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Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by xynerise: 12:04pm On May 15, 2023 |
bukatyne:They had a money induced marriage if you ask me. I believe expectations were high from the wife's part and when she got there she saw something higher if you know what I mean. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by DaddyJapan(m): 12:04pm On May 15, 2023 |
EBMedia: So migrants from Nigeria are getting divorced after just 2 years in the UK? Where is the data that actually backs up this assertion? Does this human rights lawyer understand that a Japarian family would always have a lead-sponsor? One who is ultimately responsible for ensuring that all documents are in order for the end goal - naturalisation? Does the lawyer understand that average time even for a no-fault divorce is between 6 and 8 months at present? |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Harcom: 12:04pm On May 15, 2023 |
If you can pay,I get admission Jennyclay: |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Analyst7: 12:05pm On May 15, 2023 |
wonder233:Aptly and well put 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by bukatyne(f): 12:06pm On May 15, 2023 |
Acidosis: This is another interesting take. I know that the Asians are doing well familywise and one of their unique qualities is 'they do not deviate from their culture and are a closely knit community'. I would take a leap and also assume that Muslims don't have a spike in the divorce rates because they are 'same' everywhere. While there are different levels of devotion in Islam, there is no 'modern' version. No Muslim (no matter how rich or 'exposed') would tell you Homosexuality is 'ok' or hijab is wrong or disagree on the definition of decent/indecent dressing. However, when you come to Christianity, there are levels of modernity that a true Christian would feel out of place and wonder if it is the same Bible we are referencing. It is sad. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by bukatyne(f): 12:08pm On May 15, 2023 |
eben97: Yes please ๐ ๐ ๐ ๐ ๐คฃ ๐ ๐ ๐ Then we discuss how to remove the subsidy when removing that of fuel. |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by obinna58(m): 12:09pm On May 15, 2023 |
JovialJune:You again Iyaebethegreat is that you, is like dem ban because of too much hot vawulence |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by bukatyne(f): 12:11pm On May 15, 2023 |
xynerise: Hmmmmmm So it was more of a marriage of convenience which worked in Nigeria because the husband could perform financially? I wish him all the best. I am curious though: weren't the signs there? Or he thought she would still be satisfied with him after getting to the UK? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by JovialJune(f): 12:12pm On May 15, 2023 |
obinna58: Fvck off from my moniker. 4 Likes |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Dyfynezz12(m): 12:14pm On May 15, 2023 |
I don't blame the women,I blame the men who refused to learn and kept on doing the same fu.....ing thing 1 Like |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by obinna58(m): 12:15pm On May 15, 2023 |
JovialJune:Reduce your vawulence, youโll go crazy |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by DeLaRue: 12:21pm On May 15, 2023 |
Women are more likely to find financial elevation and independence quicker in these foreign countries. The day your wife starts earning enough to not depend on you in any of these countries, the dynamics of the relationship is very quickly likely to change. In Nigeria, however successful a wife is, she will think twice (may be 10 times) before summoning the courage to tell her husband, my dear please wash the plates in the kitchen, wash the clothes and spread them outside, and tidy up the room and the toilets. But abroad, na so your prim, previously holier than thou (when in Nigeria) wife go call you from work one day and tell you she's going on a night out with colleagues from work and remind you to do those things I mentioned above. Fear no go gree you ask why she want go out for drinks. Na then you go no say, levels have changed. You wey you be 'oga' for Nigeria, for London, na just House man you be o. You do anyhow, you see anyhow By the way, your wife who used to say divorce is 'over her dead body' in Nigeria will be so happy divorcing you in the UK. That's not to say married people should not relocate abroad, but just know that however tight you feel your marriage is in Nigeria, moving abroad immediately increases the likelihood of that marriage failing within the next 7 years by at least 50%. Please don't make the mistake of saying it can never happen to your family o. The people divorcing abroad also believed it could never happen to them. 5 Likes |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by delishpot: 12:30pm On May 15, 2023 |
Nigerian men be destroying their marriages in UK because they can't see their wives as independent human beings who can question their actions. Nigeria supports their abuse but the UK doesn't allow that rubbish; hence the women out of desperation, prefer to run their own ship instead of running a ship where when you see a destructive wave you can't stir away because Oga will say he is the head and he has chosen to enter the wave as the head of the ship. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by pocohantas(f): 12:31pm On May 15, 2023 |
bukatyne: Deep!!! Few weeks back Solomon Buchi asked CHRISTIAN WOMEN if they must wear revealing bikinis and "christian women" came for him. They asked him whether they should wear agbada. But Muslim women have been going to the beach. They also engage in swimming competition and gymastics. Many times we would see them fight to have standards tweaked for them and we think they are fanatics or just petulant . So, must you wear a bikini that shows all your womanhood? Finally someone said he is asking christian women, not omo wobes. Because it looks like omo wobes were the ones responding. Anyway, Islam has modern ones too. I had a muslim boss and I currently have a muslim friend. They are two different humans and I asked my friend, why do you cover this and that. I wanted her to be as "trendy" as my boss. Her hair veil is al-amira (thanks to Gloriousgbola for teaching me) and I wanted her to use a scarf or hijab. I saw my boss's waistline, but I have never seen my friend's own OUTSIDE. She told me just like in christianity, they also have different sets and levels to adherence. There are muslim non-hijabites. Only during Ramadan you would see those ones cover hair. By the way, muslims also have a high rate of divorce in (Northern) Nigeria. You don't know because there are other wives and you can't easily tell one left. And no matter how old she is, another man would marry her. They are not as clueless as you think o. They just do their things quietly and move on. Maybe because their religion has a ruling on everything. So they already know how to settle the matter. 8 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Sixfeetbelle: 12:31pm On May 15, 2023 |
DeLaRue: And it was bound to change cause most Nigerian marriages thrive on the man being financially better. It is a boost to their ego to lord over their wives with their wealth. Any change to the status quo brings about cracks and crevices in the marriage. Even in Nigeria where the wife is the money maker, marriages like this develop cracks, not to talk of when they relocate to the west where she's not bound by customs and traditions to manage such marriages. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Bridget95(f): 12:31pm On May 15, 2023 |
Jennyclay:is that your real picture? You look sexy |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Beolly(m): 12:31pm On May 15, 2023 |
wonder233:You have said so much in one statement. Once a lady knows she can now get whatever she wants from her purse without waiting for the man like they used to do in Nigeria. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Acidosis(m): 12:36pm On May 15, 2023 |
bukatyne: Absolutely correct and well-stated. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Eddy3031: 12:45pm On May 15, 2023 |
Jennyclay:You serious |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by ehay(f): 12:47pm On May 15, 2023 |
[color=#006600][/color] Mindlog:thanks a million.. many 98% of married women in Nigeria are not happily married. We just the manage union with lots of bottled up anger and retaliation, the patch the marriage they go because of the way our society is configured. When we reach climes were we are not judged by broken marriages, one small mistake from the man, we will open up our bottle up anger, and over pressure from within the bottle will do the rest for us. 2 Likes |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Tinyemeka(m): 12:47pm On May 15, 2023 |
Jennyclay: Unapologetic feminist like you? 1 Like |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by isabi2lof: 12:47pm On May 15, 2023 |
The Nigeria system supports ill treatment for ladies here . |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Emmanuel909090: 12:49pm On May 15, 2023 |
Lol, the system encourages that. |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Nobody: 12:49pm On May 15, 2023 |
It is either the lawyer does not understand on what grounds people marry before going to the UK or he is just being intentionally mischievous. Happily married indeed 2 Likes |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by drlateef: 12:50pm On May 15, 2023 |
madridguy: Talking may not make much difference. She will still deceive you and go there to mess up. |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by drlateef: 12:53pm On May 15, 2023 |
Jennyclay: Thatโs what the other women were saying. Immediately they get there, some evil ones tell them how they can push out the husband and get his house etc. Shall I say women are opportunistic people when they get their so called freedom. 1 Like |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by redsun(m): 12:53pm On May 15, 2023 |
It's a different world here. It is truly an AI world and people are programmed to do things in certain robotic ways. While your world there is hypnotic, people are programmed to remain stagnant and immobile. And when the two worlds collide, the result tends to be chaotic. |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by KanwuliaExtra: 12:54pm On May 15, 2023 |
If they were happily married in Nigeria? Marriages in Nigeria are SHAM and SCAM marriages. . . only done out of economic hardship and social oppression. You don't need marriage to survive outside Nigeria, the reason freedom becomes sweet outside Nigeria. You don't have to sacrifice your peace of mind on the altar of relationship or marriage for any reason. Those who are 'HAPPILY-MARRIED' remain happily-married if the relocate outside Nigeria. . .Unless situations change for the worse, or you find better options . No condition is permanent. |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Bigmouth3: 12:56pm On May 15, 2023 |
JovialJune:Go and change your menstrual pad instead of shouting here online. Some of us are not your mates ,we have gone far in life MUMU 1 Like |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by drlateef: 12:56pm On May 15, 2023 |
malcom1X: Please stop talking what you know nothing about. Nigerians are the most educated immigrants in UK and US. The other groups too also have high rate of divorce. But marriage is out of fashion for them, so no noise is heard about divorce among them. Nigerians are still traditional with marriage, thats why you hear them talking of divorce. 1 Like |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by bukatyne(f): 12:57pm On May 15, 2023 |
pocohantas: 1 & 2. It is disheartening when 'Christian' men & women try so hard to conform to the world that you are left speechless. Some omo wobes have more decency than 'Christians' today although God's standards do not change. Muslim women designed a beach wear that is all covered up. 2021 Christmas during part of my beach trips, I saw a fully covered Muslim woman dancing on the beach. You could see pure undiluted fun. TBH, I deeply admire their desire to be set apart, the desire not to tint their religion with the world although I till think those wanting us to bend rules for them are petulant 3. That's why I said there are levels of devotion. But don't be surprised that your trendy boss would become more covered up in future. Had a boss like that too Irrespective of level of devotion, an average Muslim woman & man is decently dressed. They agree on the tenets of their religion, the willingness and strength to follow is another thing. 4. I agree with you. I believe if a man doesn't provide, she can divorce him. They also have rulings on when the men can divorce. I remember when Kano state Governor organised mass marriage for the divorced women However, they are not affected by the increased divorced rates due to relocation. What a Nigerian muslim wife would not take in UK, she would not take in Kano. She is the same with same expectations everywhere. Sometimes when I think of the way we Christians metamorphosize to fit the world so bad, it gives me an headache. 2 Likes |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Kobicove(m): 1:05pm On May 15, 2023 |
JovialJune: You're taking this thing too personal |
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