joeargy:

The problem is he is answering that name, we live close to them hence the frequent visits...if u call him Daniel, he will say ehh!!

relocate

gadgethead:


Whether you like it or no Christianity is foreign. It was forced upon Africans when the Europeans invaded, plundered and forced people into slavery

And you type in English, a foreign language that was forced on you? What happened to your local language? Google no recognise am abi??

[quote author=Iceberg3 post=123119155][/quote] What's chilled about his comment, someone posted a senseless thing and you are giving him a chilled drink. Person wey you suppose give hot pepper to drink.

Ever8090:
People just get problem for this life I swear,...what is wrong with grand parents giving their grand child a name?.. some times not even grand parents,but even neighbors calls children different names,..

This so called civilized and religious generation will be acting mumu like mumu....

the life is spiritual, Na why d father dey worried

ibkayee:
If the gentleman doesn’t want his own son to be addressed by another name I don’t see the issue.

This is how overstepping boundaries gets normalised in a lot of Nigerian homes, it always starts with something seemingly trivial

I’d be interested to know the wife’s feelings

Nothing else to add. Nigerians always accept and tolerate f00lishness in all aspects of life, right from their homes to national/state levels!

Why is this an issue though? The kid doesn't live with them. He'd probably never identify himself by that name. Grannies giving a child thier own name is a way of establishing bond. What's the point of giving him the name of they're not allowed to call him by it? The name mustn't be native. All families are not the same. Some Grannies pick thier preferred name from the Bible. Don't let let someone from a totally different background use their situation to judge yours. I can see the first commenter is already planting ideas into your head. You gave your child a name, and your wife's family calls him by something else, you feel challenged. You feel it's a violation of your authority as the father? I could be wrong, but at the risk of sounding too assumptious, I'd say that's an extremely fragile ego, and I fear it reflects on other aspects of your life too.

ceejay80s:

Evil lol

hahahahaha

You mean you can't tell you inlaws to call him Charles and not Daniel? Hope you're not a weak man?

Tell them straight up that you mean no disrespect but you want your son to be called Charles all the time!

joeargy:
Hi everyone, I will appreciate ur advice...

My son is 2yrs old , when he was born I and my wife named him Charles but my wife's mother and father can't stop calling him Daniel, when ever my son is at their place for holidays or visits, they call him Daniel and all their neighbors and friends now call my son Daniel.

I remembered I told my wife about it and her mother heard and felt bad, he is my son and not theirs, I understand grandparents give their grand children names too, I have a name from my grandparents but they call me by the one my parents gave me...

What do I do house?

MrDoGood:


Living close to the is the main problem. See finish don dey enter.

Move ASAP

If it's your personal house,


Move still.

Then you'll see the difference. Else, your marriage won't last.

To me he doesn't have a problem, he's just being brain washed by all this alpha male of a thing, is it a crime for someone to be answering 2 names ?

Some men are the ones causing issues in their homes, today's own is not about having side chicks or impregnanting an ex that her husband lives in abroad.

Sometimes I do wonder if all these stories are real , like , is it a crime to live peaceably with people

You really need a real problem that will worry you, it is because you don’t have real problem that’s why you’re bothered about little thing like that. A child, especially first child can have up to 20 names and he/she will be called different names by different family member and groups. Pls go and search for real problem jare….

This guy don belleful, na d only problem wey e get be dis

joeargy:
Hi everyone, I will appreciate ur advice...

My son is 2yrs old , when he was born I and my wife named him Charles but my wife's mother and father can't stop calling him Daniel, when ever my son is at their place for holidays or visits, they call him Daniel and all their neighbors and friends now call my son Daniel.

I remembered I told my wife about it and her mother heard and felt bad, he is my son and not theirs, I understand grandparents give their grand children names too, I have a name from my grandparents but they call me by the one my parents gave me...

What do I do house?

Charles and Daniels, what’s the difference. Na still names of your slave masters

Solofresh2:
Take the child away from them and don't take him close to them for a very long time because if that boy start answering that name at this early stage,wahala go dey oo

Which whala?

Intrepid01:
You really need a real problem that will worry you, it is because you don’t have real problem that’s why you’re bothered about little thing like that. A child, especially first child can have up to 20 names and he/she will be called different names by different family member and groups. Pls go and search for real problem jare….

I no see your comment before I posted mine. Honestly, he need serious problem

joeargy:
Hi everyone, I will appreciate ur advice...

My son is 2yrs old , when he was born I and my wife named him Charles but my wife's mother and father can't stop calling him Daniel, when ever my son is at their place for holidays or visits, they call him Daniel and all their neighbors and friends now call my son Daniel.

I remembered I told my wife about it and her mother heard and felt bad, he is my son and not theirs, I understand grandparents give their grand children names too, I have a name from my grandparents but they call me by the one my parents gave me...

What do I do house?

You will overgrow this stage

.

People will just be making mountain out of molehill
On top this trivial issue u dey give ursef unnecessary headache.

Ever8090:
People just get problem for this life I swear,...what is wrong with grand parents giving their grand child a name?.. some times not even grand parents,but even neighbors calls children different names,..

This so called civilized and religious generation will be acting mumu like mumu....

The same baby that will still grow up and give himself another name called alias and that's what everybody will now be calling him 😂😂😂.

Much ado about nothing

joeargy:
Hi everyone, I will appreciate ur advice...

My son is 2yrs old , when he was born I and my wife named him Charles but my wife's mother and father can't stop calling him Daniel, when ever my son is at their place for holidays or visits, they call him Daniel and all their neighbors and friends now call my son Daniel.

I remembered I told my wife about it and her mother heard and felt bad, he is my son and not theirs, I understand grandparents give their grand children names too, I have a name from my grandparents but they call me by the one my parents gave me...

What do I do house?

The worst part is that even the Daniel or Charles are both foreign names which are often times meaningless.

Yet, you are here fighting what I don't know.

Nonsense

Try to find out if any of your wife's ex goes by that name... I rest my case...

joeargy:
Hi everyone, I will appreciate ur advice...

My son is 2yrs old , when he was born I and my wife named him Charles but my wife's mother and father can't stop calling him Daniel, when ever my son is at their place for holidays or visits, they call him Daniel and all their neighbors and friends now call my son Daniel.

I remembered I told my wife about it and her mother heard and felt bad, he is my son and not theirs, I understand grandparents give their grand children names too, I have a name from my grandparents but they call me by the one my parents gave me...

What do I do house?

To be double sure of what is going on before it is too late, please go for paternity test to have rest of Mind in the long run

joeargy:
Hi everyone, I will appreciate ur advice...

My son is 2yrs old , when he was born I and my wife named him Charles but my wife's mother and father can't stop calling him Daniel, when ever my son is at their place for holidays or visits, they call him Daniel and all their neighbors and friends now call my son Daniel.

I remembered I told my wife about it and her mother heard and felt bad, he is my son and not theirs, I understand grandparents give their grand children names too, I have a name from my grandparents but they call me by the one my parents gave me...

What do I do house?

I think you don't need to drag this with them because they are not collecting your child from you

Just make sure you register him in school with the name you ans your wife approve of

Once he starts schooling, he will have less visit to them and gradually they will not see him all the time to mix up his names

This is one of the disadvantages of a tribe collecting names to present on the Naming ceremony day of which Daniel was what your parent inlaws write as their own name

Subsequent births just write his or her two names for naming and that will not give room for external name contribution

Go do dna he fi be Daniel instead of Charles

joeargy:

The problem is he is answering that name, we live close to them hence the frequent visits...if u call him Daniel, he will say ehh!!

Birth certificate is the most important thing.

joeargy:
Hi everyone, I will appreciate ur advice...

My son is 2yrs old , when he was born I and my wife named him Charles but my wife's mother and father can't stop calling him Daniel, when ever my son is at their place for holidays or visits, they call him Daniel and all their neighbors and friends now call my son Daniel.

I remembered I told my wife about it and her mother heard and felt bad, he is my son and not theirs, I understand grandparents give their grand children names too, I have a name from my grandparents but they call me by the one my parents gave me...

What do I do house?

Go for DNA test

taylor89:
NA THEM KNOW THE REAL PAPA

I understand grandparents and calling their grandkids their preferred name

And I know every human has one or two other names their family extended family calls them just like me now my name reach 30

Just like when you tell someone to tell you about themselves during talking stage you’ll hear my name soso my grandma calls me Adaobi my grandpa calls Ogbenye Alu my friends call me Sobechi etc

But you see switching from Charles to Daniel

Which are just same random English names and not a native name just grandparents always give

Oga that child isn’t yours

How do u mean the child isn't his? Could u explain pls?

ceejay80s:
Your case no easy oo
There are some inlaws like that, it almost happened to me, I named my son Jeremy and they tried to change it to Jeremiah, I no waste time hala that his name is Jeremy and not Jeremiah, abeg na my pikin, una don give una pikin their names, just leave mine for me, if una no fit call am Jeremy, make una use sign language call am

Now here is an Idan talking. Baba ni e

Aaaaarghmed:
It's an issue..he shud be called the name you gave him.its better your grandparents call him his native name,than changing it entirely to another english name

Exactly

So what’s the big deal about that? Did you produce the child all by yourself….didn’t your wife participate in it?
What if your wife prefers calling the child by her own favourite name which is different from your own preference…..is she not entitled to do so? Must your own “will” prevail in every situation because you donated some sperm?
I call my grandson “AY”….short for Ayomide. I have used this for him since birth seven years ago. The mother prefers to call him “Ayo” while his father prefers to call him a completely different name. The child answers to all. What can you do about it? Just perch!

pek
A plate of goat meat pepper soup and a cold bottle of malt. The most annoying is people who answer names like Sunday Philips. Monday Michael, Esther Stephen, John Abraham etc. No identify again.

Facts!! I always marvel when i see people with such names. The name sounds lost with no identification.
Our names are our first means of identification, so when i find it appalling when i see people naming their children foreign names for whatever reason.

Op, you should only be angry if your child is called by his grandparents given name in your house but if he bears the name you gave him at school and in your house then you have nothing to worry about.

isabi2lof:


To me he doesn't have a problem, he's just being brain washed by all this alpha male of a thing, is it a crime for someone to be answering 2 names ?

Some men are the ones causing issues in their homes, today's own is not about having side chicks or impregnanting an ex that her husband lives in abroad.

Sometimes I do wonder if all these stories are real , like , is it a crime to live peaceably with people

I honestly don't think most ever happened.

It's easy, simply request a missile from Russia and blow up their house on a Sunday afternoon.

PS: make sure all the neighbors are there in the same place when you do it.