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Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by Nobody: 6:04pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
This is a big question I try to wrap my head around and not getting any answer. I see a lot of couple stressed out financially after marriage and within six month, the wife is pregnant. If the wife is not pregnant after six months, the parents are worried if something is wrong with the woman or the man and the couple start getting strange stares from the pastor and members of the church. Why not have a three year family planning immediately after the wedding, this has lots of advantage, first the couple is able to recover from the wedding, secondly, they are able to save and prepare for the arrival of babies, also they are able to enjoy each other before the babies. This is a wrong aspect of our culture i would like to see changed in our society and its affecting marriages. Whats your thought? 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by donbachi(m): 6:05pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
Na the reason of getting married. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by Kobojunkie: 6:06pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
Skyview01:Herd-mentality at work! 7 Likes |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by eddynaira125: 6:07pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
This issue should be put into consideration 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by olasaad(f): 6:07pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
Not only in Nigeria 3 Likes
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Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by cenaman(m): 6:15pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
After marriage what next? |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by Nobody: 6:21pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
olasaad: Its prevalent in Nigeria though and i see couple suffering without challenging this mentality. Child birth is treated like some form of competition. I must confess i was a victim of such mentality myself after my marriage and paid dearly for it. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by Godwin4444: 6:23pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
Skyview01:so are u expecting people to go for family planning after wedding abi or u still want them to b using condom after marriage? 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by SerikiFulani(m): 6:26pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
cenaman: Divorce. |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by Nobody: 6:32pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
Godwin4444: Family planning after wedding is the rational thing to do to save up and prepare for the future and arrival of children and for the couple to give maximum attention to explore all the hidden ridges and contours of each other's bodies. lol 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by Caramia2020(m): 6:38pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
If they don't give birth to children, some will say the man is infertile while others will say the woman has damaged her womb due to numerous abortion. |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by Kobojunkie: 6:39pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
Caramia2020:Why put so much stock into what outsiders think when it is your marriage and not theirs? 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by Ruke1989: 6:39pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
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Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by Kobojunkie: 6:43pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
Ruke1989:Still the same problem of herd-mentality! Women should be cautioned and handled while you are instead the one who fell into the trap that is herd-mentality. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by Nobody: 6:45pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
Caramia2020: That is the big problem. We don't have to listen to what others might say in order to make important decisions |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by Henrikjay: 6:53pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
In Africa starting and having one's own family is 85% the reason we do get married and that is how God want it and instructed us to do There is nothing bad at all if a newly married couples start having babies same year of their marriage. Even in Africa we re slow in having babies ..come to the Europe or go to America see couples getting married at the age of middle 20s or late 20s and start having babies asap .. Seeing parents 35 yrs old and their first child 17 or 18 yrs old . its so good to be done with giving birth to children before u get to 35yrs - 37yrs old .. I see many men giving birth to his first child at 49-52 years even some at 55yrs ..and that is hell of a stress and not good at all how many years left for him on earth to take care of his child/children 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by Nobody: 7:01pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
Henrikjay: That is why so many are suffering in Nigeria and Africa today. So many couple are living hell on earth today because of this simple reason. Does God want us to suffer too! delaying childbirth does not mean not having them. God will not make decisions for us that is why he gave us big heads. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by Kobojunkie: 7:04pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
Henrikjay:You mean your African God? Which one? 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by Nobody: 7:09pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Good question! |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by Nobody: 7:18pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
I am sick and tired of people using God as an excuse for their lack of planning and failures. We have to seriously change. The greatest miracle in this world is our brain, it can do wonders when put to proper use. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by Solsix(m): 7:20pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
Skyview01:If you are not ready yet for children, why rush into marriage?? 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by Henrikjay: 7:28pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
Marriages or raising a one's family re for those that re financially okey/stable and fully independent and matured in reason and so ready responsibilities .. Not for those that borrowed money to get married and still find how to eat twice a day.. Many Nigerians/Africans rush into marriages why they re very very still fully dependant that is why many of them re suffering and will continue to suffer cause marriage if not for everyone Skyview01: |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by jmoore(m): 7:29pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
Skyview01: You missed the most important detail. Why must the couple recover from the wedding? Did they borrow money from world bank? People should not spend above their means on wedding so they won't need to recover. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by Nobody: 7:29pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
Solsix: Wrong mindset my friend, marriages should not be 100% about children and until we change our mindsets, even God cannot save us from being the poverty capital of the world. Two people needs to plan and understand each others first before having kids. Having kids without a means to provide for them should be criminalized in Nigeria. Been married more than 16 years with teenage children and talk from experience and seek to guide young couples into having a happy and prosperous marriage. You can live a hell or heaven on earth and it will be your choice to plan carefully for your kids and marriage. Even the kids will be thankful to you in future. |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by Nobody: 7:32pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
jmoore: I see a lot of people who deplete their savings for a wedding. Traditional, court and church weddings. The main point is both of you have to carefully plan before having kids. The delay may not be up to four years. I am seeking to change our mentalities and encourage planning and personal responsibilities. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by jmoore(m): 7:35pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
Skyview01: If they are not ready financially to take care of one baby, they should forget about marriage. Anyone not financially ready to have kids should not even have sex. Sex is what leads to pregnancy. Pregnancy is even for 9 months. Only a financial illiterate will spend so much on the wedding to the extent that 9 months he can't recover his wedding expenses. |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by Solsix(m): 7:36pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
Skyview01:Nah you wey get wrong mindset. You go person house carry Thier daughter did trad and probably white wedding and you come home to tell your wife, your inlaw and well wishers who graced your occasion that u are not ready for children. Why not stay and live your life the way you want? We are Africans no be everything wey Oyibo do we go copy. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by doggedfighter(f): 7:50pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
Ruke1989: The same girl you broke up with ? |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by Proserpina: 7:56pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
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Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by Nobody: 7:59pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
Solsix: Are you married? do you have kids? |
Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by Proserpina: 8:00pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
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Re: Why Do Married Couples Rush To Have Kids After Weddings In Nigeria by Kobojunkie: 8:04pm On Jun 19, 2023 |
Solsix:commonsense na oyinbo-only property? 3 Likes 1 Share |
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