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Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by AirbagsNg: 1:24pm On May 12, 2023 |
DownTime44: You dont have a job, but you are pointing fingers to your elder brother for bringing woes because he doesn't have a job too. E did not go to school, he did not go to school. You that went, fix the home now. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Beverlyjean(f): 1:25pm On May 12, 2023 |
Do not ever disrespect ur elder brother ...he is ur father now as the first son... no one enjoys suffering ... if he an opportunity, he will definitely take it |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by viralinfo: 1:25pm On May 12, 2023 |
this remind of Coolio HIT song ..I C U when u get there |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by valentineuwakwe(m): 1:26pm On May 12, 2023 |
DownTime44: I understand u well we also grew up in Ajegunle (lawani street)....you were not wrong to talk to him and by now he should be able to scold self and rise up again as a man. You are ambitious and hardworking which is good for you...but pray more always. Send me your acct details, perhaps i can send something for him as well as money to get a phone for your mum.. Every thing wil be alright soon....keep faith n don't ever give up! 9 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by theophorus(m): 1:28pm On May 12, 2023 |
DownTime44 Please call him and tell him you are sorry and please if you don't mind, please Pray. This Life ehn, when you don't have anyone to help you, he go be like say you no sabi anything. There are things have been through that I don't tell anyone cos it's seems more like lying to them. Bro, just keep praying and pushing, one day things will fall in line. Well Done Bro. 3 Likes |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by juman(m): 1:28pm On May 12, 2023 |
As conductor for many years, he should be able to drive. Instead of sitting idle why can't he be Uber driver or driver to private individual. |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Camberlo(m): 1:28pm On May 12, 2023 |
Don't feel regret talking to him but I hope you just tell him sorry to advise you if you feel hurt towards my words as a junior to him. 2 Likes |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by correctguy101(m): 1:29pm On May 12, 2023 |
VeeVeeMyLuv: Are you sure the man knows how to drive? His story sounds similar to someone I know back then in Ajegunle. Same background except he has a wife and two kids. After more than a decade as a conductor, the slugger still can't drive. If he can drive or ride a bike, there are multiple jobs awaiting him in this time where logistics companies abound. The guy should be grateful and thankful he has family members who care about him 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Spirit247: 1:29pm On May 12, 2023 |
DownTime44:Tell your brother to WhatsApp me if he has an android phone. Or you can WhatsApp me and let him talk to me through your phone. Or you can simply send his WhatsApp number to mine; check my signature. Alternatively, advice him to go to any MFM Church for 3 Days Dry Fasting and Prayer for the Deliverance of his Glorious Destiny. He has a Glorious Destiny to Fulfill but Satan hates all First Borns with passionate Haterd because CREATOR of Humanity Declared that all First Borns of both Humanbeings and animals belong to HIM. So, the devil fight First Borns tooth and nail like he doesn't really do to others. If your brother can become a genuine BornAgain Christian that could be trusted with large sums of money, I will help him with a job. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by PROUDIGBO(m): 1:30pm On May 12, 2023 |
DownTime44: So what’s your bank account details for those wishing to send you and your brother a little something!? 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by ethan101(m): 1:31pm On May 12, 2023 |
well, there is noway he would have abandon that conductor work since he didnt have any other thing at hand as at then, Now that he has lost the conductor work, did he find anything? NO. Dont blame him bro. how can i contact him... i have a job for him by Gods grace 4 Likes |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by VTJN(m): 1:32pm On May 12, 2023 |
Beverlyjean:what do you mean that he should never disrespect his elder brother? Respect is earn, you don't seek for it. Apart from being irresponsible, his common sense ought to have told him that he's not getting any younger still living under his parents roof. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Jolly1010(m): 1:32pm On May 12, 2023 |
Nothing spiritual there. Come off it. Olarewaju89: 3 Likes |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 1:33pm On May 12, 2023 |
correctguy101:There are other roles aside driving such as ticketing, assistant to drivers. I stand corrected |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by gazilion: 1:34pm On May 12, 2023 |
DownTime44: Bros, are you married? Is your elder brother married? Who pays the house rent where he lives now? What part of Lagos do u and your brother live? Are you the owner of the pure water business? what did u study in the university? |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Kaycee54321(m): 1:36pm On May 12, 2023 |
Elder bro was myopic. Many years of working for a driver and never sitting down to ask how he can move up the ladder from being a conductor? The only person I pity the most is Op's mom. Like many have observed, a woman who naturally seeks a partner that's stable enough to provide and protect her offspring shouldn't be frowned on. It's not easy. My friend will always say, "Make money and be stable first; love can be generated anytime". 7 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Ventura1: 1:39pm On May 12, 2023 |
Don't be deceived, in Nigeria today, the surest route to escape poverty is through education. You will be fine, just open your mind to learn new things, don't go about with the thought that you are a graduate, strive towards proffering solutions to problems. 1 Like |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Ofadaman(m): 1:40pm On May 12, 2023 |
As someone who came from a humble beginning just as yourself, I also had to go to farm after secondary school , it was the garri made from cassava farming (on someone land in a deep swamp), and vegetables and stockfish I sold that I used to finance my education to waec, after school I started computer graphics and used it to work in mini cyber cafe to pay university education you till now, I'm out of school and earning well even though not fully there,I've been able to pay for my siblings education from secondary school down to university level for all three of my siblings and elders. I'd tell you the truth, if you'd listen, Family can be a set back, and if you allow them hold you back they'd drag you and keep you stagnant for years, you have to focus to take your head out of water first then take them along, (not abandon them ,but give yourself priority first), because even if you don't support them, they'd find a way to thrive, and if you reck yourself trying to pull them when they aren't willing to move, you'd carry on emotional baggage that may never be appreciated , help them but first help yourself, only when you have succeeded that you can pull others up 8 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Smartguyboy(m): 1:41pm On May 12, 2023 |
You did nothing wrong to talk to him you need to seat him down again bro nothing to late for him to learn how work now if you can support him to go and learn how to drive truck or trailer at his age that what he can do without be ashamed or even learn how to drive and look for driving job You don’t need to own a car before you can join Uber or bolt you can apply and they will find car for you . That the problem of Nigeria system you will go through hell to finish school when you graduate nothing for you you have to struggle again to get job if you are lucky enough . Just be strong man God will use you to put a smile on your mom face just keep doing good . |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Saig: 1:44pm On May 12, 2023 |
DownTime44:Just talk to him that you didn't mean to make him feel bad, you were only talking to him as his brother. You were just concerned. Hope you did not insult or say hurtful words to him |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by easzypeaszy(m): 1:45pm On May 12, 2023 |
VeeVeeMyLuv:Dat is nt how it works in Lagos With my experience...Wen an idea is sold to Lagos state..Lagos gov wl inform Baba Ijebu dem to acquire dis Buses and run the busines under Lagos state. To gt any of the buses na who u kw person wey kw who get the bus. 1 Like |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Antipob777(f): 1:45pm On May 12, 2023 |
You didnt do any wrong but his tears are emotional. Kindly meet him again and persuade him to learn handwork. Maybe welder. Electrical, Alumaco fittings. I was in a more serious position as you are but I kept pushing my elder ones. My family, we are 9 in number, im the 7th child and only me went to school through a scholarship. All my brothers refused to go to school or do anything, my mum, my dad both kept crying day and night. Imagine grown up children still depending on their parents for everything. We lost our mum in February 2016 and buried her in April 2016. In June 2016 we lost our dad. I was the only one who took care of the burial bills, although friends and relatives supported us. My elder ones pocketed all the supports we got. After the burial, I gathered all of them, we talked heart to heart and they all agreed to learn a handwork. One welding, another electrician and others Alumaco. After learning the work, I persuaded them to sell one of our father house, they did, and I supervised the sharing of the money. They used the money to open there own shops and today all doing well with so many boys learning work in their hands. They are all married now with children. I remained single cos of my brothers as I put all my money on them. Today I have one boy and one girl I adopted as age was no longer on my side and the possibility of getting pregnant if I marry is slim. I will advice you, your mum and other siblings have a family meeting. Look out for someone very close to him to be part of the meeting. Im sure you will get a solution. May God bless your hustles 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by lozanni(m): 1:46pm On May 12, 2023 |
Your brother must have cried because he is at his wits end. He simply does not know what to do next. You were not wrong in calling him out, but what he needs now is assistance from anywhere possible. Since you all live on the outskirts of the city, have you guys considered going into fish farming, snail farming or some other agricultural ventures that does not require too much capital to take off? You are all better off together. Organise family meetings, outline your business plans and list the capital available to all of you. I wish you all good success. 2 Likes |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Algold: 1:47pm On May 12, 2023 |
I cried reading your story. Father, in the name of Jesus. By the power holding heaven and Earth together release his destiny helper to locate him In Jesus Christ. Things will get better for you and your family will sing a new song. Do this at your at your convenience. Pick sand from ground in your hand, ask your brother to do same. Read Psalm 24 verse 1. And say this prayer "Earth, Earth ... Hear the words of my mouth and release the good of the land , favour, divine relationship, businesses, Investments, employment, physical health, and material prosperity into my life in accordance with the predetermined counsel of God for my life in Christ Jesus. Amen Return the sand back to earth... Note you must be born again. Am waiting to hear your testimony soonest. 2 Likes |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 1:47pm On May 12, 2023 |
easzypeaszy:Okay 👍 But are there other roles apart from driver? |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by stevups(m): 1:47pm On May 12, 2023 |
Nah man you be! You were born poor but I can tell you, you will die rich. Nothing can stop you! Don't beg him for any reason. You needed a chance in your family |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by easzypeaszy(m): 1:48pm On May 12, 2023 |
For ur brother..Na dis kind situation we comot from..the good tin be all of us be lik u..we mk our way thrgh sch by force and 90% of us are working. Ur Mom or you shld beg ppl to hlp him wt a bus..anythin outside dat fr now is a waste of time Den proper orientation so dat he wl be savin n strt planing fr himsef |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Algold: 1:50pm On May 12, 2023 |
DollarSigns: Do you hear yourself... You are so heartless... Quietly poison human you can't make...may God have mercy on your soul 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Eagba(m): 1:50pm On May 12, 2023 |
DownTime44:Why not team up with your brother n blow I.e find a hustle you two can do together and use his strength and your acumen, join forces and go on a small small steady rise. For example, you can look for an empty space for block moulding and selling, bit by bit when you build your customers base and trust, you can have people from transferring millions into your account to help them supply or monitor or execute project. The problem with your brother is that he needs to be handheld. He seem not to be the type to take initiatives ( check out how he did conductor for a long time and didn't graduate to being a driver or owning buses) You can be his drug or push. Work with him and take initiatives. Now he's your responsibility no more talks or advice 1 Like |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by Aurelius1(m): 1:51pm On May 12, 2023 |
GodWrites:You no get single sense for your head. That you are living a comfortable life today is not by your own effort. It's by the grace of God. Try and be humble ,else, nature will humble you. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by VTJN(m): 1:52pm On May 12, 2023 |
Kaycee54321:some guys prefer women to start suffering with them. They believed those women are virtuous women, while those using their common sense are bad women. Look at the outcome of a virtuous woman. She ended up having kids suffering in their 30s and almost 40s. Young girls out there should please open their eyes. 3 Likes 3 Shares |
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