StrikeBack:
Never bring any NIGERIAN woman abroad, Women can’t handle freedom and power

Insultme:


So I should stay single cause someone cheat on me? Let me ask you a question. Even if you're so rich like that of Dangote, can you live your life alone? So in the case I neva born, so I should do what please?

Insultme:


😂😂.

It's just funny you know.
I believe you don't understand what is called marriage.
Also, there is no where in my post I am defending her, cause if i want to defend her, I won't be here in the first place.
Am worries are what have listed above. If you don't have any solution to all have mentioned above, when it gets to your turn. Play break your son head. Your comment shows your age. And I don't think you understand what they call Mental Health abroad.

Insultme:


So you as a man or woman can marry someone that just came into the UK àbi?
Cause you be mumu

Insultme:


I think I rushed everything.
Thinking am doing her and myself a favor by bringing her in.
I should have left her behind and keep sending her upkeep, but still. Na Nigeria own go worst pass😂😂😀

Insultme:


😂😂.

It's just funny you know.
I believe you don't understand what is called marriage.
Also, there is no where in my post I am defending her, cause if i want to defend her, I won't be here in the first place.
Am worries are what have listed above. If you don't have any solution to all have mentioned above, when it gets to your turn. Play break your son head. Your comment shows your age. And I don't think you understand what they call Mental Health abroad.

Insultme:


Yinmu 😂😂.
Na your type they give vegetable at home to pluck and would come online to spill trash. In what way is she helping me? Is it the tuition fee that have sorted before leaving or the food that I buy regularly? Like I said, I have my game plan. Just informing you guys and waiting for the perfect time.

Insultme:


Are you the guy?😂🤣.
Even if he is not on this thread at the moment, someone is going to narrate the story to him one way or the other, that is the reason I tweaked some things in the story, although I gave out lots of information already but still, it can be anyone.

acorntree:

Call him out now so that nairalanders can help you talk sense into him. What's his handler.

Insultme:
This is a true life story and it's really a long epistle, so take your time to read it. Insults and advice are welcomed as well.

There is this girl we're dating in Nigeria, which I intend to Marry though eventually. It started that I got my student visa in Nov 2021, so instead of me coming alone and leaving her alone back home, I decided to get Married to her same Nov 2021 and same year I did my house warming, that was in December. So she moved in to my house and I traveled for my Masters in January 2022.

So I came in alone to put everything in place, renting apartment and starting my studies. It was really an heculeous task, my eyes see shege as I was unable to pass through verification / affordability check, so I had to offer 6 month upfront before I was later considered. By end of January, she started with she is feeling lonely and can't stay alone in the house, so I started processing her visa February and I went back to Nigeria during Easter to bring her myself, just to avoid unnecessary wàhálà at the POE.

Insultme:
When she arrived, did all necessary things, bank account, NI, contract sim, DBS, and some trainings like Mandatorys, Moving and handling so that she can be prepared for the care worker role and we started applying for a Healthcare assistant role. She also started working with some agencies so that she won't be idle at home.

Eventually, she got a job as HCA and she started making money and I told her this. Although, you're supposed to assist me in paying my tuition fees since you're the dependant and you're allowed to work unlimited. BUT, I have paid all my tuition fees (£13,500) upfront before stepping into UK at all. So all I requested from her is to save all her money so that by the end of year, she would have gathered something for herself. She said okay. And after first month, she started ordering Wigs, Human hair, Clothes and bags. I complained how can you be spending money like this that you just entered the country? Just because you saw me buying a single winter jacket for £200 doesn't mean you have to emulate me na. She refused and said, how can I ask her to buy clothe at PRIMARK when am ordering mine from HOODRICH. 😂😁😁😄. So I kept quiet and was looking, after all shebi na she get the money and ná her sweat, let me allow her to please herself.

Insultme:
Let me fast forward the gist before it gets bored. That was how she Sha did throughout 2022, by middle of every month, salary Don finish and she would borrow money from me again to pay Klarma and do house groceries. Now this year, she said she wanted to go clubbing with her colleagues at work and I said no problem. They started calling each others to know which club or where to meet. Eventually when it was around 10pm. Someone called her and told her that the venue was under renovation so she couldn't attend the party.

In February this year, we're at home together that day and She told me she wanted to stroll out. I said no wàhálà and she left, then she called me like after an hour that I did not even look for her, I said why should I, you have your bus pass, your phone is charged and you know how to use the map, so you can't get lost. And we joked about it, and she said she is even at Salford Shopping centre now ( Not the real location). I said OK. Then after like 2 hours she got home and came home with 3 female bags.

Insultme:
Now I don't feel like having sex with her.

I always think about how someone can leave his husband and go to a man's house cause of 3 bags.

Some are saying it is too early to divorce her.

Some are saying I should forgive and let her swear that she won't do such thing again.

Some are saying I should think of how much have spent in total and not allow the devil to push me to take irrational decision.

WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK?

Insultme:
I go continue later. Make i quickly go attend to something. Let me know when you guys have finished reading.

Zonefree:

Please don't respond to that guy again, his head is not correct.

A woman you called your wife went to a guy's house to collect gbola cos of three handbags and the morón is proud and defending her. Na so the woman go bring another man's child heap for the man head. Foolish horseband of a whoré! E better make person born bandit than to born a headless Simp.

I've failed as a father if i have a son like the OP. Tueh!

*Spits on his empty head!

luminouz:

*Sighs*

I don't usually do this because when I advise guys, they never listen, too blinded by love to realize a woman is only loyal to her emotions, not your sacrifices. So I let these niggas burn.

However, I'm still a man and I realize you are in a dark place now. Do reach out to me and we will talk this out, if you want to. You need steps out of this and I can help, if you want

Insultme:
Now I don't feel like having sex with her.

I always think about how someone can leave his husband and go to a man's house cause of 3 bags.

WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK?

DearGorgeous:


Also read Omotaday's comment. He's likely the guy. His first post was empty, but his second post gave him out. Even the Op quoted him. Just two comments away from yours on Page 10. Scroll back.

He might have more than one moniker, though.

Ladymillion:
she will restrategize and be more discreet

Omotaday:
Haaa lol 😂

Wahala.

I deleted my post cuz the guy was already accusing me 😄 Anyone who used to go out in Manchester can decode all those locations he mentioned

This must be a joke. Please, let’s be serious. I know no godamman thing about this. Please!!

DearGorgeous:


Twale baba luminouz. Ekun jo meta. How Ibadan nah?

obidaddy:
Marriage is never something you rush into, since you had studies to do abroad, in my humble opinion, you should have concentrated on your studies, get a job,settle down and even look around if you could find a woman better than her (yes, women can be very cold blooded when making their choices}.

She emotional and tactfully played you into marrying her, before leaving. She continued with the loneliness card to manipulate you further to bring her over. All these cost you very much financially, apparently there was no clear agreement between you two, as to managing your finances once she starts to work.


She came over and once she started working and got some money flowing, began to show how materialistic & short sighted she is, by investing in bags (apparently, expensive ones), clothes etc.

All these things she's doing now are not new, the signs were there but you chose, fine face, boobs, hips, ass etc., over her core values & morals.

Advice: accept your loss, she out played you, divorce her, and move on (be smarter in the future, I think you're the type that'll still come back to Nigeria to marry and either take her with you or leave her behind, in the name of past experience, and either ways still suffer another breakfast).

Things will never be the same again, trust is gone, apparently she lacks common sense and conscience (all your fault, poor choice) for your peace of mind, health, future etc. I humbly opine, you let her go and leave you life. She'll apparently realize her folly months or few years later. By then you must have moved on and found a mature, serious, committed partner.

Stop all these nonsense of various opinions of your friends and family, and take a decisive decision and be prepared for the outcome. Good luck.

Insultme:


Is it not too early?
Just a year plus.
Who knows what the next one is capable or will do as well?

Ceaser90:
I painstakingly chose to read through all the chats.
I am in the UK and I know what is obtainable. I brought my wife in January and I know what started happening just 3wks she came in. Hiw I saw the chats from her own sister of how they will teach me a lesson.
In all, be calm. Speak to her, Share the bills and plan yourself.
Take your time and decide if you want a child with her (pray more about this) because it will increase your sorrows. Take care of your mental health brother.
Thanks for this thread. Atleast I am consoled. I nearly ran mad here.