni since you all close 8pm, how can they now meet you at the Mall? Then she gave an excuse which I let it slide. Then one day she forgot to lock her phone and I went through some chats on her phone. I found out the shock of my life.

There is a guy at her work place, the day she was supposed to go to the club, the guy asked her to send her pictures since they're unable to attend, which she did and that one commented that, is this all I missed today. Chai. With some other chats Sha. That very day she went for a stroll, she told the guy via chat that she would be coming once she is through with what she is doing at home. She messaged him when she left home and the guy replied that, she should come to her place first that they should chill before going to the mall, she asked for the guys address which he sent to her and she went there, only God knows what happened in there. Then they went to the mall and he bought her the 3 bags and she came back home to give me lamba.

Insultme:
Now I don't feel like having sex with her.

I always think about how someone can leave his husband and go to a man's house cause of 3 bags.

Some are saying it is too early to divorce her.

Some are saying I should forgive and let her swear that she won't do such thing again.

Some are saying I should think of how much have spent in total and not allow the devil to push me to take irrational decision.

WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK?

I go continue later. Make i quickly go attend to something. Let me know when you guys have finished reading.

We gather dey bro. Fire on.

When she arrived, did all necessary things, bank account, NI, contract sim, DBS, and some trainings like Mandatorys, Moving and handling so that she can be prepared for the care worker role and we started applying for a Healthcare assistant role. She also started working with some agencies so that she won't be idle at home.

Eventually, she got a job as HCA and she started making money and I told her this. Although, you're supposed to assist me in paying my tuition fees since you're the dependant and you're allowed to work unlimited. BUT, I have paid all my tuition fees (£13,500) upfront before stepping into UK at all. So all I requested from her is to save all her money so that by the end of year, she would have gathered something for herself. She said okay. And after first month, she started ordering Wigs, Human hair, Clothes and bags. I complained how can you be spending money like this that you just entered the country? Just because you saw me buying a single winter jacket for £200 doesn't mean you have to emulate me na. She refused and said, how can I ask her to buy clothe at PRIMARK when am ordering mine from HOODRICH. 😂😁😁😄. So I kept quiet and was looking, after all shebi na she get the money and ná her sweat, let me allow her to please herself.

Insultme:
When she arrived, did all necessary things, bank account, NI, contract sim, DBS, and some trainings like Mandatorys, Moving and handling so that she can be prepared for the care worker role and we started applying for a Healthcare assistant role. She also started working with some agencies so that she won't be idle at home.

Eventually, she got a job as HCA and she started making money and I told her this. Although, you're supposed to assist me in paying my tuition fees since you're the dependant and you're allowed to work unlimited. BUT, I have paid all my tuition fees (£13,500) upfront before stepping into UK at all. So all I requested from her is to save all her money so that by the end of year, she would have gathered something for herself. She said okay. And after first month, she started ordering Wigs, Human hair, Clothes and bags. I complained how can you be spending money like this that you just entered the country? Just because you saw me buying a single winter jacket for £200 doesn't mean you have to emulate me na. She refused and said, how can I ask her to buy clothe at PRIMARK when am ordering mine from HOODRICH. 😂😁😁😄. So I kept quiet and was looking, after all shebi na she get the money and ná her sweat, let me allow her to please herself.

you don' enter once chance! May God help you. The good thing is that you can choose not to renew dependent visa .But if she move to skill e don be for you next her to divorce you.

I dont trust any woman

Continue 🤗
Bruh u don enter one chance

Insultme:
This is a true life story and it's really a long epistle, so take your time to read it. Insults and advice are welcomed as well.

There is this girl we're dating in Nigeria, which I intend to Marry though eventually. It started that I got my student visa in Nov 2021, so instead of me coming alone and leaving her alone back home, I decided to get Married to her same Nov 2021 and same year I did my house warming, that was in December. So she moved in to my house and I traveled for my Masters in January 2022.

So I came in alone to put everything in place, renting apartment and starting my studies. It was really an heculeous task, my eyes see shege as I was unable to pass through verification / affordability check, so I had to offer 6 month upfront before I was later considered. By end of January, she started with she is feeling lonely and can't stay alone in the house, so I started processing her visa February and I went back to Nigeria during Easter to bring her myself, just to avoid unnecessary wàhálà at the POE.

@justwise

. you people need to sit down and talk, marriage is very challenging ,its best in your best interest to work together.

Let me fast forward the gist before it gets bored. That was how she Sha did throughout 2022, by middle of every month, salary Don finish and she would borrow money from me again to pay Klarma and do house groceries. Now this year, she said she wanted to go clubbing with her colleagues at work and I said no problem. They started calling each others to know which club or where to meet. Eventually when it was around 10pm. Someone called her and told her that the venue was under renovation so she couldn't attend the party.

In February this year, we're at home together that day and She told me she wanted to stroll out. I said no wàhálà and she left, then she called me like after an hour that I did not even look for her, I said why should I, you have your bus pass, your phone is charged and you know how to use the map, so you can't get lost. And we joked about it, and she said she is even at Salford Shopping centre now ( Not the real location). I said OK. Then after like 2 hours she got home and came home with 3 female bags.

felixzo1:
. you people need to sit down and talk, marriage is very challenging ,its best in your best interest to work together.

Is that what you actually think?
I dey come, I neva finish.

She said when she left home, she entered one bus and that one was taking her about and she found herself at Salford Shopping Center ( Not the real location) that her friends at work even came there to meet her and they bought her the bags. I checked the time and it was like 8:06pm. I was like, shey your friends are not at work ni since you all close 8pm, how can they now meet you at the Mall? Then she gave an excuse which I let it slide. Then one day she forgot to lock her phone and I went through some chats on her phone. I found out the shock of my life.

There is a guy at her work place, the day she was supposed to go to the club, the guy asked her to send her pictures since they're unable to attend, which she did and that one commented that, is this all I missed today. Chai. With some other chats Sha. That very day she went for a stroll, she told the guy via chat that she would be coming once she is through with what she is doing at home. She messaged him when she left home and the guy replied that, she should come to her place first that they should chill before going to the mall, she asked for the guys address which he sent to her and she went there, only God knows what happened in there. Then they went to the mall and he bought her the 3 bags and she came back home to give me lamba.

Now I don't feel like having sex with her.

I always think about how someone can leave his husband and go to a man's house cause of 3 bags.

Some are saying it is too early to divorce her.

Some are saying I should forgive and let her swear that she won't do such thing again.

Some are saying I should think of how much have spent in total and not allow the devil to push me to take irrational decision.

WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK?

Insultme:
Now I don't feel like having sex with her.

I always think about how someone can leave his husband and go to a man's house cause of 3 bags.

Some are saying it is too early to divorce her.

Some are saying I should forgive and let her swear that she won't do such thing again.

Some are saying I should think of how much have spent in total and not allow the devil to push me to take irrational decision.

WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK?

This marriage won't work out. Find a way to come out of it with little or no further loss.

Never bring any woman abroad, Women can’t handle freedom and power

Insultme:
Now I don't feel like having sex with her.

I always think about how someone can leave his husband and go to a man's house cause of 3 bags.

Some are saying it is too early to divorce her.

Some are saying I should forgive and let her swear that she won't do such thing again.

Some are saying I should think of how much have spent in total and not allow the devil to push me to take irrational decision.

WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK?

Are you joking with this post?

justwise:


Are you joking with this post?

No am not.
Does it look like a movie?

ahiboilandgas:
you don' enter once chance! May God help you. The good thing is that you can choose not to renew dependent visa .But if she move to skill e don be for you next her to divorce you.

Insultme, this is a good advice.
Don't let her know. Also, try not to sex her.

Na so paternity fraud take dey occur.

Make una try to dey reduce una investments for relationships so that una go fit dey let go easily.

Insultme:
Now I don't feel like having sex with her.

I always think about how someone can leave his husband and go to a man's house cause of 3 bags.

Some are saying it is too early to divorce her.

Some are saying I should forgive and let her swear that she won't do such thing again.

Some are saying I should think of how much have spent in total and not allow the devil to push me to take irrational decision.

WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK?

I don tire for una UK matter, you can divorce her and she will find her way back to the country

Regex:


I don tire for una UK matter, you can divorce her and she will find her way back to the country

Is it not too early?
Just a year plus.
Who knows what the next one is capable or will do as well?

Insultme:


Is it not too early?
Just a year plus.
Who knows what the next one is capable or will do as well?

Wait, you are planning to marry again? 😂 😂 Brah, if you are uncertain what the next one will do, just stick with this one, na cheat she cheat, she no kill person

Insultme:
Let me fast forward the gist before it gets bored. That was how she Sha did throughout 2022, by middle of every month, salary Don finish and she would borrow money from me again to pay Klarma and do house groceries. Now this year, she said she wanted to go clubbing with her colleagues at work and I said no problem. They started calling each others to know which club or where to meet. Eventually when it was around 10pm. Someone called her and told her that the venue was under renovation so she couldn't attend the party.

In February this year, we're at home together that day and She told me she wanted to stroll out. I said no wàhálà and she left, then she called me like after an hour that I did not even look for her, I said why should I, you have your bus pass, your phone is charged and you know how to use the map, so you can't get lost. And we joked about it, and she said she is even at Salford Shopping centre now ( Not the real location). I said OK. Then after like 2 hours she got home and came home with 3 female bags.

. bros you wife never dey ready to stay married ooh, from what you wrote it just a matter of time.you no look well marry

Your wife is lucky, some people are even struggling to survive in Uk while she is misusing the opportunity.

Insultme:


Is it not too early?
Just a year plus.
Who knows what the next one is capable or will do as well?

Signs of a man that will surely be finished. You still dey plan marry? By the time she's done with you, you'll be battling for survival. Shebi na still three bags from another man she bring come your house? When she kicks you out of your own house, Your eye go clear. Don't think about how to protect yourself, you hear?

You have a great option to end it early before it would consume you.

End the marriage and start afresh.

It is like you guys didn't plan the stuff well.

Insultme:


Is it not too early?
Just a year plus.
Who knows what the next one is capable or will do as well?

You're very immature for a man. How old are you again? Please go for marriage counseling, you and your wife.

Insultme:
Now I don't feel like having sex with her.

I always think about how someone can leave his husband and go to a man's house cause of 3 bags.

Some are saying it is too early to divorce her.

Some are saying I should forgive and let her swear that she won't do such thing again.

Some are saying I should think of how much have spent in total and not allow the devil to push me to take irrational decision.

WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK?

Did your wife knew you were aware of her movements? If yes what was her reactions. It is from her reactions you can predict her next move. Let her know you are aware she is keeping a date outside and watch her body movement. Whether she will be remorseful or not. From there you can form a decision. The worst in marriage is suspicion

Its not every woman person go bring abroad. Guys stop marrying all these yeye slay queens they will ruin ya life. Many 9ja babes will only respect a ready made man not the one still doing studies in uk with limited resources. Divorce her ass and get her visa cancelled.

Regex:


Wait, you are planning to marry again? 😂 😂 Brah, if you are uncertain what the next one will do, just stick with this one, na cheat she cheat, she no kill person

So I should stay single cause someone cheat on me? Let me ask you a question. Even if you're so rich like that of Dangote, can you live your life alone? So in the case I neva born, so I should do what please?

Firefox01:
Signs of a man that will surely be finished. You still dey plan marry? By the time she's done with you, you'll be battling for survival. Shebi na still three bags from another man she bring come your house? When she kicks you out of your own house, Your eye go clear. Don't think about how to protect yourself, you hear?

So how do you protect yourself in a country that favors women?

ZionPriest:
End the marriage and start afresh.

It is like you guys didn't plan the stuff well.

I think I rushed everything.
Thinking am doing her and myself a favor by bringing her in.
I should have left her behind and keep sending her upkeep, but still. Na Nigeria own go worst pass😂😂😀

Eaganguolly:


Did your wife knew you were aware of her movements? If yes what was her reactions. It is from her reactions you can predict her next move. Let her know you are aware she is keeping a date outside and watch her body movement. Whether she will be remorseful or not. From there you can form a decision. The worst in marriage is suspicion

She is not aware I know anything yet.
She only complains that I feel reluctant to touch her even if she is stark naked beside me.
This is not a case of being suspicious, she planned everything before leaving the house that very day. I know the guy sef might be on this forum reading this. 😉😉