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Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by anataala: 6:01pm On May 08, 2023 |
Surat al-An’am 6:151 Allah commands us not even to say “Uff!” to our parents, which is a very minor word of annoyance. Anything worse than that is obviously prohibited. Our respect for our parents should be impeccable in every circumstance, to the best of our ability. https://www.siasat.com/honor-your-father-and-mother-islam-i-1549798/amp/ IkeIgboNile: |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by Nobody: 6:03pm On May 08, 2023 |
I've not spoken to my mother in 11 months. She keeps calling and texting but I never acknowledge any of the efforts. You have absolutely no need feeling any sense of guilt. You don't owe your parents anything. Only the conscience makes us assume their responsibilities at some point. But when they do wrong, it is very much appropriate to register displeasure. There was a point in my life when there was total black-out between my dad and I for exactly 10years. I no struggle to survive for this life make any family member use me catch cruise. 3 Likes |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by Dskillful(m): 6:25pm On May 08, 2023 |
You can not have misunderstanding with your dad... You insulted your dad. Don't worry your children will do same to you. If your father said something you are not happy with or did something you don't like, there are cool ways you can later approach him as a man and discuss it, instead you left the house and you are asking us for advice... Go back and apologize, if you want to leave the house you can leave the house in a more matured way... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by hk891: 6:48pm On May 08, 2023 |
I haven't spoken to mine in 4 yrs 2 Likes |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by Laurene: 6:50pm On May 08, 2023 |
Obiedun:So kids won't grow? 1 Like |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by IMASTEX: 7:03pm On May 08, 2023 |
dawnomike:The scripture had a balance submission thus, "Son honor your parents and father don't provoke your child to anger." Africa parents aren't ready to discuss the later. Once a child is above 18 years especially when they are becoming financially independent. It's best parent should create an open discussion where all matters can be resolved, rather than dishing out orders without first listening, in most case trying to relive their lives through their children without seeking their permission. An approach that is consistently failing with this present day generation. A reality that has come to stay! Sadly, at the time they would need the presence of their kids around them, that is when the kids will rather stay far away and love home from afar. IkeIgboNile:Give him another chance by going to him to apologize, and then state why you took the decision to stay away. Perhaps that might send the right signal for necessary adjustment. But if otherwise, God help him. I know someone who is experiencing similar thing for years now. He sends money & call once awhile but never visit. His father is now telling animate and none animate that his son is bad, yet when asked exactly what the boy did wrong. The tortoise story will start 1 Like |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by zakkxx: 7:03pm On May 08, 2023 |
Don’t worry by the time your Father write his will with your name absent u will know who brought u into d world. Be wise and make up with your Father. |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by Bobage16(m): 7:10pm On May 08, 2023 |
Wow, this life !!!! Wen you tink you're the only one facing the exact problem. I wish I could drop voice note. I share a lot different views from my dad, imagine someone wey de reason say he didn't grow with his parents but with his uncle, so therefore we deserve to experience some of the kind of hardships he experienced "that kind reasoning" , same reasoning with my mum and more, and unluckily for me na me be the black sheep of the family and the first born. e for better say I de with my uncle's exactly na. and mind you , I'm never depending on their property, not as if dem get money Kwanu, just 2 tenant houses. I want to have more than that, Behind ones and more, I'm not lazy but just with a different view to life. Example, these ppl de feel say pesin supose find government job FOR WHAT NA? , So dat I'll be struggling in life even during retirement I'll never have made for example 900million and more in my life. The thing be say, me I have chosen not to respond or ever try to reason with them because we can never be on the same view, but make I hammer well well now,(legit o) u go see attachment, Wich I will gladly welcome but from afar or not too physically present because the chemistry no go completely de there. I stayed out of contact from my people some years ago that time, after 2 years dem begin call directly and indirectly stylishly begging me to reach house, Yours might reach out to you after 1year or less or more 🥴, u can make your decision anyhow from my long story. 3 Likes |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by IbroMaka(m): 7:34pm On May 08, 2023 |
chaloskyx: My point exactly! |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by Onucs(m): 7:41pm On May 08, 2023 |
Normally, man no suppose dey in good terms with im popsy, u dey f*ck up |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by maridrug(m): 7:52pm On May 08, 2023 |
what of if he dies tomorrow? OP, go and reconcile with your father when he is still alive. don't shed crocodile tears at his graveside....go and get your eternal parental blessing. Apologise, accept the bantings as sacrifice of blessings....na beg i dey beg o, no advise Karleb: |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by kelspinall(m): 7:55pm On May 08, 2023 |
go talk to him face to face not call |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by Aspayastudenthu(f): 8:13pm On May 08, 2023 |
NEVER STOP CALLING YOUR FATHER. GO BACK HOME AND HAVE A SIT DOWN. ASK YOURSELF THIS SIMPLE QUESTION... "what is the worse thing that could possibly happen if you apologise to your dad for intentional and unintentional hurt and you reconcile?". Trust me - life is simple!!!! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by vincenteger: 8:30pm On May 08, 2023 |
Laurene: Excuse me |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by frozen70(f): 8:54pm On May 08, 2023 |
IkeIgboNile:There is need for much talk here Prepare to go and visit him and make amends with him in the presence of your mum That's all I can say |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by Masterdazhem: 2:05am On May 09, 2023 |
Haven't spoken to my old man in a long while (2years) quess its high time we make things right. |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by hakeemhakeem(m): 2:31am On May 09, 2023 |
Hotwest: Those valuable items are still your but your father want you to see as you're not entitled to it now , get a little for start up go to him dad I need for with the little have with me 1 Like |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by Caseless: 4:21am On May 09, 2023 |
IkeIgboNile:How do you stay 5 months without talking to your own dad? Too bad. Go and see him. Apologize quickly. If they're not happy with you, you can't make a headway in life. |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by Cassandraloius: 5:42am On May 09, 2023 |
Faposky95: You will be a great Dad |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by Obiedun(m): 6:35am On May 09, 2023 |
Laurene:Except those who refuse to grow |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by Tundex911: 8:24am On May 09, 2023 |
Go meet your pman reason with him man to man... Analysis your plan to him and I'm very sure he will understand too |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by Godwin4444: 9:41am On May 09, 2023 |
Dskillful:u people don’t just have sense, u assume the way it is with u n your parents is d way it is with everyone The way a Nigerian will describe buhari is different from d way an American will describe biden Both president different countries n characters Both parents different homes n characters So don’t think d way it is with u is the way it is with everyone I have seen fathers who have issues with mother n vow the children will never make it so as to spite their mother Will u still call that one a good father? Many of u should endeavor to understand life from different perspective, it’s not d same with every family 1 Like |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by Godwin4444: 9:42am On May 09, 2023 |
zakkxx:na only lazy pikin go reason dat way |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by Godwin4444: 9:46am On May 09, 2023 |
Caseless:that’s a big lie |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by HRMK: 9:52am On May 09, 2023 |
what about your mum?where is she?dont claim you have done nothing wrong bcs its a big lie!seek forgivenss through his mentor or very close friends!! |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by Fearcom(m): 11:10am On May 09, 2023 |
IkeIgboNile: The day he dies you will slowly realise the stupidity and foolishness of your outlook on life. Youre operating on the assumption that he can't die suddenly and unexpectedly that's why you will go months without speaking!؟ What is wrong with your head؟؟ |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by Chee59(f): 11:32am On May 09, 2023 |
Leave him be. |
Re: I Haven't Spoken To My Father In 5 Months by DrDunamis(m): 3:02pm On May 09, 2023 |
IkeIgboNile: God forbid 🚫 sha but will this continue until one of you can no longer contact the other? Firstly, your Father is your Father and not your brother or friend even though there could be these qualities in your father towards you. Give the honour and respect due to who he is to you make you no go suffer or die young. Honour your father and mother the Bible says... |
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