virginprincess:
Instead of you to look for a way to pls her by being romantic you are here complaining to bitter nairaland men that will gladly help you scatter your marriage with their negative comments.

He married her. She should be eternally pleased and grateful and she should be consistently looking for ways to please and reward him for the marriage.

Emma1Oj:
From a lady point of view what do you think Sha has experience or come in contact with that prompt that statement?

Her eyes don open be that , all the things she bin dey tolerate from her guy before she no wan dey tolerate them again .

She feel say her guy no too good for her again, so her guy gats to level up and up her game.

Mrwhite09:
its easy its hard only if u are a ssimpp

Most of you shouting simp... Old age many of una go suffer... No be everything be simp

snthesis:


hmmm, i'm thinking of going through her phone, something is not right

This man you just wan use your hand scatter your marriage o! You be listening to the devil here. Oga go home to your wife and make her feel like a woman again. What do you people even enjoy when your affairs are public? Tried that shit and it leads to no solution. Oga you're playing with fire here

Dear poster,

Congrats on 10 years.
Many things might be involved here... raising kids and building a home can be overwhelming and sometimes people can forget to live life. Ask yourself these questions
1. Have you both gone on dates or just hung out alone recently?
2. When last did you buy her a gift just for the sake of it? Not birthday or valentine.
3. When last did you tell her she is beautiful?
4. When last did you flirt with her and make her feel young and sexy
5. When last did you tell her you appreciate her taking care of the home.
6. When last did you tell her "babe relax I'll cook dinner'' or "babe wear something nice, I'm taking you out.

Women get bored too, you need to spice things up, make her feel wanted, tease her, kiss her and please her. she might just be craving your attention that's why she's talking about piercings and tattoos. 10 years is a long time but marriage is a lifetime job. It's best that she has told you how she feels. You both can get through this together...Good luck!

snthesis:
Got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried
we got married young and she now in her early 30s

p.s
she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

Nairaland is the worst place to seek advice q for marriage problems

snthesis:
Got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried
we got married young and she now in her early 30s

p.s
she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

This one don go marry slay queen 👑

Divorce?

Good that she said it. All you need to do is to sit down with her, discuss, agree and disagree on what her terms of being romantic is. Set boundaries. It's not everything a man should agree for a woman.

Being ten years in marriage does not guarantee anything. Marital relationship needs continueous review and corrections in love.

Someone is knacking her already

obembet:



Wait ooo


Abeg let just mind our business on this mata

Wickedness

snthesis:
Got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried
we got married young and she now in her early 30s

p.s
she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

Hmmmmm, wahala 🤣

She has strayed.... but tell us your own flaws too

Albertone:


You can only please a woman that want to be pleased.

If a man earning 200k a month is giving his wife 100k out of it, she can still cheat on him with a man earning 1m monthly and giving her 300k out of it.

Very well said.

If Mr A does something for or to a woman, she might love it and be satisfied.

If Mr B does exactly the same thing for or to a woman, she would hate it and be unsatisfied.

Whether you are treated like Mr A or B depends on how much she likes and is attracted to you.

The woman wants to be pleased by anything Mr A does and will find a way to be pleased if she likes him and feels lucky he is entertaining her.

Why say that?
She feels because of the children bearing you are not really attracted to her.......He has to walk on himself.

Gamesmart:


He married her. She should be eternally pleased and grateful and she should be consistently looking for ways to please and reward him for the marriage.

Ok nah

Gamesmart:


After 10 years is now she knows you are not romantic?

Oga, she has been on TV and social media too much probably especially Instagram and she has been comparing her life with other girls flashing flas lives.

She is probably also trying to get attention of men and is receiving it on the streets or online. Now she is thinking maybe it was not smart to have married early and she should have lived babygirl life for a while.

She is now just looking at, and reviewing, her life and wondering "Did she pick right? Was this the best she could do? Is this all there is to this fantasy called marriage she dreamt of?".


She will not tell you all these thoughts because she knows it will come across as unreasonable if other people hear this, and she will take the blame.

So, saying that you are not romantic is her strategy of placing accountability and blame with you, and not her emotions and greedy eyes, if it goes wrong and she later decides to explore.

Now she can have a defence of "I told him and he did not change. So it is his fault anything I do!".

Women hate accountability!

deep. ive decided to ignore her, there is a deeper issue, that she isn't revealing, and trying to hide under me not being romantic

Autobot05:
Dont get emotionally attached to a woman
Tell her ok

Why did you say don't get emotionally attached to a woman, Sir?

Lemme have ur nos. Thanks.

rickleye:


Haha, it’s called midlife crisis.

Just tell her she is right and start the dating process again.
Many of us think our wives are like our mothers . Marry and keep for home. The game is changing bro. I am sure she has a friend on WhatsApp with whom she has discussed this with already.

1. Plan a date nite every week . Go catch a flick and have someone watch the kids.
2. Do something together with the family once a month. Go to Olumo Rock and Beach . A family outing .
3. Don’t forget her birthday make it exciting ( get her flowers or money - depending on her love language)
4. Make an effort to show PDA infront of the kids. Steal a kiss 💋, slap her buttocks , call her sexy mamacita or siren.
5. Make sex impromptu. After coitus , ask would like a glass of water or wine to relax ( she will laugh and say , thank you yes or no )
6. If you are just Spooning dude , change into missionary or doggy . ( now sex and love are not the same) . Massage and ask her where she may want to be touched to excite her …

Make the effort !!! You might not be comfortable doing any of the above but as you mentioned it appears she never “ lived “ done anything she wanted to do . Her first born is 10.
And it’s been mummy this , mummy that !

I would give her the leg chain *

Don’t ignore her warnings or else someone else will fill the void.

BEST COMMENT AWARD.... THIS ONE SWEET ME 🥰

blaquebelle:
1. She feels she married you too early
2. She is comparing you to other husbands in her vicinity or on social media
3. She feels she missed out on exploring alot when she was younger and she wants to start now

Check the type of friends she's keeping.

Thank you.

Similar to what I said.

She has tasted a romantic peepee your peepee suddenly becomes unromantic

ajimo54:


You are in big trouble! Someone has been licking her plate seriously! You have left her unserviced. You have not been licking her plate. And u allow her bank account to run dry! I am very sure, she has ceased to love you! All u need do now, ask her if she still loves you or if she wants the end of the marriage?

Unless the guy is useless,why will you be bothered if a woman wants a divorce..

snthesis:
Got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried
we got married young and she now in her early 30s

p.s
she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

Your wife don experience super sexy romantic touch from one nice niggar

snthesis:
Got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried
we got married young and she now in her early 30s

p.s
she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

She wants to express herself. It's either you let her or she does it behind you. But I assure you, she will.

She wants to live the youthful life that she didn't live Cos she was bearing children.

snthesis:
Got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried
we got married young and she now in her early 30s

p.s
she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

Brace yourself; she wants to be free o.

Hope your blood pressure is good.

Akharmony:
Apparently she has connected with another wifi diffrent from Balablu Blu Blu Bulaba. .

She has tasted a “town rod” different from Balablu blu blu bulaba, ye babuluku le.

advanceDNA:
Should we tell him?

No need

Hamzaaaaaaaa:
MR OP, lemme give you my own sincere advice,if I were you,I would just marry another wife that will give birth to better children for me because I'm damn sure that the children that came out from a womb of a woman that behave like your wife might likely end up irresponsible, please save your old self

sharap u get GF ?

Lovilla:
That is too bad of her

Just give her time, she will change

She will after living the life she believes she has missed in her 20s.

She wants to catchbup lost times

Wakins:
You guys married young so She didn't have the time to do 'things'. Now that children bearing is done and dusted She is about to let loose.

She's about to nack the next available nackable..

hmmmm....
You got carried away for years by the lovey dovey waves and you probably lost most of your mystery which acted like a charm to her!
You got too comfortable and she also got comfortable!
Now she is bored and is looking outside for a little adventure!
Unfortunately,she may have probably got emotionally and sexually entangled with a younger and crazy stud which explains why she now wants tattoos and nose piercings!
My opinion though!

Then spice up the relationship, be adventurous, spontaneous and romantic.
Do something nice....
Spontaneous sex on beach, or a quicky in an elevator or your car....
Take her out on dates.

Be happy she told you.

PS. Make sure your wife is not hanging out with unfriendly friends.

snthesis:
Got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried
we got married young and she now in her early 30s

p.s
she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

Waistebeads? To impress who? You or another man? Piercing where? Nose? Ears? Or down there? If nose or ear, you may encourage her to do it but if it's down there...hmmm... Wahala dey oo.


The hard truth maybe difficult for you to absorb. She is ready to flirt if she is not doing so already. It is also possible that both of you were not together at a certain time and she tasted another man after a long time without s3x. The feeling for her must be great and she may think it has something to do with you.

Solution:

Spice up your marriage by ;-

Try to bring next things in your sexual lives - try new styles,
try s^cking her down there,
Do not engage her in s3x often,
Try doing it once in two weeks or more,
Be buying her gifts,
Be taking her out once in a while without the kids and
Finally, upgrade your own wardrobe.
Dress smartly,
Buy designer Snickers, shoes, wrist watches,
Wear nice and mild colognes.
Don't link what you are doing to her complaints of you not being romantic.

You will thank me later.