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N20,000 Tradermoni Tears Adamawa Couple Apart As Husband Drags Wife To Court / Man Changes His Surname To His Mother’s Name / My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. (2) (3) (4)
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Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Melkizedeck: 2:50pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
Freemasonry: This is the height of irresponsibility and outright madness! This controversial Igbo tradition in this case is flawed and should be done away with, unless it has a clause which allows the original father of the children to still pay the bride price or some kind of damage money to the family of the girl before carrying his kids. What then happens to all the real father's sacrifices all the years? Infact how do you justly deny a biological father who cohabited with a full grown woman and their kids his powers as the rightful owner of his kids just on a mere symbolical pretext of bride price? Was the woman a kid when she began cohabiting and opening her legs knowing her brideprice hasn't been paid ![]() The woman should even be ashamed of herself!!! |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Dreament(m): 3:03pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
BlissGod:you need to examine ur brain before spiting trash. Why judging when you don't know the full story. The man in question is not against her marrying another man. Is this how useless ur igbo culture is in this 21st century. No matter how useless the man is, the children need to follow their paternal lineage. What if the woman recent husband is not an Igbo man do you think his kins men will accept them as their children. They will be treated like an outcast. You think those people looking for their roots on net are fools |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Dreament(m): 3:13pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
tctrills:at the end who will suffer, the children. Because no matter what, they will be treated like an outcast in that community. The case Wii be worse if the new husband is not an Igbo man. Just imagine a man from my community saying he inherited children due to the moman tradition. Hmmmm those children will look for their paternal roots by all means. Because nobody will recognize them as children of the soil |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by tctrills: 3:23pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
Dreament:Are you Igbo? If you are, you clearly don't know the culture. Taking up another family name is not a thing of shame. No one is mocked for it. They would not be the first to be adopted into another family. |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by codemaniacs: 4:08pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
MrDoGood: I mean such laws and customs should start and end in the east once they are outside the east they should be subject to the laws, customs and culture of the place they are in. meaning Igbo women cannot give their children a different surname from the Father's surname especially if the father is Yoruba and they were born in the SW. It is not something the judge should not have adjourned, it is something the Judge should have told her squarely that they are not in the east and what's law in the east is different from the SW. the judge is incompetent. |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by MrDoGood(m): 4:27pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
codemaniacs: Ohhhh... I get you now. I believe the adjournment is to see if both parties can settle their difference. Even in dissolution of marriage, the court give enough time to see if both parties can work things out. Talking about the tradition, I don't think it make sense. Weather in the east or not, once the father identifies with the child, they should kill that useless mentality. If you're in love with a woman and before marriage you guys had a child. Maybe along the line, she messed up. Something you can't live with seeing her. Or you guys decided to go separate ways. Then she gets married to someone else and the family is trying to make the husband the father of the child. Prison never full na ![]() ![]() ![]() Court will always ask you the father's consent before adoption. And if the woman claims he's late and it happens to be false, hmmmm Wahala no dey finish. So the tradition can't stand the federal law. Except the father don't want to battle with them. |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by frozen70(f): 4:33pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
codemaniacs: Any woman or lady you see in any baby factories are their own their own and no one forced them because they know that they are there to solve people's problems So many people goes there to adopt because it's cheaper than the regular one that charges more just for adoption |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by skywalker240(m): 4:38pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
izonborn098:You see one of the reasons we view Men that prefer single mothers and women with children as spouse like Simp But then, don't take it on the innocent children, they were just unlucky to have a woman like their mother and maybe an irresponsible Man for a father |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by skywalker240(m): 4:44pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by prepresh(f): 5:05pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
jeromestarks:and a virgin will marry you who is also a virgin abi |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by jeromestarks: 5:07pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
prepresh:No hymen underneath a man. Men don't house the baby in their bodies so, virginity is a thing of a woman. A none virgin is like a dirty cup. Never drink from a dirty cup. |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by MrDoGood(m): 6:18pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
Mindlog: His late son was already bearing his name. He went to pay after the death of his son. |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Okarakwu: 6:37pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
In igbo land if you failed to pay bride price on any woman you are not married to her and any child from such does not belong to you and if another marry such a woman and pay the bride price on her head that your child will belong to him. That is why the woman family always try to return the bride price paid on their daughter's head after divorce to them except husband cos if it is not returned and the lady got pregnant and have a child then ex husband will claim the child . Don't know the custom of Yoruba on this. talented321: |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Mindlog: 6:37pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
MrDoGood: And I did say the late son bore his name but couldn't be buried until Davido and his family had to do the necessary, which is marrying Chioma traditionally before their son was buried. Davido's paternal grandmother was igbo, so Davido's father was very much aware of that tradition. |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Dreament(m): 6:40pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
tctrills:am not Igbo, I can never be. Am a Southerner. We don't practice such useless religion in South south |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Dreament(m): 6:45pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
Melkizedeck: |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by tctrills: 7:57pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
Dreament: Boss, you obviously don't know the meaning of religion. Get yourself a dictionary. Again, there is no tribe in the world that is known as South South. In the SS Nigeria, there are over 40 tribes with totally different cultures, religious, and languages. And just so you know, Igbo is one of the 10 biggest tribes in the SS. A little education will go a long way. |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Jossibest(m): 9:19pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
This exactly what happen to my late uncle who married Igbo woman from IMO state. I can't fall in love with Igbo woman. God forbid bad thing. |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Smartguyboy(m): 10:00pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
codemaniacs: No need for need because it’s all for sell so you guys can mine the skull . |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Smartguyboy(m): 10:00pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
codemaniacs: |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by walade(m): 10:12pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
Mindlog: I ask, are they living in Igbo community? There's no such tradition in Yorubaland and since they're living in the land, the law and customs of the people of Yoruba supercede that of Ibo. Let the woman return the children to their rightful father. According to my people, Oke oku, l'oku nre, baba ọmọ lolomo, which literally means that in any situation, the father will always remain the father. |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by MrDoGood(m): 11:29pm On Aug 13, 2023 |
Mindlog: Lol Let's forget about this and move on. Nice sharing views with you |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Zamaniii: 2:03am On Aug 14, 2023 |
tunjijones: 😁😁 |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Zamaniii: 2:07am On Aug 14, 2023 |
Jossibest: Which one be God forbid bad thing? You wey be another woman’s poison dey forbid person 😂 |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by NovusHomo(m): 2:35am On Aug 14, 2023 |
tishbite42: Her family? What about their father's family? And who told you I might not want them? |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Xkale1996(m): 4:29am On Aug 14, 2023 |
jeromestarks:oil dey ur head I been dey look for u since How I go take reach out to u |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by jeromestarks: 7:13am On Aug 14, 2023 |
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Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by harveygordon: 8:26am On Aug 14, 2023 |
Mindlog: Igbo culture is only applicable to igbos. The Yoruba man cannot be subjected to such tradition. The Nigerian law supersedes. If the man was a responsible father, there is absolutely no way he would not get the custody of his children. However, since the children are old enough they can make their own decisions. Case closed. |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by NovusHomo(m): 11:37am On Aug 14, 2023 |
harveygordon: Thank you. Some should probably stop stretching their dik "across the niger". |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by harveygordon: 3:44am On Aug 15, 2023 |
NovusHomo: You can simply say everyone should live within their respective regions to avoid such. Right? |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Zupay: 4:23am On Aug 15, 2023 |
harveygordon: No, you can live anywhere in the world but be conscious of the religion and traditions of anyone you want to be romantically involved with. It is like getting married to an Idoma woman of Benue state who after death must be returned to her father's house to be buried and the husband insisting the late wife must be buried where he chooses. 1 Like |
Re: Man Drags Wife To Court For Changing Children’s Surname To Lover’s by Dreament(m): 10:45am On Aug 15, 2023 |
tctrills:using religion instead of culture was a mistake. Even before now I already know this is part of Igbo culture. But, I never knew they are still following it up in this 21st century. Nowhere they practice such culture in South south. Edo which is my state, nothing of such. Delta no, Calabar no, bayelsa no, porthacourt no, e.t.c. Igbo is south east Not South south. Narrow it to where you fall in. Is you that need the education more. All states in your region practice it. and u can not even name a single state talkless of tribe that practice such in South south. Moreover you said, nothing like South south, this shows how myopic you are. 1 Like |
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